Dads And Daddies

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  Brian and Judson hookup with Barrett Foa and talk the magic of Meg Stalter; practicing acceptance; finding freedom, love and a new language at Burning Man; expecting less from our parents; texting with Kylie; and being kind to yourself when grieving 15.09.2026 1h 47min

  Brian and Judson are joined by actor Barrett Foa, known for his 12 seasons on “NCIS: Los Angeles” and for his current stint on Broadway playing Mary’s Teacher opposite Bowen Yang in Oh, Mary! Barrett talks about how he has found himself on Broadway after an almost 20-year absence, what it was like to work opposite Meg Stalter and what a happy return it has been after a dozen years working on a crime procedural TV show teeming with alpha male energy. He shares the dilemma he faced as a gay actor on a hit show at the time that celebrities began to come out of the closet in force, and how he found the freedom to live fully out and proud through his discovery of Burning Man. He shares his NCIS co-star Chris O’Donnell’s reaction to learning how important he was to some gay men’s sexual awakenings; he recounts how Burning Man brought him together with his partner of three years who is deaf; and he delves deep into his Daddy Issue with a father who is incapable of giving compliments.Barrett also tells Brian and Judson about his friendship with Kylie Minogue, the incredible work of Every Day Action, the nonprofit of which he’s a founding member and board VP, and he helps respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener whose fiance has just passed away and its looking for guidance on grieving.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Gay Tired Hopeful’s Andrew Abel and talk commodotizing sex, gay exhaustion, being born polyamorous and insatiable bottoms 08.09.2026 1h 37min

  Brian and Judson are joined by Andrew Abel, founder and creative director of Gay Tired Hopeful, which "explores the patterns shaping modern queer life, from identity and intimacy to culture, work, and belonging, and the things we’re all quietly trying to figure out." Andrew describes how his professional and personal lives converged to drive him to create Gay Tired Hopeful, shares how his social media post questioning why gay men always act like there’s someone better drove its current popularity, and delves into why ‘Tired’ is an important part of the platform’s name. He also talks about cruising in forests, being raised without rules, and identifying as polyamorous while married to someone who may not be. In closing, Andrew joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is new to topping and has much he’s curious about, particularly when it comes to living up to bottoms’ standards at his regular bathhouse.
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  Brian and Judson have a repeat hookup with top anal health expert in the US, Dr. Evan Goldstein, and take questions on douching, STIs, scarring and depth play, and also talk reluctant parenthood, Martha Stewart’s allyship, and the mindf*ck of turning 50 01.09.2026 1h 40min

  Brian and Judson are joined by much-requested repeat hookup, Dr. Evan Goldstein! The leading anal health expert in the United States, founder of Future Method and one of the few surgeons in the world whose practice, Bespoke Surgical, is dedicated to treating and restoring the human butt is back on Dads and Daddies to answer a number of questions submitted by listeners since his previous appearance nine months ago. Before that, he recounts his personal journey, from his Staten Island childhood in the 70s and 80s, to his surgery residency where he met, fell in love with and married a woman, to meeting his now husband in an online chat room, to his becoming a reluctant parent to twin baby boys, to his close friendship with Martha Stewart. He also talks about turning 50, where his head is about that, and enjoying his Daddy era. He then responds to a number of questions submitted by listeners since his last visit to the show, on topics ranging from douching to STIs to internal scarring as a result of assault to depth play.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with ‘Kink for Dummies’ co-author Jack Harrison-Quintana and talk making a better world through kink, finding your inner kinkster, marrying your best friend, the variants of jealousy in open relationships and so much more 25.08.2026 1h 54min

  Brian and Judson are joined by co-author of Dads and Daddies Book Club selection, Kink for Dummies, Jack Harrison-Quintana. Jack tells Brian and Judson how he first met and became close with his co-author Jaime M. Grant, and how the two came to write a book about kink for Wiley, publisher of the entire slate of For Dummies books. Jack shares his early kink origins on both personal and professional planes, he asks Judson about his history with kink and drugs, and discusses whether or not Brian’s affinity for group and public sex makes him a kinkster. Jack also explores whether or not kinks can exist without personal shame or judgement of the community at large, how the tenets of the kink community should be guiding principles for all of humanity, how couples can communicate about uneven kink desires, how not all kinks appear sexual, removing shame from the need for erectile dysfunction medication, and so much more. Jack then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener in a newly opened relationship who wants help finding sex parties, but also has concerns about safety and comfort with other attendees’ behavior.
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  Brian and Judson have a fivesome with repeat hookups Jonah Wheeler, Joel Someone, and Daddy Kylex and talk helping each other navigate the gay porn industry, making spontaneous content together, consent for love language, and transparency on the apps 18.08.2026 1h 30min

  Brian and Judson host their first podcast orgy of sorts with three repeat hookups at once! Adult entertainment stars Jonah Wheeler, Joel Someone and Daddy Kylex return to the basement to talk about all things pornography– their friendships, their working relationships and how they help one another navigate the industry. Joel and Kylex talk about what it’s like to be actual neighbors, and how it makes for some spontaneous content shoots. Kylex and Jonah talk about sharing partners, leadin gto unintentional continuity and Easter Eggs between their videos. Joel shares the story about how he brought Jonah into the business via a miscommunication that turned out to be a happy accident and grew into a proper mentorship. The three explain why the videos they make together are some of their favorite content, how romance, intimacy and even the L word figure into their sexual encounters, and share new Daddy Issues--two with app behavior, and one with the loss of vulnerability after taking on the Daddy role for so long. To close, the three help Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants to learn how to love his own body.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Eliot Glazer and talk giving voice to disastrous gays, laughing at sex parties, queer sports league trauma and learning Gen Z vocab by dating an Insta hottie 11.08.2026 1h 41min

  Brian and Judson are joined by comedian, actor, podcaster, musician, television writer and author of the new book, The Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Gay, Eliot Glazer! Known to many for his performance as Eliot, brother to Ilana on the beloved TV series Broad City (and in real life), Eliot talks about how often he feels he’s a disaster as a gay man, and how his book is meant to provide others feeling the same way belly laughs and the comfort that they’re far from alone. He talks about how he copes with his anxiety as he searches for the perfect sex party, how he measures one’s gay age, his belief that his future husband exists in the midwest, the failings of gay sports leagues, his close relationship with his famous sister, and how the book provided the opportunity to separate himself from her and establish his own voice. He also tells Brian and Judson about the connection he made with a Gen Z hottie through their generational differences, and helps them respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is more newly out than his partner and wants to open their relationship so he can continue his sexual exploration, but doesn’t know that he will feel comfortable with his partner hooking up with other people.
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  DR. DADDY IS BACK! Brian and Judson hookup with Dr. Demetre Daskalakis again and talk protecting LGBTQ+ people from syndemics; the present and future of PrEP; the dire need in the U.S, for universal healthcare, and queer self-care as rebellion 04.08.2026 1h 47min

  Brian and Judson are overjoyed to welcome back to the studio, Dads and Daddies’ very own Dr. Daddy, Dr. Demetre Daskalakis, Chief Medical Officer at Callen-Lorde Community Health Center in New York City, a leader in LGBTQ+ healthcare both locally and nationally. Dr Demetre brings Brian and Judson up to speed on the developments in his life and career in the eight months since his prior appearance on the podcast, including a move from Atlanta to NYC, and taking on Callen-Lorde's medical leadership. He teaches Brian and Judson about syndemics (synergistic epidemics), what they mean for the queer community, and the initiative he introduced at Callen-Lorde to help LGBTQ+ people live their full lives in the safest ways possible. He also explains PrEP on demand, injectable PrEP, and the relationship between Undetectable and Untransmittable. He talks about Big Pharma and the queer community, and the less obvious reasons we need to make universal healthcare a reality in the United States. He also talks about his philosophy that self-care as LGBTQ+ people is the highest form of rebellion, and describes what self-care looks like for him, personally. To close, Dr. Demetre fulfills his promise and answers not one, but four medical Go Ask Your Dad questions that have been submitted since his first time on the show.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with ‘Owning Manhattan’ star and Queerity app founder Jordan Hurt and talk the road from gutter to high-rise, being sober on the apps, sharing his rock bottom moment on TV, and confronting friends struggling with addiction 28.07.2026 1h 16min

