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• Bumble’s New AI Matchmaker “Bumblebee” Explained 29.05.2026 53min

  J&J get into a recent article where they mention dating has become a luxury in 2026! From $20 coffee dates to the hidden “pink tax” women pay just to get ready, maybe it really is too expensive to date these days. Then they break down Bumble’s new AI matchmaker “Bumblebee,” why Jared thinks dating apps are just slot machines for lonely men, and whether AI is making modern dating even more fake. Plus, an “Icky or Picky” email about a college guy admitting he masturbates to a match’s profile photo sparks a surprisingly nuanced conversation about dating expectations, sexual honesty, and learning how to date in your 20s. Later, they unpack a marriage conflict years in the making after a husband still hasn’t read his wife’s wedding vows, and why “testing” your partner instead of communicating never works. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Can Someone Truly Change After Cheating? 27.05.2026 1h 33min

  This week J&J unpack why lying in a relationship can be worse than cheating itself and debate whether an ex warning a new girlfriend is “helpful” or completely unhinged. They break down a breakup that left one listener scrambling for a new apartment and explain the difference between being petty and being prudent when money and resentment collide. Plus, Jared defends his longtime 'finger in the butt' stance while Jordana gives practical advice for couples trying new things in bed without shame or panic. They also discuss a man who refuses to wear deodorant (red flag), a fiancé calling another woman “the prettiest girl he’s ever seen,” and Jared accidentally discovering he’s been saying “sight on scene” instead of “sight unseen” for years! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Dr. Orna On The Biggest Mistake Couples Make 22.05.2026 49min

  This week J&J welcome Dr. Orna Guralnik from Couples Therapy to talk about the biggest mistakes couples make before they ever step into therapy! Dr. Orna explains why “agree to disagree” is usually just code for “I’m exhausted trying to change you.” The conversation gets hilarious when Jared roleplays a full couples fight about chicken vs. steak dinner and accidentally reveals his deepest relationship fears. Plus, Dr. Orna shares the biggest sign couples therapy is happening too early, the moment it’s officially too late, and why respecting your partner’s differences matters more than ‘winning’ the argument! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Should You Tell Your Ex You’re Pregnant? 20.05.2026 1h 15min

  Jordana and Jared are judging Mother’s Day Instagram tributes like they’re relationship crime scenes. And honestly, some of these captions are screaming “save the marriage post!” They debate whether a woman should warn her ex that she’s pregnant with her new boyfriend’s baby, discuss a first date where a guy ate a pastry and drank coffee in front of his hungry date, and debate over whether sending a nostalgic middle-school boyfriend photo is sweet or secretly flirty. They also tackle a missing-front-tooth dating dilemma, a possible hoarder girlfriend, and a man who told his live-in girlfriend to move out for a month so he could “work on his mental health.” We think this relationship is doomed! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Married a Gay Man… And We’re Completely Monogamous ft I Married a Gay Man 15.05.2026 50min

  J&J are joined by Samantha Wynn Greenstone and Jacob Hoff, the married couple behind the “I Married A Gay Man” podcast, to unpack the relationship dynamic that has the internet completely fascinated! They tell their story of meeting during a Fiddler on the Roof audition, becoming inseparable best friends, and the text message that changed everything after an energy healer told Samantha they shared a “spiritual umbilical cord.” Jacob opens up about identifying as gay while being deeply in love, monogamous, and raising a baby with Samantha, while the group dives into why labels, attraction, and soulmate connections don’t always fit into neat boxes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Is a Breakup Revenge Post Ever Okay? 13.05.2026 1h 35min

  Jordana and Jared hang in Florida and we hear about it on today’s ep! Jordana shares what no one tells you about traveling with twins, including getting interrogated by strangers about her fertility journey, making up fake answers about how many minutes apart the babies were born! J&J get into listener questions and debate whether divorced parents should still take family photos together at a Sweet 16, unpack a chaotic breakup revenge post asking for “female references” before dating men, and decide if a man secretly liking his own Instagram posts from a finsta is a red flag or just deeply embarrassing! Plus, they break down the most unhinged first date confession ever: a guy casually calling porn “documentaries.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• He Won’t Go To Therapy But Says I’m the Problem 08.05.2026 53min

  Jared and Jordana are back with a Friday Feels episode covering everything from postpartum “groove returns” and winter baby timing to why February birthdays hit differently! They revisit the good times of Facebook event invites, group emails, and how dating used to feel before constant texting took over. A listener's email sparks a debate about “babe” texts, over-texting before a first date, and whether you should just go on the date or call it early. Then they break down a 21-year-old married listener asking if she’s incompatible with her DJ husband who refuses therapy and says she has “bad energy.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• The “Girl You Don’t Need to Worry About” Problem 06.05.2026 1h 25min

  J&J are back in the studio, where Jordana reveals it’s actually pretty normal for partners to try breast milk, so does that make it weird if Jared does? Then they get into your emails, starting with a listener whose boyfriend keeps going out of his way to help a female coworker even after she said it made her uncomfortable, and why the pattern matters more than the excuse. Another listener gets love bombed all week, invited to a wedding two months out, then hits with a last minute switch to drinks and a “can we hang after if it goes well?” text before getting unmatched, and J&J explain why that feels like a setup. They also debate if saying “I’m bored” seven months in is honest or just rude, and whether telling your date you’re attracted to someone else is ever okay. Plus, a Hinge match turns dating into a job interview with phone screenings and scheduling dates a month out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Why Hot Takes Are Ruining Dating Advice ft. Dear Shandy 01.05.2026 45min

  Dear Shandy hosts Sharleen Joynt and Andy Levine join Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham for a fun Friday Feels crossover at Betches HQ! We get into how they each approach dating advice, why so many people are stuck “analyzing behavior,” and the difference between being confused and just turned off. Then they play a fun round of True Love or True Likes?, reacting to famous couples like Lauren Speed & Cameron Hamilton, Jason Tartick & Kaitlyn Bristowe, Amanda Batula & Kyle Cooke, and more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Ryan Seacrest’s Dating Red Flags Make No Sense 29.04.2026 1h 13min

  Ryan Seacrest’s “dating red flags” get J&J talking and how out-of-touch celebrity dating advice can be - waving at people should not be a red flag, Ryan! Jared and Jordana unpack a frustrating Hinge situation where a guy pulls back after 6 dates and claims he wants to “be friends first,” and why that’s usually just a soft exit, not a strategy. They then get into a hyper-specific first date debate: is it rude if your date doesn’t tell you where they are inside the bar, or just normal app behavior? Lastly, they discuss engagement timelines and what the “right” window is between ring shopping and getting down on one knee, and whether waiting too long is a red flag or just life happening! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Should You DM the Girlfriend If You’re the Other Woman? 24.04.2026 46min

  Jordana and Jared kick things off discussing their night before at a fun client dinner that somehow turns into a lesson about the one airplane seat that always survives a crash (allegedly, 11A)! From there, they get into travel drama, including middle seat horror stories, whether couples who book the aisle and window are selfish, and how being nice to a gate agent can score you a surprise upgrade! Then it’s into listener emails: a petty or prudent about DMing a secret girlfriend after a Tinder hookup, and an honest breakdown of why one guy keeps striking out on first dates. They unpack dating fatigue, transactional energy, and the subtle signs you need to pay attention to to delete the apps! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• He Matched With Me… And My Brother! A Dating App Nightmare 22.04.2026 56min

  Jordana and Jared are back in the studio and immediately spiraling about NYC heat, aging, and why early flights now require a full recovery day! They debate whether a man in his late 30s sleeping in a twin bed is an instant ick and why his mom might be the bigger red flag. Then, a listener asks if it’s okay to date while still living with an ex, and whether that situation might signal you’re not ready for something serious. Plus, red flag or dealbreaker gets wild: matching with your brother on a dating app, a $500 first date that feels too pricey, and whether a lisp is enough to end things. Jared has some thoughts about this speech pathologist! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• What’s the Right Way to Approach Someone IRL? 17.04.2026 58min

  J&J kick off today’s Friday Feels discussing New England Patriots coach Mike Vrabel being spotted holding hands with another married woman, and whether interlocking fingers can ever be explained as “just friends.” Jared shares a surreal run-in with TikTok-famous Costco Guys while buying Ozempic, and why it felt a little too close to influencer rock bottom. They then dive into Instagram’s possible new feature that lets you secretly watch IG stories, track rewatchers, and how it could quietly ruin dating. Finally, they tackle listener drama: a drunk friend stirring engagement jealousy and the right (and wrong) way to approach someone at the park for a date! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• The Moment His TikTok Fame Ruined the Date 15.04.2026 1h 30min

  Are people cheering for me to be in a relationship or single?! Jared talks about how public reactions to his new relationship make him reflect on his dating history and social media pressure, including whether he should post his girlfriend or not. They answer emails, starting with a guy who insists on bringing his dog on a second date and even feeds it from his fork. EW! They also react to a listener who sent a brutally honest rejection text to a “TikTok famous” guy who wouldn’t stop talking about his money, real estate, and trust issues. J&J then debate an email about dating into a wealthy country club family and whether it crosses the line from culture shock into straight-up judgment. Later, a widow’s date asks if she’ll “compare all future partners” to her late husband. We’re calling it a major red flag! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• My Friend & My Ex Are Hooking Up! 10.04.2026 58min

  In this Friday Feels episode, J&J dive back into reality TV drama that’s hitting all of our feeds: Summer House dating announcements from Wes and Amanda. They break down Amanda Batula and West Wilson’s relationship announcement on IG, dissecting why a vague “we” statement can ruin friendships and trigger the internet. Jared shares his first-hand experience meeting his girlfriend’s parents (and niece!) with NYC chocolate babka in hand, because what’s a gift without a story? They then tackle an “icky or picky” from a listener who received a novel-length first text from a new guy. Lastly, a first date goes so well, but the guy wants to end it before things get serious because she mentions moving in a year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Why Situationships Hurt More Than Breakups 08.04.2026 1h 33min

  Jared and Jordana are back and immediately diving into Summer House drama, breaking down the Amanda, West, and Ciara rumors and why situationships might hurt more than traditional breakups. They debate whether hooking up with a friend’s ex is worse when things weren't fully official, and what it says about dating after a long relationship. Then it’s listener dilemmas, from whether it’s petty or prudent for an ex to sneak into your apartment to grab his stuff to what it means when your husband refuses to wear his wedding ring, plus J&J weigh in on oral dealbreakers, anti-tickling boyfriends, and siblings turned roommates. Jared’s mom joins this episode for some sound perspective, it’s one you don’t want to miss! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• Follow These Rules For Meeting The Family 03.04.2026 36min

  Jared is officially meeting his girlfriend’s parents, but what should he bring? J&J break down the strategy of what to bring, expectations of meeting the family, and what actually matters during that first intro. Jared and Jordana get real about long distance dating, traveling for a relationship, and how to set boundaries when your partner joins you on work trips. They also unpack a listener’s “OnlyFans comment” nightmare after a first date setup goes sideways on Instagram. Plus, Jared explains why asking for Instagram instead of a number is a major red flag! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• What Changes In A Relationship After Kids? 01.04.2026 1h 19min

  Jordana is back after maternity leave with twins (AKA “Twisters”), and she and Jared finally catch up on everything! The two get into the What Are You Up To? segment brought to us by HBO’s Euphoria. Jordana shares life with newborns and how her relationship with Mike has changed, from couples therapy to what actually matters in a partner once you have kids. Jared drops a major update: he has a girlfriend! They originally met at the Comedy Cellar, dated years ago, we hear how they decided to date again! Plus, they get into some fun red flags or dealbreakers: debating whether not asking about a sick cat is a dealbreaker, how much you should tip on a $45 date, and why trying too hard, or not at all, might both be red flags!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• My Partner Makes Me Feel Stupid… Now What? ft Emma Willmann 27.03.2026 49min

  Jared is joined by the hilarious Emma Willmann for the final episode with a guest cohost! They break down a relationship where a boyfriend won’t stop correcting his dyslexic girlfriend’s grammar and why that might actually be a deal breaker. Jared shares a wild DM involving a “dead grandma date request,” leading to one of the strangest fan interactions he’s ever had. Lastly, they get into a listener being judged for kissing her friend while questioning her sexuality. Jared and Emma get into all your dating questions and more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• I Dumped Him in Public So He “Wouldn’t Make a Scene” ft Tiff Baira 25.03.2026 1h 15min

  Jared Freid sits down with Tiff Baira to learn all about Street Hearts, how to flirt with men and the best place to break up in NYC. They dive into listener dilemmas about how to turn long, flirty bar conversations into a real first date, and what to do when you are stuck in “Instagram limbo” after making the first move. The conversation also gets into major “ick” territory, including mouth open chewing, loud talking on dates, and whether sensory triggers like misophonia are real dealbreakers or just being too picky. The episode wraps with a funny “Petty or Prudent” game featuring a breakup, a questionable shower head theft, and post-relationship revenge etiquette! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices