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  We said "I love you" to other people | Why "don't catch feelings" is bad advice | What happens when you let love in | E29 22.09.2026 32p

  We were taught that catching feelings for others was a bad idea. We have been doing the exact opposite, and our relationship only got stronger – not to mention the incredible sex between us... Today we talk about Love and how you can experience its deepest and purest form – whether you’re monogamous or not. We discuss: why "don't catch feelings" is a rule worth questioning the difference between fucking and making love, and why you want to flow through both how jealousy gets smaller every time you face it why chasing your partner for sex doesn’t work (and what to do instead) == CHAPTERS: 02:42 Rule n. 1: Don't catch feelings - true or false? 04:02 Fucking, making love, and why you want both 07:30 You can have love without a relationship (and a relationship without love) 08:39 You're never in love with the person per se 12:33 Stop trying to convince them to have more sex 13:29 10 prompts for deeper conversations with your partner 18:43 Every test you pass takes one fear off the list 22:12 Why chasing women makes them run away - and what you should do instead 29:25 You can love someone and still go months without speaking == You might also like - related to this topic: E26 | Open Or Monogamous Relationship? Neither Lasts Without These 3 Pillars - With Eva Di Pierro - on Apple or Spotify E25 | Dreaming To Sleep With Multiple People But In A Monogamous Relationship? Here's How You Do Both - on Apple or Spotify E11 | How Do I Deal With Jealousy In My Relationship? – on Apple or Spotify FREE GUIDE: 10 Prompts For Deeper Conversations With Your Partner - Get your copy == Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you've never dared say — be it sex, taboos, or your relationship.
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  The fine line making or breaking your sex life: 4 nervous system regulation hacks for wild adventures | E28 08.09.2026 40p

  “Feeling safe” is what makes great sex possible: your nervous system needs to feel completely at ease to really let go — but when your intimate encounter gets too safe, too planned, too nice, it’s no longer sexy. No matter if you’re man or woman. So how can you feel safe enough / provide the necessary “nervous system safety” to get sexy and maybe even a little kinky, without becoming boring? That's what this episode is about. We discuss: why your body won't do what you want on until it’s sure there's no tiger behind the tree why decisiveness is sexy: how to lead in bed without taking away their choice the nice guy paradox: how to stop getting friend-zoned now how to ask for what you want without fearing rejection (hint: it's not about you) If there's something you've been wanting to try, or say, and you haven't felt safe enough to go there yet, this is what you want to listen to today. == CHAPTERS: 01:30 Why men need to feel safe too 02:43 How to ask for something that you want, and be ok with a NO 03:12 How to have deeper conversations with your partner 03:41 What to do when energies don't exactly match 06:46 Why is the sense of safety so important 07:56 Safe enough or too safe? 10:19 Why decisiveness is sexy 13:15 How to regulate the nervous system – bedroom edit 14:17 The more they feel seen, the safer they feel 16:49 Safety starts with yourself 18:14 Secret Fantasies Live Workshop 19:43 Curiosity is what gets you laid 22:48 "Would you like to...?" vs. "Can I...?" 28:49 How to "actively listen" 31:01 How to touch “with quality” 33:52 How to re-establish safety in long-term relationships – and get that New Relationship Energy back 36:49 What if I'm afraid of being rejected? == You might also like - related to this topic: E19 | Threesome Fantasy? How To Talk To Your Partner About It (And Make It Happen) - on Apple or Spotify E22 | How To Share Secret Sexual Desires & Why We're Turned On By Taboos - on Apple or Spotify E23 | What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That Now) - on Apple or Spotify  == Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you've never dared say — be it sex, taboos, or your relationships. Meet your mother's worst enemy at her next LIVE online workshop: Reserve your FREE seat
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  "You should not be wanting sex" - How Shame kills your sex life (and how to stop that) | E27 28.07.2026 32p

