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• Money and Minimalism 04.06.2026 54min

  In this episode, we continue our discussion of John Mark Comer's book The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry, picking up with his chapter on simplicity and money.Episode OverviewThis episode covers Comer's chapter on simplicity, including his take on Jesus' teachings about money, the practice of minimalism, and 12 principles for simpler living. The episode also includes a running critique of where the author's analysis of wealth falls short.Key Discussion PointsOn Jesus and moneyComer argues that roughly 25% of Jesus' teachings address money and possessions, and that nearly none of them are positive toward wealth accumulation. He connects three short teachings from Matthew 6 — on storing treasures in heaven, the lamp of the body, and serving two masters — to one long teaching on worry, making the case that what we worship, we worry about.The episode pushes back on this framing. Jesus' statements like "it is more blessed to give than to receive" and "you cannot serve both God and money" are not condemnations of wealth itself. They are observations about the condition of the heart. Money funds generosity, finances kingdom work, and creates the margin to serve others well. The issue is not wealth but what wealth does to a person's heart when it becomes their source of identity or security.A personal example: being a landlord to a tenant facing breast cancer and financial hardship. Having financial margin allowed for grace — accepting late or partial payments, covering the mortgage independently — in a way that would not have been possible otherwise. That is wealth functioning as a tool for kingdom living.On the author's frameworkComer eventually acknowledges the tension — noting that Jesus was supported by wealthy donors, had disciples manage a budget, and shared meals with rich friends — but does not spend enough time there. The scriptures he cites actually contain the nuance he underexplores. When someone uses scripture primarily to validate a point already formed, rather than letting scripture shape the point, it is worth noticing. That pattern reveals a lot about how a person is operating, even if unintentionally.What minimalism actually is (and is not)Comer offers several clarifications:It is not a design aesthetic or a style preference.It is not poverty or living without enjoyment.It is not organizing your stuff — if you have so much that it requires organizing, labeling, and boxing, you likely have too much.Minimalism is the intentional promotion of what you value most and the removal of what distracts from it. It applies not just to possessions but to time, mental load, and the condition of the heart. Hurry is not only a physical state — it is a condition of the mind.Comer's 12 Principles for Simple LivingBefore buying, consider the true cost — maintenance, time, insurance, and what it will do to the pace of your life.Before buying, ask whether the purchase harms the poor or the earth. The garment industry is a direct example: in the 1960s, 95% of American clothing was made in the U.S.; today it is 2%, often produced under exploitative conditions.(Covered within principle 2 — the ethics of globalized manufacturing.)When you do buy, opt for fewer, better things. Buy it once.When you can, share. Community and the sharing economy reduce the need to own.Get into the habit of giving things away. Generosity is both practical and life-giving. Personal example: passing along baby clothes and supplies within community, and using the school's used uniform shop to outfit a child for a fraction of retail cost.Live by a budget. In a culture that glorifies frivolous spending, budgeting is a form of good stewardship. Enjoyment belongs in the budget — but so does discipline.Learn to enjoy things without owning them. Parks, libraries, coffee shops, and natural spaces are available to everyone.Cultivate a deep appreciation for creation.Cultivate a deep appreciation for simple pleasures.Recognize advertising for what it is. (Partial disagreement here: advertising is not propaganda or lying — there are laws against false advertising. The more accurate takeaway is to be intentional about not purchasing what you do not actually need.)Lead a cheerful revolt against materialism. Actively and joyfully reject the pull toward accumulation.Scripture ReferencedMatthew 6 (Sermon on the Mount — storing treasures, the lamp of the body, serving two masters, and do not worry)1 Timothy 6:17-19 (Paul's command to the rich in Ephesus)Connect and ShareLeave a comment on Spotify, share this episode, or send an email with your thoughts — especially your perspective on the critique of how wealth and money were framed throughout this chapter.Products Available — Moving Sale!Tatum is moving and has a limited number of physical resources available for just $5 each (+ shipping — total order stays under $10). 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• How Simplicity Can Free You From Hurry 28.05.2026 43min

  In this episode, we continue our journey through The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, diving into the third principle of unhurried living: simplicity. Before getting into the chapter, there is a quick reminder about the moving sale — physical copies of the God Is My CEO Prayer Journal, the podcast planner, and She Is Uncompromising are still available for just $5 each plus shipping. Orders of 10 or more ship free. Links are in the show notes.The episode opens with a reflection on Sabbath practices from last week's discussion, including a practical tip for using AI tools like ChatGPT or Claude to generate hobby ideas that align with rest and worship — not work. From floral arranging to crafting custom tea blends, the goal is finding activities that slow you down and reconnect you with the beauty of God's creation.The heart of the episode centers on what the author calls the "gospel of America" — the cultural belief that life's meaning is found in accumulation and consumption. Drawing on Jesus' own words about wealth, greed, and the deceitfulness of riches, listeners are challenged to honestly examine whether they would follow God even if success never looked the way they envisioned. The episode also takes a critical look at the history of American consumerism, the rise of lifestyle marketing and influencer culture, and the very real spiritual danger of allowing things — cars, clothes, brands, and clout — to become identity markers.A Princeton study by Kahneman and Deaton, originally placing the happiness income threshold at $75,000 (approximately $108,500 in today's dollars), sparks a candid pushback: money is not the problem when it is used to buy freedom, experiences, and time rather than stuff. The episode challenges the author's framing while affirming his core point — the relentless accumulation of things accelerates hurry and pulls us away from the unhurried life Jesus modeled.The episode wraps before the chapter's 12 practical tips on simplicity, which will be covered in the next episode.Key HighlightsMoving sale is still active — prayer journals, podcast planner, and more available for $5 each; orders of 10 or more ship freeUsing AI tools to brainstorm Sabbath-friendly hobbies that cannot be turned into a businessThe "gospel of America" — how consumerism has replaced religion as the dominant system of meaning in Western cultureA hard introspective question: would you still follow God if your business never produced the results on your vision board?The history of how corporate America deliberately engineered a culture of consumption after World War IIA challenge to Christian content creators who promote products to examine whether that activity contributes to consumerismThe $75,000 happiness study — published in 2010, equivalent to roughly $108,500 today — and why a fixed happiness ceiling is worth questioningThe distinction between spending money on stuff versus spending money on freedom, time, and experiencesNext episode: the remaining half of the simplicity chapter, including 12 practical tips from the authorProducts Available — Moving Sale!Tatum is moving and has a limited number of physical resources available for just $5 each (+ shipping — total order stays under $10). Once they're gone, they're gone!Available now:GOD is My CEO: A Prayer Journal for Entrepreneurs (Limited Edition — gold spiral binding, hardcover, full-color, tabbed) 👉🏾 https://youtu.be/hlsLhd-AVdkPodcast Planner (Physical planner with everything Tatum has learned from 9+ years of podcasting and helping 150+ people launch) 👉🏾 https://youtu.be/bfpY3zdG9aAShe Is Uncompromising (The book — includes access to a bonus masterclass)👉🏾 https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/shopOur Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• The Sabbath 23.05.2026 55min

  We're continuing our book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, and this week we're diving into Part Three — the how of living an unhurried life. After covering silence and solitude last episode, today we go deep on one of the most underrated and underused spiritual practices in Christian spaces: the Sabbath.But first — Tatum shares a raw and beautiful testimony from her quiet time this week, a moment on the floor in her daughter's room that turned into a soul-restoring encounter with the Father. She also gets real about a revelation she received for Christian entrepreneurs: the difference between your working relationship with God and your personal relationship with Him — and why both matter.In This EpisodeTestimony: What happened when Tatum lay on the floor, didn't know what to pray, and started speaking in tongues — and why she bawled her eyes outThe working relationship vs. the personal relationship with God — a word for veteran Christian entrepreneurs who have the rhythm down but may be missing the closenessThe YouTube plan she shelved — and why she chose the Father over the planWhat is the Sabbath? The Hebrew meaning of Shabbat (to stop) and why God built this rhythm into the DNA of creationDesire, restlessness, and the digital age — how advertising monetizes our restlessness and why only God can satisfy infinite desireWhat happens to your mind, body, and soul when you fight the Sabbath rhythm — including what happened in France when they tried a 10-day work weekThe statistics: Why Seventh-Day Adventists live 10 years longer than the average AmericanTwo lists: Restfulness vs. Relentlessness — which one describes your life right now?Practical tips for busy bodies who struggle with the "in-between" of rest — including how Tatum's Friday grocery habit accidentally created a more restful weekendWhat the Sabbath actually looks like — the author's family practice and how to find what works for yoursWorking from rest, not for rest — and why the Sabbath is the climax of the week, not just a break in itNext episode: SimplicityKey Quote"The Sabbath isn't just a 24-hour time slot in your weekly schedule. It's a spirit of restfulness that goes with you throughout your week. A way of living with ease, gratitude, appreciation, peace, and prayer. A way of working from rest, not for rest, with nothing to prove. A way of bearing fruit from abiding and not ambition." — John Mark Comer, The Ruthless Elimination of HurryTatum's Word for Christian EntrepreneursAs you grow in doing business God's way, don't let the working relationship replace the personal one. You can be in rhythm with God in your business and still have a void in your closeness to Him as His daughter. Tend to both. The business meetings with God matter — and so does just lying at His feet with nothing to say.Resources Mentioned📖 Book Club Pick: The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer — [grab your copy here]🛒 Products Available — Moving Sale!Tatum is moving and has a limited number of physical resources available for just $5 each (+ shipping — total order stays under $10). Once they're gone, they're gone!Available now:📒 GOD is My CEO: A Prayer Journal for Entrepreneurs (Limited Edition — gold spiral binding, hardcover, full-color, tabbed) 👉🏾 https://youtu.be/hlsLhd-AVdk🎙️ Podcast Planner (Physical planner with everything Tatum has learned from 9+ years of podcasting and helping 150+ people launch) 👉🏾 https://youtu.be/bfpY3zdG9aA📚 She Is Uncompromising (The book — includes access to a bonus masterclass)🙏🏾 Business Meetings with God — 90-Day Devotional (Includes 2 bonus masterclasses: "How to Have a Business Meeting with God" by Tatum Temia + "How to Prioritize Your Time with God" by Roslyn Rene, LSMW)👉🏾 https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/shop💛 Attention Churches, Women's Groups & CommunitiesDo you lead or belong to a women's ministry, small group, sorority, or community organization? If your order is 10 or more items, the products are FREE — you only pay shipping. The discount is automatically applied at checkout.This is Tatum's way of blessing communities of women with tools to grow closer to the Lord together.👉🏾 https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/shopOur Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• Silence + Solitude 19.05.2026 48min

  In this deeply personal episode of Blessed and Bossed Up, Tatum returns after finals season to continue the book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer.This conversation explores the first practice for “unhurrying” your life: silence and solitude.From motherhood and entrepreneurship to law school and spiritual formation, Tatum shares how busyness, noise, and constant stimulation can quietly disconnect us from the presence of God — and how reclaiming moments of stillness can transform our spiritual, emotional, and mental well-being.She unpacks:Why boredom used to be a giftHow technology keeps us spiritually distractedLearning to practice God’s presence in everyday momentsWhy the wilderness is not weakness, but strengthThe difference between solitude and isolationHow internal noise impacts peace, anxiety, and emotional healthWhy silence is essential for healing, clarity, and abiding in ChristThis episode is both a conviction and an invitation: to slow down, reconnect with God, and create rhythms that cultivate peace instead of chaos.Key TakeawaysBoredom Was Once SacredBefore smartphones and endless stimulation, boredom created space for creativity, imagination, reflection, and connection. Today, we often fill every quiet moment with scrolling, entertainment, or mental noise — missing opportunities to connect with God.God Is Present Beyond the Prayer ClosetTatum reflects on a revelation that changed her relationship with God: His presence isn’t confined to designated “quiet times.” Through the Holy Spirit, God is present while washing dishes, driving, making coffee, or watching children play.The Wilderness Is a Place of StrengthReferencing Jesus in the wilderness, this episode reframes difficult seasons not as punishment or weakness, but as places where God’s strength is revealed most powerfully.Silence Is More Than External QuietTrue silence includes:External silence (turning off noise and distractions)Internal silence (quieting worry, fantasies, overthinking, anxiety, and mental chatter)Solitude Is HealingSolitude is not isolation. It is intentional time with God where healing, self-awareness, conviction, and restoration take place.Discussion Topics from This EpisodePracticing the presence of God in ordinary momentsThe emotional impact of constant stimulationWhy high-achieving women often struggle with silenceInternal criticism, perfectionism, and vulnerabilityCreating rhythms of rest instead of cycles of burnoutHow Jesus modeled retreat, prayer, and solitudeMentioned in This EpisodeThe Ruthless Elimination of HurryA powerful book exploring how hurry, distraction, and overload are shaping modern spiritual life — and practical ways to slow down and reconnect with God.Special Product Super SaleAs Tatum prepares for a move, she discovered a limited inventory of some fan-favorite resources that are officially back while supplies last.These products have been sold out for quite some time and are being offered at deeply discounted prices — once they’re gone, they’re gone.Featured ProductsGod Is My CEO Prayer Journal: https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/shopA guided prayer and reflection journal designed to help Christian entrepreneurs strengthen their relationship with God while building in alignment with His will.Perfect for:Daily prayer and reflectionProcessing vision and strategy with GodCultivating intimacy and spiritual disciplineEntrepreneurs seeking faith-centered leadershipThe Planner for Podcasters : https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/shopA strategic planning resource for podcasters and content creators who want to stay organized, consistent, and intentional with their podcast growth and content execution.Inside includes:Content planning toolsEpisode organizationGoal-setting promptsProduction workflow support90-Day Devotional: https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/shopA devotional created to help believers grow spiritually, stay anchored in faith, and build consistent time with God over the course of 90 days.Designed for:Daily encouragementSpiritual growthBuilding consistency in devotion timeStrengthening faith through practical reflectionVisit: https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/shopOur Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• Sober Living 30.04.2026 58min

  Tatum is in the trenches of her first-year law school finals, so this week she's bringing back one of her most foundational episodes — and as she always says, when an oldie comes back around, trust that the Lord is bringing it back for a reason. Whether you've heard it before or this is your first time, this one is worth sitting with.In this episode, Tatum opens up about the early years of making God the CEO of her business and introduces a new series focused on the application of faith-driven entrepreneurship — not just the information, but the lived practice.Before diving into strategy, marketing, or business plans, she makes the case that we have to start with sobriety: freeing ourselves from the influences, distractions, and cultural pressures that pull our focus away from the Lord and onto the metrics of the world.In this episode, Tatum covers:Why sobriety is the non-negotiable foundation before any business building can beginThe story of how obedience during a season of stripping and pruning led to her most fruitful breakthroughsThe moment she hit her first six-figure year — and why her reaction to it changed everythingHow entrepreneurship can become its own kind of intoxicationA word for anyone being called to pioneer something new, even when it feels lonely and irrationalThe 5 Substances to Detox From:Success culture and performance pressureDigital noise and comparisonMixed mentorshipMaterialism and metrics-based validationOver-independenceScriptures Referenced:1 Peter 5:81 Thessalonians 5:6–8Mark 14:38Action Step: Download the free Clarity Cleanse guide (linked in show notes) — a month-long detox plan with weekly focus areas, scriptures, action steps, and prayer points to help you build the sober, focused foundation your business needs.Join the Society — Tatum's membership community for Christian women growing in life, faith, and business. Weekly prayer calls, Bible studies, daily devotionals, and a community of women walking this out with you.Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• How to Stop Rushing: Jesus, the Rule of Life & Building Margin 20.04.2026 38min

  In this episode, we continue our book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, wrapping up the final chapter of Part Two and covering the intermission that sets the stage for Part Three.We open with one of the most convicting observations in the book: Jesus was rarely — if ever — in a hurry. Through stories like the raising of Lazarus and the healing of Jairus's daughter, the author paints a picture of a Savior who was fiercely present, completely unhurried, and never agitated by interruption. That kind of peace has a name we hear a lot today: a regulated central nervous system. In this episode, we break down what that actually means, share some eye-opening data about how many of us are functioning in a state of chronic stress, and then make the case that Jesus didn't just model a regulated nervous system — He modeled something that surpasses the very standard modern science is striving toward.We then dig into the concept of margin — the space between your load and your limits — and get practical about what it looks like to actually build it into your life. From contingency planning and backup childcare to protecting your mornings and setting an evening shutdown time, this episode gets real about what margin looks like for busy women wearing multiple hats.From there, we explore the trellis metaphor: just as a trellis gives a vine the structure it needs to grow and bear fruit, a rule of life gives your walk with Jesus the structure it needs to actually take root. We talk about why Jesus must be the center — not career, not motherhood, not success — and how the structures we build either support or undermine that priority.We close out with the intermission from the book, which sets up Part Three by distinguishing between discipline and spiritual discipline — and why the latter gives you access to a power that willpower alone simply cannot reach.In this episode:Why Jesus is the ultimate example of a regulated nervous system (and then some)What nervous system dysregulation actually looks like — and the stats that prove it's a public health issueThe difference between a full schedule and a hurried oneHow to create a contingency plan so that life's interruptions don't blow up your whole weekWhat a "rule of life" is and why it started in the monastery, not Silicon ValleyThe trellis metaphor and why structure isn't the enemy of freedom — it's the path to itHow to approach the four Gospels the same way you'd read a biography of someone you admireWillpower vs. spiritual discipline: why one gets you so far and the other gets you to Jesus📖 The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer — grab your copyOur Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• A Call for Godly Ambition 12.04.2026 42min

  In this episode, Tatum unpacks the difference between selfish ambition and godly ambition, challenging listeners to examine not just what they are pursuing, but why. Through personal reflection, biblical teaching, and practical examples, she reveals how easy it is to drift into misalignment—even with good intentions.This conversation calls you into deeper self-awareness, Spirit-led decision-making, and true wholeness, emphasizing that sustainable success in both life and business must be rooted in God.Key TakeawaysAmbition itself is not wrong, but its source determines whether it is aligned with God.Self-awareness is critical for identifying the true motivations behind your goals.External success can hide internal misalignment.Godly ambition is led by the Holy Spirit, not by outcomes, validation, or trends.Your definition of success will evolve as you grow in faith and maturity.True alignment requires healing from the brokenness that often drives achievement.Scriptures ReferencedPhilippians 2:3 (ESV): Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.James 3:13–16: A warning against selfish ambition, describing it as earthly and leading to disorder.Galatians 5:22–23: The fruit of the Spirit as evidence of a Spirit-led life.What is Selfish Ambition?Selfish ambition is a drive rooted in:EgoPrideComparisonControlBrokennessDesire for validationIt is not always obvious. It can begin with good intentions but becomes misaligned when God is no longer the source.What is Godly Ambition?Godly ambition is:Spirit-ledRooted in obedienceFocused on serving God and othersCentered on bringing God glory rather than personal recognitionThe defining factor is what is driving your decisions: the Holy Spirit or your desire for results.The Subtle Shift from Godly to Selfish AmbitionA key example shared in the episode illustrates how this shift can happen:You begin in obedience and full dependence on GodYou experience growth and positive resultsResults slow down or declineYou begin seeking external solutions (trends, algorithms, validation)Your source shifts from God to performanceThis shift is often gradual and difficult to detect without intentional self-examination.How to Course CorrectWhen you feel frustrated or see changes in results:Pause instead of reacting impulsivelyTake your emotions to God honestlyAsk:Did I get off track?Is there something you want me to change?Wait for His responseObey, whether He says to adjust or remain consistentThe goal is to remain aligned with God, not to chase outcomes.The Root Issue: BrokennessMany forms of ambition are driven by unresolved issues such as:A need for validationFear of lack or instabilityDesire for controlPast wounds or traumaWithout healing, it becomes difficult to sustain a God-centered approach to success.Measuring Your Motivation: The Fruit of the SpiritUse the fruit of the Spirit as a diagnostic tool:LoveJoyPeacePatienceKindnessGoodnessFaithfulnessGentlenessSelf-controlIf these are absent in your process or decision-making, it may indicate misalignment.Action Step: Fast and SurrenderTatum encourages listeners to:Fast from 6 AM to 6 PM (if medically able)Spend intentional time with GodBe honest about fears, control, and disappointmentInvite God to address the root causes of misalignmentThis is not about behavior modification but heart transformation.Reflection QuestionsWhat is driving my ambition right now?Am I seeking God’s approval or external validation?Where have I prioritized outcomes over obedience?What unresolved issues may be influencing my goals?Final EncouragementGod is not focused on your performance—He is focused on your heart.Seasons of slowing down, stagnation, or even decline are not punishment. They are often invitations to return to alignment, deepen intimacy with God, and rebuild from a place of wholenessOur Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• Beating Burnout 01.04.2026 40min

  In this episode of Blessed + Bossed Up, we continue our book club discussion of The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, shifting from diagnosing the problem of hurry to uncovering the solution.If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, burnt out, or stuck in a cycle of doing too much, this episode is your invitation to something deeper: the lifestyle of Jesus.We explore what it truly means to follow Jesus—not just in belief, but in daily practice—and how embracing an apprenticeship mindset can transform your pace, your peace, and your purpose.Key Takeaways:1. The Answer Isn’t More Time—It’s a New Way to LiveWe often think the solution to overwhelm is more hours in the day. But more time doesn’t fix a misaligned life—it just gives us more space to stay busy. True freedom comes from reordering our lives around God, not productivity.2. You’re Not Just a Believer—You’re an ApprenticeTo follow Jesus is to apprentice under Him:Be with JesusBecome like JesusDo what He would doThis perspective shifts your posture from control to humility, from striving to learning.3. Your Life Reflects Your LifestyleIf you’re experiencing:AnxietyBurnoutConstant stressDisconnection from God…it’s not random. Your current systems and rhythms are producing those results.“Every system is perfectly designed to get the results that it gets.”4. You Can’t Want Jesus’ Life Without Adopting His LifestyleMany of us want:His peaceHis clarityHis joy…but we’re not willing to live how He lived.Following Jesus is not compartmentalized—it’s a full-life transformation, not just Sunday behavior or spiritual moments.5. Burnout Is a Sign You’re Living Outside of God’s DesignBurnout isn’t just exhaustion—it’s a signal.It often means you’ve made your dwelling place somewhere God never intended.The invitation? Come back home.6. Stop Praying Your Will—Start Seeking HisA powerful personal story highlights how easy it is to pray what we want instead of surrendering to God’s will.When you approach God as an apprentice—not the one in charge—you:Release controlStay open to correctionAvoid unnecessary frustration and confusion7. Self-Awareness Is a Spiritual DisciplineSlowing down enough to:Notice your reactionsEvaluate your routinesCheck your alignment…is key to transformation.Self-awareness allows you to course correct in real time and grow in spiritual maturity.8. Jesus Doesn’t Offer Escape—He Offers EquipmentLife is hard. That’s not changing.But instead of removing the weight, Jesus teaches us how to carry it differently:With HimAt His paceWith His peaceAn easy life isn’t promised—but an easy yoke is.Practical Application:This week, begin living like an apprentice:Pause throughout your day and ask: “What would Jesus do?”Set reminders to check in with your thoughts, reactions, and stress levelsPay attention to moments where you feel rushed, anxious, or out of alignmentSurrender areas where you’ve been forcing your willScripture Highlight:Matthew 11:28–30 “Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest…”Final Thought:If you want the life of Jesus, you have to adopt the lifestyle of Jesus.This isn’t about doing more—it’s about living differently.Resources Mentioned:The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• You Don't Need More Time 30.03.2026 38min

  In this episode of Blessed + Bossed Up, we continue our book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, stepping into Part 2: The Solution.If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, stretched thin, or like there aren’t enough hours in the day, this conversation will challenge the way you think about productivity, ambition, and success.Tatum shares a candid life update—navigating motherhood, law school, entrepreneurship, and a recent season of burnout—and how God is shifting her perspective on pace, priorities, and what success really means in this season.This episode centers on a powerful truth: the solution to an overbusy life is not more time, but a slower, more intentional life rooted in what actually matters.What You’ll Learn in This EpisodeWhy more time will not fix your overwhelmHow to simplify your business model without sacrificing successThe difference between active income and asset-based wealthWhy you do not have to follow grind culture to build a successful businessHow embracing your limitations can bring peace and clarityWhat it means to define success as pleasing God, not producing outcomesHow surrendering control leads to true freedomKey TakeawaysYou do not have to be rushed to be rich or successfulEvery yes requires a thousand no’s—choose wiselyYour capacity is limited, and that is by designGod is not asking you to do everything, only what He assigned to youTrue success is obedience to God, not money, influence, or recognitionFaith + Business InsightThis episode explores the tension between potential and limitation. While we are made in the image of God and filled with purpose, we are still human and finite.Learning to accept both your potential and your limitations is essential to building a life and business that is sustainable, peaceful, and aligned with God’s will.Notable Quote“You don’t have to be rushed to be rich. You don’t have to be rushed to be successful.”Book Club PickWe’re reading: The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer - https://amzn.to/3Obiks5Mentioned in This EpisodeAnchored Media Studios: www.anchoredmediastudios.com Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• Every High Achieving Woman Needs This 20.03.2026 58min

  In this episode of Blessed + Bossed Up, Tatum takes time to rest and recover while revisiting one of the most impactful teachings she’s shared: the God Math Formula.If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, stretched thin, or stuck in survival mode, this episode invites you to take a different approach. Instead of striving, multitasking, and trying to do everything, Tatum breaks down a faith-based framework that brings clarity, peace, and alignment.This episode is not about doing more. It is about doing what matters most and trusting God to handle the rest.What You’ll LearnWhy survival mode requires deeper reflection, not quick fixesThe difference between worldly peace and God’s peaceHow hustle culture and internalized stress are affecting womenWhy slowing down can feel uncomfortable and what God may be refining in that processThe truth about multitasking versus multiplicationThe God Math FormulaConsecration + Concentration = MultiplicationConsecration (Your Responsibility)Setting your life apart for God through your daily decisions, habits, and priorities.Key Scriptures: Romans 12:1–2 1 Peter 1:15–16Concentration (Your Responsibility)Maintaining focused, intentional attention on God’s will by eliminating distractions and staying aligned.Key Scripture: Matthew 4:1–11Multiplication (God’s Responsibility)God expands what you offer Him beyond your natural capacity.Key Insight: Multitasking is not multiplication. Trying to do everything is stepping into a role that belongs to God.Biblical Examples of God Math in ActionMary, mother of Jesus: Her obedience positioned her to carry out God’s plan for salvationThe Shunammite woman: Her generosity led to supernatural provisionThe disciples: Their obedience with limited resources led to abundanceThe widow of Zarephath: Her faith in scarcity resulted in overflowPractical ApplicationTatum outlines a realistic, faith-centered daily rhythm that includes:Starting the day with prayer, Scripture, and stillnessBeing intentional with family and relationshipsWorking with focus and minimizing distractionsPracticing gratitude throughout the dayPrioritizing rest and restoration in the eveningKey takeaway: Harmony is not about having more time. It is about being intentional with the time you already have.Key TakeawaysAlignment is more important than activityPeace is not the absence of chaos but the presence of GodDiscipline is the key to sustainable transformationGod multiplies what you surrender and steward wellOur Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• Align Your Ambition with God & Build Life Harmony 15.03.2026 43min

  In this inspiring episode of Blessed and Bossed Up, Christian entrepreneur Tatum Temia answers listener questions about aligning ambition with God’s will, managing work-life harmony, and creating faith-based communities for women. She also shares a powerful testimony of her grandmother’s miraculous healing from stage four cancer, reminding listeners that God is faithful and sees every part of our lives.Whether you are a busy mom, entrepreneur, or professional, this episode is packed with practical guidance, spiritual encouragement, and real-life strategies to live a God-centered, purpose-driven life.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:1. Miraculous Healing TestimonyTatum shares the story of her grandmother. Through faith, prayer, and God’s guidance, she is now in remission. This testimony highlights:The power of trusting God in difficult seasonsHow prayer and faith can bring peace and restorationWhy God’s timing is perfect and how He works behind the scenes2. Aligning Ambition with God’s WillTatum answers a listener’s question about determining if their ambition is God-aligned. Key takeaways include:Pause and recalibrate: Avoid operating in hurry and burnoutExamine the root of ambition: Is it fueled by brokenness or a spirit of excellence?Apply the God Math Formula:Consecration: Abide in God dailyConcentration: Focus on what God assignsMultiplication: Experience supernatural results beyond your own efforts3. Work-Life Harmony for Moms and EntrepreneursTatum addresses the challenges of balancing career, business, ministry, and family life. She advises:Take a hard stop to evaluate priorities and healthUse your job as an investor: Save for your business or ministrySchedule time for spiritual growth: waking early, praying throughout the dayTransition from surviving to savoring every moment with family and God4. Building a Faith-Based Community for Women Trying to ConceiveFor women seeking support while navigating fertility journeys, Tatum provides tips on:Researching existing communities to understand needs and pain pointsEmphasizing peace, trust, and patience over anxietyCombining faith with practical steps like health, vitamins, or IVF guidanceUsing social media strategically to connect with your audience and grow communityActionable Steps from This Episode:Take a recalibration pause to evaluate the alignment of your ambition and priorities.Apply the God Math Formula in daily life to multiply your efforts spiritually and practically.Carve out dedicated time for prayer, ministry, or your business while keeping your career stable.Build or join a faith-based community that provides spiritual encouragement and practical resources.Savor your life: prioritize health, family, and God over constant productivity and achievement.Resources Mentioned:Previous episode: God Math Formula: https://www.blessedandbossedup.com/podcast/episode/1f420cff/god-math-the-spiritual-formula-every-busy-woman-needsOur Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• Holding Your Desires While Trusting God’s Timing 11.03.2026 40min

  This week on Blessed and Bossed Up, Tatum Temia dives deep into listener questions about balancing personal desires with God’s timing and navigating the complexities of Christian entrepreneurship. As we close out the first quarter of the year, this episode is a reminder to check in with your goals, your heart, and your faith.Tatum covers:Holding space for longings like marriage and motherhood without letting them consume your focus, even when God is calling you to pursue other seasons of life.Healthy ways to process disappointment and desire without shutting down emotionally or disassociating.The importance of enjoying your current season while preparing for future roles in life and leadership.Discerning action versus waiting in business: how to know when to move forward and when to sit and seek guidance from the Lord.The dwelling and abiding lifestyle—making God your constant dwelling place to cultivate peace, clarity, and confidence in your decisions.Real talk on the mental and spiritual challenges of Christian entrepreneurship and how to navigate the pressure, self-doubt, and decision paralysis with faith and wisdom.Whether you’re navigating personal desires, business growth, or both, this episode provides practical guidance and encouragement to live fully surrendered to God while pursuing your destiny.💌 Have a question for Tatum? Email her at Tatum@TatumTemia.com and you might hear it answered on a future episode!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• Why Rest Feels Unproductive (But Isn’t) 05.03.2026 40min

  In this episode of Blessed + Bossed Up, we continue the book club discussion of The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, exploring chapters 2 and 3. Tatum dives into the history of speed in modern culture and how technological advancement, shifting cultural values, and the rise of the attention economy have created a lifestyle of chronic busyness.From alarm clocks and the invention of the light bulb to smartphones and social media platforms, we unpack how the modern world has conditioned us to move faster, do more, and measure productivity by output rather than spiritual depth.But what is the real cost of this constant hurry?This episode challenges Christian entrepreneurs and busy believers to reconsider their definition of productivity, confront the hidden addiction to digital devices, and examine whether busyness is crowding out intimacy with God.If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, constantly rushed, or spiritually disconnected despite being productive, this conversation will help you recognize the deeper root of the problem—and prepare you for the solutions coming in the next episode.In This Episode We DiscussWhy hurry is considered the greatest enemy of the spiritual lifeThe historical shift from natural rhythms to artificial schedulesHow the invention of the light bulb and industrial work culture changed sleep and productivityThe cultural shift from leisure as wealth to busyness as statusThe decline of Sabbath practices in modern societyHow the digital age and smartphones fuel distraction and addictionThe psychology behind the attention economyThe concept of “hurry sickness” and its symptomsHow constant busyness can damage our spiritual healthWhy redefining productivity is essential for believersKey Takeaways1. Modern life is built around speed—not soul care. Historically, people lived according to natural rhythms—waking with the sun and resting after sunset. Today, alarm clocks, work schedules, and digital connectivity push us into an artificial pace that our bodies and spirits were never designed for.2. Busyness has become a status symbol. Where wealth once meant leisure and rest, modern culture celebrates packed calendars, long work hours, and constant productivity.3. Technology competes for your attention. Smartphones and social media platforms are intentionally designed to capture and keep your attention through dopamine-driven feedback loops.4. Hurry isn’t just stressful—it’s spiritual. When our lives move too quickly, we lose the space required for reflection, prayer, and genuine connection with God.5. Many of us are experiencing “hurry sickness.” This condition describes the constant feeling of being rushed, anxious about time, and trying to accomplish more in less time.Reflection QuestionsTake a moment to sit with these questions:Do you feel most productive only when you’re accomplishing tasks?Do you struggle to rest without feeling lazy or unproductive?Has busyness replaced intentional time with God?Could your pace of life be preventing you from hearing God clearly?Community Challenge: Digital SabbathThe episode proposes a powerful challenge inspired by the book:Turn off your phone for 24 hours.A digital Sabbath allows you to:Reset your mindBreak compulsive phone habitsCreate space for rest and spiritual reflectionConsider trying this with the Blessed + Bossed Up community and observe what shifts in your awareness and connection with God.What’s Coming NextThis episode focuses on diagnosing the problem of hurry. In the next episode, we’ll begin exploring the practical solutions John Mark Comer presents for slowing down and restoring spiritual health in a fast-paced world.Resources MentionedThe Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer: https://amzn.to/4aSvzqlOur Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• How Busyness Is Hurting Your Spiritual Life 26.02.2026 41min

  In this episode of Blessed + Bossed Up, Tatum kicks off the next book club series: The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer. https://amzn.to/4c9jPAKThis national bestseller, with over one million copies sold, presents a compelling spiritual and emotional case against hurry and challenges the culture of busyness that defines modern life.For ambitious women balancing business, motherhood, marriage, leadership, and personal growth, this conversation is both timely and necessary.Although originally planning to wait until after midterms, Tatum began rereading this book sooner because she recognized subtle signs of internal hurry resurfacing in her own life. This episode is not just a book discussion—it is a personal reset and an invitation for listeners to do the same.In this episode, she explores:Why high-achieving women are especially vulnerable to chronic overloadWhat current research reveals about women, stress, burnout, and time povertyHow busyness impacts cortisol levels, sleep, hormonal balance, and long-term healthThe invisible mental load many women carry dailyThe tension between ambition and contentmentWhy hurry is incompatible with love, joy, and peaceThe foundational question raised in the book: Who am I becoming?Drawing from both the book and her own experience in therapy, Tatum also shares practical tools that help interrupt internal hurry, including:Creating intentional transition time between responsibilitiesPracticing single-tasking instead of multitaskingScheduling real lunch breaks without scrollingGrounding exercises to regulate the nervous systemPausing in moments of rush to return to presenceOne of the central themes discussed in this episode is the idea that hurry is not merely a productivity issue—it is a spiritual formation issue.As the book argues, love, joy, and peace are core characteristics of apprenticeship to Jesus. Yet all three are incompatible with a life lived in constant speed. Presence is required for love. Stillness is required for joy. Margin is required for peace.Tatum challenges listeners to reflect deeply:Who are they becoming if nothing changes?Has hurry negatively impacted their marriage, parenting, friendships, or worship?Are they rushing toward a version of success they may not even like?Where has busyness quietly replaced intimacy with God?This episode also addresses a sobering reality: many Christians are not in danger of renouncing their faith—but of settling for a distracted, shallow version of it.The invitation is clear: eliminate hurry before it eliminates depth.Listeners are encouraged to grab a copy of The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry and follow along as the book club continues in the next episode.Because building a successful life should never come at the cost of the soul.If this episode resonates, share it with another ambitious woman who needs permission—and accountability—to slow down.Tune in next week as the discussion continues.Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• AI & the Christian Entrepreneur 23.02.2026 51min

  In this episode of Blessed + Bossed Up, we’re having a sober, faith-centered conversation about artificial intelligence—what it is, how it already shows up in daily life, and how Christian entrepreneurs should engage with it wisely.What AI Is (and why you’re already using it)AI is software trained on data to predict, recommend, recognize, or generate without being told every step. It’s embedded in:Google search suggestionsAutocorrect and text predictionYouTube/Netflix/Spotify recommendationsBanking fraud alertsEmail spam filters and inbox sortingFace ID, photo tagging, voice-to-textAI isn’t just ChatGPT—and it’s here to stay.The tension people feelMany people want AI’s benefits but feel cautious about trust, jobs, privacy, and misinformation. Others either avoid it completely or rely on it too heavily.The core boundary for believersUse AI for labor, not revelation. Don’t use AI to interpret scripture, replace prayer, or seek direction for what God told you to build. Use it for support work—drafting, organizing, brainstorming, or saving time—without replacing dependence on the Holy Spirit. AI can easily become an idol because it’s designed to learn you and feed you what you want.Why this is good news for entrepreneursAs AI content becomes overly polished, the market is shifting toward authentic, human-led content. People want real stories, real connection, and less perfection—meaning you don’t need “TV-level” production to show up and stand out.Practical ways to use AI wiselyDraft captions, emails, descriptions, SEORepurpose audio/video into clipsCreate basic graphics aligned to a brand guideAutomate simple customer support/FAQsStreamline admin and back-office tasksKeep the human connection: respond, engage, and make sure your voice stays present.Closing encouragementNow is a great time to launch what God called you to—without perfection—while using AI as a tool with wisdom, restraint, and spiritual discernment.Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• Neutrality, Wisdom & Walking in the Spirit 19.02.2026 44min

  In the previous episode, we were supposed to wrap up The Spirit-Filled Life by Charles Stanley. After waking up at 3 a.m. to record a full 57-minute episode, the final 17 minutes didn’t save. Rather than end abruptly, this episode finishes the discussion properly.We conclude our book club conversation by examining two final spiritual markers of the Spirit-filled life:The Word of GodWisdomWe also prepare for our next book club selection: The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer. We will begin in about two weeks after midterms, so go ahead and grab your copy now.Marker #3: The Word of GodCharles Stanley outlines three key reading principles that help believers live a Spirit-filled life.1. Look for Principles, Not Just PromisesMany believers are promise-centered, always searching for what God will do for them. But principles are more powerful for decision-making.A principle works like an equation:If you do A, expect B.If you ignore A, expect C.When you consistently study the Word, those principles become ingrained. You won’t need to pause life to search for answers. The Holy Spirit will bring truth to your mind in real time.For Christian entrepreneurs especially, this is critical. You must be able to:Make decisions quicklyMaintain spiritual accuracyMove without paralysisThat kind of discernment only comes when the Word is already in you.2. Read with Context — Remain NeutralOne of the most important themes of this episode is neutrality.Do not approach Scripture trying to get something out of it. Approach it to know Him.In an age of algorithms constantly feeding us what we already want to see, neutrality is difficult. But it is essential. Otherwise, we risk:Confusing digital marketing for confirmationConfusing algorithms for the Holy SpiritReading our desires into the text instead of receiving what it actually saysWhen you read neutrally, you allow the Word to confront you instead of you manipulating it to support what you already want.Neutrality produces peace, clarity, sensitivity, and maturity.If you approach Scripture asking, “How can I get God to work for me?” you will miss it.When you approach asking, “How can I be closer to Him?” everything changes.3. Look for General PromisesThere are promises given to all believers for all time, including:Jesus’ promise not to leave us as orphans (John 14:18)Grace and mercy when we approach God (Hebrews 4:16)Strength for the weary (Isaiah 40:31)While God still speaks, He has already spoken extensively through Scripture. Personal revelation should always be filtered through biblical truth.Approaching the Word strictly from a mystical or subjective lens is dangerous. Spiritual maturity requires emotional maturity, restraint, and accountability.Marker #4: WisdomThe final spiritual marker of a Spirit-filled life is wisdom.The defining question: What is the wise thing for me to do?Wisdom exposes hidden motives. It shines light on greed, selfishness, pride, and lust.Wisdom goes beyond right and wrong.Something may not be sinful — but it may still not be wise.The Holy Spirit does not merely pull us away from sin. He keeps us far from the edge.Walking in WisdomExamples discussed in this episode include:Disengaging instead of escalating when triggeredAvoiding environments that may not be sinful but are not wiseListening to internal promptings before temptation escalatesLeaving a social setting when wisdom says it is time to goThe Spirit-filled life is not about seeing how close you can get to the line without crossing it. It is about walking wisely and staying far from the brink.The Three-Dimensional Wisdom QuestionWhen making decisions, ask:What is the wise thing to do in light of my past experience?What is the wise thing to do in light of my present situation?What is the wise thing to do in light of my future hopes and calling?The Holy Spirit takes into account your history, your vulnerabilities, and your destiny. When He prompts you, it is for protection.Ignoring wisdom can have lasting consequences.Final ChargeIf you are not reading your Bible daily, start now.Buy a translation you understand. Read a little every day.Through daily reading, you give the Holy Spirit access to your mind and heart — access necessary for transformation.Next Book Club PickThe Ruthless Elimination of Hurry – John Mark ComerWe will begin in approximately two weeks. Grab your copy and begin reading so you are ready when we start.Additional Bible Study Resources Recommended by Charles Stanley30 Days to Understanding the Bible – Max AndersHow to Read the Bible for All Its Worth – Gordon D. Fee & Douglas StewartHow to Study the Bible – James BragaHow to Understand Your Bible – T. Norton SterrickTalk Through the Bible – Bruce Wilkinson & Kenneth BoaLiving by the Book: The Art and Science of Reading the Bible – Howard Hendricks & William HendricksOur Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• The Bible Is the Holy Spirit’s Thoughts on Paper 12.02.2026 43min

  In this episode of the Blessed + Bossed Up Book Club, we continue wrapping up The Spirit-Filled Life by Charles Stanley by exploring one of the most important markers of living in step with the Holy Spirit: the Word of God.If you want to know what the Holy Spirit is saying, you must know what He has already said. The Bible is not just a collection of stories—it is the Holy Spirit’s thoughts on paper. It is objective, timeless truth that anchors us when our emotions, desires, and circumstances try to pull us in different directions.In this episode, I share why Scripture is the most reliable way to discern God’s will, the difference between subjective and objective study, and how to approach the Word in a way that produces spiritual maturity. I also share personal reflections on discipleship, parenting, and how God uses everyday moments to redirect us back to His truth.We also announce our next Blessed + Bossed Up Book Club pick: The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer—a powerful follow-up that will help us establish a pace of life that keeps us aligned with the Spirit.Key TakeawaysThe Bible is the Holy Spirit’s most objective tool for revealing God’s willScripture is not just stories—it is a living, relevant, and authoritative guide for our livesMany believers rely too heavily on subjective feelings instead of objective truthSpiritual maturity requires balancing personal application with disciplined, objective studyPrinciples in Scripture provide timeless guidance for decision-makingEliminating hurry is essential to maintaining sensitivity to the Holy SpiritDiscipleship begins at home and in everyday conversationsScripture References2 Peter 1:20–21 — Scripture inspired by the Holy SpiritGalatians 6:7 — You reap what you sowProverbs 13:20 — The influence of your associationsProverbs 12:1 — Correction produces wisdomProverbs 12:19 — Truth endures2 Corinthians 9:6 — Generosity produces increasePhilippians 4:19 — God provides for His peopleBook Club Announcement: Our Next ReadOur next Blessed + Bossed Up Book Club selection is:The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark ComerThis book addresses one of the greatest threats to our spiritual sensitivity: hurry. It will help us establish rhythms that allow us to remain emotionally healthy, spiritually alive, and aligned with God’s pace.Get your copy and read along with us. https://a.co/d/0cBAB6G0Resources MentionedThe Spirit-Filled Life by Charles Stanley: https://a.co/d/0cBAB6G0The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer https://a.co/d/0cBAB6G0Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• Train Your Spirit Before the Test Comes 06.02.2026 42min

  In this episode, Tatum shares a timely message about building spiritual muscle memory—the discipline of training your spirit to respond automatically to God, especially in seasons of pressure, warfare, and transition.Just as physical muscle memory develops through consistent repetition, spiritual muscle memory develops through daily prayer, studying the Word, obedience, and intentional separation from environments that weaken your spiritual strength.This episode serves as both an encouragement and a call to action for those who know they are being stretched, tested, and prepared for greater responsibility. Tatum explains why spiritual consistency—not emotional intensity—is what sustains you through seasons of elevation and opposition.If you have been feeling pressure in multiple areas of your life, this episode will help you understand what is happening, how to respond, and how to strengthen your spiritual posture so you can stand firm in what God has called you to do.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:What spiritual muscle memory is and why it mattersWhy spiritual disciplines must become automatic, not occasionalHow consistent prayer strengthens your spiritual resilienceThe difference between repetition and quality repetition in spiritual growthWhy studying and understanding scripture deeply increases its effectiveness in your lifeHow environments and habits can either strengthen or weaken your spiritual positionThe importance of accountability in maintaining spiritual disciplineHow to proactively prepare for seasons of elevation and oppositionKey Concepts DiscussedSpiritual Muscle Memory Training your spirit to respond to God automatically through consistent prayer, scripture study, and obedience.Quality Repetition Not just hearing the Word, but studying it, writing it down, understanding it, and applying it so it becomes embedded within you.Proactive Spiritual Discipline Building strength before crisis occurs so your response is rooted in truth, not emotion.Separation and Protection Removing yourself from environments and habits that weaken your spiritual clarity and authority.Accountability and Spiritual Covering Strengthening your spiritual consistency through prayer partnerships and community.Scripture ReferencedEphesians 6:13–17 — The Armor of GodJames 5:16 — “The prayer of the righteous is powerful and effective.”Ephesians 6:12 — Spiritual warfare is not against flesh and bloodPractical Ways to Build Spiritual Muscle MemoryPray daily and consistentlyStudy and write down scripture to deepen understandingPut on the armor of God intentionallyRemove yourself from environments that weaken your disciplineEstablish accountability through prayer partnerships or communityMeditate on the Word so it becomes your automatic responseReflection QuestionsWhat spiritual disciplines have become inconsistent in your life?Where is God calling you to strengthen your spiritual foundation?What environments, habits, or distractions may be weakening your spiritual clarity?What daily practices can you implement to build spiritual muscle memory?Resources MentionedBibleHub.comBibleStudyTools.comGotQuestions.orgA study Bible for deeper context and understandingOur Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• The Core Competencies of Commitment 30.01.2026 41min

  In this episode of Blessed and Bossed Up, Tatum reframes commitment from a biblical perspective. Rather than defining commitment as discipline, motivation, or consistency, she defines it as spiritual restraint—the willingness to restrict your freedom of action in order to fully submit to God’s way.This teaching explores why commitment is a distinguishing mark of believers and how inconsistent restraint can quietly lead us from dependence on the Holy Spirit into self-sufficiency.Episode HighlightsA biblical definition of commitment as restraintWhy commitment is a marker of spiritual maturityHow good intentions can still lead to compromiseThe difference between good ideas and God ideasWhy God cares about how we start, continue, and finishBiblical Foundation: Asa and Jehoshaphat (2 Chronicles)Tatum examines the lives of King Asa and King Jehoshaphat to show how waning commitment and partial obedience produced long-term consequences.Both kings were generally faithful but inconsistent in restraint:Asa obeyed God early in his reign but later relied on alliances rather than the Lord.Jehoshaphat followed God in major decisions but compromised in daily and strategic ones.Their stories reveal that partial obedience and strategic compromise can open doors we never intended to open.The Five Core Competencies of CommitmentCommitment to the Lord should be distinguishable. These five competencies serve as markers of true spiritual commitment:A Clear and Clean Heart Commitment begins with the inner condition of the heart. Unaddressed pride, bitterness, anger, and self-reliance hinder obedience. Scriptures: Matthew 5:8; 1 Samuel 16:7Courage Courage is the spiritual strength to obey God despite fear, risk, or opposition. Obedience often requires moving forward without certainty. Scripture: Joshua 1:9Diligence Diligence is steady, faithful obedience over time. Longevity in calling, business, and ministry is built on faithfulness, not motivation. Scripture: Proverbs 21:5Precision Precision means doing exactly what God said—no more and no less. Dependence on God is required to walk out assignments with accuracy.Contentment Contentment is an inner sufficiency rooted in trust in God’s sovereignty, independent of external circumstances. Scriptures: Philippians 4:11–13; 1 Timothy 6:6–8Faith and Human BehaviorResearch shows that commitment bridges the gap between intention and action. Many people struggle not because they lack desire, but because they lack commitment.This biblical framework for commitment not only produces consistency in action, but also spiritual fruit, deeper intimacy with God, and alignment with His will.Closing ThoughtCommitment is not about productivity alone. It is about pleasing the Father, finishing the assignment, and stewarding the life God entrusted to us.If this episode blessed you, please leave a five-star review. Thank you for listening to Blessed and Bossed Up.Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
• Understanding Peace as a Spiritual Marker 26.01.2026 44min

  In this episode of Blessed + Bossed Up, we continue our book club discussion of The Spirit-Filled Life by Charles Stanley, wrapping up Part Three of the book. These final chapters focus on the spiritual markers the Holy Spirit uses to confirm God’s will—and today’s conversation dives into the first two: peace and the conscience.Tatum unpacks why peace is often the first and clearest indicator that the Holy Spirit is either affirming or resisting a decision. Through a powerful story from Charles Stanley’s own ministry—where waiting on God led to a debt-free miracle—this episode challenges the tendency to panic, self-rely, or rationalize disobedience when God seems silent.The episode also includes several personal testimonies illustrating how the absence or presence of peace has guided major life decisions, from entrepreneurship and ministry to relationships and family choices. These stories highlight that spiritual maturity is not a prerequisite for the Holy Spirit to lead—He speaks from the very beginning of our walk with God.In the second half of the episode, the discussion turns to Stanley’s second marker: the conscience. While acknowledging the biblical framework presented in the book, Tatum offers honest reflection and thoughtful critique, questioning whether the conscience should be treated as a distinct marker separate from the Holy Spirit’s work of renewing the mind. This portion of the conversation invites listeners into deeper discernment, encouraging them to study Scripture, pray intentionally, and test what resonates with the Spirit.The episode closes with practical reflection questions from the book to help listeners evaluate decisions they may be facing—especially when peace seems unclear or external advice conflicts with inner conviction.This episode is an invitation to slow down, listen closely, and trust that the Holy Spirit is actively leading—even when His direction doesn’t make logical senseOur Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out IXL and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com* Check out NerdWallet and use my code nerdwallet.com/blessed for a great deal: https://www.nerdwallet.com* Check out NetSuite and use my code netsuite.com/BLESSED for a great deal: https://www.netsuite.com* Check out Super.com and use my code super.com/credit for a great deal: https://super.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy