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  If You Want a Village, Be a Villager: Betting on Yourself, Building Confidence, Self-Acceptance vs. Self-Improvement, Building Community , Refusing to Take No for an Answer, & More | Taylor King 18.08.2026 53p

  #160: On this episode of HOW I SEE IT, Han sits down with content creator, podcast host, and YouTuber Taylor King for a conversation about what it actually looks like to build confidence, bet on yourself, and create a life that feels aligned, through your career, your relationships, your community, and the way you show up for yourself.Taylor and Han talk about why confidence is built through keeping promises to yourself, and why sometimes hearing “no” just means finding another way forward. They get into embracing discomfort, taking risks without making failure feel so high-stakes, and learning to trust that you’ll figure things out along the way.The girls also unpack the nuance between self-acceptance and self-improvement—especially when it comes to body image, beauty, and taking agency over the things that are actually within your control. Taylor shares her experience struggling to post herself online.They also talk about the relationships that have shaped Taylor’s career, why so many opportunities come from simply being someone people trust and feel seen by. Taylor, also, opens up about building a life she loved before finding her relationship.The girls get into:Building confidence by keeping promises to yourselfBetting on yourself even when the outcome isn’t guaranteedWhy hearing “no” doesn’t have to mean you’re on the wrong pathTaking action instead of spiraling when something doesn’t work outWhy discomfort is necessary for growthSelf-acceptance vs. self-improvementBody image, beauty, and taking agency over how you want to look and feelSeparating your appearance from your self-worthBuilding a career through genuine relationships and connectionBuilding the community you want by showing up for other peopleCreating a full life before finding a relationshipWanting a partner without centering your entire life around oneInfluencer icks, relationship hard launches, and what should stay offline& MOREThis episode is for anyone who needs a confidence boost, wants to feel inspired to go after their goals, is looking to build stronger community and relationships, is learning how to bet on themselves, or just feels uninspired to bet on themselves. CONNECT BELOW:Follow TK ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Onze hereFollow TK on Youtube hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com
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  Success Is in Staying Present: How to Build Discipline, What to Do When Motivation Falters, Taking Action vs. Procrastination, Building Self-Trust, Staying Consistent & Creating Success 11.08.2026 26p

  #159: On today’s episode, Han jumps on for a SOLO episode all about discipline: how to build success, why discipline is a skill you can actually develop, and how staying present can completely change the way you view discipline as you approach personal growth, success, and your mental health.Han gets into one of the questions she gets asked most: how do you stay so motivated? The truth is, she doesn’t. Motivation comes and goes. But when motivation falters, discipline is something you can learn to rely on.She breaks down why she doesn’t believe disciplined people are simply born that way, why discipline is a skill that can be strengthened and flexed over time, and why so much of building discipline comes down to staying present and learning to keep promises to yourself.Han gets into:Why discipline matters more than motivationHow discipline can actually be developed and strengthened over timeWhy consistency often matters more than talent, intelligence, or qualificationBuilding confidence and self-trust by keeping small promises to yourselfWhy the promises you make to yourself don’t need to be massive to create meaningful changeCreating consistency through small, low-stakes daily actionsWhy staying present is one of the most important parts of becoming disciplinedHow constantly thinking about where you “should” be can make it harder to take actionThe pressure to be more successful, make more money, feel more healed, or be further along than you areWhy obsessing over the end goal can actually work against your personal growthHow to know where you’re going without thinking about the destination every single dayFocusing on what actually moves the needle forward todayHow small, consistent actions compound over timeAdjusting your expectations of what the journey toward success is supposed to look and feel likeLearning to trust yourself and the process even when you can’t see immediate resultsSmall ways that Han stays disciplined in her mental health and wellnesss routines & MORE!This episode is for anyone who is struggling to stay consistent, who's procrastinating on taking action, or feeling overwhelmed by how far they still have to go. If you’re working toward becoming more successful, mentally well, confident, disciplined, or simply becoming someone you can rely on, this episode is a reminder to know where you’re going, come back to today, and trust that what you do consistently will compound over time.CONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.comTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Discipline, Success & Staying Present00:30 — Welcome Back / Feeling Better01:45 — Why I’m Talking About Discipline02:13 — Motivation vs. Discipline03:15 — Discipline Is a Skill You Can Develop03:35 — Why Consistent Action Creates Success04:15 — Building Confidence by Keeping Small Promises04:43 — Why Success Requires Staying Present05:53 — Stop Living in the “Helicopter View”06:11 — Why Obsessing Over the End Goal Makes Discipline Harder07:20 — Daily Action & the Compound Effect08:07 — Changing Your Expectations of the Journey09:26 — Starting Before You Have Everything Figured Out09:46 — Procrastination, Overthinking & Getting Stuck in the Big Picture11:46 — How I Build Discipline in Business12:44 — Structure, Scheduling & Staying Organized13:55 — The Daily To-Do List & Keeping Promises to Yourself17:04 — Discipline in Mental Health & Therapy18:03 — Discipline With Fitness & Physical Health19:37 — Supplements, Skincare & Everyday Commitments21:40 — The Compound Effect Beyond Money22:50 — Anyone Can Build Discipline24:26 — The Real Key: Showing Up for Yourself24:40 — Why Success Is in the Journey, Not the End Goal25:00 — Applying Discipline to Healing, Happiness & Being Present25:31 — Final Thoughts26:01 — Outro
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  You Have to Be Delusional: How to Reprogram Your Mind, Navigating Sobriety, Break Free from People-Pleasing, Take Accountability, & Decenter Men | MJ Gray 04.08.2026 56p

  #158: On today’s episode, Han sits down with MJ Gray, content creator and host of the Maneater podcast, as she shares her personal healing journey: discovering the power of her mind and learning how to reprogram the beliefs that had shaped her life.After years of trying to get sober, and living through what she describes as a continuous dark night of the soul, MJ realized sobriety would require more than willpower. MJ and Han unpack manifestation, addiction, childhood trauma, people pleasing, self-love, accountability, decentering men, and why accepting the discomfort of life may be the key to finally finding peace.The girls get into:the power of your mind and reprogramming deeply rooted beliefs and childhood conditioningWhy changing your life can initially feel irrational or delusionalHow addiction and unhealthy coping mechanisms can change formsMJ’s spiritual awakening and relationship with manifestationUsing meditation and mindset to create a different realityHow the expectation to always be happy makes us unhappyTaking accountability for your healing without invalidating your traumaMoving beyond victimhood while maintaining compassion for yourselfLetting go of guilt, jealousy, anger, and self-hatredHealing patterns created by narcissistic or emotionally unhealthy parentsBreaking free from people pleasing and the need to be likedLearning to genuinely love yourself and embrace who you areHow unresolved trauma can recreate familiar relationshipsDecentering men and creating fulfillment outside of relationships& MORE!This episode is for anyone navigating sobriety, childhood trauma, people pleasing, self-doubt, or a difficult mental health journey. It is for the woman learning how to reprogram negative beliefs.TIMESTAMPS:00:00:00 — Introduction00:05:32 — Getting existential and questioning everything00:05:44 — How sobriety led MJ to social media00:06:18 — The desire to feel seen and understood00:06:48 — MJ’s sobriety journey00:07:05 — Experiencing a continuous dark night of the soul00:09:58 — Why addiction can change forms00:10:26 — Coping with the discomfort of being human00:11:17 — Why expecting constant happiness makes us unhappy00:12:26 — Childhood trauma, victimhood, and personal accountability00:14:33 — Falling down, trying again, and releasing guilt00:15:07 — Why guilt can create more self-hatred00:15:41 — MJ’s spiritual awakening after getting sober00:16:16 — Discovering meditation and spirituality00:16:55 — Relapse and discovering the power of the mind00:17:28 — Applying manifestation and mindset to sobriety00:17:44 — The day MJ quit drinking and smoking00:18:12 — Convincing herself she no longer liked alcohol00:19:03 — Reprogramming beliefs created by a narcissistic parent00:20:00 — Why transforming your life can feel delusional00:20:57 — Resetting your childhood programming00:23:25 — Does MJ care what other people think?00:24:10 — Why people pleasing never worked00:24:53 — Self-love, insecurity, and genuinely liking yourself00:25:19 — Learning to water the lawn you already have00:25:44 — Releasing the things you cannot control00:26:07 — Why peace has to begin within you00:27:13 — Life gets easier to carry00:28:56 — Where your attention goes, your energy flows00:29:17 — Moving beyond rumination and self-pity00:29:35 — Why traumatic patterns can feel like home00:30:04 — Taking accountability for repeated patterns00:34:08 — Why women need to start decentering men00:34:47 — Creating fulfillment outside of relationships00:35:56 — Loving men without centering them00:36:12 — The risks women face within relationships00:36:34 — Expecting romantic partners to add value to your lifeCONNECT BELOWFollow MJ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow MANEATER hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com
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  Why Getting Everything You Want Can Still Leave You Empty: Validation Addiction, Building Self-Worth, Stepping into Sobriety, Quieting Negative Self Talk, & Choosing Peace | Isaac Hindin-Miller 28.07.2026 58p

  #157: On today’s episode, Han sits down with Isaac Hindin-Miller, a fashion journalist turned DJ, interviewer, content creator, and founder of I LIKE YOU!, for an honest conversation about external validation, low self-worth, negative self-talk, and the lifelong work of learning how to feel whole within yourself.Isaac and Han unpack the realization that no amount of attention, achievement, access, popularity, or external approval can fill an internal void. They discuss what it actually takes to rebuild your self-esteem, interrupt destructive thought patterns, stop outsourcing your worth, and choose peace and acceptance instead of constantly chasing happiness. They get into:Why external approval can never create lasting self-worthWhy happiness cannot be contingent on external validationChoosing acceptance and peace instead of chasing constant happinessNavigating imposter syndrome and self doubtHow to interrupt cruel and destructive negative self-talkThe problem with finding validation elsewhereDepression, sobriety, and breaking cycles of self-destructive behaviorThe connection between low self-esteem and unhealthy coping mechanisms Social media, comparison, and attaching your value to your workIntellectualizing trauma instead of allowing yourself to feel itWhy understanding your emotions is different from actually feeling themHow choosing a different behavior can lead to a healthier mindsetFinding identity, hobbies, and joy outside of your careerHow relationships act as mirrors for the parts of ourselves that still need healing& MORE!This episode is for anyone who has ever looked outside of themselves for proof that they are worthy, lovable, important, or enough. This is a conversation for those doing the daily work to quiet the voices that tear you down, and learning to build a sense of self-worth that does not depend on attention, accomplishments, or validation. TIMESTAMPS:00:57 Isaac joins the podcast04:25 Is the life he dreamed about everything he thought it would be?05:21 Why reaching the top does not fill the internal void05:40 The daily work required to feel whole06:02 Accepting the human condition06:13 Finding peace within the mundanity of life06:26 Chasing happiness versus choosing acceptance06:44 Redefining happiness as peace07:06 Why happiness cannot be contingent on something happening07:42 Isaac’s drive to reach the top08:37 Experiencing bullying and rejection growing up09:56 Building your self-worth on a foundation of sand16:02 Growing the I LIKE YOU! parties from 800 to 3,000 people in New York City16:33 Imposter syndrome, self-doubt, and feeling like a fraud16:57 Feeling isolated while surrounded by crowds17:05 The conversation with Isaac’s dad that changed his perspective17:46 Becoming a victim to your own story18:07 The danger of constantly thinking about yourself18:20 Learning to interrupt negative self-talk19:35 Accepting that the negative voices may never fully disappear19:59 Moving toward something positive or negative20:14 Depression and self-destructive coping mechanisms21:20 Rebuilding self-esteem from within21:32 The connection between mental health and low self-worth22:47 Social media, validation, and mental health23:55 Attaching your personal value to your business24:42 Sobriety and learning how to feel27:12 Intellectualizing emotions and suppressing vulnerability27:52 Understanding yourself versus feeling your emotions28:28 Changing your behavior to change your mindset33:51 The importance in finding a hobby34:53 Having the courage to redefine who you are48:18 How relationships act as mirrorsCONNECT BELOW:Follow Isaac hereFollow I Like You hereRead Isaac's Substack hereCONNECT with HAN:Follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠Watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠Shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com
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  How to Build Self-Trust, Choosing Courage Over Comfort, Facing the Unknown, Leaving the Life You’ve Outgrown, & Building a Full Life Without Waiting for the Right Partner | Jess Windell 21.07.2026 52p

  #156: This week, Han sits down with Jess Windell, founder of Maven PR and a public relations expert to investigate what it takes to build a foundation of self-trust through acts of courage.Jess and Han have an honest conversation about the psychology behind confidence, courage, risk, productivity, ambition, and creating a life that feels meaningful beyond your career. Jess shares how calling off her wedding four months before it was supposed to happen became the catalyst for nearly every major decision that followed, and taught her that doing the hardest thing can open the door to an entirely different life. The girls get into:Why confidence is the outcome of courageHow taking risks builds self-trustCalling off a wedding when nothing was “wrong,” but it still wasn’t rightWhy comfort can keep you trapped in the wrong lifeLetting go of the timeline and future you plannedNavigating rejection, uncertainty, and unexpected changesManifestation beyond material goalsThe pressure to always be productiveWhy traditional ideas of rest do not work for everyoneSeparating your worth from your career, relationship, or motherhoodCreating a full life before finding a partner or having childrenWhy placing your entire identity into one area of your life can be dangerousAllowing different parts of your life to thrive during different seasonsThe psychology, vulnerability, and human connection behind PRWhy audiences are craving more truth and authenticityHow Jess went from never wanting to own a business to founding Maven ConsultingWhy many businesses are not ready for traditional full-service PRDemocratizing PR and making the industry more accessible& MORE!This episode is for anyone learning how to trust themselves, make a difficult decision, leave something that is comfortable but no longer aligned, or release the pressure to have their entire life figured out. Jess and Han remind us that confidence does not always come before the leap—sometimes, confidence is built by proving to yourself that you are capable of taking it.TIMESTAMPS:00:53 — Welcome Jess to the podcast01:07 — The psychology and human connection behind PR02:40 — Was Jess always confident?03:32 — Confidence is the outcome of courage05:30 — Why your life can become better when you take risks06:45 — How Jess learned to trust herself07:13 — Calling off her wedding four months before it happened08:43 — Leaving when nothing is wrong, but it is not right09:15 — How uncertainty keeps us trapped09:29 — Getting uncomfortable to find true comfort11:25 — Discovering a new life on the other side of fear12:06 — Manifesting the feelings you want to experience13:30 — Becoming too attached to the life you planned13:57 — Letting go of control and welcoming change15:35 — Finding balance within the gray areas16:05 — Productivity, anxiety, and the pressure to always be doing more19:12 — Why rest looks different for everyone22:03 — Would Jess make the same decision nine years later?23:05 — The conversation around whether women can “have it all”24:11 — Creating a full life outside of a partner and children24:43 — Why your entire identity cannot live in one area25:22 — Nothing in life will be a 10 out of 10 all the time27:08 — Understanding the different seasons of life29:02 — Why Jess never planned to start a business29:40 — Her desire to transform the PR industry30:00 — Building an in-house PR team at Perfect Bar31:30 — Earning a seat at the table34:10 — The meaning behind the name Maven36:00 — Why audiences are craving truth and vulnerability38:32 — Why Jess turns away potential clients39:20 — Democratizing and demystifying PRCONNECT BELOW:follow Jess ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠check out Jess's PR program Catalyst hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com
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  Surrendering Is a Choice: Facing Stage 3 Breast Cancer at 19, Reframing Trauma, Choosing a Positive Mindset, Using Language to Reclaim Agency, & Reclaiming Our Power | Miranda McKeon 14.07.2026 53p

  #155: On today’s episode, Han sits down with actress, founder, and breast cancer survivor Miranda McKeon for a conversation around mental health, grief, identity, and what it means to surrender. At 19 years old, Miranda had just come off the Netflix series Anne with an E when she discovered a small lump in her breast. She quickly was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer.Miranda and Han explore how trauma changes your relationship with mental health, and how Miranda reclaimed a sense of agency. The girls get into:Being diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer and how she navigated eight rounds of chemotherapy, a double mastectomy, and 25 rounds of radiationThe mental, physical, and spiritual toll of cancer treatmentThe grief that comes when the future you imagined suddenly disappearsHaving to surrender when you are someone who craves controlLearning to speak to yourself like someone who will always have your backnavigating depression as someone who never struggled with mental health issuesthe problem with outsourcing comfort and validationhow women tether themselves to our physical appearance The complicated relationship women have with beauty, value, and appearanceMoving away from a “why me?” mentality and the art of reframingHow changing your language can help you reclaim agencyWhy surrendering can still be an intentional choiceHow facing mortality changed the way Miranda values her time and her lifeLearning not to waste energy obsessing over things you cannot controlTherapy, journaling, and returning to the tools that support your mental healthThe breast cancer signs and symptoms young women need to knowThe rise of breast cancer diagnoses among young women& MORE!This episode is for anyone navigating grief, depression, trauma, illness, or a season of life that has forced them to release control. If you're looking to feel inspired to move through your trauma, this episode is for you!TIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Introduction05:21 – Coming off Anne with an E and believing her career was just beginning05:40 – Being diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer at 1906:00 – Finding a lump during a breast self-exam07:55 – The immediate mental-health impact of a cancer diagnosis08:25 – Surrendering control when your future feels uncertain11:07 – Why your relationship with mental health changes over time11:35 – Egg freezing, chemotherapy, a double mastectomy, and radiation11:50 – The mental, physical, and spiritual toll of cancer treatment12:30 – Depression and losing hope for the future15:00 – Grieving the life and future you thought you were going to have16:20 – Why mental-health struggles can feel so isolating18:04 – Outsourcing comfort and validation when you feel alone19:40 – The wounds cancer brought to the surface20:35 – Why women are taught to use beauty as an asset21:58 – Why losing her hair did not feel empowering22:30 – Moving away from a “why me?” mentality25:00 – Reframing the way you speak about difficult experiences25:15 – Changing “I have to” into “I get to”25:39 – Using language to reclaim agency and control27:13 – How surrendering can still be a choice31:35 – Why Miranda no longer perseverates on everything that goes wrong32:00 – How facing mortality changed the way she values her life32:20 – What Lexapro and antidepressants actually changed34:29 – Learning how to live with the unknown35:07 – Struggling to release control35:33 – Why obsessing over what you cannot change only wastes your energy36:00 – Returning to the mental-health tools that support you36:43 – Therapy as a tool for healing40:22 – Creating resources for women navigating breast cancer42:30 – The rise of breast cancer among young womenCONNECT BELOW:follow Miranda ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Fill Your Tank hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠
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  How to Attract a Healthy Relationship: Healing Attachment Wounds, How to Spot Love Bombing, Chemistry vs. Compatibility, Red Flags, & Non-Negotiable Dating Conversations | Niko Emanuilidis 07.07.2026 1ó 5p

  #154: On today's episode, Han sits down with the creator and dating coach behind The Daddy Academy, Niko Emanuilidis, for the first-ever dating conversation with a man on the podcast. The girls wanted to know about modern dating, relationships, red flags, what men actually think, and what women should be looking for in a healthy partner... and Niko unapologetically gets into it.Han and Niko explore the male perspective on dating so women can better understand the other side, while also breaking down what it actually looks like to date a healthy, emotionally mature man. This episode covers why so many of us keep repeating the same relationship patterns, why healing doesn't always stop you from attracting unhealthy partners, and why the real work is learning to recognize and reject what no longer aligns with you.Niko and Han get into:How childhood wounds shape who you're attracted toWhy healing doesn't stop you from attracting unhealthy people—you simply have to stop choosing themWhy a healthy man can embody both masculine and feminine energyWhat emotional regulation actually looks like in a relationship, especially when looking for a boyfriend/long term partnerWhy women are evolving emotionally faster than menWhy relationships often become the next stage of healingThe five conversations every couple should have within the first few datesHow to know if someone is dating intentionallyThe difference between chemistry and compatibilityWhat men wish women better understood about datingWhat women should actually look for in a healthy partnerThe biggest red flags women consistently missHow to recognize love bombing before it's too lateWhy healthy love feels calm instead of chaoticThe importance of pacing and boundaries in early datingFinding your core wound and breaking unhealthy dating patternsWhat it actually takes to attract the relationship you deserveThe importance of being seen& MORE!This episode is for anyone who feels stuck in unhealthy dating patterns, struggles with attachment wounds, or wants to build a secure, emotionally healthy relationship. If you're navigating dating anxiety, love bombing, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, emotional unavailability, or the fear of being fully seen, this conversation will completely change the way you think about love.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Introduction01:02 – Meet Niko from The Daddy Academy02:53 – What healthy masculine energy actually looks like04:45 – Why emotionally available men are the most attractive07:06 – Why women are evolving emotionally faster than men08:57 – Do you have to heal before entering a healthy relationship?10:10 – Why you date your unfinished business10:26 – Why healing doesn't stop emotionally unavailable people from showing up17:02 – What women are really looking for in men today20:27 – The five conversations every couple should have early on23:24 – How to know if someone is dating intentionally25:33 – Why talking about past relationships matters29:09 – Learning to be fully seen in relationships32:45 – Identifying your core wound and attachment patterns33:16 – What men wish women understood about dating39:02 – The biggest dating red flags women miss39:23 – How love bombing starts with high chemistry and obsession40:00 – Why you can't rush the dating process40:58 – The difference between calm love and anxious chemistry41:22 – What healthy obsession actually looks like42:33 – Why pacing and boundaries matter in early dating46:26 – Why you should never date someone's potential48:10 – Why your time is your greatest asset while dating53:05 – How to attract the healthy relationship you deserve54:50 – Why being fully seen helps you find your person1:00:24 – Stop chasing your future spouse and start loving your own lifeCONNECT BELOW:Follow Niko hereFollow the Daddy Academy hereJoin his Dating program herefollow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠
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  What Makes Life Worth Living: Pursuing Healing, Accepting Life's Dualities, Exploring Happiness After Trauma, Navigating Depression & Anxiety, Overcoming Fear, Letting Go of Control, & More 30.06.2026 34p

  #153: On today's solo episode, Han opens up about one of the hardest seasons of her life and the question she's been asking:What actually makes life worth living?Despite experiencing the most success she's ever had in her career, Han shares why she's simultaneously been navigating one of the darkest chapters of her personal life. She reflects on returning to therapy, her experience with MDMA-assisted therapy, healing from complex trauma, and why she believes so much of our suffering comes from resisting life's inevitable dualities rather than learning to hold them.This episode is an honest conversation about mental health, depression, healing, fear, and learning to find freedom even when life feels uncertain. Han explores why happiness can actually feel more frightening than pain after trauma, why control keeps us stuck, and why true healing begins the moment we stop trying to escape discomfort and start embracing life's gray areas.Han gets into:what actually makes life worth livingwhy success doesn't always equal happinessreturning to therapy and pursuing deeper healingMDMA-assisted therapy and reconnecting to your bodyintellectualizing your emotions vs. actually feeling themaccepting life's dualities instead of resisting themlearning to live in the grayperfectionism, overachievement, and the need for controlwhy happiness can feel scarier than traumaexploring happiness after traumafinding safety outside of your identity as someone who has sufferedletting go of the stories you've had to carry to survivewhy avoiding discomfort creates more sufferingthe truth behind fearwhy trying to escape fear becomes its own prisonnavigating depression through acceptance rather than avoidanceletting go of control and choosing freedom over certaintywhat it really means to build a life worth livingHappiness as a brave choice& MORE!This episode is for anyone who is having a hard time accepting the dualities of life. If you've been navigating depression, complex trauma, burnout, or a season where life feels both beautiful and incredibly difficult, this conversation is for you. Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is allow yourself to explore what happiness can truly feel like. TIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Introduction00:43 – Why I've been putting off this solo episode01:25 – Going back to therapy to heal deeper layers of trauma02:11 – The paradox of success: Why achievement doesn't always bring happiness03:40 – Learning to accept life's dualities and live in the gray04:00 – Growing up around narcissism and how it shaped the way I cope05:13 – What actually makes life worth living?06:30 – My experience with MDMA-assisted therapy07:08 – Intellectualizing emotions vs. feeling them in your body08:07 – The perfectionism I didn't realize I had09:19 – Can we sit with life's uncertainty instead of trying to escape it?10:28 – Why discomfort makes us retreat11:24 – Letting go of control instead of avoiding your feelings11:43 – How accepting ambiguity creates freedom13:02 – Why happiness can feel scarier than trauma14:46 – Letting go of an identity rooted in suffering15:29 – Why acceptance can transform your relationships and career17:38 – Navigating a dark night of the soul19:48 – The vulnerability of exploring happiness20:10 – When discomfort becomes familiar24:27 – Why external validation never creates lasting safety25:19 – Fear, discomfort, and why we struggle to sit with uncertainty27:22 – How trying to escape fear becomes its own prisonCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com
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  Pain Is Required for Joy: Processing Your Feelings, Embracing Life's Dualities, Letting Go of Control, Healing Through Psychology & Spirituality, Understanding Shame & More | Aliza Shapiro 23.06.2026 1ó 2p

  #152: On today's episode, psychotherapist and founder of Therapy in the City,  joins the podcast for a conversation about what it actually means to heal.So many of us spend our lives chasing happiness while trying to avoid pain, but what if the very thing we're resisting is what allows us to experience the deepest joy?Aliza explains why healing isn't about becoming happy all the time, but about learning to embrace the full human experience. The girls unpack why discomfort isn't something to escape, why uncertainty is one of life's greatest teachers, and how letting go of control can completely transform the way we experience life. The girls get into:why pain is required for joywhy avoiding your emotions creates more sufferingprocessing your feelings instead of escaping themaccepting the full human experienceembracing life's dualitieswhy happiness isn't the goal of healingletting go of control and embracing uncertaintywhy some people naturally experience emotions more intenselythe Biosocial Theory and why mental health isn't always rooted in traumawhy you are not your thoughts, emotions, or past experiencesthe difference between your first thought and your second thought (more on rewiring the brain)why high achievers often struggle to feel their emotionsslowing down, stillness, and the power of the pauseunderstanding shame and where it stems fromwhat Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is and how it helps us healpsychology and spirituality... why healing requires bothredefining what true joy actually looks likedating, attachment styles, and choosing relationships that align with your values& MORE!This episode is for anyone who struggles to relinquish control, finds themselves in patterns of emotional avoidance, or is constantly chasing happiness while resisting pain. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by uncertainty, uncomfortable emotions, or the inevitable ups and downs of life, this conversation will completely reframe what healing actually looks like. Because true joy isn't found in avoiding pain... it's found in learning how to hold both.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Introduction01:09 – What actually brings people to therapy?04:49 – Feeling emotions deeply and learning how to process them05:53 – The Biosocial Theory: Why some people feel emotions more intensely07:03 – Healing isn't only for people with trauma08:04 – You are not your thoughts, emotions, or past experiences09:38 – Stop trying to control what you can't control10:39 – Why healing is about beginning again13:29 – Learning to embrace uncertainty16:48 – Why happiness isn't the destination17:19 – Why pain is required for joy18:05 – Emotional avoidance: Why avoiding your feelings creates more suffering20:26 – You can be self-aware and still be emotionally unavailable21:40 – Logic vs. emotion: Learning to actually feel23:01 – The science behind emotions and slowing them down24:11 – The healing power of the pause, silence, and stillness27:01 – Shame, secrecy, and why they always go together27:48 – What is Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)?34:40 – Becoming comfortable with life's ambiguity36:15 – Psychology, spirituality, and trusting something bigger than yourself37:25 – The three things anxiety usually comes back to38:42 – Why external achievement can never replace internal healing40:27 – What is joy, really?48:21 – Dating, attachment, and choosing relationships that align with your valuesCONNECT BELOW:Follow Aliza hereVisit Therapy in the City hereCONNECT WITH HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com
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  Can Women Have It All? Imposter Syndrome, Finding Purpose in Your Career, Taking Action Through Self-Trust, Rewriting the Narrative Around Motherhood & More | Michelle Battersby 16.06.2026 1ó 13p

  #151: On today’s episode, President of Peanut and former Bumble executive Michelle Battersby joins the podcast for an honest conversation around ambition, imposter syndrome, motherhood, and the pressure women feel to choose between building a successful career and building a family.Michelle opens up about helping scale Bumble, launching and later selling her company Sunroom, navigating the mental health challenges that come with entrepreneurship, and learning to trust herself through seasons of uncertainty. The girls unpack purpose, imposter syndrome, self-doubt, societal expectations placed on women.Michelle opens up about her own healing journey— navigating motherhood and the narratives she had to rewrite as she entered the new season.The girls get into:self-worth and tying your identity to achievementhow we can move through imposter syndromeconfidence, self-doubt, and learning to trust yourselfentrepreneurship as a mental health journeyidentifying the voice of self-trust versus self-doubthow fear keeps us trapped and prevents us from reaching our potentialbuilding Bumble and launching female-first platformsdouble standards women face in business, leadership, and successthe pressure women feel to choose between motherhood and ambitionWhy 86% of women believe motherhood will negatively impact their careersmaternal loneliness, women's mental health, and the support systems women desperately needfertility decisions, abortion, family planning, and career timingnavigating pregnancy while building a careerwhy women are still penalized for motherhood in ways men aren'tthe systems and societal structures that make balancing career and family so difficultwhy the conversation shouldn't be "can women have it all?" but rather "why is it so hard for women to have it all?"challenging outdated narratives around motherhood, ambition, and identitywork-life balance and redefining what it means to "have it all"building a life that feels aligned, meaningful, and authentic& MORE!This episode is for anyone navigating imposter syndrome and anyone lost searching for purpose in their 9-5 job. This episode is also for women who are struggling with the idea of motherhood— anxiety around fertility decisions and entering the next chapter of life.CONNECT BELOW:follow Michelle herefollow Peanut hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han herefollow HOW I SEE IT herefollow Han on Substack herewatch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube hereshop the podcast merch herework with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com00:00 – Introduction02:32 – Realizing she wasn't passionate about her career04:49 – The intuition that changed her life07:53 – Self-worth, achievement, and identity10:29 – Is it wrong to tie your worth to what you do?11:16 – Different seasons of ambition and success11:42 – Fulfillment vs external achievement12:30 – Challenging gender roles through Bumble14:42 – Why Michelle is drawn to controversial conversations16:08 – Launching Sunroom and challenging societal norms18:55 – Double standards for women in business and leadership22:20 – Imposter syndrome and self-doubt22:55 – Entrepreneurship as a mental health journey24:38 – Luck, opportunity, and taking action26:20 – Learning to trust your intuition28:43 – Different forms of bravery29:00 – Identifying the voice of intuition versus fear31:46 – What would partial success look like?37:14 – Why 86% of women believe motherhood will hurt their careers38:07 – Unlearning beliefs around ambition and motherhood39:17 – Navigating pregnancy while building a company41:00 – The systems that make balancing career and family difficult43:35 – Fertility decisions, abortion, and career timing45:10 – Is there ever a "right time" to have children?51:08 – The pressure to "bounce back" after motherhood54:10 – What society gets wrong about motherhood1:04:15 – Rock bottom, ChatGPT tarot cards, and finding clarity
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  Heart Break is Necessary: The Danger of Settling, Releasing Childhood Wounds, Self-Abandoning, Dating Standards, Finding Authentic Love, Healing & More | Jess Girod 02.06.2026 51p

  #150: On today's episode, Jess Girod, creator, season 27 contestant of The Bachelor, and season 9 contestant of Bachelor in Paradise, jumps on the podcast for a conversation about heartbreak, self-worth, childhood wounds, and the relationship patterns we unknowingly carry into adulthood. Jess opens up about growing up in a household filled with conflict, the fear of repeating her parents' relationship, and the realization that she was settling—not just in dating, but in life.Through stories of heartbreak, healing, situationships, and self-discovery, Jess shares how some of her most painful experiences became the catalyst for deeper growth. The girls unpack self-abandonment, fear of intimacy, closure, emotional availability, dating standards, and what it actually means to build a relationship rooted in authenticity rather than familiarity. This conversation is a reminder that healing isn't about finding the right person—it's about becoming someone who no longer abandons themselves.The girls get into:fear of repeating your parents' relationshipgrowing up around conflict and how childhood wounds shape adult relationshipswhy we often settle for what feels familiarself-abandonment and losing yourself in relationshipsnavigating betrayal, heartbreak, and relationship traumawhy heartbreak can become one of life's greatest teachersfear of intimacy and emotional vulnerabilitylearning that authentic love requires authenticity from yourself firstwhy closure isn't something another person can give yousituationships, rejection, and unanswered questionsrelationship patterns and breaking cycles that no longer serve youself-worth while singlethe pressure women feel to find a relationshipdating standards, emotional availability, and self-respectwhy the right relationship won't require convincing, chasing, or forcingchoosing hope after heartbreakThis episode is for anyone healing from heartbreak, working through childhood wounds, questioning a relationship, struggling with self-worth, or trying to break old relationship patterns. If you've ever found yourself settling, seeking closure, abandoning your needs, or wondering why the same lessons keep showing up in your relationships, this conversation will remind you that healing begins when you stop looking for validation outside of yourself and start trusting what you already know.CONNECT BELOW:Follow Jess on InstagramFollow Jess on Tik TokCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com
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  Why Chasing the High Never Heals You, Navigating Emotional Extremes, Building Self-Trust through Authenticity, Mental Health, Identity Wounds, & Healing Through Rock Bottom | Kenzie Burke 26.05.2026 47p

  #149: On today’s episode, founder of fashion brand Brule, Kenzie Burke, jumps on the podcast for a vulnerable conversation around mental health, emotional extremes, identity wounds, and the importance of staying true to your purpose.Kenzie opens up about struggling with her mental health from a young age, going viral and creating immense success to losing herself in entrepreneurship, and eventually being forced to confront her deepest fear: bankruptcy. The girls unpack shame, emotional instability, validation, purpose, and how sometimes hitting rock bottom becomes the very thing that allows you to rebuild your life in a more honest and authentic way.The girls get into:struggling with mental health and emotional extremesgoing viral young and making half a million dollars in 3 monthsentrepreneurship, instability, and losing yourself in successpanic, anxiety, shame, and emotional burnoutwhy bankruptcy became the most healing experience of Kenzie’s lifeidentity wounds and constantly seeking external validationthe difference between acting from authenticity versus acting from woundsthe pressure to “have it all together” in the age of social medialearning how to trust yourself instead of outsourcing your worth to other peoplechasing emotional highs vs healing the rootwhy slowing down can feel terrifyingemotional rock bottoms and rebuilding your lifebravery, risk taking, purpose, and fear of mediocrityrelationships, settling, and building a life that actually adds value& MORE!This episode is for anyone navigating emotional extremes, shame & self-worth wounds, or the uncomfortable process of rebuilding yourself after realizing the life you built no longer feels aligned with who you truly are.CONNECT BELOW:follow Kenzie ⁠here⁠follow Brule hereshop Brule hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com00:00 – Introduction02:22 – Struggling with mental health from a young age03:25 – “Tortured artist” tendencies & emotional extremes04:14 – Why purpose felt so important07:04 – Going viral & making half a million dollars in 3 months07:57 – Entrepreneurship, identity, & losing herself in success08:42 – Why success stopped feeling aligned09:30 – How entrepreneurship destroyed her self confidence12:58 – Money insecurity, instability, & emotional stress14:16 – Filing for bankruptcy & confronting her deepest fear15:04 – Why bankruptcy became the most healing experience of her life17:10 – Being forced to slow down & face yourself20:12 – Sometimes the best way to find yourself is to get lost21:00 – Authenticity vs acting from wounds21:30 – Feeling unseen as a child & seeking validation22:00 – Learning to trust herself instead of outsourcing her worth24:36 – Chasing emotional highs & trying to “feel something”24:58 – Finding peace in emotional stability instead of extremes26:30 – Why chasing the high never heals the root28:35 – Restlessness, bravery, & fear of mediocrity28:50 – Why slowing down can feel terrifying29:27 – Different forms of bravery31:00 – Knowing when you need to take the risk33:55 – Relationships, standards, & refusing to settle
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  Productivity as a Trauma Response: Why High Achievers Can’t Slow Down, Parts Work, Trauma Healing, Nervous System Regulation, Somatic Healing, & More | Masha Kay 12.05.2026 1ó 19p

  #148: On today’s episode, Masha Kay, nervous system regulation coach, jumps on the podcast to unpack the deeper psychology behind high achievement and how it’s a tool for nervous system regulation. Han shares her Substack (linked here), which opens a conversation into what it actually means to heal beyond just intellectualizing your patterns and explore how many ambitious people use work, achievement, and constant productivity as coping mechanisms to avoid feeling, and how protector parts developed in childhood can continue running our lives long after we no longer need them to survive.The girls get into:productivity as a coping mechanism & form of emotional avoidancewhy high achievers struggle to slow downnervous system regulation, trauma healing, & somatic healingwhat “parts work” actually isprotector parts & how they try to keep us safe from feelings that once weren’t safe to experiencewhy intellectualizing your healing is not the same as embodying itdissociation, overwhelm, & constantly needing to stay busyreconnecting to the body & learning how to feel below the neckwhy healing can actually feel unsafe for the nervous systeminner child work, emotional suppression, & survival strategieshow ambition and achievement can become trauma responseswhy awareness alone doesn’t always create transformationlearning how to feel instead of avoidthe difference between numbing and true healingLearning to surrender to the process of healing& MORE!This episode is for anyone who feels they may be using productivity and achievement as a form of emotional suppression or avoidance, anyone feeling frustrated in their healing journey despite being “self aware,” anyone pursuing trauma healing and looking into nervous system regulation, or anyone wanting to better understand parts work, protector parts, inner child healing, and what it actually means to feel instead of intellectualize.CONNECT BELOW:follow Masha ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Check out her program hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack herewatch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube hereshop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com00:00 – Introduction02:44 – Productivity addiction & high achievers using work to cope03:58 – Achievement as nervous system regulation04:47 – Why ambitious people struggle to be with themselves07:54 – Productivity as emotional avoidance08:41 – Work, avoidance, & disconnecting from feeling09:13 – What are “protector parts”?09:41 – Understanding parts work & internal family systems12:46 – Why healing can feel blocked16:15 – When the “high achiever” part takes over healing18:31 – How protector parts keep us safe20:14 – Awareness, observation, & compassion in healing22:35 – Dissociation & living outside the body27:35 – The inability to stay present with feeling32:40 – Intellectualizing vs actual self awareness36:44 – Anger, discomfort, & emotional control37:58 – Observation creates separation from emotion39:39 – Beginning somatic experiencing41:32 – Reconnecting to the body through orienting52:55 – Why slowing down is harder for high achievers1:00:00 – Numbing vs actual healing1:05:37 – Building ambitious lives to avoid pain
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  The Cost of the Pivot: Leaving Corporate, Betting on Yourself, Self Trust, Growing Pains, Evolving & Rebranding, Mental Health Hacks, Building Resilience, & More | Les Alfred 05.05.2026 1ó

  #147: On today’s episode, Les Alfred, podcast host of She’s So Lucky, jumps on to share her story; how she left corporate, navigated a major career pivot, and learned how to build self trust while redefining success on her own terms. We talk about identity shifts, mental health, and what it really looks like to grow through uncomfortable transitions.The girls get into:• The journey of becoming who you were before the world told you who to be • Leaving the “safe” corporate path• Going back to therapy and the difference between talking vs. actually feeling • Self blame and control and how it shows up• Letting go of the “balanced” label and allowing yourself to evolve publicly • Breaking out of boxes, authenticity, and why it’s the only way to grow • Rebranding as a natural result of evolving through life • The real cost of pivoting: identity shifts, social pressure, and financial dips • Being misunderstood, judged, and projected onto as you grow • Self-trust, risk-taking, and learning to bet on yourself • How to build confidence by doing small things differently every day • The reality of success: why it takes years, not months • Closing the gap between where you are and where you want to be • Fear of being seen vs. fear of criticism• Letting go of controlling how people perceive you• Performing vs. being your authentic self• Mirror work and learning to extend kindness to yourself • Confidence vs comparison& MOREThis episode is for anyone navigating a career pivot, leaving corporate, building self trust, struggling with mental health, going through an identity shift, or learning how to embrace change and step into their next level—even when it feels uncomfortable.CONNECT BELOW:follow Les ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow She's So Lucky Podcast hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.comleaving corporate, how to leave corporate, career pivot, career change advice, building self trust, how to trust yourself, personal growth, identity shift, rebranding yourself, life transitions, entrepreneurship, women in business, mental health, mental health hacks, healing journey, therapy, wellness, confidence, fear of being seen, overcoming self doubt, authenticity, building a business, growth mindset, success habitsTIMESTAMPS:00:54 Intro & meeting Les Alfred03:19 Becoming who you were before the world told you who to be05:50 Leaving corporate & wanting more07:51 Hitting a low point & wellness transformation10:20 Corporate vs entrepreneurship skills13:48 Returning to therapy15:04 Talking vs feeling emotions15:45 Self-blame & high-functioning habits18:32 Letting go of the “balanced” identity19:13 Breaking out of boxes & authenticity20:16 Rebranding through life transitions21:12 The cost of pivoting (identity, social, financial)22:00 Being misunderstood & judged24:09 Not responsible for others’ triggers25:33 Struggles with vulnerability & trust29:27 Self-trust & taking risks30:31 Building confidence through small changes32:40 The reality of long-term success35:30 Closing the gap to success38:49 Fear of being seen40:30 Letting go of perception control42:53 Performing vs authenticity45:05 Mirror work & self-kindness47:42 Confidence & comparison
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  No Plan B: Ignoring Limits, Delusional Self Belief, Money as Energy, and How Your Mindset Shapes Your Reality | Ksenia Zaytseva 28.04.2026 53p

  #146: On today’s episode, Han sits down with Ksenia Zaytseva, founder of Bur Bur Hair Care, to talk about her story. From moving to the U.S. without speaking English, to building from nothing, and the mindset it takes to keep going when there’s no proof it’s going to work.This is a conversation about perseverance, self belief, and committing to a path without a plan B. The girls get into:• moving to the U.S. without speaking English & starting over• why “no plan B” changes the way you show up• living “comfortably uncomfortable” vs actually taking risks• delusional self belief & trusting yourself before there’s proof• ignoring what feels logical to follow what you know is meant for you• why thinking from point A to Z keeps you stuck• navigating hardship, sacrifice & starting from nothing• being told something is impossible—and doing it anyway• money as energy & removing a scarcity mindset• how your beliefs shape the reality you experience• breaking limits & refusing to keep yourself small• the mindset behind building Bur Bur Hair Care• why scalp care is the most overlooked part of beautyKsenia shares how she pushed past what felt logical to follow a deeper knowing that she was meant for more, why success came from continuing to show up without validation, and how her relationship with money as energy shaped the way she built her life and business.This episode is for anyone who feels like they’re starting from nothing, questioning their path, or trying to trust themselves before the results show up. It’s also for anyone who knows they’re meant for more but is still learning how to move through fear, take risks, and actually go after it.USE CODE HOWISEEIT for a discount when shopping BUR BUR hereCONNECT BELOW:follow Bur Bur hereshop Bur Bur here with code HOWISEEIT for a discountCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.comEPISODE TIMESTAMPS:00:00 Introduction & meeting Ksenia Zaytseva01:30 “No Plan B” mindset & why most people quit too early03:06 Growing up in Russia & feeling out of place04:30 Moving to the U.S. with no English & starting over07:45 Living “comfortably uncomfortable” vs taking risks11:39 Letting go of fear of judgment13:48 Committing fully to your path without a backup plan15:05 Why thinking too far ahead keeps you stuck16:40 Expanding what you believe is possible17:20 Sacrifice, survival & chasing something bigger19:40 Believing in yourself when no one else does23:30 Emotions aren’t stop signs—they’re signals25:35 Trauma, pivots & rebuilding your identity29:18 Rejecting rules & creating your own path31:00 Being told your business will fail—and doing it anyway32:45 Money as energy & abundance mindset34:00 The world mirrors your beliefs36:49 Breaking limits & redefining what’s possible39:00 The origin story behind Bur Bur Hair Care41:30 Why scalp care is the missing piece in beauty44:30 Hair growth myths & what actually works46:10 The craftsmanship behind Bur Bur brushesself growth for women, mental health podcast, healing journey, self worth, emotional growth, personal development podcast, therapy work, self awareness, mindset and growth, delusional self belief, no plan b mindset, overcoming adversity, starting over in life, trusting yourself, navigating trauma, identity growth, women in business mindset, entrepreneurship mindset, money mindset, money as energy, abundance mindset
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  Coachella Recap: Inner Child Healing, Social Media vs Reality, Dating Standards, Doing the Work in Therapy, and Working Through Shame | Han & Britt 21.04.2026 42p

  #145: On today’s episode, Han and her best friend Britt are recapping their experience at Coachella, something that ended up being way deeper than either of them expected. What started as a festival weekend turned into a reflection on inner child healing, self awareness, and the ways we disconnect from ourselves in the name of being “productive,” “mature,” or “put together.”They also break down the reality behind the curated content, why Coachella isn’t always as fun as it looks online, and what the environment revealed about their relationship to joy, play, and shame. Han and Britt also get into dating standards, self respect, and what it actually looks like to do the work in therapy, learning how to move through discomfort, question your patterns, and reconnect with parts of yourself you may have shut down over time. The girls get into:why Coachella is seen as the “playground for your inner child”feeling disconnected from your inner childwhy “fun” can feel unproductive or uncomfortablethe judgment we hold against our younger selveslearning how to experience joy without shamedoing the work in therapy & building self awarenessgetting uncomfortable for the sake of growththe reality of Coachella vs. what you see on social mediawhy the festival isn’t as glamorous as it looksEverything you need to know about artist passeshow curated content shapes perceptiondating standards, respect & the bare minimum standardsnavigating modern dating & emotional maturityThis episode is for anyone who feels disconnected from their inner child, struggles to let themselves experience joy without overthinking it, or is working through self awareness, shame, and healing in a deeper way. It’s also for anyone navigating dating, redefining their standards, or realizing that what you see online is rarely the full picture.00:00 Coachella Recap & First Impressions01:18 Why We Never Planned to Go to Coachella02:33 The Truth About Coachella (Expectation vs Reality)04:20 Why Coachella Isn’t What It Looks Like Online05:57 Coachella as the “Inner Child Playground”06:57 Feeling Disconnected from Your Inner Child09:28 The Swings Moment: Why Fun Felt Uncomfortable10:42 Why “Having Fun” Can Feel Unproductive11:04 Realizing the Judgment Was Toward Ourselves13:02 Inner Child Healing & Reconnecting to Your Younger Self14:10 Why It’s Hard to Let Yourself Experience Joy16:09 Self-Judgment & Shame Around Your Past Self19:05 Getting Uncomfortable for Growth20:15 It’s Not as Fun as It Looks (Honest Coachella Experience)21:04 Social Media vs Reality at Coachella23:24 Dating Standards, Respect & the Bare Minimum26:13 Women Are Evolving & Modern Dating Dynamics30:10 Coachella Stories, Chaos & Fun MomentsCONNECT BELOW:follow Britt ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.comcoachella recap, coachella 2026, coachella experience, festival recap, social media vs reality, inner child healing, self awareness, personal growth podcast, healing journey, working through shame, therapy work, dating standards, modern dating, self respect, emotional growth, mindset, reconnecting with your inner child, women’s self development
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  Women’s Health & Functional Wellness: Why Women Normalize Discomfort, UTI Prevention, Choosing Optimism, and Taking Control of Your Health | Abby Krage 14.04.2026 1ó 2p

  #144: On today’s episode, Abby Krage, Co-Founder of Tyrian Health, joins the podcast to talk about women’s health, functional wellness, and UTI prevention, breaking down why so many women normalize chronic discomfort, how antioxidants support overall health, and why going back to basics is often more powerful than relying on quick fixes.Abby also opens up about stepping into leadership through unexpected loss, building confidence from within, and what it really looks like to choose optimism, even in the middle of hard seasons.This episode blends both the physical and mental side of growth, touching on healing, discipline, and learning how to move through challenges in a way that actually moves your life forward. The girls get into:why growth happens in the hardest, most uncomfortable seasonsstepping into responsibility after lossconfidence as an inside gameDeveloping skills through disciplined learningwhy optimism is an active choice (sometimes hourly)letting go of control, rejection & learning how to surrenderreframing breakups & choosing gratitude over attachmentwhy you really can learn anything if you care enoughfunctional wellness vs. “quick fix” culturegoing back to basics instead of overcomplicating your healththe truth about women’s health & why chronic UTIs are often normalizedantioxidants, aronia berry & how they support overall healththe reality of our food system & why education is everythingbreaking big goals into small steps & building real momentumThis episode is for anyone who is going through a hard season and needs to be reminded that growth is still happening, for anyone navigating learning a new skill, identity shifts, or for anyone who wants to feel more empowered in their health, mindset, and daily choices; especially, when it comes to understanding your body and not settling for feeling “off” as your baseline.SHOP TYRIAN HERE00:00 Growth happens in the gutter01:56 Abby joins the podcast04:41 Discovering functional wellness12:50 Mentorship & stepping into the business13:45 Losing her mentor & everything changing15:15 Choosing to carry on the mission16:35 Becoming the person with the answers18:35 Confidence, belief & achieving anything20:58 Optimism as a daily practice21:20 Navigating heartbreak & reframing endings22:46 Choosing positivity vs. sitting in sadness23:45 Letting go of control & surrendering24:52 What is aronia berry?27:34 Antioxidants & overall health benefits28:40 Quick fixes vs. going back to basics29:15 Women’s health & chronic UTIs33:52 Aronia benefits (immune, brain, longevity)36:56 The truth about our food system49:06 Podcasts as mindset shifts52:15 Small steps vs. the “big picture” overwhelmwomen’s health, UTI prevention, functional wellness, antioxidants benefits, aronia berry, chronic UTIs, hormone health, preventative health, women’s wellness podcast, confidence mindset, personal growth podcast, health education, natural health solutionsCONNECT BELOW:Follow Abby hereFollow Tyrian Health hereShop Tyrian hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com
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  Lindsay Arnold | Leaving Dancing with the Stars, Letting Go of an Identity, Redefining Success, Navigating Motherhood, & Evolving Your Dream 07.04.2026 1ó 4p

  #143: On today’s episode, Lindsay Arnold, professional dancer, Dancing with the Stars pro, and founder of The Movement Club, shares what it really looks like to evolve. From achieving her goals at 19, to stepping away from Dancing with the Stars to pursue something different, Lindsay opened up about identity, growth, and her journey through entrepreneurship and motherhood. The girls get into:why “making it” is a moving target and can leave people feeling stuck evolving without losing who you are at your coreletting go of control and trusting the unknownstaying authentic in high-pressure environmentsseparating your worth from your careermaking decisions that feel right but still uncomfortablestepping away from a dream to step into a new chapteridentity shifts through motherhood and personal growthpostpartum, body image, and redefining movement building a business from a place of lived experiencecreating space for all phases of life in fitnessbalancing ambition with being present in your lifewhy evolution is necessary for long-term fulfillmenttrusting yourself without needing guaranteesallowing your dreams to change as you growThis episode is for anyone who has to leave an identity behind, who is struggling to evolve and push through discomfort, or who is going through a major life transition; whether you’re pushing through your mental health, entrepreneurial journey, or motherhood.CONNECT BELOW:Follow Lindsay here Follow The Movement Club hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.comCHAPTERS:00:00 Why growth requires evolution04:30 Achieving her dream at 1908:05 Control vs happiness11:00 Walking away from Dancing with the Stars14:00 Why the right decision can still feel hard17:45 Detaching identity from career success25:50 Creating The Movement Club27:20 Pregnancy, postpartum & body changes32:30 “Show up as you are” approach to fitness36:30 Balancing motherhood and ambition40:40 Movement, discipline & mental health44:15 Identity shifts through motherhood51:20 Failure, growth & starting again56:50 Letting your dreams evolvepersonal growth podcast, redefining success, identity shift, leaving your career, motherhood and ambition, self trust, letting go of control, dancing with the stars lindsay arnold, fitness and mental health, evolving as a woman
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  Self-Connection is a Skill: Bridging the Gap Between Self-Awareness and Feeling Safety Within Ourselves | Jacq Gould 31.03.2026 59p

  #142: On today’s episode, Jacq Gold, founder and force behind Your Inner Babe: a self-growth program focused on self connection, joins the podcast to share her personal healing journey and what it actually means to be connected to yourself. This conversation gets into the layers of self trust, the coping mechanisms we mistake for truth, and how self-connection is more than just awareness, it’s finding safety within ourselves.The girls get into:• why self connection is a skill, and why most of us were never taught how to be in a relationship with ourselves • why we assign ourselves false identities to feel safe, and how those labels disconnect us from who we actually are • how protector parts and coping mechanisms are often mistaken for personality traits or authenticity• the connection between control, eating disorders, and not expressing your truth, even to yourself • why self awareness without action is actually choosing to stay the same and why self trust is a requirement • the difference between “I am this” vs. “I feel this,” and how that shift creates space for healing and emotional regulation • auditing your inner dialogue and actively challenging negative self talk in real time• the misconception that healing means you’ll one day feel no pain, and why it’s actually about building resilience• what real vulnerability looks like beyond surface-level sharing, and how telling the truth brings you closer to yourself• how we’ve learned to present what’s “palatable” to others, and how that can pull us further away from what we actually feel • why self connection is a choice, and how everything changes when you decide to show up for yourself differentlyThis episode is for anyone who feels disconnected from themselves, stuck in patterns they can’t fully understand, or questioning what parts of them are real vs. learned. If you’re ready to step past self awareness and take action in your life, this conversation is for you. CONNECT BELOW:follow Jacq hereVisit her site/work with Jacq hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com
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  FINDING NEUTRALITY: ACCEPTING THE DARK PARTS OF OURSELVES, MANAGING RUMINATION, INTELLECTUALIZING VS PROCESSING, REJECTING “GIRL BOSS” CULTURE, REDEFINING FEMININITY, & MORE WITH PAYTON SARTAIN 24.03.2026 1ó 11p

  #141: On today’s episode, Payton Sartain Ross, creator and podcast host of Note to Self, opens up about living with depression and anxiety, separating mental health from identity, and what it actually looks like to choose hope on a daily basis. The girls get into:• why not everything in life needs to “lead to something good” and finding neutrality instead of constant highs and lows • growing up across completely different socioeconomic environments and how exposure shapes perspective, opportunity, and ambition • realizing depression and anxiety were never her identity, just part of her story • what it felt like trying medication for the first time and seeing what a “regulated” mind can feel like • rumination, overthinking, and how negative thought patterns can become a form of self-protection • why talk therapy stopped working and the realization that processing and feeling are not the same thing • the pressure to always be motivated, optimizing, and performing and why Payton's rejecting the “girl boss” mentality • redefining motivation and allowing yourself to outgrow goals, identities, and timelines • navigating femininity, leadership, and creating relationship dynamics that actually feel aligned instead of prescribed • choosing a partner who brings stability instead of feeding into emotional chaos • learning to accept and even love the darker parts of yourself in order to move forward • redefining self-love as a daily practice rooted in commitment to an imperfect person, not a feeling • using humor as a coping mechanism through suicidal ideation and long-term mental health struggles & MORE!This episode is for anyone who is struggling to accept the darker parts of themselves, and struggling to navigate their identity within their mental health journey including: anxiety, depression, rumination, and overthinking. We also get into dating, choosing the right partner, navigating relationships when your mind feels heavy, and what it looks like to keep going when you don’t feel motivated to. This episode has a little something for everyone.CONNECT BELOW:Follow Payton hereFollow Note to Self hereListen to Note to Self hereCONNECT with HAN:Follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com