The Mellow Mama Podcast

Shared Regulation Tools that Actually Help 16.02.2026 28min

In this episode, we explore shared regulation — what it is, why it matters, and how to use simple, practical tools to support your child during big emotions while staying grounded yourself.You’ll learn how your nervous system shapes your child’s experience, what co-regulation looks like in real life, and how to move from control-based reactions into connection-based responses.For parents who want to lead with calm, presence, and compassion — even on hard days.More resources and offerings:www.themellowmama.orgFind me on social:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themellowmamaTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@themellowmamaYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@themellowmamaIf this episode supported you, please take a moment to leave a 5-star review. It helps more parents find the show and means more than you know!The Mellow Mama

Is it Disrespect? What is Respect and how is it Earned? 27.01.2026 1h 16min

We throw the word disrespect around a lot, but what does it actually mean? In this episode, we slow things down and take a closer look at what respect truly is, whether it can be demanded or only earned, and how our own nervous system, childhood experiences, and expectations shape the way we perceive it.We explore:What we often label as “disrespect” (in kids, partners, and even ourselves)The difference between behavior, boundaries, and meaning-makingHow respect is built through connection, safety, and modelingPractical ways to give respect first—without abandoning yourselfThis conversation is an invitation to soften, reflect, and reframe—so we can show up with more clarity and compassion in our relationships. Mellow Moments:Gentle pauses, grounding reflections, and simple practices for real-time nervous system support.Resources:Visit www.themellowmama.org for courses, guides, and supportive resources to help you parent (and live) with more ease and intention.Connect with The Mellow Mama:Instagram: @themellowmamaTikTok: @themellowmama_YouTube: The Mellow MamaWebsite: www.themellowmama.orgIf this episode resonates, share it with a friend or leave a review— I'm grateful for you.

"Come talk to me when You've got Teenagers" with Teen Whisperer Kirsten Cobabe 22.01.2026 1h 45min

“Oh, just wait until they’re teenagers then come talk to me...” If I had a dollar for every time, ... well I'd only have like 20 dollars, but you get what I'm saying.This is a super common fear-based response or really, defense, to conscious child-rearing. I'm here to lovingly counter that this philosophy is precisely what we need in preparation for the teen years with our growing children, and in this conversation, I’m joined by Kirsten Cobabe to talk honestly it. To peel back the layers on the warning of “good luck once you have teens” to find it is not only unhelpful, but deeply inaccurate.We'll discuss how conscious parenting doesn’t fall apart as children grow, but instead becomes the foundation for trust, emotional safety, communication, and lasting connection during the next wave of formative growth in our children's lives. (And ours if we let it be that.) When we parent with awareness, regulation, and respect early on, we aren’t setting ourselves up for disconnection later. We’re building a relationship our future teens will need more than ever.This episode is for parents who want to:Release fear-based narratives around adolescenceUnderstand how conscious parenting supports teens’ need for autonomy and connectionFeel reassured that the work they’re doing now truly matters long-termEnvision teenage years rooted in trust, honesty, and mutual respectConnect with Kirsten CobabeWebsite: https://www.kirstencobabe.com/Instagram: @kirstencobabeMellow Mama ResourcesWebsite and all offerings: https://www.themellowmama.orgThe Parenting + Re-parenting CourseMellow MomentsYouTube: The Mellow MamaInstagram: @themellowmamaTikTok: @themellowmama_

What does Conscious Parenting have to do with Marriage? With The Freemans! 14.09.2023 51min

In this episode we take a look at the significant impact our childhood and adolescent experiences have on our ability to communicate and connect in our romantic partnerships as adult people, helpful tools for conflict, and some simple adjustments to step away from old patterns and into new, intentional ones.Thank you for listening!Follow:@meet_thefreemans@themellowmamaSupport the show

Observing without Evaluating, Can you Do it? NVC Part 2 29.01.2024 57min

Continuing our mini book club series for Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. Chapter 3, Observation without Evaluation is so powerful & a practice to start for more peaceful days as a person and parent.My Course:https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-trainingMellow Moments:https://www.themellowmama.org/productsBooks to Read:Punished by Rewards, Alfie KohnUnconditional Parenting, Alfie KohnTeaching Johnny to Think, Leonard PeikoffInstagram:@themellowmamaYouTube:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.beSupport the show

Your Kids Need you to Stop Playing a Role and Start *Being* Part I of Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth 21.07.2023 1h 54min

What roles have we cultivated for ourselves to prove our lovability and value to the people and world around us? How does identifying with these roles impact us and our children?In this episode we are breaking down allllll the roles and the reason for them as well as the alternative that is truly going to give us what we want: Real authentic connection and a deep sense of recognition.Here's my course:www.themellowmama.orgInstagram:@themellowmamaTikTok:@themellowmama_YouTube:The Mellow MamaThe book discussed here:A New Earth, Eckhart TolleSupport the show

Children Aren't Born with a Worthiness Blueprint, We give it to Them 11.11.2022 1h 8min

In this episode I uncover the root issue of almost all uncomfortable circumstances, interactions with our children, with our loved ones, and within ourselves... Self-esteem and our "scale" of lovability that was cultivated for us by our parents and their parents and so on.Let's break down the real definition of self-esteem and how each and every person is deserving of this feeling of worthiness, of value, of lovability along with how to unravel the subconscious need in many of us to seek outward evidence of that within ourselves and prevent our children from ever needing to do the same. Support the show

The Most Unhelpful Parenting Mindset, and the Helpful Shift to Adopt 13.10.2022 53min

In this episode we'll go over a simple mindset shift that will dramatically improve your relationship with your children, help you become a more conscious, present individual, and honestly... just enjoy being a parent so much more.For my Course and other Products:www.themellowmama.orgInstagram:@themellowmamaTikTok:@themellowmama_Youtube:The Mellow MamaSupport the show

Are all Parents "in Hell" like Chappel said? My thoughts... 18.12.2025 1h 19min

Chappell Roan commented that parents are “in hell” a while back, and whie the internet reacted—some offended, some defensive, and some a little more objective, I thought I'd make an episode about my perspective! If you’ve ever felt trapped, resentful, or quietly unhappy while loving your kids beyond measure, this conversation will help you understand why—and potentially what to adjust.Connect With MeWebsite https://www.themellowmama.orgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/themellowmamaYouTube https://www.youtube.com/@themellowmamaSupport the show

Approaching Infant and Toddler Sleep in a Conscious Way with Taylor Kulik 13.07.2023 1h 17min

"How is your baby sleeping?" "Is she sleeping through the night?" "Oh he's not in a crib yet?" "Oh she's in a floor bed?" "How many naps does she take?" ... I could keep going on and on, but you get it.Sleep is one of the most interesting and challenging aspects of life as a parent, AND... life as a new person! Learning your baby while they learn their body and about the world around them, their level of safety and security, your availability... it can all be so, well, exhausting! But in this episode I wanted to ease some of the pain by simply focusing on what we CAN control (our mindset), what IS developmentally normal, what IS true when it comes to our babies and their sleep.I hope it's empowering and helpful for you to listen.Taylor's Instagram:@taylorkulikTaylor's Website:Taylorkulik.comMy webiste/course:www.themellowmama.orgMy Instagram:@themellowmamaSupport the show

Am I the Chillest mom Ever? Starter Kit: A conversation on Emotional Regulation 01.06.2023 1h

In this episode I discuss how I view emotional regulation and dysregulation as well as how to set yourself up for success as a parent and person.If you find yourself losing it, yelling, or resorting to old habits and patterns that you don't like with your children or spouse, this episode is for you. My Online Course:www.themellowmama.orgInstagram:@themellowmamaTikTok:@themellowmama_Work with me!sappkaitlyn@yahoo.comSupport the show

How Understanding the Ego will make Conscious Parenting Easier 22.06.2023 1h 5min

While I'm all about sharing specific examples regarding a conscious relationship with our children, without a grasp on the ego and it's influence in every day interactions, REactions, and behavior... it will surely remain a challenge to implement.For this reason, I've decided to do a 4-episode long mini book club of Eckhart Tolle's book, "A New Earth" in hopes to give a thorough overview of what the Ego even is, where it comes from in us, both individually and societally, and what it looks like in real time throughout your day and life with your children and everyone else.Moving forward with this awareness will allow for more peace, more joy, more confidence and fulfillment for you as a parent, a spouse, and the beautiful person that you are.I hope you enjoy, and stay tuned for the next 3 episodes! : ) Instagram:@themellowmamaTikTok:@themellowmama_YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wKqMWEJeFZcThe Book!Eckhart Tolle, A New EarthSupport the show

A Man's Take on Conscious Parenting: An Honest Conversation with my Dad 01.02.2024 1h 18min

Hear what my dad has to say about Conscious Parenting!My Course:https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-trainingMellow Moments:https://www.themellowmama.org/productsBooks to Read:Punished by Rewards, Alfie KohnUnconditional Parenting, Alfie KohnTeaching Johnny to Think, Leonard PeikoffInstagram:@themellowmamaYouTube:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.beSupport the show

Getting on Board: A Real and Raw Conversation with my Formerly Behaviorist Mom 08.06.2022 1h 37min

One of the most common questions I receive as a parenting coach and consultant is "How do I get __________ on board with respectful parenting?" Usually referring to spouses, grandparents and in-laws. People often wonder or assume that because I confidently teach this methodology that I myself was raised with it, but it is in fact not the case at all!My mom was willing to have a vulnerable open discussion with me during this episode about her first impression of what I share and practice, her own experience as a mother to me and my three siblings, and lots more. I hope that hearing her perspective and mindset shift as well as experience as well as my interpretation of all of it, the before, after and in-between, will be valuable to you in navigating this for yourselves and your families.Support the show

Welcome! My Story and What's in it for You 01.06.2022 29min

In this first episode I simply introduce myself and my intentions for The Mellow Mama Podcast. After years of simplifying and sharing the work and ideas of so many incredible physicians and experts in the field of conscious living and childrearing online, I've decided to bring it here to the podcast format for more conversation, community and overall accessibility to people and parents everywhere.My intention is and will always be to give away my take on great information with the hopes of also giving away my experience as a mom, which has been one full of presence, healing, connection, authenticity and joy. For real. Support the show

It's Not that Complicated: An example of why Respectful Parenting is sometimes Not that Deep 21.10.2025 10min

I hope this is helpful and promotes more peace in your day!Love, KaitMy Course:https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-trainingMellow Moments:https://www.themellowmama.org/productsInstagram:@themellowmamaYouTube:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.be

Adjust these 4 habits & watch your entire relationship shift from Disconnected to Attuned 15.10.2025 15min

Adjust these 4 habits & watch your entire relationship shift.I hope this is helpful and promotes more peace in your day!Love, KaitMy Course:https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-trainingMellow Moments:https://www.themellowmama.org/productsInstagram:@themellowmamaYouTube:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.beSupport the show

Normalized but Not Normal, Normal but Shamed, Criticized and Repressed... 17.07.2025 1h 43min

So much that has been normalized that simply isn't "normal" or healthy & helpful in parenting... In this episode I discuss some as well as all that was and is normal that has been shamed, criticized, and repressed.I hope this is helpful and promotes more peace in your day!Love, KaitMy Course:https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-trainingMellow Moments:https://www.themellowmama.org/productsInstagram:@themellowmamaYouTube:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.be

Took a Long Road-trip with my Kids & These are my Thoughts! 03.04.2025 1h 2min

Here are some things that helped me as I traveled along solo with my children a couple of weeks ago & some thoughts/reflections I had during and after!My Course:https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-trainingMellow Moments:https://www.themellowmama.org/productsInstagram:@themellowmamaYouTube:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.beSupport the show

Missing Out in motherhood; Offering some Comfort and Reassurance. 06.02.2025 1h 33min

In this episode I talk all I could think of in the category of "Things Moms miss out on."My Course:https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-trainingMellow Moments:https://www.themellowmama.org/productsInstagram:@themellowmamaYouTube:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.beSupport the show