  📩 FREE GUIDE: How to talk about sex with your partner — download our 10 prompts If anyone has ever said that to you "You should not be wanting so much sex" - related to how often you want it, a fantasy, or a desire that turned up uninvited — this one is for you. We go straight to the point today: shame is the cause of almost every problem in a relationship. We discuss: how shame is something that we are not born with – but that is rather taught us – for good and, not so good, reasons how body shame is a boner/libido killer why you should trust your desires how stop giving a fuck about what people think creates space for curiosity, endless possibilities, and new levels of pleasures If you’ve ever found yourself fighting with your partner about how much sex you’re (not) having – listen to this and go back to that conversation. == TIMESTAMPS 02:01 What is shame? 04:44 Shame is learned 07:09 What are you ashamed of? 10:46 Body image shame 12:40 Intimacy: the relationship with yourself, before anybody else 15:50 Stop giving a fuck and it will affect others 16:42 What happens on the other side of shame 18:15 Shame as an identity 19:17 Shame for kinks and fantasies 22:28 Trust your desires 24:58 Shame of craving intimacy with a partner 26:42 Ban the phrase "you should not want this" and you'll have a happier relationship 28:32 How knowing your values improves and deepens your relationship 29:43 Shame is a mechanism of control. Control comes from fear   For more info, visit deeperlovers.com == Curious about this topic? Don't miss these other episodes: » E4 | Don't Like The Way You Look? Reframing Body Shame Leads To Deeper Intimacy – Listen on Apple or Spotify » E23 | What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That) – Listen on Apple or Spotify » E24 | Why Suppressing Your Sexuality Is Counter Productive And How You Can Live Out Your Fantasies – Listen on Apple or Spotify » E26 | Open Or Monogamous Relationship? Neither Lasts Without These 3 Pillars — With Eva Di Pierro – Listen on Apple or Spotify == JOIN CHIARA'S NEXT LIVE WORKSHOP: "How To Share Your Secret Fantasies" Reserve your seat
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  Open Or Monogamous Relationship? Neither Lasts Without These 3 Pillars — With Eva Di Pierro | E26 14.07.2026 44p

  ⚡️ FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: "How To Share Your Secret Fantasies" — join Chiara live. Reserve your seat ⚡️ Today we are joined by Eva Di Pierro - a somatic practitioner and bodyworker who's spent over 15 years guiding individuals, couples and leaders into deeper connection and presence — we trained under her years ago and have been working with her since. Will and I built our relationship on being open. Eva built hers on staying monogamous. We sat down to find out what actually makes a relationship work — and it turns out the model has almost nothing to do with it. In this episode we explore: what is a Sacred Relationship how to have one why idolising your partner is a just a trap how past fears impact your present relationship the 3 pillars of a successful relationship (Intimacy, Polarity, Devotion) whether monogamy is a "safer" option than an open relationship – but not necessarily the only “right” option the difference between choosing from Love or from Fear (Chiara’s favourite) people’s “craziest” fantasy – it’s not what you think! For more info, visit deeperlovers.com == TIME STAMPS 03:52 What is a Sacred Relationship 05:11 Transactional Sex vs. Sacred Love 06:29 Why idolising your partner doesn't serve you (nor them) 12:17 What is Devotion 14:58 What happens when only one partner wants to grow 19:30 Faith and Trust as "Devotion" 21:33 How past fears impact your present relationship (or lack thereof) 24:38 Pillar 1: Intimacy 25:07 Pillar 2: Polarity 25:28 Pillar 3: Devotion 27:13 Sacrifice = Giving up something for Something Sacred 28:28 Being Worshipped to Know We Are Enough 31:53 Shallow vs. Deep Relationship Choices 33:27 Are you choosing from Love or from Fear? 34:28 Your Open Relationship Will Fail Without Clear Agreements 36:39 Deep Intimacy is THE most craved fantasy 38:24 Practical ritual tip for the highest form of intimacy 41:55 Touch more, Talk less == If you enjoyed this episode, don't miss: » E16 | How To Restore Masculine/Feminine Polarity To Bring The Passion Back When Your Relationship Gets Meh – Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify » E23 | What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That) – Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify » E25 | Partners Variety Fantasy But In A Monogamous Relationship? Here's How You Can Have Both – Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify == JOIN CHIARA'S NEXT LIVE WORKSHOP: "How To Share Your Secret Fantasies" - Reserve your seat here
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  Dreaming to sleep with multiple people but in a monogamous relationship? Here’s how you do both | E25 28.04.2026 27p

  Book your free spot: Chiara’s Live Online Workshop “How To Share Your Secret Fantasies” – limited seats available Most people fantasise about being with someone other than their partner. That’s normal. The question is what you do with it. In this episode, we get into one of the most common — and least talked-about — sexual fantasies: desiring variety in sexual partners. We cover what ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamy) looks like in practice – with all its various flavours - and how monogamous couples can safely explore this territory without anyone doing anything with anybody else. This is one of the many things that become possible when you learn to share fantasies with each other. We also end up in a surprisingly good conversation about "having a type" — where it comes from, why biology explains far less of it than you'd expect, and what you might be missing out on if you keep yourself constrained to a rigid checklist of qualities to tick off. == TIME STAMPS 00:00 E25 Non-monogamy fantasy - having variety 01:25 Partners variety (ENM) is amongst the most common sexual fantasies 03:59 ENM structures: dating separately 04:32 ENM structures: dating together as a couple >> shared experience 05:08 ENM structures: polyamory 05:19 Fantasies as a tool to explore ENM for monogamous couples 07:15 How To Share Your Secret Fantasies - live workshop 08:32 Why variety is important 09:24 Is "having a type" blocking or expanding your relationship potential? 12:16 Why do we have "a type"? 15:31 Become aware of your own conditioning to access a wider dating pool 18:57 Awareness is key 25:20 Listen to your dreams For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com == Curious about better expressing and making your sexual fantasies happen? Don’t miss these episodes:   >> E19 | Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E22 | How to share secret sexual desires and why we're turned on by taboos – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E23 What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That) – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E24 Why Suppressing Your Fantasies Is Counter Productive – Listen on Apple or Spotify
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  Suppressing Your Fantasies Is Counter Productive: We Are Wired To Be Attracted To Others - with Paris | E24 15.04.2026 50p

  ⚡️Join us live: Free Online Workshop “How To Share Your Secret Fantasies” - Limited spots available⚡️ What if the fantasy you've been hiding is the exact thing your relationship needs? Most of us treat our desires like secrets — something to protect our partner from. Today we are joined by Paris, a longtime tantric practitioner and facilitator who went from completely frigid to living out every fantasy she's ever had. She is one of Will and Chiara's main teachers. In this episode we discuss: 🩶 why suppressing your fantasies makes them more obsessive, not less 🩶 how jealousy can turn into compersion (the opposite feeling to jealousy) — and what it takes to get there 🩶 the orgasm myths that's keeping millions of men and women from the best sex of their lives 🩶 tantric practices to expand genitals sensitivity and presence 🩶 how you transform your relationship when you start sharing out loud your desires 🩶 why men exploring their feminine side might be the sexiest thing you've ever witnessed (and how to get started) 🩶 the 21-day challenge that rewires how your body experiences pleasure Sharing and going after your desires doesn't damage a relationship. It deepens it. Listen to this incredible episode to know how. == TIME STAMPS 02:57 It's Time To Normalise Fantasies 03:42 Free Fantasies Live Workshop Invitation 04:41 Do You Know Where The Man's G-spot is? 05:47 Why It's Important To Live Out Your Fantasies 07:50 Serving vs. Taking 09:10 We Are Wired To Be Attracted To Others! 10:29 Jealousy vs. Compersion 11:05 Deal With Your Childhood Issues First! 11:57 Jealousy Is About YOU, Not Them 12:20 Jealousy Is Often FOMO 14:24 Try This   Biohack For Porn Addiction 16:53 How To Stop Your Sexual Obsessions 18:11 Why Suppressing Your Sexuality Is Counter Productive 20:24 Find A Tantric Community Near You... 21:26 ...Or Get Really Good At Communicating 24:28 Let's Normalise Sexual Language 25:26 Embrace The Slut Within You (for men and women) 26:54 How To Experience More Pleasure ( Debunking Orgasm Myths) 29:07 How To Improve Your Sex Life 34:17 The 21 Day Challenge 35:06 The Allowing vs. Forcing Principle 37:51 Exploring Fantasies As A Doorway To Deeper Connection And Trust 44:47 Bi-curiosity And Shame 46:46 Threesomes As Doorways To Brotherhood 48:29 Our Top Tips For Today == For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com Paris & The New Tantra school: https://thenewtantra.com/ == More episodes on the same topic:   >> E17 | How to get 10-minute long orgasms (for both men and women) - Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E19 | Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E22 | How to share secret sexual desires and why we're turned on by taboos – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E23 What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That) – Listen on Apple or Spotify
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  What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That Now) | E23 01.04.2026 31p

  What’s the thing that scares the shit out of most couples? Being seen for who they really are. And in sex? Sharing their fantasies. What’s the one thing that sits underneath every fantasy, every risk, and every deeply connected relationship? It’s TRUST. Most of us simply don't trust what will happen when we share ourselves completely. So, today’s episode is all about helping you doing exactly that. We cover: the difference between fantasy and action the reasons why "convincing" your partner never works why a hard "no" today doesn't mean no forever how to talk about what turns you on without pressing your partner how the nervous system needs to hear something a few times before it stops treating it like a threat The best relationships are not built on playing safe. They’re built on the kind of trust that lets two people tell the truth, stay close, explore, and grow together. If you've been sitting on a sexy fantasy for a while but haven't found the way in yet, this episode is the conversation you need to hear – make it a date night to listen to it with your partner! For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com == TIME STAMPS 02:00 Free Fantasy Live Workshop Invitation 02:23 You Don't Know What You Don't Know 06:29 Challenging Times In A Relationship Don't Have To Be The End Of It 07:46 Trust Is What Changes Everything 10:01 What Are You Scared Of? 11:40 What Are They Going To Think? 13:08 How Chiara Felt Safe To Talk About Her Threesome Fantasy 14:42 The Secret Fantasies Workshop You Don't Want To Miss 15:19 How Do You Create Safety? 16:50 Is This A Relationship Worth Saving? 17:54 How To Know If You Should Turn Your Fantasy Into Reality 18:59 "I want to convince my partner to..." 22:09 Your Answer: Nervous System + Play 24:59 How To Find Your Voice 26:01 What Sops You From Sharing Fantasies 28:15 The Leap Of Faith To Trust 30:04 Ask Yourself This Question == More content about Sexual Fantasies: >> E6 | There’s No Shame In “Dirty” Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Transforms Taboos into Passion – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E19 | Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E22 | How to share secret sexual desires and why we're turned on by taboos – Listen on Apple or Spotify   JOIN CHIARA'S NEXT LIVE WORKSHOP: "How to share your secret fantasies and upgrade your sex life" Save your spot at https://chiarahardie.com/secret-fantasies-workshop-signup
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  How to share secret sexual desires & why we’re turned on by taboos | E22 07.05.2025 40p

  >> FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" << REGISTER HERE Most of us were raised to believe that sexual fantasies are shameful - or just plain wrong. But what if those forbidden desires weren’t signs that something’s broken? In this episode, we get to the bottom of why so many people are turned on by taboos, what that says about our emotional wiring, and we share practical strategies to discuss fantasies with your partner in a way that builds trust, safety and - more importantly - turns them on, rather than scares them off. We also openly share some of own fantasies and struggles with taboos, as well as real-life stories from our clients, from threesomes and being dominated, to consensual non-consent, emphasising the significance of curiosity and trust in deepening sexual and emotional connections. If there’s something you’ve secretly desired but never dared to say out loud, today’s episode is your “how to” permission slip to get curious and start that super-hot conversation that you’ve always wanted to have. == TIME STAMPS 04:55 Your fantasies are actually normal 06:45 Why do we avoid talking about taboos? 13:58 Stay curious 17:03 Should I "request" or "propose" a kinky fantasy? 23:34 How to suggest a fantasy to your partner 24:39 Domination fantasy 27:16 Masculine and Feminine in all of us 30:03 Slutty and proud 31:36 Consensual non-consent fantasy 33:29 Rape play fantasy 36:26 Sex in public fantasy 36:58 Threesome fantasy 37:22 Dirty talking fantasy 38:34 10 prompts for deeper conversations == Free resources + next steps for your sexual healing journey:   >> Download the free guide: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”   Listen to E16 on masculine/feminine polarity in relationships: on Apple or Spotify Listen to E19 on threesome fantasies: on Apple or Spotify   For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com
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  Why your intimacy issues aren’t caused by your partner with Puja Lepp | E21 23.04.2025 36p

  Most people think the key to better sex and exciting relationships is learning the right moves or finding "The One". In an interview with one of our teachers, Will and I talk about why the patterns that hold you back in bed are the same ones that limit you in life. Why lack of intimacy isn’t about the other person, the sex positions, or your performance. And why feeling stuck, unseen, or frustrated in your relationship often has deeper roots that go far beyond your partner’s behaviour. Puja Lepp is an internationally sought after psychotherapist, retreat leader, and teacher. For over 30 years she has been supporting people through deep emotional healing and transformation. She is the founder of the Primal Childhood Deconditioning retreat, a seven-day immersive process designed to help participants access and release unprocessed emotions, break free from old survival patterns, and reconnect with their authentic selves. In this episode she shares the powerful truth we’ve seen again and again in our own journey and with our clients: you can’t separate your relationship struggles from your personal healing. But when you start doing the work on yourself—when you drop the mask and learn to show up fully—that’s when everything begins to change. == TIME STAMPS 04:03 How Inner Work And Sexual Healing Are Deeply Connected 08:32 Is This Type Of Work For You? The Impact on Romantic Relationships 12:26 Is "working on yourself" really harder than "pretending" and wearing masks of perfection? 13:27 We All Fear Not Being Loved 16:13 We can't Force Our Partner To Do The Work 19:07 Why Feeling Safe Is Key For a Successful Relationship 19:42 How To Help Your Parter Feel Safe With You 22:38 "Doing The Work" Has a Domino Effect On Your Life as A Whole 23:46 Healing As a Lifestyle 24:12 Start By Changing 1% a Day == Resources and next steps for your relationship healing journey:   >> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner” Join Chiara's next live workshop "Finally share your secret fantasies without shame or fear"
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  My partner doesn’t want sex. What should I do? | E20 08.04.2025 32p

  >> Register for Chiara's next LIVE WORKSHOP for free: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" To celebrate our podcast 1st anniversary, we address our clients’ most common questions in a live Q&A - from jealousy to sexual dynamics and open relationships. Partner communication, establishing trust, and addressing underlying issues in a relationship are some of the things we are experts on, and our goal is to provide you with practical tips that will enhance your romantic connections. If you feel even a little curious but shy, this is the episode for you. == TIME STAMPS 01:38 Q1. My Partner Does Not Want To Have Sex: Should We Open The Relationship? 02:48 The Risks of Opening a Relationship 06:09 Work On Your Own Relationship First 07:49 Q2. How Do I Know If My Partner Is Into Kinks? 11:09 Q3. I am So Jealous! How Do I deal With Jealousy? 18:48 Embracing Jealousy Can Keep You Safe 19:51 Your Body Has All The Answers 21:53 Q4. Am I Bi-Curious? 25:46 Q5. How Can A Man Stay Confident During Sex When Another Man Is In The Room? 29:23 It's All About Boundaries 29:59 Sexual Conditioning: What Is (Not) Doing For You? == YOUR GOODIES: >> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner” == Deeper Lovers on the web: www.deeperlovers.com
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  Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) | E19 25.03.2025 47p

  Secret Fantasies FREE LIVE workshop ALERT! Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies - yet only few people have the courage to act on them. Is it something you should try, or is it better left as a fantasy? In this episode, Will and Chiara explore the psychology behind group sex, the gap between fantasy and reality, and how to decide whether a threesome is right for you. They go over the key conversations couples need to have before inviting a third person in, including the emotional impact, managing expectations, and how to navigate jealousy - often the biggest deal breaker. They also explore how to test the waters with your partner - through dirty talk, fantasy role-play, or watching certain types of content together - to see if the idea is genuinely exciting or just intriguing in theory. For those considering taking the next step, they share practical guidance on finding the right third, whether through dating apps, social circles, or more curated experiences like sex-positive events. They also explain the difference between FMF (two women, one man) and MFM (two men, one woman) threesomes, how to avoid common pitfalls, and why communication is essential at every stage. Whether you're simply curious or seriously planning your adventure, this episode helps you explore your desires and possibility with clarity, awareness, compassion and respect for your relationship. == TIME STAMPS 00:00 Why is a threesome the most common fantasy?03:29 Fantasy vs reality: why so many people regret it04:09 Is your relationship ready for this?07:21 Libido imbalances and why threesomes won’t fix them09:19 How to start the conversation with your partner11:25 Dirty talk as a way to explore the fantasy safely17:24 What to expect emotionally before, during, and after19:18 Finding a third: friends, strangers, or dating apps?23:25 The risks of inviting someone from your social circle26:00 Compersion: when watching your partner turns you on30:42 FMF vs MFM: which is right for you?33:00 Why many men find MFM threesomes easier35:42 What women should know about MFM dynamics37:45 Handling unexpected emotions in the moment44:21 If you’re single, should you join a couple?46:56 The biggest mistake couples make == If you want to learn more about sexual fantasies: >> Don’t miss our previous episode on Apple or Spotify: There’s No Shame In Dirty Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Relationship == About Deeper Lovers: www.deeperlovers.com
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  Fighting with erections and performance anxiety? Here’s what you didn’t know you can do | E18 11.03.2025 37p

  >> Register for Chiara's next LIVE WORKSHOP for free: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" Will and Chiara tackle another taboo topic that many men (and their partners) struggle with, but rarely discuss openly: erections. From performance anxiety to the pressure of always staying hard, they explore how much of the struggle is psychological rather than physical. They discuss how shame, unrealistic expectations, and overthinking can interfere with arousal, and share practical ways to overcome these challenges. From breaking free of the traditional sex script to exploring the benefits of unconventional practices like non-ejaculation, they offer unusual yet groundbreaking perspectives on male sexual confidence. You’ll also hear how women often feel responsible for their partner’s arousal, why they may misinterpret erection issues, and how couples can learn to have open, reassuring conversations that remove pressure. Whether you’ve felt anxiety around performance or simply want a more relaxed, fulfilling intimate life, we guarantee this episode will change the way you think about erections and intimate connections.   TIME STAMPS  00:00 When Did Your Dick Stop Working? 00:48 Let's Talk About Erections 02:11 The "Erectile Dysfunction" Label Does Not Serve You 03:07 Level 1 of "Mind-Fucking" 05:55 What About Cialis or Viagra? 08:40 More Pressure On The Man 09:44 You Naturally Have Things On Your Mind 11:28 The Mojo App for Erectile Dysfunction (20% off code: DEEPERSEX20) 12:44 Cock Rings Can Help With Performance 15:17 Do Women Like Cock Rings? 16:02 How To Talk About Cock Rings 18:43 Mind-Fucking Is The Problem 19:32 I'm Not Hard: How To Address The Elephant In The Room 20:26 10 Prompts To Start Difficult Conversations 21:02 Never Say "I'm Sorry If I'm Not Hard" 21:58 Have Some Fun With Sex Toys 22:46 Are You Saying I Shouldn't Ejaculate? Ever...? 23:25 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Increased Libido 24:35 Overcoming The Initial Resistance to Non-Ejaculation 24:58 Coming Is Not The Best Bit! 25:59 What Women Think Of Non-Ejaculation 26:25 The Pleasure Of Giving Pleasure 26:52 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Higher Sensitivity 27:42 Soft Dicks Are Nice! 28:46 Have You Tried A Tantric Massage? 30:37 The Secret of "No Goals" During Intercourse 32:57 The Importance Of Feeling Safe 34:19 Become A Better Lover 36:42 For Women: Tell Your Man You Like His Dick! == About Deeper Lovers: www.deeperlovers.com == YOUR GOODIES: >> Get 20% off your Mojo membership – forever – using our discount code: DEEPERSEX20 | Sign up for the Mojo App   >> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to help you have deeper conversations with your partner”   >>Next FREE LIVE workshop on how to share secret fantasies: RESERVE YOUR SEAT
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  How to get 10-minute long orgasms (for both men and women) | E17 26.02.2025 43p

  >> FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" << REGISTER HERE This is a must-listen for both men and women looking to feel more, longer and better orgasms. Today’s episode will completely transform your understanding of what “coming” is: Did you know that there are many types of orgasms for women? And did you know that men can orgasm without ejaculating… and vice versa? Love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara challenge common beliefs around clitoral stimulation and vibrators, sharing their personal experience and tantric journey towards full body orgasms that can last for over 10 minutes – for both men and women. Got your attention? Press play to learn a few tricks you can use in your next intimate encounter to give and experience a level of intimacy (and pleasure) that you didn’t think possible.   TIME STAMPS 01:00 Let's talk about orgasms 01:22 How many types of orgasms are there? 04:34 Female orgasms 07:12 The "spasm orgasm" is the enemy 08:17 Leave the clit alone! 09:55 Vibrators simply desensitize you 11:33 What are you doing to me? 13:52 How true presence gives a massively enhanced sexual experience 17:23 You DON'T NEED to give an orgasm to each other 18:50 The trick is to NOT THINK about what happens next 21:22 Best practices for men 21:36 The non-ejaculatory practice 22:45 How men can achieve longer, deeper orgasms 25:40 The secret to satisfy a woman in bed 26:18 Your sexual energy is the Life Force that drives your life 26:37 What is our primal need? 28:01 How you can support each other and both feel more pleasure 29:37 The secret club of pleasure 32:45 Remember to give yourself some slack 33:21 The 21 days challenge 34:16 Do this to cure premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction 35:46 What to do when he wants more sex than her 37:11 If you are her 37:28 If you are him 37:51 How you can better communicate your needs 40:14 I feel pain during intercourse 42:02 How to get a mind-blowing orgasm (recap) 42:24 1. Stop stimulating the clit 42:32 2. Stop ejaculating (or practice separating it from your orgasm) 42:56 3. Try the 21 days challenge 43:21 4. Drop the blaming == Get the book: 50 Misconceptions Of Sex by Alexa Vartman == The 21 days challenge by The New Tantra == Free guide download: “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”
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  Bring the passion back when your relationship gets meh | Masculine & Feminine Polarity | E16 12.02.2025 48p

  Download our free guide: “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”   Changing gears with Season 2, love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara explain in very simple terms the concept of relationship Polarity, and the importance of balancing the masculine and feminine energies that you input in a relationship - regardless of your gender. They show how a polarity imbalance often leads to conflict, blaming, and general relationship unhappiness and unease. In this episode, they offer insights and provide practical tips for how couples can bring harmony back to their relationships. By stepping back, showing vulnerability, and understanding each other's perspectives, couples can navigate their differences and bring back the “Lover’s Energy” that initially brought them together. == CHAPTERS 00:34 What We Prepared For You In Season 2 01:38 What Is Polarity in Relationships 02:31 What Women Blame Men For 03:38 What Men Blame Women For 10:36 Do We Both Have Masculine and Feminine Traits? 13:41 Both Partners Need To Contribute To The Masculine/Feminine Balance In The Couple 15:25 How Do We (Re)establish Polarity? 17:55 Restore The "Lover's" Energy 24:20 Why It's So Important To Show Vulnerability To Your Partner 25:06 What Goes Wrong In Relationships When You Hide Your Vulnerable Side 28:31 What He Needs To Do To Make Her Feel Safe 32:38 What Is Real Masculinity Today? 36:40 It's Difficult To "Just Receive" 38:13 Connect With Your Feminine Side (regardless of your gender) 43:00 How Do We Connect Deeper? 43:17 1. It's A Dance For Two 43:37 2. Listen To This With Your Partner 44:47 4. Acknowledge That All Emotions Are Valid 45:17 5. Temporarily Suspend Your Belief 45:38 6. Ask Yourself: What Am I Really Yearning For? 46:00 7. Make Space To Receive From Your Partner 46:44 8. Don't Apologise For Your Emotions == Link to Alexa Vartman’s book that we recommend on the show - “50 Misconceptions Of Sex”
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  How to have Deeper Sex and stop fighting about sex (Season 1 Finale) |15 15.10.2024 12p

  ⭐️ DOWNLOAD OUR FREE GUIDE >> 10 Prompts To Start Deeper Conversations With Your Partner We have a big surprise coming up for you. We are closing out Season 1 of the Deeper Sex Podcast to come back with Season 2 and offer something even more exciting and useful to you and your lover, in and out of the bedroom. We believe that sex should not be the driver of arguments and unhappiness for a couple. Nor should it be taboo.  We have witnessed, tried and tested on our own skin how it can be used to heal from trauma, fears, and to grow.  What's coming: We are taking the intimacy and sacred sexuality practices that have completely revolutionised our way of loving, and are putting them into very simple practical terms for you so, that everyone can apply and practice them in their own bedroom. Meanwhile, don’t miss: >> Our fav books “50 Misconceptions Of Sex” by Alexa Vartman “Wild Nights” by David Deida (this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you) >> Catch up on these popular episodes: Dreaming to sleep with multiple people but in a monogamous relationship? Here’s how you do both | E25 on Apple or Spotify "You should not be wanting sex" - How Shame kills your sex life (and how to stop that) | E27 on Apple or Spotify The fine line making or breaking your sex life: 4 nervous system regulation hacks for wild adventures | E28 on Apple or Spotify == Join Chiara on her next live workshop: "The Deeper Lovers Effect" Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you didn't dare tell your partner — and you stop performing to get love, intimacy and affection.
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  From "Bedroom Boredom" To "First-Date Chemistry" Sex: This Is How You Transform Your Relationship with Adriana Keefe | E14 23.09.2024 43p

  FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” Will and Chiara are interviewed by Human Design coach Adriana to explore how they transformed their lives through sexual exploration and liberation.  They’ve made intimacy coaching their life’s purpose, because there’s so much fun and sex to be had in life, that everyone should be able to experience it!  They talk about their journey of following their hearts and intuition, instead of conforming to what others expected. They highlight how their union is always of the utmost priority, above and beyond anything and anyone else. On a spontaneous trip, they discovered the world of New Tantra and realized that that was “the code” - the language - for how they had been connecting all along. They found themselves into deeper and deeper sexual connections and an incredibly fulfilling sex life that massively influenced their business and their daily life… from miserable to super fun and exciting. The secret to all this? Curiosity and… well, tune into the episode to find out! Whether you’re a man or a woman wondering if there’s more to coupledom, or maybe bored in a sexless marriage, you too can go from an average relationship and a “middle-aged” sex life to an incredible connection with your partner, having mind-blowing, hours-long orgasmic marathons. == To learn more about what we mean by “Openness” at 360 degrees and how that can 10x the relationship with your partner, check out our episode on Apple or on Spotify. And… don’t miss this book on the topic! “Wild Nights” by David Deida  (this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you) == To learn more about how you can work with and accept your body image, check out this episode on Apple or on Spotify == CHAPTERS 01:18 Meet Adriana, our Human Design Coach 02:26 Download Our Free Guide 03:02 How Will and Chiara Help Clients Have Better Romantic Relationships 06:22 How The Power of Intuition Got Chiara The Amazing Husband She Has 09:55 Why Intimacy Coaching 14:32 Why We Decided To Explore Ethical Non-Monogamy 21:29 The Deeper Sex Podcast In The Making 22:42 We Explored The Swinging Community But It Was Not For Us 24:04 From Swinging to New Tantra 25:26 Fantasy vs. Reality 25:50 Are You One Of The People We Can Help? 34:45 Accepting Yourself And Your Body Image 40:43 How To Use Curiosity To Overcome Fear == Join Chiara on her next live workshop: "The Deeper Lovers Effect" Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you didn't dare tell your partner — and you stop performing to get love, intimacy and affection.
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  How To Be Sexually “Open” Even If You’re Monogamous | Feeling Free | E13 03.09.2024 21p

  How open(-minded) are you, really? And how "free" do you feel? Our biggest fear is not being loved. And fears keep us stuck in the comfort zone. But what happens when we suspend fear? While reflecting on our kinda out-of-the-norm summer, we explain how openness, curiosity, and feeling comfortable in your own body can bring you a deeper sense of connection and, ultimately, freedom. There's a different flavour when you meet people who are willing to share themselves and their stories - who are unapologetically themselves and in their body. If you're one of those people that feel stuck and just dream of being free (from whatever) but don't know how, you might want to listen to this. The whole conversation is a beautiful metaphor for how life can be lived. !! Don’t miss our book recommendation at the end !! == CHAPTERS: 1:32 Our Mission Is To Help People Open To Love 03:50 Openness + Nakedness = Freedom 07:11 What You Wouldn't Expect About Being Naked 08:51 Feeling Comfortable vs. Feeling Confident 09:46 It's Not About You, It's About Them 13:10 You Can Be Monogamously Open 15:23 When Your Husband Shows You Support Instead Of Anger 18:22 How To Overcome The Fear To Love 19:16 Recommended Light Summer Reading: Wild Nights == WITH LOVE FROM US: >> FREE GUIDE FOR DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” >> Recommended book: “Wild Nights” by David Deida  (this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you - thanks in advance for your support!) == ⚡️ Don't miss Chiara's next live workshop: https://chiarahardie.com/deeper-lovers-effect-workshop (limited free spots) Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you didn't dare tell your partner — and you stop performing to get love, intimacy and affection.  
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  9 Effective Ways To Talk To Your Partner So They "Get You" | E12 13.08.2024 34p

  ⚡️Register for Chiara's FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" (limited spots) Communication is THE KEY in enhancing relationships and sexual experiences. Drawing from our personal and professional experiences, we share practical tips on how you can initiate open dialogues about desires, needs, and fantasies with your partner. As always we emphasise on creating a safe space for vulnerability, avoiding blame, and using creative alternative methods like scheduled talks, writing sexy emails to each other and, why not, listening to content together. If you wonder how keep going at this seemingly utopian rate, this is it! Don't miss this episode. == CHAPTERS 04:03 What stops us from sharing dark secrets 06:09 Why communicating is so hard 08:18 How to practice "exposing" yourself 09:50 We all have the same fantasy (and the same fear) 12:58 1. Let it flow 14:29 2. Quit the blame 16:07 3. Create a safe space for an intentional conversation 20:19 4. Listen to content together 24:21 5. "Please can you help me to understand..." 26:16 6. Show that you're listening - aka be present with them 27:50 7. Have an "exploratory" vs. a "goal-oriented" conversation 29:05 8. Writing sexy emails to each other is less confrontational 33:01 9. When in doubt, say what's on your mind ==  FREE BONUSES: - Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” - Don't miss Chiara's live workshop: "Stop trying to convince her - Get what you want anyway" (limited spots)   Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you didn't dare tell your partner — and you stop performing to get love, intimacy and affection.
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  How Do I Deal With Jealousy in My Relationship? | E11 30.07.2024 20p

  Jealousy can serve as a useful tool in relationships when rooted in objective facts: it can be a sign of real issues, but also a reflection of deeper insecurities. How do you know? In this episode we cover the various sides of jealousy, how to understand when it is keeping you safe, vs. when it’s signalling that there’s something deeper to look into – your body generally knows best. We look at jealousy in the context of ENM couples, tho the same concepts can equally be applied to monogamous relationships. The importance of a strong relationship foundation, open communication, and setting flexible ground rules are what will make you feel safe, confident, and ultimately set you free. Embracing jealousy can be a tool to deepen intimacy – believe it or not. If you've ever struggled with jealousy or just want to understand it better - this episode is for you. == CHAPTERS: 04:55 How To Have Difficult Conversations With Your Partner 05:27 Keep The Dialogue Open And Ask With No Expectations 14:54 Embracing Jealousy Can Keep You Safe 16:00 Your Body Has All The Answers Inside == The sensual surprise Chiara arranged for Will’s birthday (E7): Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify == FREE BONUS CONTENT: - Download our free guide “10 prompts to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”
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  A Very Special Threesome (And How We Made It Happen) | E10 16.07.2024 27p

  Have you ever dreamt of joining a threesome but never dared ask your partner? It’s a universal fantasy, and one that can become reality with trust and good communication. In this episode, we share a very intimate experience where we pushed our boundaries further than ever before: for the first and only time in our life, Chiara is "lent" for the night as a Unicorn to Allie and her husband, while Will is away on an expedition. He talks vulnerably about his internal struggle between a positively erotic idea and the negative social conditioning around masculinity and ownership that would mark this as incredibly wrong and dysfunctional.  He also explains the strong bond he created with Allie’s man, the complete trust and clear communication that they have, highlighting the significance of male, brotherly energy and trust. Our goal in sharing this story is to show you what’s possible when the bond in a couple is so strong, and complete trust has been achieved: we would have not been able to do this before our deep inner work and sexual deconditioning journey!  Our intention is to purely inspire you to embrace sexual liberation by learning how clear communication, vulnerability and boundaries work - even within the boundaries of your monogamous relationship, there's plenty of things you can try out! === 02:56 What is a Unicorn 07:27 Healthy Management of Emotions: Thrill or Jealousy? 12:51 A Strong Secure Bond Can Take You To Depths You Can't Imagine 13:40 The Potential Risk of Damaging a Relationship 14:57 Only When You Feel Safe You Can Relax 15:47 Conditioning: Shall We Listen To It? 17:01 Protect What's Precious 19:13 Giving vs. Taking Attitude in Bed 22:35There No Such A Thing As "Too Much" == More episodes you might like: >> E17 | How to get 10-minute long orgasms (for both men and women) - Listen on Apple or Spotify >> E19 | Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) – Listen on Apple or Spotify >> E22 | How to share secret sexual desires and why we're turned on by taboos – Listen on Apple or Spotify == Free resources + next steps for you: Download the free guide: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner” Chiara’s FREE LIVE WORKSHOP on how to share secret fantasies: RESERVE YOUR SEAT Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what don’t dare say to your partner — and you stop performing to get love, intimacy and affection.