Unwineding

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• the psychology of building your dream life ft. Olivia Rose Thomas 30.06.2026 52min

  You cannot build an extraordinary life with ordinary beliefs. And your future is shaped by the beliefs you repeat, not the dreams you keep. So let's make sure our beliefs are ON POINT, shall we? This week, I'm joined by Olivia Rose Thomas to unpack the psychology behind self-concept, limiting beliefs, fear of being seen, and why so many of us keep playing smaller than we're capable of. We talk about how your subconscious beliefs shape your decisions, why your nervous system resists change (even when it's good for you), and the practical tools that can help you stop waiting, start trusting yourself, and finally go after the life you've been imagining. We get into: why your brain is wired to keep you safe, not fulfilled the fear of being seen and why visibility feels so uncomfortable self-concept and how it shapes every area of your life breaking free from limiting beliefs why perfectionism is keeping you stuck how to regulate your nervous system when you're chasing bigger goals becoming the version of yourself your future is asking for & so much more. I hope you love this episode as much as I did and as always, take whatever resonates and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x Thank you so much to Quince for sponsoring this episode! Elevate your summer wardrobe at: quince.com/unwineding (I just got this beautiful Ribbed Midi Dress in brown and OMG, stalk it here). SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Olivia on Instagram work with Olivia follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• the relationship advice every high-achieving woman needs ft. Kaela Ason 28.06.2026 45min

  Hi ladiesss! This week, I'm joined by therapist Kaela Ason for a conversation that felt like therapy for every high-achieving woman who's ever overthought a text, treated dating like a checklist, or wondered why relationships can feel so much harder than everything else she's accomplished. We talk about why so many successful women struggle in relationships, why we get attached to people we barely know, and how anxiety can make us focus on being chosen instead of doing the choosing ourselves. Kaela breaks down the difference between anxiety and intuition, discernment and self-sabotage, and why so many of us intellectualize our feelings instead of actually letting ourselves feel them. We also get into people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-trust, and why having your life together doesn't necessarily make relationships feel easier. We talk:• why high-achieving women tend to overthink relationships• getting attached to people we barely know• treating dating like a checklist instead of asking how we actually feel• anxiety vs. intuition (& how to tell the difference)• discernment vs. self-sabotage• why people-pleasing shows up so often in dating• learning to trust yourself, even when relationships don't work out• trying to be chosen instead of doing the choosing• why successful women can struggle with relationships and vulnerability• perfectionism, self-worth, and the pressure to always have it all together• confusing peace with boredom and chemistry with chaos• building self-trust and learning to feel safe in healthy relationships & so much more. As always, take whatever you need and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. Thank you so much to Quince for sponsoring this week's episode! Elevate your summer wardrobe at: quince.com/unwineding (the 100% Linen Pants are everything). SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Kaela on Instagram follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• girl talk: friendship betrayal, baby showers & why you're not behind 16.06.2026 32min

  Just us today for a little FaceTime catchup. We're talking about the Summerhouse drama, my recent Toronto trip, why being in your 30's is wild/beautiful/incredibly weird, and how I'm navigating a difficult season of life. As always, take whatever resonates and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x TYSM to our sponsor, Quince! Elevate your summer wardrobe at: quince.com/unwineding for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• why he likes you but isn't committing ft. Ben Hart 09.06.2026 48min

  “Women have a difficult time keeping the guys they like around and men have a hard time getting the girls they want.”  Ok ladies, we’re revisiting one of my favorite episodes with dating coach & content creator, Ben Hart! Don’t tell him, but he’s one of my favorite voices in the dating space—I find his advice direct, fun, practical, and incredibly honest (which is what we sometimes don’t want but absolutely need).  Think of this episode as your guide to modern dating—we’re exploring the messy, sometimes confusing early stages where most of us (hi, women who unfortunately date men) start to lose our power. We get into how dating content overload is making us over-intellectualize everything, why we’re obsessed with templates and rules, and what actually matters more than counting the hours between his texts. We talk: • why we’re all over-consuming dating advice and under-listening to how we actually feel • the difference between being strategic vs. being hyper-tactical and counting every minute between texts • “matching energy,” reacting to his every move, and how that quietly gives your power away • why texting makes us *lose our minds* sometimes • how men are thinking about vulnerability • the art of FLIRTING (and how to get approached out in the wild) • worthiness, self-respect, and identity shifts for the relationship you want If you want to feel more confident, more calm, and more in your power during the early stages of dating (and beyond), this episode is going to be your new best friend. As always, take whatever you needed today & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x + Watch this episode on Youtube + Thank you so much to Quince for sponsoring this episode. Elevate your summer wardrobe: go to quince.com/unwineding for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns (get the 100% European Linen Pants, trust me). SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ follow Ben on Instagram follow Ben on TikTok follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠storefront⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• the glow-up advice women actually need to hear ft. Ariana Medizade 02.06.2026 48min

  Your glow-up doesn't need another supplement... or does it? This week, I'm unwineding with Doctor of Pharmacy and wellness creator Ariana Medizade for a conversation that completely challenged the way I think about health, supplements, stress, and what it actually means to feel good. I asked Ariana which wellness trends she loves (& which should go away), the truth about supplements, peptides, cortisol, energy drinks (this one hurt me), GLP-1s, and why more information doesn’t always make us healthier. We also get into something I think so many women can relate to: the pressure to optimize EVERYTHING. From tracking every calorie and macro to chasing the "perfect" wellness routine, we explore how easy it is to lose yourself in the pursuit of being healthy—and how to find a more sustainable middle ground. We also chat: • cortisol, stress & women's health• supplements that are worth it (and which ones aren't)• peptides, GLP-1s & wellness trends• energy drinks, caffeine & ADHD• healthy habits that are secretly hurting you• the problem with wellness culture online• creating a routine that actually fits your life• confidence, self-trust & the real meaning of a glow-up As always, take whatever you need from this conversation and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Ariana on Instagram follow Ariana on TikTok follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• why ambitious women never feel like they've done enough 26.05.2026 34min

  Why do so many ambitious women still feel like they’re behind… even when they’re doing everything “right”? In this episode, I’m opening up about ambition, perfectionism, self-worth, productivity, purpose, burnout, and the pressure to constantly become “more.” After one very honest conversation sent me into a spiral about fulfillment and identity, I started questioning pretty much everything. Remy (my podcast engineer and beautiful friend) joins me to chat about the psychology behind high achievement, the emotional weight of never feeling like you’ve done enough, and where I might be looking for bandaids instead of going deeper. I also talk about: • perfectionism & fear of failure• burnout, ambition & identity• wanting more purpose & meaningful work• self-worth tied to achievement• the pressure to constantly be productive• taking action before feeling ready• building a life that actually feels fulfilling & more. I hope there’s something in this episode you needed (and if you feel identified, DM so we can chat. I’d literally love that). See you next week. xx SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Remy on Instagram listen to our confidence episode follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• friendship & dating advice your therapist won’t give you ft. Zack Signore 19.05.2026 1h

  Our favorite (& hottest) comedian bestie is back for another round of dating & friendship advice. Zack Signore and I are talking love languages, emotionally unavailable men, chaotic friendships, mushroom ceremonies, attachment issues, open relationships, and the psychological warfare that is modern dating. Zack and I were in a MOOD for this episode so you're welcome, good luck, and we love you. ENJOY. x MORE ZACK ON UNWINEDING: A comprehensive guide to falling in love ft. Zack Signore How to meet your first husband ft. Zack Signore SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Zack on Instagram follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• are your friendships transactional? 12.05.2026 20min

  I love when you guys send me friendship questions because sometimes they inspire full episodes—like today’s. It’s just us this week, and I’m sharing my thoughts on this submission: “Is it normal for friendships to feel more transactional as you get older? Like everyone’s busy and it starts to feel like you’re scheduling each other in?” We’re talking about friendship maintenance, changing dynamics in adulthood, one-sided friendships, emotional bandwidth, and why effort (and yes, even scheduling) in friendship isn’t a bad thing whatsoever. I also share my thoughts on adapting to different seasons of life, outgrowing certain friendships, and what healthy adult friendship actually looks like. If friendship has felt different lately—or you’ve been struggling with the discomfort of changing dynamics as you grow up—I hope this episode makes you feel a little less alone. As always, take whatever resonates and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• if you feel behind in life, listen to this 05.05.2026 47min

  I’m off to NYC to podcast, so we’re revisiting one of my favorite episodes with the beautiful Lindsey Simcik of the Almost 30 Podcast. We’re talking about trusting the timing of your life, letting go of societal timelines, and falling back in love with your life—even if it looks different from what you once imagined. As always, take whatever you need from this conversation and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• how to get over a breakup: the psychology behind heartbreak & healing ft. Sabrina Bendory 28.04.2026 47min

  Turns out we can’t rush healing…but we can understand it. Consider this episode your comprehensive breakup guide—Sabrina Bendory, author and relationship coach, is back on Unwineding and is breaking down the psychology of heartbreak so we can learn how to ACTUALLY heal and move on. Sabrina is helping us make sense of why heartbreak hurts so much and giving us tangible steps to heal without hardening. We talk about why breakups can feel like withdrawal, why you miss someone even when you know they’re not right for you, and why short-term relationships (or situationships) can sometimes hurt even more than long-term ones. Sabrina shares practical tools to help you move on, rebuild self-trust, and stop tying your worth to someone else’s inability to choose you. Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or still holding onto something that ended a while ago, I promise this episode will help you feel less alone and more grounded in your healing process. We also chat:• the right (& wrong) way to get through a breakup• the psychology behind heartbreak and emotional pain• why heartbreak feels like physical pain• no contact: why it works and how to stick to it• why you still miss your ex (even when they weren’t right for you)• situationships and why they can be harder to get over• rebuilding self-worth and self-trust after a breakup• letting go of the “why wasn’t I enough?” narrative• healing without becoming closed off or guarded• how to stop romanticizing the beginning of a relationship If you’re in the middle of heartbreak right now, I hope this episode feels like a conversation with a friend who gets it—and reminds you that you will be okay. I PROMISE. As always, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. Listen to Sabrina's previous episode on Unwineding on mastering detachment & becoming magnetic SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Sabrina on Instagram follow Sabrina on TikTok follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• are you the friend you wish you had? ft. Elyse Fox 21.04.2026 55min

  Female friendship can shape how we see ourselves, how supported we feel, and how we move through hard seasons of life. In this episode, I’m joined by Elyse Fox, founder of Sad Girls Club, to talk about the role friendship plays in our mental health, identity, and sense of belonging.  We talk about why female friendship can feel so meaningful—but also why it can feel complicated as we grow, change, and redefine what success looks like for ourselves. Elyse shares the inspiration behind Sad Girls Club, how creating community helped her feel less alone, and why having the right support system can make such a difference when life feels overwhelming. We also discuss the pressure to “have it all,” how our definition of success evolves over time, and why being sensitive, ambitious, and still figuring things out can all exist at the same time. I truly didn’t want this conversation to end—Elyse feels like the best friend and safe space we all want and need (once you listen, you’ll see what I mean). I hope our conversation reminds you that you don’t have to do life alone, and that the right friendships can help you feel more grounded, understood, and supported (and that struggling with your mental health doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human).  You’ll hear us chat about: the power of female friendship why community matters for mental health feeling understood by the right people redefining success on your own terms navigating the pressure to have it all figured out why ambition & emotional depth can coexist compartmentalizing friendships supporting a loved one through mental health struggles navigating friendship breakups how meaningful friendships help us grow And so much more. As always, take whatever resonates and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Elyse on Instagram follow Sad Girls Club on Instagram learn more about Sad Girls Club follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• reminders you need when life feels hard & uncertain 14.04.2026 27min

  Remember: you can't be late to your own life. If things feel uncertain, overwhelming, or not how you imagined they would be right now, this episode is for you. It's just us this week and we’re talking about navigating difficult seasons, learning how to sit with the unknown, and finding steadiness when life doesn’t go according to plan. As always, I hope there was something you needed today. Take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• how your attachment style affects your relationships ft. Dr. Morgan Anderson 07.04.2026 52min

  The million-dollar question is: why do we love the way we do? I’m no expert, but today’s guest is. In this episode, I’m joined by clinical psychologist and attachment theory expert Dr. Morgan Anderson to talk about how anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, and disorganized attachment shape the way we connect, communicate, and choose partners. We talk about why you may feel drawn to emotionally unavailable people, why healthy relationships can sometimes feel uncomfortable, and how past experiences can influence your dating patterns more than you realize. We also discuss how to move toward secure attachment, how to stop repeating unhealthy relationship dynamics, and how to create more emotionally available, stable, and fulfilling relationships. We also talk about: • the difference between anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles• why you might feel anxious in dating even when someone is treating you well• why emotionally unavailable partners can feel familiar• how attachment styles develop through relationships and life experiences• how to recognize unhealthy dating patterns• how to stop self-sabotaging relationships• why secure love can feel unfamiliar at first• the role of the nervous system in relationships• why you don’t need to be “fully healed” before dating• how to build secure attachment over time• how to communicate your needs in relationships• how to stop overanalyzing early dating situations• how attachment theory can help you understand your relationship choices & so much more. As always, take whatever you need from our conversation and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Dr. Morgan on Instagram follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• are we making dating harder than it needs to be? ft. Alyssa Pettinato 31.03.2026 48min

  File this episode under: the dating advice we probably need but don’t always want to hear. Alyssa Pettinato, host of the Missjudged Podcast, is on Unwineding today and we’re getting into the chaos that is modern dating: from being the “chill girl,” to unrealistic expectations, to whether we’re actually making dating harder than it needs to be. We talk about why dating feels so confusing right now, why so many women feel burnt out by modern dating culture, and how to balance having high standards without unintentionally limiting yourself. We also get into how to screen men early, what “dating intentionally” actually means (and why Alyssa is OVER this statement), and how to stop overcomplicating relationships before they even begin. Oh, and how we love a short king. We also talk: • why modern dating feels so complicated right now• the problem with trying to be the “chill girl”• dating standards vs unrealistic expectations• how to screen men early in dating• what “dating intentionally” actually means• how to know what you want in a partner• why dating apps can feel draining• how to have more fun dating again• mindset shifts for healthier relationships• navigating avoidant partners and emotional availability• why dating should feel exciting, not exhausting• how to stay optimistic about love and relationships & more. As always, take whatever you need from our conversation and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Alyssa on Instagram follow Alyssa on TikTok follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• being kept around vs. being chosen in dating 24.03.2026 18min

  He’s not your soulmate if you have to lower your standards, I promise. It’s just us this week—and we’re unpacking the subtle but powerful difference between being kept around and being chosen— and why the two can feel almost identical in the beginning (which is incredibly mind-f*cking, pardon my French). We talk about why consistency alone isn’t enough, how situationships create emotional attachment without real security, and why feeling confused in dating is often the biggest sign that something isn’t fully aligned. Because the truth is: someone can enjoy you, care about you, and still not have the capacity to choose you (which is insane). And when that happens, the most important question becomes…why are we accepting dynamics that make us question ourselves? If you’ve ever found yourself wondering where you stand, overanalyzing mixed signals, or feeling like something is almost right but not quite… this episode is for you. We’re also exploring:• the emotional difference between attention and commitment• why clarity is one of the biggest green flags in dating• the role of capacity in relationships• why confusion is not a normal stage of a healthy relationship• how to stop overriding your intuition• why being “almost chosen” can feel so painful• choosing self-respect over uncertainty You deserve clarity. You deserve effort. You deserve someone who is certain about you. And you deserve someone who would never risk losing you. OKAYYYYY?! As per ujje, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x COME SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• do you know your best friend’s love language? ft. Angie Lassman 17.03.2026 43min

  We talk so much about intention and communication in romantic relationships, but our friendships deserve the same amount of effort. My beautiful girl (and Unwineding Podcast regular), Angie Lassman, is back and we’re doing what we do best: talking about female friendships. We’re exploring how the love languages show up in friendship (vs. romantic relationships) and why understanding how your friends feel loved can completely change the way you show up for each other. We also talk about the importance of communication, navigating misunderstandings, and why friendships deserve the same level of care and intention we often reserve for romantic relationships. And we’re circling back on a challenge we gave each other last summer—on being less avoidant (lol). Angie worked on her avoidance with friends (and killed it), and I worked on my avoidance with men (and didn’t exactly kill it). But we live and we learn. We also chat about: • love languages in friendship and how they show up differently than in romantic relationships• why understanding your friends’ love languages can strengthen your friendship• how to communicate better in friendships• asking for what you need from your friends• why healthy friendships require effort, intention, and communication• navigating misunderstandings and conflict in friendship• how we’re working on our people-pleasing tendencies• why many of us struggle to voice our needs in relationships• how small acts of care can make friends feel loved and supported• the importance of nurturing female friendships• why strong friendships are built (they don’t just exist) As always, I hope there’s something in this conversation you needed today—take whatever resonates and leave the rest. See you next week. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Angie on Instagram follow Angie on TikTok follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• the myth of being effortless 10.03.2026 23min

  Why do we glamorize not caring? Why are we so embarrassed to be seen trying? In the second installment of our DEBRIEF series, we’re exploring the cultural obsession with being effortless and why pretending you don’t care about something might actually be holding you back. From dating advice and relationships to careers, confidence, and personal growth, we’re constantly told to play it cool: don’t try too hard, don’t text first, don’t show how much you care. But the truth is that the most meaningful things in life—deep friendships, healthy relationships, successful careers, and personal development—are built through effort, intention, and perseverance (not magic. and most DEF not by pretending you don’t care). If you’ve ever wondered whether struggle means something isn’t meant for you, or felt embarrassed for wanting something badly, this conversation will shift how you think about effort, discipline, and success. We’re debriefing: • why society glamorizes effortlessness and natural talent• the pressure to appear unbothered in dating and relationships• why trying hard isn’t embarrassing (and why we think it is)• the difference between forcing something vs. putting in effort• why hard doesn’t mean something isn’t meant for you• the psychology of grit, perseverance, and skill development• how discipline and consistency shape success more than talent• the fear of visible effort and public failure (especially on social media)• why the most meaningful things in life require intentional effort• a closing journaling prompt for self-reflection and personal growth As always, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. And please remember: nothing meaningful is built by pretending you don’t care. SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• navigating grief: whether you're in it or loving someone through it ft. Destinee Clowe 03.03.2026 52min

  No one teaches you how to lose a parent. And no one teaches you what to say to someone who has.In this episode of Unwineding, Destinee and I talk about what it actually means to navigate grief—especially after losing a parent. We open up about losing our dads, the identity shift that comes with that kind of loss, and the strange, quiet ways grief shows up long after everyone else thinks you’re “okay.”Because sometimes grief is so loud.But sometimes it’s subtle.Sometimes it hits you months later on a random Wednesday. And then there’s the other side of it:What do you do when someone you love is grieving?How do you support someone coping with loss when you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing?How do you show up when you can’t fix it? In this conversation, we talk:• what navigating grief really looks like after losing a parent• how coping with loss can reshape your identity• why grief doesn’t follow a timeline• the unexpected emotional waves of grieving• what actually helps when you’re grieving—and what doesn’t• how to support someone who is grieving• what to say to someone grieving (and what to avoid)• how to be there for someone navigating loss without trying to solve it• why grief doesn’t end—it evolves This episode is for anyone who is grieving a parent, coping with loss, or trying to figure out how to support someone who is grieving.Because grief is universal (unfortunately) we will all experience loss, but the way we carry it is deeply personal. So if you’re navigating grief right now, I hope this makes you feel seen and understood (we truly feel you).If you love someone who is grieving, I hope this gives you clarity and confidence in how to show up for them (because we need you).And remember, sometimes support isn’t about having perfect words.It’s just about staying. Welcome to a conversation about love, loss, and the kind of grief that changes you forever. Watch this episode on Youtube SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Destinee on Instagram follow Destinee on TikTok follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• how your attachment style shows up in relationships 24.02.2026 34min

  This episode is a case of the blind leading the blind. Lauren takes an attachment style quiz to find out what her style is (spoiler alert: we were wrong) and we talk about what we're learning about dating in our 30s, how attachment styles actually show up in real life (not just in psychology books), and why we both might need a little therapy (but like, who doesn't?). We get into anxious vs. avoidant vs. disorganized attachment, what it means to “earn” secure attachment, and why the smallest shift in texting cadence can send your nervous system into a SPIRAL. We talk about overanalyzing, needing reassurance, taking space personally, and the story your brain makes up when you really like someone. If you’ve ever wondered why you react the way you do in dating or why intimacy can feel both exciting and terrifying—this conversation will probably (hopefully) feel a little too relatable. As always, take whatever resonates and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
• being single is better than settling: healing after a breakup & dating with standards ft. Emma Paige 17.02.2026 49min

  What if I told you that you could go through a breakup with someone you thought you were going to marry... and not be heartbroken? And what if I told you that you actually CAN have it all—the career, the standards, the dream relationship—without settling or shrinking yourself? Emma Paige, host of the Too Much Podcast, is back on Unwineding this week, and this is exactly what we’re getting into. How do you not self-abandon in a relationship? How do you walk away from someone who's great on paper but you just don’t feel excited about it? How do you actually enjoy being single instead of treating it like a waiting room? And how does raising your standards actually make dating MORE fun, not harder? In this episode we cover: healing after a breakup without losing your confidence how to stop settling in dating rebuilding your standards after heartbreak why high standards attract better partners walking away from someone who’s good on paper how to enjoy being single and stop rushing a relationship dating in your 30s and choosing intentionally not self-abandoning in relationships boundaries, self-respect, and emotional availability why patience leads to a healthier long-term relationship creating a life that attracts the right partner If you're single, heartbroken, or just trying to figure out what you deserve—this episode is gonna hit different. This conversation is equal parts therapy session and pep talk, and I promise you're gonna walk away feeling so empowered. We talk about what happens when you stop dating out of fear and start dating with clarity—why some breakups feel devastating while others feel like relief, and how building a full life actually changes who you attract. This episode is about self-worth, boundaries, and the mindset shift that leads to healthier relationships and real commitment. As always, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Emma on Instagram follow Emma on TikTok follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices