The Juxtaposition Podcast

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  Episode 151 | Don’t Settle: Christian Dating & Marriage Advice After 28 Years ft. Pastors Duane & Charlene Henry 24.08.2026 1h 5min

  What does it really mean to “not settle” in dating? In this honest episode of the Juxtaposition Podcast, Nana and Janet sit down with Pastor Charlene and Pastor Duane, who have been married for 28 years.They share practical Christian dating and marriage advice on recognizing red flags, setting healthy standards without creating unrealistic expectations, pursuing someone with respect, discerning relationships, navigating conflict, and keeping love strong over time. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, this conversation offers faith-filled wisdom for building healthy, lasting relationships.Timestamps00:00 — Don’t Settle: What It Really Means01:28 — Meet Pastor Charlene & Pastor Duane03:05 — What They Value After 28 Years of Marriage03:58 — How They Met Through Conversation06:48 — Why People Are Waiting Longer to Marry11:18 — The Biggest Relationship Challenges Couples Face13:26 — Commitment, Timing & Letting Love Develop Naturally16:07 — Pursuing Someone Respectfully19:18 — Healthy Standards vs. Unrealistic Expectations22:18 — Red Flags People Ignore Because of Attraction23:43 — Green Flags in a Healthy Relationship24:41 — Communication: Staying Connected Through Conflict30:34 — “God Told Me You’re My Wife”: Discernment vs. Pressure36:02 — Rejection, Intentional Pursuit & Asking for Counsel41:39 — Contentment in Singleness and Marriage45:58 — Protecting Your Marriage While Doing Ministry Together52:17 — Keeping the Spark Alive After 28 Years55:29 — Why Conflict Isn’t Always a Bad Sign58:16 — Lightning Round: Love, Romance & Everyday Joy01:04:17 — Closing PrayerIf you’re ready to unlearn unhealthy patterns and discover what healthy, God-centered relationships look like, this conversation is for you.It’s Deeper Than That Part 2: Healthy Relationships, God’s Way & Healing📅 Friday, September 4, 2026🕠 Doors Open: 5:30 PM📍 Portico Community Church🎟️ Get your tickets! https://www.eventbrite.com/e/deeper-than-that-20-healthy-relationships-gods-way-tickets-1992324749959?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAcGRvZgJleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZA85MzY2MTk3NDMzOTI0NTkAAae3t76_eOU_1igNkjCkPJUdZ75Pa1xKFXH89L8e6hsMQaAguuzVyxZMj3uKUw_aem_UsVYv26l_na4_ETltkUMDA
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  Episode 150 | Dry Bones Can Live Again 11.05.2026 33min

  What do you do when your faith feels dry?In this episode, we dive into Ezekiel 37 and the Valley of Dry Bones — a powerful picture of hopelessness, dead situations, and God’s ability to bring life back to what feels impossible.We talk about seasons where faith feels stagnant, prayers seem unanswered, and situations look too far gone to recover. From family struggles and spiritual dryness to waiting seasons, prayer, worship, and trusting God when nothing seems to be moving — this conversation is a reminder that God still revives dead things.Sometimes the miracle starts when you open your mouth and speak life again.Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro + losing the last episode audio03:33 – Ezekiel 37: The Valley of Dry Bones07:33 – Dead faith, hopeless seasons & hidden pain11:17 – Is there a cap on people’s faith?13:31 – Bearing fruit in every season14:22 – Worship can revive dry places16:20 – Serving, burnout & staying faithful18:23 – Mental health, hopelessness & speaking life20:19 – Prayer, prophecy & partnering with God22:29 – Spiritual warfare is real24:42 – Trusting God when situations look dead26:30 – Waiting on God vs rushing decisions29:36 – Declaring life over dry seasons30:20 – Final takeaways: speak when God tells you to speak32:20 – Outro + encouragement to revive dead areas of your life
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  Episode 149 | You Don’t Understand God’s Mercy… Here’s the Truth 04.05.2026 37min

  In this episode of The Juxtaposition Podcast, we break down the real meaning of God’s mercy and why so many people misunderstand it. Mercy is more than kindness—it’s not receiving the punishment we deserve, and it shows up in ways we often overlook. We talk about pride, stubbornness, and why people reject God’s second chances, using biblical examples like Pharaoh, while also connecting it to real-life struggles with forgiveness, anger, and faith. From everyday protection to deeper questions about suffering and injustice, this conversation challenges how you see God, grace, and your own life. If you’ve ever questioned God’s mercy or taken it for granted, this episode will push you to think deeper.Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro + funny moments02:20 – What is God’s mercy?05:00 – Mercy = not getting what you deserve08:50 – Pharaoh, plagues & God’s justice11:00 – Sin, death & grace13:15 – Pride, karma & rejecting God18:20 – Spiritual burnout & humility23:00 – Gratitude vs complaining25:30 – Showing mercy to others29:20 – Mercy in everyday life30:25 – Faith in suffering & hard questions35:00 – Final thoughts + outro
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  Episode 148 | The Struggle of Reading the Bible 20.04.2026 45min

  Ever read the Bible and felt completely lost?In this episode, we have an honest conversation about the frustration of reading Scripture without understanding it—especially when diving into deeper books like Hebrews.From relying on the Holy Spirit, to slowing down your reading, to letting go of pride and performance, we break down what it actually looks like to grow in your faith, even when nothing is “clicking.”We also dive into surrender, fear, and what might be holding you back from fully trusting God.If you’ve ever felt discouraged in your Bible reading, this episode is for you.Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro02:30 – Banter/Watching Crime Docs12:00 – Struggling with Hebrews15:40 – Reading without understanding18:30 – You can’t rely on yourself20:20 – Slow down your reading25:40 – Not knowing is okay33:50 – Fear & calling (Moses)41:00 – Trust, peace & surrender44:20 – Outro
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  Episode 147 | You Can’t Heal What You Won’t Reveal - Lamenting with God 13.04.2026 41min

  In this episode, we get real about lamenting, healing, and dealing with pain the right way.We talk about how our generation often avoids pain — choosing distractions, productivity, or isolation instead of actually bringing our emotions to God. But what does it truly mean to lament? Is it just crying… or is it something deeper?From personal stories about heartbreak, disappointment, and suppressed emotions to biblical examples like Job, David, and Moses — this conversation unpacks why healing isn’t instant, why you can’t skip the process, and how God meets you in it.If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure how to process what you’re going through… this episode is for you.Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro: Desire, waiting & real talk05:53 – What is lamenting?08:15 – How we deal with pain (distractions, isolation, “I’m fine”)13:31 – Vulnerability, emotions & avoidance17:15 – Unprocessed grief & where it comes from21:20 – Disappointment, faith & trusting God23:34 – Biblical perspective: waiting, pain & process27:09 – Why you can’t skip healing31:45 – Perspective, heartbreak & identity35:44 – How to actually heal (practical steps)39:36 – Final encouragement: healing takes time41:17 – Outro
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  Episode 146 | Why Correction Feels Like Rejection 23.03.2026 34min

  In a culture that craves affirmation and avoids discomfort, have we started choosing validation over truth?In this episode of The Juxtaposition Podcast, we dive into the tension between validation culture and godly correction. Why do we resist being corrected—even when it’s rooted in love? What fears, insecurities, or past experiences make us avoid wise counsel?From childhood wounds to fear of judgment, we unpack what stops us from opening up and seeking guidance. We also explore the power of honest friendships, the role of tone and humility, and how God uses correction not to reject us—but to refine us.If you’ve ever struggled with receiving truth, giving correction, or surrounding yourself with the right voices—this conversation is for you.Truth may hurt—but it heals. Choose growth over comfort.Timestamps:00:00 – Intro & Childhood Stories04:20 – Validation Culture vs Truth06:30 – Fear of Judgment & Avoiding Counsel10:20 – The Power (and Risk) of Being Transparent14:00 – Hearing Advice but Not Applying It16:20 – When Correction Feels Like Rejection20:00 – God’s Correction vs Our Projection22:00 – Truth in Friendship26:30 – Speaking Truth with Love28:30 – Tone, Transformation & Spiritual Growth31:00 – Knowing When & How to Speak33:30 – Final Reflections: Truth Over Comfort
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  Episode 145 | Clarity Without Conviction 16.03.2026 41min

  In this episode of The Juxtaposition, we dive into a hard but honest question:Do we really want God’s guidance… or do we just want to feel better?So many believers ask God for clarity, direction, and wisdom — but struggle when the answer requires repentance, patience, sacrifice, or obedience. From personal stories about debt, conviction, prayer struggles, and spiritual discipline, we unpack what it really means to follow God when His answer costs us something.Because the truth is:clarity often comes after obedience.If you’ve ever felt stuck spiritually, struggled with conviction, or questioned why God feels silent, this conversation might challenge the way you seek Him.In this episode we discuss:• Are we asking God questions to obey — or just for comfort?• Why conviction often feels uncomfortable• The battle between the Holy Spirit and our flesh• Why obedience unlocks clarity• How to respond when God prompts you to actSometimes the answers we’re praying for require a change we’re not ready to make.But what if the breakthrough is on the other side of obedience?
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  Episode 144 | Speed vs. Stillness: Are We Replacing God with AI? 02.03.2026 40min

  In a world of instant answers and AI-generated wisdom, have we lost the discipline of being still before God?In this episode of The Juxtaposition Podcast, we explore the tension between speed and stillness. Why are we more comfortable asking ChatGPT than waiting on the Holy Spirit? What does our impatience reveal about our faith?From microwave culture to spiritual formation, we unpack how busyness, perfectionism, and the need for control can slowly replace intimacy with God. If you’ve ever struggled with waiting, silence, or wanting quick clarity—this conversation is for you.Be still. He’s still speaking.Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro & The Big QuestionAre we asking AI what we should be asking God?08:00 – Why Silence Makes Us UncomfortableMicrowave culture, impatience, and control.20:30 – The Danger of Fast AnswersCreativity, faith, and spiritual laziness.31:00 – Waiting, Faith & “Be Still”Job, Psalm 46:10, and what God does in silence.36:00 – Final Reflections: Waiting Is Not Wasting
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  Episode 143 | Loving God or Just Performing for Him? 23.02.2026 44min

  After a 3-month hiatus, we’re back — and this conversation goes deep.In this episode of The Juxtaposition Podcast, we unpack something every Christian says they understand but many struggle to truly live in: the love of God. Do we actually know how to love God, or have we only learned how to serve Him? Is our relationship with Him rooted in intimacy, or performance?We wrestle with what it means to embrace God’s love beyond church service, ministry roles, and public gifting. What happens if God takes away the platform? Would you still feel close to Him? Is He proud of you right now — even in your inconsistency? Even in your delays? Even in your struggles?Through honest reflections on heartbreak, healing, insecurity, validation, and personal testimony, this episode challenges the idea that God’s love is based on merit. His love isn’t earned. It’s faithful. It’s consistent. And it isn’t shaken by your worst day.If God sat across from you and said, “You don’t have to impress Me,” how would that make you feel?Comment below and let’s talk.Like, share, and subscribe for more conversations bridging faith and culture.Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro & We’re Back After 3 Months3:00 – Life Updates (Workout Challenge + Banter)5:15 – Love Is Blind & Relationship Talk10:25 – Today’s Topic: Embracing God’s Love14:00 – Loving God vs Serving God19:00 – Why Do You Actually Love God? (Personal Testimonies)23:30 – Is God Proud of You? (Zephaniah 3:17)26:00 – Projecting Human Love onto God31:00 – Performance, Grace & Validation35:00 – Security in God’s Love43:00 – Final Reflection Question & Outro
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  Episode 142 | You’re Not Waiting — You’re Becoming ft Dr. Iyinoluwa Soforowa 17.02.2026 58min

  Are marriages failing because we skipped the work in singleness?In this episode, we’re joined by Iyin, author and founder of The Lady in the Waiting, for a powerful conversation on purpose in singleness, healing before marriage, and redefining love through a biblical lens.Iyin shares her personal journey of waiting while completing her PhD, navigating uncertainty, and hearing God speak, “Be still and know that I am God.” She created the ministry The Lady in the Waiting, a ministry helping women maximize singleness instead of rushing past it. And she wrote two devotional books called Becoming and Bloom We discuss:    •    Why unhealed singleness shows up in marriage    •    Breaking generational cycles and unhealthy patterns    •    Inferiority complexes, dating yourself, and godly friendships    •    Love as sacrificial, not performativeThis episode is for women who feel behind, restless, or unsure of what God is doing in their waiting season—and for anyone who desires to enter their next season whole.👉 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs this reminder.
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  Episode 141 | Our Proud Moments, Our Mistakes and Our Vision for Next Year 22.12.2025 35min

  In this episode, we talk about our year and how it went—reflecting on our growth personally, spiritually, and as a collective. We unpack what it looked like to work in our God-given gifts, delegate wisely, and stay focused as a team. From creativity and editing to administration and leadership, this season revealed how alignment brings clarity and fruit.We also reflect on spiritual growth that doesn’t always feel obvious in the moment, but becomes clear when you look back and see how God has shaped our voices, strengthened our faith, and deepened our understanding of His Word. This conversation highlights the importance of relying on the Holy Spirit, not just talent or resources, to build something sustainable.As we look ahead to 2026, the word is execution—moving from ideas to action with boldness and faith. We talk about breaking hesitation, creating community, expanding the vision, and stepping fully into what God has placed before us.This episode is about growth, obedience, and moving forward with purpose—together.
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  Episode 140 | Stop Thinking Like the Old You 10.12.2025 27min

  In this episode of The Juxtaposition Podcast, we dive deep into the mindsets that hold us back—fear, comparison, people-pleasing, procrastination, and the pressure to have it all figured out. Through honest storytelling and faith-filled reflection, we unpack how old patterns shape our choices and how God invites us into renewed thinking, boldness, and freedom. As we look toward 2026, we’re breaking cycles, confronting limiting beliefs, and learning to walk confidently in who God designed us to be.If you’re ready to stop thinking like the old you, this conversation will meet you right where you are.
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  Episode 139 | You Were Created to Solve a Problem 24.11.2025 35min

  In this episode, we break down The Assignment by Mike Murdock. We get into three powerful truths:that everything God created was designed to solve a problem,that you are a reward to someone on this earth,and that your assignment isn’t something you decide — it’s something you discover.We talk about what it means to see your life through God’s intention, how to recognize the problems you were uniquely shaped to solve, and how understanding your value changes the way you move through the world. Through honest conversation and practical insight, we explore why discovering your assignment is less about chasing answers and more about uncovering what God already placed inside you.If you’re searching for direction, clarity, or a deeper sense of purpose, this episode will help you recognize that your life isn’t an accident — it’s an assignment!
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  Episode 138 | Your Future Is Worth Fighting For — Escaping the Trap of Lust 17.11.2025 42min

  In this episode, we dive deep into the fight for purity in a world that constantly pulls us toward lust and compromise. We talk about what it looks like to maintain self-control when everything around you seems designed to break it—when temptation feels loud, triggers are everywhere, and culture normalizes what God calls us to rise above. We unpack the moments where lust hits hardest, the pressure of seeing others fall into sin, and even how watching people your age have kids can spark thoughts, comparisons, and temptations you never expected.We get real about relationships we fell short in—times we were blinded because we were in the middle of it, times when hindsight revealed the truth we couldn’t see then. We reflect on the grace that covered us, the prayers from others that protected us, and even the fear of disappointing our parents that kept us from going deeper into sin. This conversation is honest, raw, and meant to help you recognize that your future is worth fighting for—and you don’t have to fight for it alone.
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  Episode 137 | "People Don't Wait Well Because They Have Their Own Plans" 10.11.2025 56min

  There are seasons in life when trusting God feels impossible — when prayers seem unanswered, doors stay closed, and silence lingers longer than we expected. But faith isn’t about seeing; it’s about believing that God is working even when everything around you says otherwise.In this episode, we talk about what it means to truly trust God in the waiting — when life feels uncertain, when you expected to be further along, and when fear tries to take control. We’ll explore how to hold onto faith when the world feels chaotic, how to surrender expectations that weigh you down, and how to rest in the truth that God’s timing is never late.Through real conversations and scripture, we uncover why trusting God isn’t about understanding every step, but learning to walk with Him even when you can’t see the road ahead.00:00 - Intro 4:20 -  Christian Nigerians Being Killed / The World is on Fire9:45  - Trusting God in the Waiting Season 16:24 - Do you think things will happen if you seek him?22:43 - What are some things you thought you would've had25:24 - Why do you feel like it’s difficult to trust God 36:48 - A verse that is difficult for you to trust in 46:42: Do you feel like you embraced the love of God Follow us: bio.site/thethejuxtapositionpodcast
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  Episode 136 | The Cost of Being a Christian 03.11.2025 48min

  Often we think being a Christian is just about being a good person — but it’s much more than that. Following Jesus means denying yourself daily, dying to your flesh, and surrendering your own desires for the sake of His will. In this episode, we dive deep into what it truly means to count the cost of discipleship.Living for Christ isn’t always comfortable — it requires sacrifice, obedience, and perseverance when the world pulls you in every other direction. But through that process of surrender, God shapes us into who we’re called to be: more like Christ. We’ll explore how to embrace the challenges of faith, the beauty found in sacrifice, and why the cost of following Jesus is always worth it in the end.
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  Episode 135 | Christians & Halloween: Where's the Line? 27.10.2025 43min

  In this episode, we unpack the truth behind Halloween — why it’s often seen as a demonic day wrapped in glitter — and how, as Christians, we can sometimes be unaware of what we’re truly taking part in. We share what it was like growing up wanting to be part of the fun, the tension between fitting in and staying true to our faith, and Janet’s story about standing firm in her conviction at work. We also dive into people pleasing, spiritual awareness, and how even in all of it, God still has the power to redeem the day.
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  Episode 134 | Life After the Live Show: Faith, Friendship & a Little Matchmaking 20.10.2025 46min

  We’re back! In this episode, we catch up on life after the live show — what’s new, what’s changed, and how our views on relationships are evolving. From real-life updates to faith-filled conversations, we talk about what healthy relationships actually look like and how God continues to move in unexpected ways.We also dive into the power of real friendship — looking at Ruth and Naomi’s story and how loyalty, love, and commitment can shape both friendships and romantic relationships. Plus, we answer your Slido questions about matchmaking, family dynamics, and whether married folks should play cupid for their single friends.⏱️ Episode Breakdown:00:00 – Introduction02:41 – How Are We Doing05:00 – Live Show Success09:26 – How Healthy Have Your Relationships Been?27:00 – Should Married/Engaged People Set Up Their Single Friends?36:34 – Does Your Significant Other’s Family Dynamic Matter?43:18 – OutroFollow Us! bio.site/thethejuxtapositionpodcast
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  Episode 133 | Surviving Kidnapping, Mental Health & God's Grace ft Pastor Rick Carrol 14.07.2025 56min

  In this episode, we sit down with Pastor Rick Carrol of Portico Community Church, whose journey into faith began as a teenager during one of the darkest seasons of his life. From struggling with depression and identity to experiencing true spiritual transformation, his story is a powerful reminder that healing and purpose are found in Christ alone.With over 20 years in ministry, he shares the key moments that shaped his calling, his passion for helping others engage scripture deeply, and the importance of authentic relationships in the Christian walk.
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  Episode 132 | Kingdom Conversations: Identity & Truth in a Confused World ft Kingdom Culture TV 07.07.2025 44min

  In this episode, we dive into the real struggles this generation faces—identity, confusion, spiritual warfare—and how the church can better meet us where we are. From the influence of media to the quiet power of compromise, we explore why belief doesn’t always equal freedom, and how to guard our hearts in a culture of distraction. If you’re hungry for authenticity, clarity, and deeper connection with God, this one’s for you.Follow Aaron and Milena: https://www.instagram.com/kingdomculture.tv/https://www.youtube.com/@kingdomculture.tv./videosFollow us! bio.site/thethejuxtapositionpodcast