It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic: Rid Your Life of Toxic People

Bonus Episode 31.03.2026 57λ

As you know I began a second podcast a few months ago so each of my shows can have a focused perspective. This podcast, It’s not normal it’s toxic is an educational resource for you to better understand the toxic relationships in your life through the experiences I had while in mine. Fak’n Tired my other podcast was also inspired by events in my life. Managing the ups and downs, managing my emotions, as well as managing the other relationships in my life did not go as I thought it would. There was so much shrapnel, so many residual effects from the toxic relationship I had been in that I was for a time completely unaware of. Avoiding and ignoring the need for healing became so overwhelming for me I wanted to disappear. So as I write the episodes for Fak’n Tired I often wonder if it would have been different if I had known all this before it did. The bonus episodes you hear are the Fak’n Tired episodes that I believe could possibly make your journey go a little smoother than mine did. Today in part 2 of the Biology of the Battle, Dr. Heidi explores the impact of toxic relationships on the nervous system and how survival behaviors can persist long after leaving such environments. She introduces the Survival Mode Assessment (SMA) to help individuals identify their post-trauma behaviors and discusses the importance of understanding the nervous system's role in trauma recovery. The conversation delves into the various data collectors within the nervous system, including nociception and neuroception, and emphasizes the need for recalibration to achieve inner peace and emotional stability.Whether you are presently in a toxic relationship or you are trying to rebuild after a toxic relationship it can feel impossible to take the steps you desire. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Because she has been where you are now, she gets it so her service offerings focus on your needs. Start by taking the Toxicity Profile Analysis for validation or the Survival Mode Assessment for understanding. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

#256 The Helpless Hustle 24.03.2026 18λ

Whether you are presently in a toxic relationship or you are trying to rebuild after a toxic relationship it can feel impossible to take the steps you desire. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Because she has been where you are now, she gets it so her service offerings focus on your needs. Start by taking the Toxicity Profile Analysis for validation or the Survival Mode Assessment for understanding. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/This episode explores the 'helpless hustle' behavior in toxic personalities, where they pretend to be incompetent to avoid responsibility and control shared tasks. Dr. Heidi provides insights on recognizing this pattern, its impact on relationships, and strategies to protect your time and energy.

Bonus Episode 16.03.2026 35λ

As you know I began a second podcast a few months ago so each of my shows can have a focused perspective. This podcast, It’s not normal it’s toxic is an educational resource for you to better understand the toxic relationships in your life through the experiences I had while in mine. Fak’n Tired my other podcast was also inspired by events in my life. Managing the ups and downs, managing my emotions, as well as managing the other relationships in my life did not go as I thought it would. There was so much shrapnel, so many residual effects from the toxic relationship I had been in that I was for a time completely unaware of. Avoiding and ignoring the need for healing became so overwhelming for me I wanted to disappear. So as I write the episodes for Fak’n Tired I often wonder if it would have been different if I had known all this before it did. The bonus episodes you hear are the Fak’n Tired episodes that I believe could possibly make your journey go a little smoother than mine did. In this episode, Dr. Heidi explores the intricate relationship between the nervous system and our survival instincts, particularly in the context of toxic relationships. She discusses how our bodies react to perceived threats, the biological mechanisms behind these reactions, and the importance of understanding these processes to reclaim control over our emotional health. The conversation delves into the brain's response to danger, the role of boundaries, and the impact of past trauma on present behavior.Whether you are presently in a toxic relationship or you are trying to rebuild after a toxic relationship it can feel impossible to take the steps you desire. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Because she has been where you are now, she gets it so her service offerings focus on your needs. Start by taking the Toxicity Profile Analysis for validation or the Survival Mode Assessment for understanding. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

#255 The Accountability Allergy 10.03.2026 24λ

Whether you are presently in a toxic relationship or you are trying to rebuild after a toxic relationship it can feel impossible to take the steps you desire. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Because she has been where you are now, she gets it so her service offerings focus on your needs. Start by taking the Toxicity Profile Analysis for validation or the Survival Mode Assessment for understanding. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/In this conversation, Dr. Heidi explores the concept of toxic traits in relationships, emphasizing that toxic individuals are not inherently bad but may exhibit manipulative behaviors that disrupt healthy interactions. She introduces the idea of the 'accountability allergy,' detailing its symptoms, including blame shifting, projection, and deflection. Dr. Heidi provides insights on how to recognize these behaviors and strategies to maintain emotional well-being when dealing with toxic individuals.

Bonus Episode 03.03.2026 39λ

As you know I began a second podcast a few months ago so each of my shows can have a focused perspective. This podcast, It’s not normal it’s toxic is an educational resource for you to better understand the toxic relationships in your life through the experiences I had while in mine. Fak’n Tired my other podcast was also inspired by events in my life. Managing the ups and downs, managing my emotions, as well as managing the other relationships in my life did not go as I thought it would. There was so much shrapnel, so many residual effects from the toxic relationship I had been in that I was for a time completely unaware of. Avoiding and ignoring the need for healing became so overwhelming for me I wanted to disappear. So as I write the episodes for Fak’n Tired I often wonder if it would have been different if I had known all this before it did. The bonus episodes you hear are the Fak’n Tired episodes that I believe could possibly make your journey go a little smoother than mine did. In this episode of "Fake and Tired," Dr. Heidi delves into the complexities of recovering from toxic relationships and the lasting effects they can have on one's mental and emotional well-being. She shares her personal journey, highlighting the confusion and exhaustion that often accompany the aftermath of such relationships. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own behaviors and reactions, which may have been shaped by past events, and how they show up in everyday life, even in safe environments. The episode serves as a call to action for listeners to recognize these behaviors in themselves and begin the journey toward healing and self-acceptance.Whether you are presently in a toxic relationship or you are trying to rebuild after a toxic relationship it can feel impossible to take the steps you desire. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Because she has been where you are now, she gets it so her service offerings focus on your needs. Start by taking the Toxicity Profile Analysis for validation or the Survival Mode Assessment for understanding. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

#254 The Dry Erase Board 10.02.2026 15λ

Dr Heidi knows it can feel overwhelming to ask for help, at least it did for her. As one who has been where you are now, perhaps one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ In this episode Dr. Heidi discusses the complexities of toxic relationships, focusing on the Toxicity Profile Analysis (TPA) as a tool for understanding personal situations. She elaborates on manipulative tactics used by toxic individuals, particularly the 'dry erase board' technique, where they alter past events to fit the story line that betters the part they played. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of self-validation and maintaining one's own memory as a defense against emotional manipulation.TPA (Toxicity Profile Analysis): https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysisSMA (Survival Mode Assessment): https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/SurvivalModeAssessment

#253 The Magic Drama Wand 27.01.2026 9λ

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysisApply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client:https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/schedule/dddd1d6eContinuing in her series of highlighting the toxic personalities predictability, Dr. Heidi”s focus in this episode is on how certain personalities thrive on chaos and drama. She explains the mechanisms behind their need for attention and control, and offers insights on how individuals can reclaim their peace and stability. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and the ability to disengage from the emotional turmoil created by toxic individuals.Here is the link to Dr Heidi’s other podcast: Fak’n Tiredhttps://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTADr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

**BONUS EPISODE** 19.01.2026 1ώ 2λ

Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. As one who has been where you are now, perhaps one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/In this episode of "Fake and Tired," Dr. Heidi engages in a heartfelt conversation with her client Christine, who shares her transformative journey through the Freedom Me program. The discussion revolves around the emotional toll of toxic relationships and the importance of self-awareness and healing. Christine reflects on her past experiences, revealing how she felt trapped in unhealthy dynamics and the steps she took to reclaim her life. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the significance of recognizing toxic behaviors and the power of self-validation, encouraging listeners to confront their own struggles with authenticity and self-acceptance.The episode also highlights the practical tools and insights gained from the program, including the use of a flowchart to identify toxic behaviors and the importance of setting boundaries. Christine's candid reflections on her progress serve as a beacon of hope for those feeling lost in similar situations. The conversation culminates in a powerful reminder that healing is a journey, and it's essential to prioritize oneself in the process of recovery from emotional exhaustion and toxicity.Apply to be the next Exclusive Freedom…Me! Private client:https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/freedom

#252 The Vending Machine 13.01.2026 14λ

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysis Apply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client:https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/schedule/dddd1d6eToday, Dr. Heidi continues to explore the dynamics of toxic relationships, particularly focusing on how individuals with toxic personalities view others as mere resources for emotional support. She introduces the concept of the 'vending machine' dynamic, where the toxic person only engages when they need something, leading to emotional abuse and control. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns and taking steps to protect oneself from falling into the vending machine trap. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

#251 The Glass House 30.12.2025 16λ

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysisApply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client:https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/freedom-me-exclusive-private-coachingIn this episode, Dr. Heidi explores the concept of the 'glass house' as a metaphor for the toxic personality's fragile self-image. She discusses the role of the 'chief editor' who manages the narrative to protect this image, the unpredictability of toxic behaviors, and the intense need to be right that drives these individuals. The conversation emphasizes understanding these dynamics to regain personal power and clarity in relationships with toxic individuals.Here is the link to Dr Heidi’s other podcast: Fak’n Tiredhttps://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTA

#250 The Broken Calculator 16.12.2025 13λ

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysis In this conversation, Dr. Heidi explores the concept of emotional math in toxic relationships, where positive experiences are often met with negativity. She explains how the toxic individuals in these relationships operate under a scarcity mindset, leading to insecurity and competition over emotional resources. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's own successes and not minimizing them due to the reactions of others. The discussion also highlights the predictability of toxic behaviors, allowing individuals to better navigate their relationships and own their happiness.Also check out her sister podcast, 'Fak'n Tired' where she talks all about the after affects and emotional wreckage that is left over after the toxic relationship has ended.Here is the link to Dr Heidi’s other podcast: Fak’n Tiredhttps://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTAApply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client:https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/schedule/dddd1d6e

