The Kink Compass

Épisodes

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  The Kink Compass is one year old! 18.08.2026 21min

  One year. Fifty-one Sundays out of fifty-two. More conversations about kink, relationships, community, consent, pain, pleasure, mistakes, growth and occasionally sheep than I ever imagined when I pressed publish for the first time.So this bonus episode isn't about teaching anything.It's about looking back.At the episodes, the conversations, the unexpected moments, and especially all of you who listened, commented, questioned, shared, supported, laughed, disagreed and came along for the ride.Whether you've been here since episode one or discovered the podcast yesterday, you're part of this.Thank you for an absolutely bloody awesome first year.Now, let's see where the compass takes us next.
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  The Journey: The Scariest Coffee You'll Ever Drink 16.08.2026 32min

  Your first munch can feel far scarier than your first scene ever will.You park outside. Sit in the car. Wonder whether everyone inside already knows each other. Whether they'll know you're new. Whether you'll say the wrong thing.Then you open the door.In this episode of The Journey, we follow the moment kink stops being something you've only read about online and becomes something real. Real people. Real conversations. Real communities.Because sometimes the hardest part of finding your place isn't learning about kink.It's finding the courage to walk through the door.
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  The Journey: Falling Down The Rabbit Hole 09.08.2026 29min

  Every journey begins with curiosity.One question becomes another. One article becomes twenty browser tabs. New words appear everywhere, and before long you realise you've discovered far more than a new hobby. You've stumbled into an entire world.But then something unexpected happens.The experts don't always agree.The internet rewards certainty.And behind every polished photograph lies a very human story you rarely get to see.In this episode of The Journey, we explore what it feels like to fall down the rabbit hole, and why the more you learn, the more fascinating the journey becomes.And somewhere along the way...One little word keeps appearing.Munch.
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  The Journey: So... Kink is real? 02.08.2026 13min

  There wasn't supposed to be a journey. You were just browsing.Maybe it was a Reddit thread. A YouTube recommendation. A podcast. A documentary. Or a question you'd never dared type into a search engine before.In the first episode of The Journey, we explore the moment everything changes. The moment you realise that kink isn't just fantasy or fiction. It's a real community, filled with ordinary people. And once you know the road exists, curiosity has a habit of asking just one more question.
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  The Journey: Session 0 01.08.2026 7min

  Every journey has a beginning.In tabletop roleplaying games, a Session 0 is where everyone gathers before the adventure begins to discover the world they're about to enter. This is ours.Before we take our first steps into The Journey, let's meet our traveller and discover why they have no name, no gender, and no predetermined role. Because this story could belong to any of us.
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  Skin Care 26.07.2026 25min

  Healthy skin heals remarkably well. Healthy kink begins long before the first strike and continues long after the last one.In this season finale, we explore the practical side of looking after skin before, during and after a scene, why small injuries deserve respect, and how good aftercare is about far more than soothing sore muscles. Because the marks we leave on skin are usually temporary. The way we make people feel often isn't.You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
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  Doll Play 19.07.2026 23min

  Doll play is often misunderstood. From the outside it can look like objectification, but for many people it's something far more nuanced. In this episode, we explore the psychology behind doll play, the trust it requires, why stillness can feel surprisingly powerful, and how communication and consent transform a simple fantasy into a deeply intimate experience. As always, we'll separate myth from reality and approach the topic with curiosity rather than judgement.This is one of the first episodes recorded with new editing software, so I hope the music isn't too loud.You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
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  Reality Always Gets A Vote 12.07.2026 17min

  No scene ever unfolds exactly as planned. The doorbell rings. A rope slips. Someone starts laughing. The neighbour knocks. Reality has a habit of interrupting even our most carefully crafted moments.In this episode, we explore why adaptability is one of the most underrated skills in kink. Because confidence isn't about pretending nothing ever goes wrong. It's about responding with calm, care and maybe even a sense of humour when reality inevitably gets a vote.You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
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  Kink in the Wild 05.07.2026 19min

  Outdoor kink offers possibilities you simply can't recreate indoors. Beautiful locations, fresh air, adventure and memories that last a lifetime. It also comes with mosquitoes, curious dog walkers, unexpected police officers, changing weather and the occasional reminder that reality doesn't always care about your carefully planned scene. Join me as we explore how to enjoy outdoor play safely, respectfully and with a healthy sense of humour.No sheep were harmed during the production of this episode.You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
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  False Masters Final Episode: The People Worth Finding 28.06.2026 18min

  After several weeks exploring manipulation, unhealthy authority, coercion, dependency, and the misuse of trust, False Masters comes to an end with a very different question:What does healthy power actually look like?In this final episode, Chris reflects on more than three decades in the kink community, not to talk about the people who caused harm, but about the people who made him stay. The friends, partners, mentors, and community members who handled vulnerability with care, welcomed others without ownership, and showed that power, freedom, trust, and compassion can coexist.This episode is about healthy communities, healthy relationships, and the ordinary people who quietly make both possible.Because perhaps the most important lesson isn't how to recognise false masters.It's how to recognise the people worth finding.You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
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  False Masters: When Community Becomes Identity 25.06.2026 22min

  We all want to belong.But what happens when the place that helped you become yourself becomes too important to question?In this bonus episode of False Masters, Chris explores community, identity, inner circles, loyalty, and the difference between belonging and dependence. Because healthy communities expand our lives. They don't become the only place we're allowed to exist.You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
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  False Masters, bonus, Sex, Spirituality, and Manipulation 23.06.2026 15min

  Sex and spirituality have long been connected. Both can involve vulnerability, trust, transcendence, altered states, and a search for meaning beyond everyday life. In this bonus episode of False Masters, we explore why the combination can be so powerful, and why it can also be so easily abused. From charismatic leaders and modern gurus to intimate relationships and spiritual communities, we'll look at how genuine experiences of connection can become tools of manipulation when authority goes unchecked. Because the most dangerous misuse of power often begins with something that feels profoundly real.You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
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  False Masters, The Grift 21.06.2026 26min

  Most grifters don't begin with a lie. They begin with a truth. A real problem, a real pain, a real desire for connection, belonging, healing, or growth. In this episode of False Masters, we explore how charismatic leaders, communities, and systems can use genuine needs as the foundation for manipulation. Why do intelligent people get pulled in? Why do warning signs often appear so late? And how do you tell the difference between someone offering guidance and someone selling certainty? Join me as we look at the psychology of the grift, and why the most convincing lies often contain a grain of truth.You can find the script and sources on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
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  False Masters Bonus Episode: The Aesthetics of Authority 17.06.2026 10min

  Why do collars, uniforms, titles, rituals, and symbols feel so powerful? Why can a simple gesture change the emotional atmosphere of a room? In this bonus episode of False Masters, we explore the psychology behind the aesthetics of authority. Not to condemn them, because many of us genuinely love them, but to understand why they work. We'll look at ritual, symbolism, emotional conditioning, and the difference between authority that is earned and authority that merely looks convincing. Because the most dangerous authority is often the kind that feels legitimate before it has proven itself.You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
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  False Masters: Good Girls, Loyal Boys, and Useful Pets 16.06.2026 23min

  What happens when belonging becomes identity?And what happens when identity becomes something a community can control?In this episode of False Masters, Chris explores how manipulative groups slowly reshape the way people see themselves. Not through threats or force, but through approval, recognition, roles, and the deeply human desire to belong.Because the most powerful forms of control rarely begin with obedience.They begin with identity.Together we'll explore role assignment, conditional approval, dependency, public humiliation disguised as growth, and the moment loyalty becomes more important than humanity.Because healthy communities help people become more fully themselves.Unhealthy ones slowly ask them to disappear inside the role.You can find the script and sources on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
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  False Masters, bonus episode: The Savior Dominant 11.06.2026 12min

  Sometimes we get tired.Tired of carrying old wounds. Tired of uncertainty. Tired of trying to figure everything out alone.And when someone arrives who seems to have answers, who understands us, who offers guidance and certainty, the relief can feel extraordinary.But where is the line between support and dependency? Between guidance and control? Between being helped and being rescued?In this bonus episode of False Masters, I explore the archetype of the Savior Dominant. The person who slowly becomes the interpreter of your feelings, your experiences, and eventually your reality.Because healthy care should help you trust yourself more, not less.And no matter how loving the relationship, you still deserve to remain the author of your own life.You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
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  False Masters: The Velvet Trap 07.06.2026 26min

  Some people make us feel safe.Some people make us feel understood.And some people make us feel as though they already know the answers to questions we're still struggling to ask.In Part 2 of the False Masters series, Chris explores the seductive pull of certainty, the psychology of authority, and the moment healthy guidance slowly becomes something far more dangerous. Why are we drawn to people who seem so sure of themselves? How does trust become dependency? And what happens when somebody else's voice grows louder than our own?A powerful exploration of authority, vulnerability, and the velvet trap hidden inside certainty.You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
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  False Masters, Bonus Episode: Finally Being Seen 03.06.2026 10min

  What does it feel like to finally be understood?In this bonus episode of False Masters, Chris explores one of the most powerful human experiences: being seen. Why does belonging feel so intoxicating? Why does understanding matter so much? And why do manipulative communities so often begin by offering exactly what people have been missing for years?A reflection on loneliness, connection, and the deep human need to belong.You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
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  False Masters: The Seduction of Belonging 31.05.2026 21min

  You find a kink community.People are warm. Open. Understanding. For the first time in a long time, you feel seen instead of judged. Safe instead of ashamed. Like you may finally have found your people.And then, slowly, something begins to feel off.In the first episode of False Masters, Chris explores how manipulative systems rarely begin with obvious danger. They begin with belonging, validation, intimacy, and emotional relief. And how healthy communities can protect people before safe spaces slowly turn into something darker.You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠
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  Bonus Episode: Pervert 26.05.2026 10min

  It's been weeks since the last bonus episode, so here's a quick one on the word "pervert". Where does the word come from, what does it mean, and how should we reclaim it if we want to?You can find the script on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