  Brian and Judson are joined by Judson’s dear friend, star of Netflix’s “Owning Manhattan,” and the founder of Queerity — the world’s first sober LGBTQ+ social and lifestyle app — Jordan Hurt. Jordan takes them through his journey from his childhood as a self-described “punk rock kid from the gutter,” to his move to New York with little money and no prospects, to his time as a sex worker, to his incredible success as a real estate broker under the guidance of famed realtor Ryan Serhant. He goes into great detail about his sobriety journey, including his rock-bottom moment that played out in front of the cameras for the hit reality show he was a cast member on. He then tells them all about Queerity–how he came to develop it, and the ways in which sober people can use it to find friends, romance, sex, events and safe destinations. He also shares his renewed views on dating, romance and what the future may hold for his personal life. The episode ends with Jordan helping Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants help navigating a friendship with someone he is concerned is heading down a dangerous path with alcohol.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Daddyhunt founder and CEO Carl Sandler and talk treating each other right on and off the apps, what it takes to be a good son, keeping Daddies alive and the importance of gay friendships 21.07.2026 1h 28min

  Brian and Judson are joined by the founder and CEO of the Daddyhunt app, Carl Sandler. Carl shares how Daddyhunt first came to be over twenty years ago and how it has evolved with the PrEP generation as the gay community has become more open to Daddies and to open relationships. He tells the story behind the Daddyhunt serial that became a viral sensation ten years ago, and talks about its upcoming re-release this year in 4K for a post-Heated Rivalry world. Carl helps Brian and Judson think about how gay men can and should behave better towards one another, explains what he as a Daddy gets from the younger men he surrounds himself with, discusses how Daddiness at its core is about giving back and what that looks like, delves deep into the importance and benefits of gay friendships, and he issues a life-and-death warning to all sons. To close, Carl helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants to know what it takes to be a good son or sub.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Finding Fire Island creator Jess Rothschild and talk queer history, lesbian divorce, being a gay woman who prefers the company of men, and whether honesty is always the best policy when dating 14.07.2026 1h 20min

  Brian and Judson are joined by podcaster and documentarian Jess Rothschild, creator and executive producer of the GLAAD Award-nominated docu-series Finding Fire Island, now in its second season—with many episodes featuring Judson! Jess tells Brian and Judson how she came to fall in love with Fire Island, why she felt it was important to document its deep history, and asks each host to share their Fire Island origin stories. She also shares her views on 12-step programs, explains how she is attracted to women but prefers the company of gay men, and discusses the differences in how lesbians and gay men approach sex and openness. Finally, Jess helps Brian and Judson respond to a "Go Ask Your Dad" question from a listener who has found a spark with someone online but is unsure whether or not he should remind this person that they interacted years earlier—and that it ended on a sour note.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Bryan Safi and talk people pleasing, finding love on the apps, gay divorce, needing reassurance as an adult, healing family wounds, and both Jason Alexanders 07.07.2026 1h 29min

  Brian and Judson are joined by Emmy Award–winning writer, actor and comedian Bryan Safi! Bryan tells Brian and Judson all about his off-Broadway solo show, Are You Mad at Me?, his eight years so far on Ryan Murphy’s “9-1-1” alongside Angela Bassett, Peter Krause and Jennifer Love Hewitt, and his pioneering, near 15-year career as a podcaster. He details his obsession with grocery stores, compares notes with Brian and Judson on finding love while looking for sex online, shares the details about why his marriage ended in divorce, reveals his need for reassurance from someone in a position of authority, and talks about healing the long-contentious relationship with his conservative parents. The three also talk about some of their favorite celebs from the 80s and 90s like Joan Rivers, Mr. T, Britney Spears and both Jason Alexanders. Bryan then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is finding himself so horny that he can’t figure out how to satisfy his needs.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Justin Elizabeth Sayre and talk aging as a queer person without role models, fleeing the US to find safety as a non-binary person, misrepresentation on the apps, and communication in open relationships 30.06.2026 1h 33min

  Brian and Judson are joined by the writer and performer Michael Musto called “Oscar Wilde meets Whoopi Goldberg,” Justin Elizabeth Sayre. Justin tells Brian and Judson about their new solo show they’re bringing to the Edinburgh Fringe Festival this summer, Justin Elizabeth Sayre is a 40 Year-Old Woman, how it was inspired by having to learn how to age as a queer person without role models to follow, and about the origins of their beloved Night of a Thousand Judys – an annual benefit for the Ali Forney Center, the nation's largest non-profit providing shelter and healthcare services to LGBTQ youth experiencing homelessness in New York City. Justin also talks about their journey to accepting their queerness, the on-and-off courtship via text and DM of their now wife, being a non-binary person married to a trans woman, and how the last presidential election forced them to expedite their wedding in the United States, before moving out of the country out of concern for their wife’s safety. Justin’s Daddy Issue sparks a debate about how to present oneself on the apps.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Peppermint and talk trading the Pride march for trans health care, Lady Gaga’s Drag Race demands, dating as a trans woman, bringing Black culture to predominantly white spaces and so much more 23.06.2026 1h 53min

  Brian and Judson are joined by global superstar - and a Grand Marshal of the 2026 New York City Pride March - Peppermint! An actress, singer, and comedian who rose to international fame on Season 9 of RuPaul's Drag Race and has become one of the most prominent voices in the fight for trans inclusion everywhere, Peppermint talks about the current barriers keeping trans people from living happy and healthy lives, why fighting for civil rights is a core part of her being, why she chose to audition for RuPaul's Drag Race, why her season wasn't appreciated at the time, the divisive Drag Race queen she admits is one of her favorites to tour with, and the extreme expense of drag competitions. She also details how she was required to audition for the role based on - and named for - her on Netflix's Survival of the Thickest, how she finds confidence through gratitude, her relationship with dating, what dating is like for trans women, and so much more.
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  Brian and Judson have a repeat hookup with Nasty Pig founder and CEO David Lauterstein and talk queer visibility, aging Daddy bottoms, the power of touch, bringing friends into the marital bed, and more 16.06.2026 1h 34min

  Brian and Judson are joined by founder and CEO of the iconic Nasty Pig fashion brand, David Lauterstein. David shares the concerns that are top of mind for him this Pride Month, expressing dismay about those within the queer community who police how out, proud, and loud LGBTQ+ folx express their visibility. He also shares his thoughts on Nasty Pig’s nomination in Las Culturistas’ Culture Awards this year and on the uproarious debate on Gay Twitter this past March about the appropriateness of wearing Nasty Pig to nice restaurants. He divulges exciting news for the company and updates Brian and Judson on what’s next for his 2024 memoir, Sodomy Gods. He also gets personal in revealing how his 33-year marriage works, what he’s learned through maintaining a relationship for so many years, and celebrates the queer community for making and living by its own rules. David gives a pep talk to his “fellow Daddy bottoms” who are feeling more invisible as they age, encouraging them to realize that there is a robust market for them. To end, David joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants advice on inviting a friend he and his husband have been crushing on into the bedroom with them.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with ‘Blue Film’ writer and director Elliot Tuttle and talk adolescent sexuality, slippery morality, what overindexing on queer joy does to taste levels, and Daddying vs fathering 09.06.2026 1h 23min

  Brian and Judson are joined by Elliot Tuttle, writer and director of Blue Film, available on VOD Friday, June 12. Elliot talks about the various responses he has received to his universally lauded film about a night shared between a camboy and a pederast, and how the story came to him. Judson is inspired by Elliot to reflect on his own past relationships with older men when he was in middle and high school. Elliot also tells Brian and Judson about his path from child movie critic to filmmaker, and explains his belief that the current emphasis on “queer joy” is ruining the taste of gay people. Finally, he goes deep into his favorite topic—dating—and particularly how he’s found his way to having so much fun with it. The episode ends with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a Daddy in a college town who is having trouble finding men his own age, and inadvertently ends up becoming a father figure to the younger men he dates.
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  Brian and Judson celebrate the launch of Season Three with a Go Ask Your Dad Extravaganza and talk open relationship rules, self-care routines, sex party connections, unpredictable libidos, and more 02.06.2026 1h 17min

  Judson and Brian celebrate the second anniversary of the podcast, the launch of Season Three, and the start of Pride Month! Judson spots two gay people at his new place of work and strategizes to befriend them both. Brian provides two theatre recommendations for Pride Month. Judson struggles with sleep issues. Brian shares an Instagram post sent his way that examines the question “Why are gay men so divided on open relationships?” The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener who gets to prove his versatility when a hot connection made while traveling spices up his vacation more than once during his stay. Brian and Judson then begin their Go Ask Your Dad Extravaganza answering five diverse listener questions. They first tackle one about open relationship rules, particularly around repeat hookups; the second asks each to describe their self-care routines; the third wants to know the etiquette around finding people on social media after meeting them at a sex party; the fourth is from a listener who is having trouble with his fiancé’s desire to open the relationship; and the fifth and final question comes from a listener in an open marriage whose Bipolar II disorder makes his libido unpredictable and wants help balancing saving his sexual energy for his husband with allowing himself freedom to have hookups.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Kevin Aviance and talk the pressures of being an icon, making Beyoncé c*nty, ballroom history, what it means to be a Black Queen today, and more 26.05.2026 1h 32min

  Brian and Judson are joined by recording artist, DJ, and performance legend whose influence has shaped generations of LGBTQ nightlife, dance music, and drag performance, Kevin Aviance! Kevin talks about how he reset his life after surviving a brutal hate crime in 2006 that shocked the LGBTQ community, how the pandemic gave rise to his DJing career, and how Beyoncé sampling his hit song “Cunty” on her Renaissance album completed his return to icon status. He also talks about the pressures of being labeled iconic, the origins of his latest album, HIPPOPOTAMUS!, his views on sex and hookup culture, his friendship with queens Honey Davenport and Sapphira Cristál and how they helped him understand what it means to be Black and queer in today’s world, his history with the ballroom scene and his reaction to its omnipresence within mainstream pop culture, why he loves aging, and his concern that the younger generation of queer people have lost a sense of history and the ability to learn through experience. Kevin then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a trans man who wants help building confidence to help him in finding friends and making hookups happen.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Zachary Zane and talk Bisexual Audibility, the joys of bottoming, being brave about sex when sober, the value of anger, whether top shortages are a myth, and more 19.05.2026 1h 57min

  Brian and Judson are joined by bisexual sex columnist, author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto, editor-in-chief of the Boyslut zine, and host of the Bi Babes Book Club on Allstora, Zachary Zane! Zachary covers the gamut of sexual topics, from his struggle to overcome his fraysexuality, to discovering the magic of anal stimulation, to switching from top to bottom and Daddy to Son even within the same session, to what he means by “Bisexual Audibility.” He also talks about formerly relying on drugs and alcohol to lower inhibitions enough to have certain types of sexual encounters, and how to get to the same level of comfort without them; the effects of being raised by a rageaholic; what straight people don’t understand about Grindr; readers who assume he will sleep with them; how long it truly takes to have sex; and he answers questions from some Dads and Daddies book clubbers. Zachary then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who can only finish when bottoming but finds himself topping due to what he describes as a top shortage.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with Nick Wolny and talk generating wealth as queer people, whether poppers are an essential expense, accepting our social inheritances, preparing emotionally and financially for gay events, and more 12.05.2026 1h 25min

  Brian and Judson are joined by personal finance educator and advocate Nick Wolny. Nick, the finance columnist for Out Magazine and author of the book Money Proud: The Queer Guide to Generate Wealth, Slay Debt and Build Good Habits to Secure Your Future, helps Brian and Judson understand how and why queer people approach money in our own way. He delves into how we develop our thought patterns around money and how we can set ourselves up for our futures while living fabulous queer lives in the present. He shares how he crafted his book to educate those of us who don’t have money left over at the end of the month about how to get to a place where we do, and to then maintain it so we can live the way we deserve in the moment. Brian, Judson and Nick also examine broadening the definition of wealth, debate whether or not poppers are an essential expense, Nick shares his Daddy Issue about his realization he’s becoming his parents, and he responds to listener-submitted questions. The episode ends with the three responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is excited to attend the Folsom Street Fair for his first time, and wants to ensure that he and his husband are preparing for it properly.
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  Brian and Judson hookup with The Disappointments creator and star Rich Burns and talk regrets after 50, the path from connection to kink, who decides who’s a Daddy, scheduling sex and more 05.05.2026 1h 31min

  Brian and Judson are joined by Rich Burns, writer, creator and star of the Humanitas Prize-winning comedic digital series “The Disappointments.” The show’s second season is out now and follows three gay friends in their 60s who are single, broke and desperately trying to turn their disappointing lives around. Rich shares how the series came out of the realization that a number of his friends found themselves in their 50s with their dreams unfulfilled, talks about the disparate reactions to the show from different generations of gay viewers, and dispels certain myths about the differences between himself and Ray, the character he plays on the show. Rich also shares his thoughts on open relationships, dating younger, the presumption by most that he’s a Daddy, the success of his slutty Instagram account, how his sexual exploration derives from connection and trust, and so much more. Rich then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is finding himself so busy that he has to schedule hookups weeks, if not months, in advance and is concerned that it’s a problem he needs help solving.