Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity

Ep 90 - Why the Betrayed Struggle Without Answers 11.02.2026 35p

Join me, Brad Robinson, LMFT as I dive into the complex emotions and challenges faced by betrayed partners in the aftermath of infidelity. In this episode, I explore why those who have been betrayed often struggle without answers and how the quest for truth is crucial for healing. Discover the common patterns and needs of betrayed partners, and learn why understanding the details of an affair is not about punishment but about restoring safety and rebuilding trust. Whether you're healing from broken trust or supporting someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights into the journey towards recovery and the importance of honest communication. Speak with us about your situation Schedule a Discovery Call Couples Program: https://healingbrokentrust.com/contact-us Stop My Divorce: https://healingbrokentrust.com/stop-my-divorce Podcast Resources and the Core24 Episodes everyone needs to lay the foundation for healing completely: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast About Us: Brad Robinson, LMFT Brad lost his own family to divorce as a child. That early heartbreak didn't just shape him, it propelled him into a lifetime of helping others heal theirs. A licensed marriage and family therapist based in Tulsa, OK, Brad is an internationally recognized expert in affair recovery and a TEDx speaker. He has personally guided over 6,000 couples in one-on-one work and developed a multi-layered healing approach that integrates trauma, attachment, and relational repair. Morgan Robinson, MA Morgan brings both personal insight and professional training to the work. She knows what it's like to enter marriage carrying deep wounds — and what it takes to build confidence, connection, and resilience. A trauma-informed coach grounded in attachment theory, Morgan leads with empathy, clarity, and a commitment to transforming pain into growth.

Ep 89 - Why does my partner freeze, shut down, or say the wrong thing when I'm falling apart? 04.02.2026 37p

Why do they shut down when you're falling apart? Why do they say the exact wrong thing when you need comfort the most? In this episode, we step inside the aftermath of infidelity and unpack a question many betrayed partners silently ask: Why does the person who hurt me seem incapable of showing up now? We explore the emotional paralysis that often overtakes the unfaithful partner — the freezing, defensiveness, and withdrawal that can feel like a second betrayal. You'll hear what's really happening beneath the surface: crushing shame, terror of losing everything, and guilt so overwhelming it shuts down connection instead of repairing it. This conversation sheds light on why boundaries become confusing, why accountability feels inconsistent, and why your pain can feel unbearable for the person who caused it — even when they want to fix things. Most importantly, we discuss what actually helps move conversations forward, rebuild safety, and interrupt the painful cycles that keep couples stuck. If you're a betrayed spouse searching for clarity, validation, and a path toward healing — whether together or on your own — this episode offers insight you won't want to miss. Speak with us about your situation Schedule a Discovery Call Couples Program: https://healingbrokentrust.com/contact-us Stop My Divorce: https://healingbrokentrust.com/stop-my-divorce Podcast Resources: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast

Ep 88 - Healing After Betrayal: Navigating the 10 Biggest Pain Points 28.01.2026 29p

In this episode, we delve into the profound challenges faced by partners who have been betrayed. Discover the ten most significant pain points that arise after infidelity, from feeling unsafe and grappling with trickle truths to dealing with intrusive thoughts and the loss of self-worth. We share insights and practical steps to help you navigate these emotional hurdles and find a path to healing. Whether you're struggling with anger, grief, or the loneliness that betrayal brings, this episode offers a roadmap to reclaiming your life and rebuilding trust. Join us as we explore the complexities of betrayal and provide guidance for those seeking to heal and move forward. Speak with us about your situation Schedule a Discovery Call Couples Workshops: https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop Stop My Divorce: https://healingbrokentrust.com/stop-my-divorce Podcast Resources: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast

Ep 87 - Stuck After Infidelity? The Cycle That Blocks Trust Repair 21.01.2026 31p

In this episode we delve into the complexities of healing after betrayal. Discover how couples can break free from the negative cycles that hinder recovery and learn the importance of shifting from defensiveness to responsibility. We explore the dynamics of pursuers and distancers, the dangers of minimizing behaviors, and the critical role of interpretation in the healing process. Whether you're seeking to rebuild trust or understand the journey of affair recovery, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice to help you and your partner move forward. Tune in to learn how real healing begins when both partners can hold the truths of damage and repair simultaneously, paving the way for lasting forgiveness and trust. Speak with us about your situation Schedule a Discovery Call Couples Workshops: https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop Stop My Divorce: https://healingbrokentrust.com/stop-my-divorce Podcast Resources: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast

Ep 86 - When the Unfaithful Sees the Affair Partner In A Positive Light 17.01.2026 31p

In this episode of Healing Broken Trust, we tackle the complex issue of affair nostalgia, a significant emotional roadblock in the journey to reconciliation after infidelity. We explore the listener's question about dealing with a partner who still holds an affair in a positive light, making reconciliation challenging. The discussion delves into the emotional struggles of both the betrayed and the unfaithful, offering insights into the need for genuine remorse, the importance of feeling chosen, and strategies for dismantling the idealized view of an affair partner. Join us as we navigate the winding road to healing and rebuilding a stronger, more authentic relationship. Speak with us about your situation Schedule a Discovery Call Couples Workshops: https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop Stop My Divorce: https://healingbrokentrust.com/stop-my-divorce Podcast Resources: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast If you're new to this podcast make sure to visit episode 1 of season 1. That's the best way to listen to the program. CLICK HERE to go to that episode.

Ep 85 - Why You Haven't Rebuilt Trust Yet 09.01.2026 32p

In this podcast, we break down a powerful research-based model for how trust gets rebuilt after it's been broken—and why "just apologize" often isn't enough. The research we reference explains trust repair as a two-way, back-and-forth process between the person who was hurt (the trustor) and the person who caused the damage (the trustee), where repair happens when efforts to prove trustworthiness outweigh the injured person's need to protect themselves. You'll learn the three questions people move through after a breach—Did you do it? (guilty vs. innocent), Why did it happen? (you vs. the situation), and Can you change? (fixable vs. fixed)—and how different repair attempts land differently depending on which question is still unanswered. We'll also cover why integrity-based betrayals are harder to repair than competence mistakes, why mixed messages (denial + apology) backfire, and what "stuck" patterns like avoidance, escalation, or hardened mistrust look like—so you can map what's happening and take smarter next steps toward real trust repair. Speak with us about your situation Schedule a Discovery Call Couples Workshops: https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop Stop My Divorce: https://healingbrokentrust.com/stop-my-divorce Podcast Resources: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast

Ep 84: Why Isn't the Unfaithful Sorry for their Affair? Why Can't They Show Remorse? 06.01.2026 44p

In this episode, we delve into the complex dynamics of apologies following intentional betrayal in relationships. Discover why apologies often fail after deliberate choices and learn what constitutes a healing apology. We explore the emotional disconnect between partners, the impact of guilt and anger, and the psychological needs driving reconciliation. Join us as we break down the needs-based model of reconciliation and offer practical advice for rebuilding trust and fostering genuine remorse. Whether you're navigating the aftermath of infidelity, or seeking to understand the intricacies of your partner's behavior, this episode provides valuable perspectives and actionable steps for healing and growth. Get the Apology Template mentioned in the episode HERE Speak with us about your situation Schedule a Discovery Call Couples Workshops: https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop Stop My Divorce: https://healingbrokentrust.com/stop-my-divorce Podcast Resources: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast

Ep 83 - Why Do We Remember the Details So Differently? 30.12.2025 37p

In this episode, Brad and Morgan Robinson delve into the complex dynamics of memory and betrayal in relationships. Discover why both partners remember infidelity differently and how these memory gaps can impact healing and reconciliation. Explore the roles of victim and perpetrator, and learn about the psychological and emotional processes that occur after trust is broken. With insights from historical truth commissions and personal anecdotes, this episode offers valuable perspectives on navigating the aftermath of betrayal. Whether you're seeking to understand your own experiences or support a loved one, this episode provides essential tools and strategies for healing broken trust. Speak with us about your situation Schedule a Discovery Call Couples Workshops: https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop Stop My Divorce: https://healingbrokentrust.com/stop-my-divorce Podcast Resources: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast

Ep 82 - Handling Triggers As A Couple Especially During the Holidays 23.12.2025 29p

In this episode of "Healing Broken Trust," Brad and Morgan Robinson discuss the concept of "pre-assurance," a proactive approach to offering reassurance to a partner before they are triggered, especially during the holiday season. They explore how pre-assurance can help partners feel emotionally safe and valued, emphasizing the importance of understanding and discussing each other's triggers. The episode provides practical advice on offering pre-assurance in various situations, such as during holidays, social gatherings, before going out, and before physical intimacy. They also discuss the significance of patience, transparency, and communication in rebuilding trust after infidelity. Additionally, they touch on the role of trauma treatment, specifically EMDR, in the healing process and mention their workshop program that includes a trauma component. We are available to help you heal broken trust. We have several ways to get help. Speak with us about your situation Schedule a Discovery Call Couples Workshops: https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop Stop My Divorce: https://healingbrokentrust.com/stop-my-divorce Podcast Resources: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast You can call our office at 918-281-6060 Monday-Friday 9AM-6PM CST. Contact us on the web at healingbrokentrust.com.

Ep 81 - Surviving the Holidays 10 Strategies After Infidelity 26.11.2025 11p

Brad Robinson, LMFT delves into the complexities of supporting a betrayed spouse during the emotionally charged holiday season. Discover ten actionable strategies to help navigate the festive period with empathy and understanding. From initiating open conversations and creating new traditions to offering reassurance and protecting boundaries, this episode provides a comprehensive guide to turning negative cycles into positive ones. Whether you're dealing with emotional triggers or seeking to build a supportive environment, these tips aim to foster healing and connection. Join us as we explore how to be a proactive emotional ally and create a safe space for healing during the holidays. We are available to help you heal broken trust. We have several ways to get help. Speak with us about your situation Schedule a Discovery Call Couples Workshops: https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop Stop My Divorce: https://healingbrokentrust.com/stop-my-divorce Podcast Resources: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast You can call our office at 918-281-6060 Monday-Friday 9AM-6PM CST. Contact us on the web at healingbrokentrust.com.

Ep 80 - Fantasy Love of An Affair and Real Love - 20 Differences 08.05.2025 39p

In this episode we discuss the differences between "fantasy love" or "limerence" and "companionship love" or "real love". We explain how limerence is an intense, emotionally volatile form of love driven by attraction and fantasy, while companionship love is a deeper, more stable form of love built on mutual commitment, trust, and shared values. The speakers emphasize that companionship love, while less flashy, is ultimately more sustainable and fulfilling in the long run. We are available to help you heal broken trust. We have several ways to get help. Couples Workshops: https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop Stop My Divorce: https://healingbrokentrust.com/stop-my-divorce Help for the Betrayed: https://healingbrokentrust.com/betrayed-spouse-masterclass Help for the Unfaithful: https://healingbrokentrust.com/healers-workshop Podcast Resources: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast You can call our office at 918-281-6060 Monday-Friday 9AM-6PM CST. Contact us on the web at healingbrokentrust.com.

Ep 79 - 20 Differences Between An Emotional Affair and Friendship 26.03.2025 16p

Friendships are a normal and healthy part of life. We all need people outside of our romantic relationships who support us, make us laugh, and share our interests. But sometimes, a close friendship can slowly turn into something more—even without us realizing it. Emotional affairs don't happen overnight. They start off innocent—just good conversations, just inside jokes, just feeling understood. But over time, the emotional connection deepens, secrets start forming, and the lines get blurry. The trcky part? Emotional affairs don't always involve physical intimacy, making them harder to recognize—and even harder to admit. You might tell yourself it's nothing, even as you hide texts, crave their attention, or feel guilty about how much you think about them. So, how do you know if your friendship is just a friendship or if it's damaging your relationship? The key is spotting the differences between the two. Check out our blog HERE: https://healingbrokentrust.com/blog/friendship-or-emotional-affair-how-to-tell-the-difference We are available to help you heal broken trust. We have several ways to get help. Couples Workshops: https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop Stop My Divorce: https://healingbrokentrust.com/stop-my-divorce Help for the Betrayed: https://healingbrokentrust.com/betrayed-spouse-masterclass Help for the Unfaithful: https://healingbrokentrust.com/healers-workshop Podcast Resources: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast You can call our office at 918-281-6060 Monday-Friday 9AM-6PM CST. Contact us on the web at healingbrokentrust.com. If you live out of the US talk to our staff about

Ep 78 - 70 Warning Signs of Infidelity You Can't Ignore 11.03.2025 26p

Trigger warning: this episode can be difficult to hear especially for those who are still raw after discovery. If that is you consider reading the transcript on our blog here: EPISODE TRANSCRIPT >>> Get the podcast downloads here: PODCAST DOWNLOADS >>> Join us for the next couple's workshop here: SIGN UP FOR THE COUPLE'S PROGRAM >>>

Ep 76 A New Way To Look At Negative Cycles 03.10.2024 43p

In episode 76 Brad and Morgan discuss a new way to look at negative cycles. If you haven't yet listened to episode 3 called "Why Do We Fight and Avoid Difficult Topics" that episode will help you understand negative cycles. You can check that out HERE: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast-blog/ep-3-why-do-we-fight-or-avoid-talking-about-the-affair We are available to help you heal broken trust. We have several ways to get help. Couples Workshops: https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop Trauma Intensives: https://marriagesolutions.as.me/trauma-intensives Stop My Divorce: https://healingbrokentrust.com/stop-my-divorce Help for the Unfaithful: https://healingbrokentrust.com/healers-workshop 1-on-1 coaching/therapy: https://healingbrokentrust.com/coaching Podcast Resources: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast You can call our office at 918-281-6060 Monday-Friday 9AM-6PM CST. Contact us on the web at healingbrokentrust.com. If you live out of the US talk to our staff about discussing options via zoom.

Ep 75 The Real Reason Relationships Fail 01.07.2024 47p

Every couple I've encountered as a relationship therapist has been dealing with this specific issue, but they didn't have a concept for it to describe or explain it. This episode will help you do that. Before we jump into our episode I wanted to take a moment to speak to those of you who are looking for resources. Some of you are in therapy or coaching and you're finding: Your therapist is nice but the issue of betrayal or trauma isn't being addressed. You run out of time in your sessions A lot happens in between sessions which can feel like progress is stunted. It takes way too long to get somewhere in therapy or coaching. In fact, if the average couple needs around 15-30 sessions that works out to about 4-8 months if nothing big happens in between sessions. And then there are the individual needs that will often require more time. That's why we host monthly workshops. You can join us in person here in Tulsa, OK, or online via zoom from anywhere in the world, and you'll even have access to a pre-recorded version as well as the master classes and small group meetings. This workshop provides you with actionable steps you can take immediately to see huge changes in your relationship AND in how you feel. It's the jump start you need. We take what would be months of therapy or coaching, pull out the most useful and important parts, and deliver it to you in 2.5 days. It is truly transformative. But don't take my word for it, at the end of this episode you will have the opportunity to hear from a couple who came to one of the workshops. You can also see some here>>> These workshops allow you to get what you need without the frustration of lost time and resources. They are private and no one has to share anything with the group to see results if you don't want to. Although we find that many couples love that they can make new and supportive friends if they want to. Check it out at healingbrokentrust.com Also download "21 Things the Unfaithful Want to Tell You But Don't Know How to Say" Here>>>

Ep 74 Finding Hope After Infidelity 20.05.2024 24p

Erik Rasmussen shares with Brad Robinson how he found hope after discovering his wife's infidelity. Erik shares what those early days were like and what he did that created the transformation he was looking for. Get the 21 Things the Unfaithful Want to Tell You But Don't Know How to Say free download here: https://healingbrokentrust.com/21-things-the-unfaithful-want-to-tell-you Attend a 3 day Healing Broken Trust couple's workshop register here: https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop Listen to the free podcast here: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast Already participated in our workshop? Consider 1-on-1 help here: https://healingbrokentrust.com/coaching

Ep 73 How they felt about you during their affair 11.04.2024 25p

This episode sheds light on what your spouse was thinking about you and your relationship during their affair. Did they love you? Did they love the affair partner? Could they have loved you both? Enroll in our 3 day workshop here: https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop

Ep 72 - 20 Things the Unfaithful Want the Betrayed To Know...But Don't Know How To Say 13.10.2022 39p

Brad and Morgan outline 20 things the unfaithful partner want the betrayed partner to know but don't know how to say it. We can help you find your voice and that is the goal of this episode. To help you find the words you've been looking for. Listen to the very end because you'll have a chance to hear from other couples. Look for more resources at healingbrokentrust.com Start your transformation by joining our workshop and program at healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop

Ep 71 - 23 Things the Betrayed Partner Wants The Unfaithful Partner to Know After Affair(s) In Your Relationship And Marriage 28.09.2022 33p

This episode is like a mini-letter to the unfaithful spouse. Our goal is to help you articulate many of the things you might be feeling but can't seem to put your finger on. Also, you may have heard about our workshops and master class programs… You may be listening to this wondering why would we join the Healing Broken Trust workshop and program? "We're already in counseling, or something else, and I mean Brad and Morgan cover everything they have to say in the podcast anyways, right?" Well not quite. First of all, if you're in counseling right now you still need the workshop. Individual counseling doesn't solve marriage issues. And I bet your marriage counselor is working on the marriage and missing all the glaring affair recovery issues you haven't yet dealt with. In addition to that…we deal with so much more in the program that we've never covered on the podcast. Such as: When sharing emotions is not enough, When being the healer doesn't solve the trust issues, Or when your spouse isn't helping you heal at all, When cutting off the affair partner isn't simple or straightforward in your situation, When you've decided to re-engage and work on the relationship but the underlying causes for the affair aren't dealt with, When you think you know why the affair happened and then you are given new information, When you have blind spots and can't see what you're missing, When you're not used to sadness so you do everything not to experience it, but in the process, you loose all access to intimacy. You're super positive, sure of the solution, thinking everything is explainable, but do you really understand why your spouse decided to look outside the relationship for some need to be met? What need were they trying to meet? These are just some of what we help couples deal with in our workshop and program. So go to healingbrokentrust.com now and join us for the next workshop before it fills up.

Ep 70 - Dan and Lynns Story 14.02.2022 32p

Dan and Lynn are participants in the Healing Broken Trust program and they talk about their experience healing after infidelity. A memorable moment in the conversation was when Lynn talked about how people comment on how others are noticing the changes in them. Speak with us about your situation Schedule a Discovery Call Couples Program: https://healingbrokentrust.com/contact-us Stop My Divorce: https://healingbrokentrust.com/stop-my-divorce Podcast Resources and the Core24 Episodes everyone needs to lay the foundation for healing completely: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast About Us: Brad Robinson, LMFT Brad lost his own family to divorce as a child. That early heartbreak didn't just shape him, it propelled him into a lifetime of helping others heal theirs. A licensed marriage and family therapist based in Tulsa, OK, Brad is an internationally recognized expert in affair recovery and a TEDx speaker. He has personally guided over 6,000 couples in one-on-one work and developed a multi-layered healing approach that integrates trauma, attachment, and relational repair. Morgan Robinson, MA Morgan brings both personal insight and professional training to the work. She knows what it's like to enter marriage carrying deep wounds — and what it takes to build confidence, connection, and resilience. A trauma-informed coach grounded in attachment theory, Morgan leads with empathy, clarity, and a commitment to transforming pain into growth.