#249 Unpredictable Yet Predictable 02.12.2025 28λ

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysisIn this episode, Dr. Heidi discusses the complexities of toxic relationships, and how we often second guess ourselves when attempting to find answers. She emphasizes how important both validation and understanding are in moving forward . She shares her personal experiences and insights on recognizing toxic behaviors, the predictability of such patterns, and the necessity of observing and documenting these behaviors for personal growth. The conversation aims to empower listeners to differentiate between normal and toxic dynamics in relationships, ultimately guiding them towards healing and self-awareness.Apply to become an exclusive “Freedom…Me!” Client:https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/schedule/dddd1d6e

#248 - From Toxic to Tired 25.11.2025 33λ

Here is the link to the new sister podcast, 'Fak'n Tired'.https://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTAIn this episode, Dr. Heidi discusses the unseen complexities of toxic relationships and the journey towards healing and self-acceptance. She introduces her new podcast, 'Fak'n Tired,' which aims to provide support for those challenged by life after toxic relationships. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of understanding the nervous system's role in our reactions and behaviors, and encourages listeners to strive for the element of understanding the residual effects that you may be experiencing. Her wish is that you too can find independence and peace. The conversation highlights the need for sustainable support, the recognition of internal changes, and understanding things that may show up after leaving toxic environments.Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysisI know it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for me. Maybe one of my service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let my experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

#247 There are No Actual Good Days 18.07.2025 25λ

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ToxicityProfileAnalysisIn this conversation, I discusses the complexities of emotional abuse and its long-lasting effects on individuals. I am choosing to emphasize that there are no truly good days in emotionally abusive relationships, as the perceived good days are often manipulated by the abuser to control the victim's feelings and reactions. I explain the difference between emotions and feelings, and how emotional abusers use language and behavior to distort their victims' perceptions of their own feelings, leading to confusion and dependency.Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

Toxic Tidbit Time 13.06.2025 6λ

Listener question: My former has turning himself into the victim & it seems to be getting worse as negotiations move forward.

#246 No More "What's Next?" 23.05.2025 41λ

As I share more & more of my personal journey of healing, I see how even the everyday events, the ups and downs of just normal life have been affected by my past. Today, I am telling you a story & discussing the importance of understanding one's reactions and the impact of past experiences on current behaviors. Through an upsetting but non emergency life event, a flood in my basement, I reflect on the lessons I have learned about loss, change, and personal empowerment. The self growth is becoming so much more evident, even in the little things. The importance of making my own decisions, finding strength in adversity, & seeing the reason bad stuff sometimes happens, has given me a confident feeling of both self acceptance & inner peace.

#245-Why is it so difficult to know if they are toxic? 30.03.2025 24λ

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/In episode #243 I reminded you that YOU are the one that decides who in your life is healthy for your wellbeing and who may not be so healthy for you. In this episode I take it one more step, let's explore why it is confusing and why your mind becomes clouded when looking at your relationships. Toxic relationships are complex and because of that you seek validation as you begin recognizing unhealthy behaviors. Part of the reason you are seeking such validation is because the traits of toxic personalities become "normal" to you as you spend each day within the cycle. Let's jsut take one of the many traits that I teach today and expand on it a bit. Self-centeredness is a trait of many toxic personalities, and the impact that can have on those around them can lead to low self-worth and compromised emotional health. I encourages you to reflect on your behavior & patterns too as they may be adaptive to avoid conflict or confrontation within the relationship you are seeking validation for. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

#244 So I Actually Took A Vacation... 19.03.2025 19λ

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysis https://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/In this episode, I reflect on my personal journey towards peace and self-acceptance after years of navigating the long term effects of my toxic relationships. I share my experiences of anxiety and stress related to vacations and how my perspective has shifted over time. Through self-awareness and understanding of my past, I now know the importance of prioritizing myself and recognizing the value of my personal growth. My overall mission has always been to educate others on the inner workings of toxic relationships but now, as I have personally learned, it is also about understanding ourselves and how the toxic relationships may have changed us.Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

#243 - The Number One Thing We Miss 26.02.2025 15λ

Do Not Skip Over this Short Episode! Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/ As you find yourself listening to my podcasts, knowing I've been where you are, be reminded of the one thing we miss in seeking validation of our situations. This is the most important thing I will teach. It is the most important thing for you to learn, grasp, accept, and act upon if you are seeking inner peace. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Maybe one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

#242 Why can't they just act normal? 14.02.2025 17λ

Take the Toxicity Profile Analysishttps://coachingwithdrheidi.base44.app/In this conversation, I explore the complexities of emotional wiring and how it affects relationships, particularly with toxic personalities. The importance of understanding different personality types to navigate your future decisions effectively is imperative. Your relationship will remain confusing causing self doubt until you know them as well as you know yourself.Announcing the "You've Got To Be Kidding Me - Validation Session is now open to all who are seeking to find answers to why "they can't just act normal". The validation session, aims to provide clarity and insight for individuals struggling in their relationships, helping them to recognize their worth and make informed decisions about their future.Book your Validation session:https://drheidischeduleme.as.me/schedule/dddd1d6e