Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau

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  Ep 20. You Don't Have to Become Unrecognizable Before You Leave 23.07.2026 19นาที

  In this episode, we chat: Why you don't have to wait until you are a shell of yourself, hanging on a thread, practically on life support to leave or change your boundaries in that friendship, relationship, job, or business partnership. What you'll learn in this episode: • The difference between sacrificing yourself and making a willful sacrifice that doesn't steal from you • Recognizing when to say WHEN... early, rather than waiting until you are completely exhausted and unrecognizable to make a decision for yourself • Why noticing that something is... off over and over again—and having an internal WAR with yourself about it—might just be enough. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 19 "I've Already Invested Too Much" (Says Who?) 16.07.2026 27นาที

  In this episode, we chat: Staying in a relationship, job, career, or friendship longer than you planned because of the investment of....time even when you're stressed, unhappy, and dissatisfied and... how to gain the courage to choose different. What you'll learn in this episode: • The sunk-cost fallacy and what you might be doing early on that causes you to stay even when you're questioning the relationship, the friendship, the business, or the job. • Why your pride might actually be keeping you in that relationship, job, career, or friendship-- NOT embarrasment, fear of what people may think, or the investment of "time". • You don't have to endure and survive a job, a friendship, or a relationship-- and nearly fall apart and lose your mind in the process-- just because they have *some* good traits that you enjoy amongst all the alarming ones. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 18 Am I Overthinking it or is Something Off? 09.07.2026 18นาที

  In this episode, we chat: That moment when you're getting to know a friend, someone you're dating, a new workplace, someone you are considering collaborating with and you feel something is... off. You can't put your finger on it, but something isn't... right. But are you overthinking it? Are you being judgemental? Should you just... wait and see?  What you'll learn in this episode: • Why whimsical, optimistic girls often overthink a situation that they usually... are right about the first time. • The importance of leaning into your God-given discernment when it comes to clocking when something is... off. • How wondering if you're overthinking what you're seeing may actually be a sign that you struggle with trusting your own perception and... what to do about it. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 17. How Allowing Embarrassment builds Agency and Confidence 02.07.2026 30นาที

  In this episode, we chat: Embarrassment-- it has a bad reputation. Let's fix that. This week, we introduce a fresh perspective on confidence, embarrassment, and why your willingness to look a little foolish may be one of your greatest assets. What you'll learn in this episode: • The relationship women with a strong sense of agency and confidence have with embarrassment compared to those with lower self-esteem. • The relationship between pride and your capacity to experience embarrassment—and how both influence your willingness to pursue success. • How your capacity to experience embarrassment impacts your ability to fulfill God's purpose and assignment for your life. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 16 Routines and Consistency for the Spontaneous, Whimsical Girl 25.06.2026 23นาที

  In this episode, we chat: Why you're not "bad" at sticking to routines, inconsistent, or undisciplined... you just might need to tweak how you approach routines especially if you're a spontaneous, fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants type of gal. What you'll learn in this episode: How to actually STICK to your routines even when they feel and seem, well, borringg. How routines actually bring out MORE of your playfulness and whimsy A whole new way to view consistency-- and no, this does not look like get it PERFECT or give up. Permission to breathe. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 15. Protect Your Whimsy: Friendship Edition 18.06.2026 27นาที

  In this episode, we chat: How they say... you're the "sum of the 5 closest people around you." And while I personally find that particular phrase to be a bit corny, I've come to realize... there's wisdom in that phrase, especially, for the whimsy girl. What you'll learn in this episode: What friendship characteristics negatively impact whimsy, vibrant, playful, and emotionally alive women and which friendship characteristics to look out for as a whimsy girl to support you in your joy and curiosity How to go about finding and cultivating friendships as an adult whimsy girl-- it's not as hard as you think. Why some whimsy girls are meant to have large friend groups and others, 1-2 close friends and why both... are more than okay. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 14 The Return and Reclamation of Whimsy 11.06.2026 28นาที

  In this episode, we chat: Whimsy as aliveness, joy, optimism, delight, and vibrancy--- NOT childishness-- and why all things whimsical deserve a front seat in your life. What you'll learn in this episode: Why whimsy AND sophistication can exist together at once-- a conversation on how paradox can and should work together really beautifully Whimsy as a reclamation of yourself, your agency, and who God created you to be How whimsy is spiritual and God's gift over your life and a key aspect of your life's purpose IG: @clearernotlouder Read More  
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  Ep 13 Betrayal, Grief, & Why No One Is Above the Program 04.06.2026 20นาที

  In this episode, we chat: The grief and utter SHOCK that comes when relationships and friendships you thought would last... forever end. In this episode, we chat how remembering that no one is above the program might actually take you from difficulty accepting what happened to a calm peace and ability to finally move on with strength and dignity. What you'll learn in this episode: What "no one is above the program" when it comes to betrayal in relationships means and how it might actually help you process the betrayal and grief. Why betrayal isn't as personal as you think it is (even though it feels like it was custom-made just for you, I know!) The liberation that comes from accepting things as THEY ARE not as you wish them to be and... how to get there. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 12. Arriving in Singlehood (and Letting Go of Idolatry of Marriage & Relationships) 28.05.2026 34นาที

  In this episode, we chat: What it's like when being single no longer feels like a problem to solve, a challenge to overcome, or something to trevail. In this episode, we discover the confidence, security, contentment, and PEACE that comes from arriving in singlehood and we confront the idolatry of marriage and relationships that... may be preventing you from getting there. What you'll learn in this episode: The difference between arriving in singlehood and treating being single like something to "get through" The 4 things that can indicate idolatry of Marriage and/or relationships The 4 things that indicate your arrival into singlehood (and contentment in it!) IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 11 Love is Not Enough Part 5-- Dating Lessons from My 30's. 21.05.2026 35นาที

  Why love... is not enough. Part 5. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Navigating dating men who are insecure and the difference between a man who likes you vs. likes what you can do for him,  Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These FINAL 3 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road
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  Ep. 10 Love is Not Enough-- Part 4 Dating Lessons From my 30's 14.05.2026 32นาที

  Why love... is not enough. Part 4. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 3 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road Navigating when a relationship seems good on PAPER with no obvious "problems" yet and still you feel something is OFF and remain restless in the relationship
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  Ep 9 Love is Not Enough Part 3-- Dating Lessons from my 30's 07.05.2026 32นาที

  In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. Part 3. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 2 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road Positive, real life examples of what relational responsibility and caregiving temparament might look like in the RIGHT relationship-- a continued discussion from last week's episode.
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  Ep 8 Love is Not Enough Part 2-- Dating Lessons From my 30's 30.04.2026 38นาที

  In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. Part 2. What I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 4 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road How I learned these lessons personally in my previous relationships--- the HARD way IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 7 Love is Not Enough Part 1-- Lessons from my 20's. 23.04.2026 36นาที

  In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. The mistakes I made in my previous relationships. And what I got RIGHT in my 20's when it came to dating and what I undermined and didn't realize was important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone. You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: What I was evaluating and looking for in relationships that I actually got right and have taken with me in my 30's Where I've matured (and how you can too so you don't make my mistakes!) when it comes to really evaluating compatibility and saving yourself unnecessary STRESS. What I got WRONG in my 20's and would no longer dismiss (every woman should know these!) IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 6. What Are You Willing to Endure? 16.04.2026 19นาที

  In this episode, we chat: A fresh perspective on the  the ever-recylced  conversastions around "Know[ing] Your Standards" and "Know[ing] Your Worth" through discussion of how to begin putting it into practice by examining and holding a magnifying glass to what you are willing to endure What you'll learn in this episode: Determining what you'are willing to endure in relationships and what its costing you. The difference between well-placed duty and misplaced duty and what its costing you in relationships (and not to mention with your sanity and self-esteem!) What scripture actually has to say about enduring things in life that are depleting you, taking from you, and causing you death by a thousand cuts IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 5 On Boundaries and Having a Strong "Internal No" 09.04.2026 20นาที

  In this episode, we chat: What it really looks like to have a strong internal "no"—the kind that doesn't wobble when it comes to your standards and principles—and why some of our no's feel clear while others feel… negotiable. What you'll learn in this episode: What it looks like when your "no" isn't fully decided—and why you find yourself going back and forth on things you already said were standards. The subtle difference between being led by your feelings versus being led by your principles—and how that shows up in your tone, how quickly you're able to respond, and your overall clarity. The four ways people with a strong internal "no" move—what makes it easier for them to stay solid in their decisions and boundaries without going back and forth. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 4 "When 'Let's See How It Goes' Costs You: A Red Flag You're Probably Overlooking in Work, Business, and Relationships" 02.04.2026 25นาที

  In this episode we chat: Why we keep saying "let's see how it goes", what it costs is to ignore the GLARING red flag when something feels.... off, and how to start thinking and moving differently. You'll hear how to spot where you're taking on unnecessary misery and CONFUSION and how to make decisions that actually serve you—without going back and forth, without the noise, and with a whole lot of clarity. What You'll Learn in This Episode: "Let's see how it goes" can be costly—learn to notice the red flags before they cost you. Focus on what you can control: your actions, your standards, and your energy-- and invite God into the process Make a departure with self-negotiation and begin to lead with choices that protect your time, peace, and future. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep. 3 How You Deliver Honesty Matters 26.03.2026 27นาที

  In this episode we chat: An HONEST conversation about how delivery MATTERS when it comes to honesty inasmuchas the message itself and how it can either strengthen or erode trust when it comes to relationships both romantic and platonic What You'll Learn in This Episode: Navigating "I was just being honest" conversations Honesty that controls and manages vs. the honesty that edifies Stewarding and sharpening your own relationship with honesty- both in how you give it and how you receive it from the people you trust IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 2. Restraint as a Form of Power 19.03.2026 28นาที

  In this episode we chat: Stewarding your voice when it comes to handling conflict, frustration, and points of contention with people without stepping out of YOUR character and simultaneously, without being a doormat. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How to handle situations where you're frustrated with someone and even tempted to lash out at them without giving into your ego/into your flesh Where you might be getting into God's business when it comes to handling people in confrontation and points of contention Being "nice" vs. being kind and why being nice does NOT work in boundary setting How to set boundaries with people who are frequently defensive, offended, and inflamed in conversation. IG: @clearernotlouder
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  Ep 1. Presence over performance 11.03.2026 22นาที

  Welcome to the FIRST epsiode of Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau (formerly known as the Self Love Fix Podcast)! In this episode we chat: The difference between presence and performance—and why leaning into presence can cause effortlessly shift your ability to connect to others in everyday conversation and in relationship EASILY and in a RELAXED manner. Think dropping the act of APPEARING a certain way and being HYPERVIGILANT to how others are perceiving you. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How God slowed me down and showed me the power of presence-- inadvertently-- through two hobbies I picked up during my year-long hiatus: baking and gardening. The difference between how people experience you and how you experience others depending on whether you are oriented in presence or performance How presence vs. performance shows up in everyday life (in ways you might not even notice or think about!) Practical- and easy- steps to start cultivating presence in your life IG: @clearernotlouder