Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity

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  256. You're Not a Burden: Advocating for Yourself with Chronic Illness or High Sensitivity w/ Celiac Coach, Jen Fitzpatrick 11.08.2026 40นาที

  For most highly sensitive people, advocating for a physical need feels like being a burden. Jen Fitzpatrick, a celiac advocate and founder of the Confident Celiac Community, joins Alissa to talk about the years she spent staying quiet about her own needs and the shift that finally changed it.The tension is one a lot of HSPs with a chronic condition know well. Speaking up is what keeps you safe, but every people pleasing instinct says stay quiet instead. Alissa and Jen unpack why that instinct runs so deep and how to move through it anyway.Pulling from Jen's diagnosis story, a study abroad trip where she watched everyone else eat what she couldn't, and Alissa's own experience navigating her daughter's recent diagnosis, the conversation moves through shame, community and self worth.In this episode, you'll learn:Why highly sensitive people are especially likely to stay quiet about a chronic health needJen's own story of cross contamination scares and learning to advocate for herself after years of people pleasingThe simple swap that changed everything for Jen, saying thank you instead of sorryWhy choosing ten seconds of social discomfort is almost always worth it over days of physical painHow finding community turned a hard diagnosis into something less isolating for both Jen and AlissaFollow Jen:Website: https://www.thenomadicfitzpatricks.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenomadicfitz Self-Love Toolkit: https://the-nomadic-fitzpatricks-gluten-free.teachable.com/p/celiac-self-love-toolkit-1059254 Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  255. Character Development and What Your North Node Reveals About the Person You're Becoming 04.08.2026 17นาที

  In this episode, Alissa breaks down why every hard season is building something in you that easy seasons never could, tracing the idea back to astrology, her own birth chart, and a realization that caught her off guard through her daughter Blaine's health diagnoses. She walks you through how to see every uncomfortable, triggering situation as character development and opportunities for growth.In this episode, you'll learn:What your North Node and South Node reveal about your natural strengths versus the traits you're still growing intoHow raising her daughter through celiac disease and Type 1 diabetes diagnoses is developing the structured, disciplined side of Alissa that used to feel completely foreignWhy a demanding boss, an unexplained health symptom, or another uncomfortable dynamic might be pointing to a part of your character that's ready to developThe difference between staying in a toxic environment and choosing a challenge that's actually building youWhat the growth gap is and why the space between your old identity and your new one feels so uncomfortableWhy letting fear of judgment, like worrying what old classmates will think, keep you from starting something is really just self-sabotage in disguiseUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  254. Stop Reading Silence as Rejection: The HSP Fawn Response Explained 28.07.2026 19นาที

  When someone's energy feels a little different than usual, quieter, colder, more reserved, your mind starts filling in the silence with a story about what you did wrong.This week Alissa breaks down where that hypervigilance actually comes from and why your mind rushing to assume the worst rarely has anything to do with what's actually happening.Pulling from her own patterns and stories from women in the Not Too Sensitive Club, Alissa walks through how to catch the spiral before it takes over. In this episode, you'll learn:Why your mind rushes to fill in the silence when someone seems distant or short with youThe childhood origin of hypervigilance and why it gets mistaken for high sensitivityHow to create space between a triggering moment and the story you decide to believe about itThe exercise for completing the anxiety loop and realizing you could survive the worst case scenarioWhy overcompensating to win over a cold or quiet person is really about your own comfort, not the connectionHow choosing a new response in triggering moments builds a steadier, more confident identity over timeUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  253. How To Energetically Protect Yourself + Not Take It Personally When Others Project Onto You 21.07.2026 13นาที

  This week's episode comes from a riff request in the Not Too Sensitive Club group chat, a question about how to stop taking it personally when someone seems committed to disliking you, especially when you're wired to feel that discomfort in your body.It's uncomfortable to sense someone judging you, and every instinct says to win them over. Alissa offers a different move: recognizing whose story this actually is.She walks through what projection usually means psychologically, the energetic practices she uses before and after being around someone who triggers this, and why she'd rather be disliked for being herself than loved for shrinking. In this episode, you'll learn:Why someone projecting negativity onto you is usually about an unexamined part of them, not evidence of something wrong with youThe difference between setting a boundary with someone and pretending their treatment of you doesn't hurtHow to use an energetic bubble and cord cutting before and after spending time with someone who triggers this patternWhy staying small and people pleasing can protect you from the discomfort, but why that's not the goalHow to let someone's dislike of you be their thing to carry instead of yoursUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  252. No One Else Gets to Decide That You're "Too Much" or "Not Enough" 14.07.2026 19นาที

  In this solo episode, Alissa names the exhaustion of shape shifting to fit an imagined mold of what's acceptable, and offers the alternative: deciding, every day, who you are and how you want to show up.Sparked by comments on a viral Instagram post about owning being "too much," Alissa calls out the excuse that other's won't let you be your true self. She's not buying the narrative that other people's discomfort is proof something is wrong with you. Pulling from her own story and pattern she keeps hearing from women in the Not Too Sensitive Club, she shares ways you can take back your power and decide who you are going to be. In this episode, you'll learn:Why trying to fit into everyone's idea of acceptable costs you pieces of yourself The real difference between wanting connection and needing everyone's approval What moving to California from Minnesota taught Alissa about owning her differences instead of hiding them Why overthinking after a social interaction is your nervous system reading it as a threat to belonging, not a character flaw How self-worth changes the entire experience of imperfect social moments Why healing your triggers matters as much as understanding where they came fromUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  251. So What if People Judge You? How to Embrace Being "Cringe" and Build Sky High Self-Trust 07.07.2026 25นาที

  Alissa recently shared a post that said "please be too much," and it went viral, reaching over 2 million people after nearly two years of feeling like her work wasn't getting seen. But this episode isn't really about going viral. It's about what happened in those two quiet years before it, and why the willingness to show up anyway, even when you feel embarrassed, judged, or invisible, is what actually builds confidence and self-trust.For sensitive people, the fear of being seen trying runs deep. Alissa offers two words that changed her life: so what?She shares the stories behind it, from being mocked by people she went to high school with, to an email that hit her most painful insecurity square in the chest, to the six years of unseen work that led to her book deal with Penguin Random House. You don't wait until you feel healed and confident to start. You start, and that's what makes you confident.In this episode, you'll learn:Why "so what?" are two of the most freeing words when you're afraid of being judgedWhat showing up without applause does for your identity and self-trust over timeWhy waiting until you feel fully healed to take action is actually fear and control in disguiseHow saying you want something but never acting on it quietly erodes your trust in yourselfWhat it looks like to treat triggers as stepping stones instead of stop signsThe difference between responding from your sensitive shadow archetype and your sensitive strength archetypeUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  250. The Art of Feeling Everything Without Falling Apart 30.06.2026 18นาที

  In this solo episode, Alissa shares the duality she's been living inside, where heartbreak over a forever diagnosis sits right next to genuine blessing, and offers a way to honor every feeling without letting those feelings run the show.Through real moments from her own week, the 7am overwhelm she interrupted with gratitude, the choked up drive home from the doctor, the surprise of a new car the same afternoon, she gets honest about what it really means to be steady. Being unbothered was never about feeling less. It's about feeling all of it and still choosing how you move forward.In this episode, you'll learn:Why holding duality, the joy and the grief together, is one of the most important skills for a sensitive personWhat it means to honor your feelings without letting your feelings make every decisionHow a quick gratitude rampage can pull you out of a morning spiralHow to catch the moments you slip into "why is this happening to me" and choose a higher perspective insteadThe difference between pushing past a hard feeling and actually moving through itUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  249. Being Seen: How to Put Yourself Out There Even When You're Afraid of Being Misperceived 23.06.2026 27นาที

  Being seen means being judged. In this episode, Alissa lays out why that's not a reason to stay small, and what it actually takes to let other people have an opinion of you without losing yourself in it.For HSPs, this isn't just a confidence issue. It's energetic. You feel it when someone misreads you, when a comment lands sideways, when the room shifts after you share something you're proud of. The instinct is to pull back, smooth it over, or shrink to keep the peace. Alissa pulls from her own experience, including a pointed DM from a stranger who made it clear she wasn't a fan, and from a client who just hit a major life milestone and immediately felt the weight of other people's reactions. In this episode, you'll learn:Why being judged is actually a sign you're doing something that mattersThe "zoomed out lens": how to observe someone's reaction without taking it on as your ownWhat it really means to allow someone the dignity of their own experience, including their jealousy or discomfort with your successPractical energy-clearing techniques for releasing what doesn't belong to youWhy dimming yourself to protect other people's feelings costs you more than it saves themUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  248. Wanna Become Unbotherable? Start By Building Resilience 16.06.2026 23นาที

  For HSPs navigating a world that wasn't built for them, the default can become: everything is hard, no one understands, and discomfort is a signal to retreat.In this solo episode, Alissa challenges that frame directly. She shares how her life experience has shaped her view of challenges.So even with the newest challenge life is giving her, to raise her daughter Blaine through a Type 1 diabetes and celiac diagnosis, she knows this discomfort is not something to escape but the exact thing that is building her confidence that she can handle the life she wants.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why expanding your tolerance for discomfort is the foundation of feeling steady and unbothered in your daily lifeHow resilience shows up as curiosity about what a triggering moment is pointing toThe cost of living as the "effect" of everything around youWhy being an open-hearted, sensitive person in a non-sensitive world is something to own, not apologize forHow every trigger and insecurity that surfaces is an invitation to strengthen something within yourselfUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  247. Allow Others the Dignity of Their Own Experience 09.06.2026 22นาที

  In this episode, Alissa revisits one of the most important distinctions for highly sensitive people: the difference between caring about someone and carrying their experience as your own. Using real examples from clients and her own life, she unpacks why the impulse to manage other people's emotions is actually anxiety disguised as empathy.For HSPs who grew up as the peacekeeper, the fixer, or the emotionally responsible one, this pattern runs deep. The discomfort of watching someone be disappointed, frustrated, or hurt can feel so unbearable that smoothing it over becomes automatic. But Alissa names what that actually costs: your steadiness, your self-worth, and your ability to show up with any real integrity.You’ll Learn:Why the urge to smooth things over or manage someone's reaction often comes from your own discomfort, not from genuine careThe difference between high self-worth and self-abandonment when someone pushes back on a boundary you've setHow HSPs who grew up as caretakers or peacekeepers learned to tie their sense of safety to other people's emotional statesWhat it looks like to let someone have a hard feeling without making yourself responsible for changing itWhy allowing people the dignity of their own experience is an act of respect, not indifferenceUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  246. How to Stop Feeling Like a Burden and Allow Yourself to "Inconvenience" Others 02.06.2026 26นาที

  In this solo episode, Alissa explores one of the most deeply ingrained patterns she sees in highly sensitive people: the belief that having needs makes you a burden.For HSPs, this is a story that gets built early, when your emotional reactions were “too big”, when your needs felt different from everyone else's, and when the people around you responded with frustration instead of understanding. That story then follows you into adulthood, into relationships, and even into restaurants where you over-apologize to the waitress for ordering plain chicken.You’ll Learn:Why HSPs are especially vulnerable to good girl conditioning and how it shows up in relationships, work, and healthWays you may be getting something out of being the over-apologizing, people pleaser that ends up keeping you stuck. How your triggers in moments of self-advocacy are actually your best opportunities to build self-worthWhat it means to expand your tolerance for discomfort so other people's reactions stop running the showWhy letting people help you, and asking for what you need, is a signal of openness, not weaknessUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  245. Why Everything You've Been Through Was Preparing You for This 26.05.2026 20นาที

  In this solo episode, Alissa shares a deeply personal update about her daughter's new celiac disease diagnosis and what it revealed about the way life equips you long before you understand why.Years of navigating her own severe digestive issues, strict diets, and the emotional weight of feeling different gave Alissa a toolkit she never expected to need for her child. She connects that thread to the broader truth about how sensitivity, struggle, and the discomfort of being "too much" are never wasted.You’ll Learn:The difference between riding the wave of hard emotions and getting stuck in "why is this happening to me" energyHow confidence is built through withstanding discomfort A Not Too Sensitive Club member's story of staying steady in the face of someone else's judgmentThe shift from living as the effect of your environment to sourcing your own steadiness: Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  244. My Daughter's Diagnosis + The Spiritual Reframe That Will Change How You See Hardship 19.05.2026 28นาที

  Alissa opens up about the very challenging season of life her and her family have recently been thrust into. Her three year old daughter Blaine was suddenly diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes, and navigating it has revealed so much about the power of sensitivity, the discipline of steadiness, and the choice to see growth inside the pain.In this episode:How Alissa's sensitivity helped her catch her daughter's diabetes earlyThe practice of being steady and grounded for your child while separately making space to feel everything, cry, and lean on people who can hold itWhy the adjustment period after a life disruption often means you stop caring for yourself first, and how to return to yourself.The shift from "this isn't fair" to "I was given this because I can carry it."How Alissa's faith has been an anchor for her through this experience.The Not Too Sensitive Club protocol reframes challenges as expansions.Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  243. Throwback: The Overfunctioning Empath (How To Stop Feeling Overly Responsible for Everyone Else) w/ Matt Landsiedel 12.05.2026 45นาที

  This episode is one of the most downloaded episodes of the podcast, and for good reason!Alissa chats with Matt Landsiedel about the pattern so many empaths know but rarely name: feeling overly responsible for everyone else's energy, emotions, and well-being.Together they unpack the deeper reasons HSPs fall into overfunctioning, where empathy ends and codependency begins, and what it looks like to stop rushing in to save everyone around you.If you missed this one the first time or need the reminder, this is your sign to press play.You'll Learn:Why empaths often carry a sense of responsibility that was never theirs to holdThe subtle difference between deeply feeling someone's pain and making it your job to fix itWhat overfunctioning actually looks like in everyday relationshipsPractical ways to pause before stepping into the "rescuer" roleConnect with Matt:IG: @inspiredtobeauthenticYoutube: Inspired to Be AuthenticUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  242. Social Anxiety, Self-Worth, and the Real Reason You Overthink Every Conversation w/ Claire Eastham 05.05.2026 48นาที

  This week, Alissa sits down with social anxiety coach and author Claire Eastham to unpack where that fear really comes from and what it takes to stop performing your way through every interaction.Claire shares how years of masking and people-pleasing led to a nervous breakdown, and how embracing the very traits she'd been told were "too much" became the turning point. Together they explore why sensitive, empathic people are especially prone to over-scripting social situations and why the goal was never to stop feeling uncomfortable.This conversation is equal parts honest and light, full of personal stories, practical strategies, and the kind of permission-giving reframes that change how you show up. The real shift isn't becoming someone who doesn't get anxious. It's becoming someone who doesn't need to hide it.In this episode:Why social anxiety develops from early experiences of being told you're "not okay" the way you are, and how the brain starts treating social situations as threatsThe two patterns people fall into: total avoidance or over-preparing and scripting every interaction, and why neither leads to real connectionHow naming your anxiety out loud in the moment can cut it in half and why the shame of being "found out" is often worse than the anxiety itselfClaire's approach to gradual exposure with a specific goal, broken into small steps, paired with genuine rewardsThe power of replacing small talk with real questions and why curiosity is a better social strategy than performanceWhy the most magnetic version of you isn't a polished persona but the one who's actually comfortable being themselvesConnect with Claire:Website: https://substack.com/@thatsocialanxietycoach?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=5bv5psInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/claireeasthamuk/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wereallmadhere00My new book 'Party with Panic: How to Conquer Panix Attacks (for good)' Is available to pre-order now and will be published on 11th May. For every copy sold I will donate 50p to the charity MQ . https://amzn.eu/d/06xOHhPOUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  241. Was I Enough? How To Stop Ruminating After Social Situations 28.04.2026 25นาที

  In this epsidoe, Alissa explores the post-social spiral that so many highly sensitive people get trapped in, and the surprisingly simple tool she uses to stop it in its tracks.Alissa shares two recent experiences of her own, one at a casual social gathering where she felt quieter than usual, and one at a networking event that pushed her way outside her comfort zone. She also pulls from a live coaching call inside the Not Too Sensitive Club, where a member shared her own version of this breakthrough that stopped the spiral.What you'll hear in this episode:Why the post-social replay isn't a sign you did something wrong: it's a self-protective pattern rooted in past experiences of rejection or judgmentHow Alissa mentally files a worry away and commits to not reopening itThe difference between recognizing something you'd do differently next time and punishing yourself for how you showed upWhy sensitive people often feel pressure to be "on" in every interaction, and what shifts when you stop trying to manage how others perceive youUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  240. You Might Be in an Identity Crisis and Not Even Know It 21.04.2026 24นาที

  Drawing from a recent coaching conversation inside the Not Too Sensitive Club, Alissa walks through the pattern so many highly sensitive women fall into: outsourcing their sense of self to how others respond to them. When that source gets disrupted (e.g., a boundary gets pushback, a workplace stops reflecting your value) it can feel like an identity crisis.Alissa explores what happens when the external validation you've relied on disappears, and why that unraveling is actually the beginning of something more solid.Because the real work isn't getting people to see you differently. It's learning to source your steadiness from within so that outside opinions stop running your life.What you'll hear in this episode:How being the responsible, accommodating, always-available person becomes the thing you can't separate yourself fromWhy life sometimes removes your external sources of worth, and what the growth opportunity actually looks like when it doesThe inner critic that shows up when you try something new…what it sounds like and how to respond without crumblingBeing okay with someone having the wrong idea about you (the skill most sensitive people were never taught)The difference between needing people to see you a certain way and deciding for yourself who you areUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  239. Coddling Keeps You Comfortable. A Higher Standard Sets You Free 14.04.2026 19นาที

  In this solo episode, Alissa explores the difference between people who tell you what you want to hear and the ones who love you enough to tell you the truth. Because validation feels good, but it can also keep you stuck.Alissa makes the case for honest, loving challenge as one of the most underrated forms of care, and reflects on what changes when you finally have people in your corner who won't let you stay small.In this episode, you'll learn:Why saying what someone wants to hear isn't kindness. It's just comfort in disguise.How a blunt comment from her husband stung, landed, and lit a fire that changed everything.Relating to your struggle and helping you actually move through it are two very different things.What it looks like to hold space AND hold people to a higher standard at the same time.The relationship audit: do you actually have people in your life who will lovingly call you out?Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  238. The Unexpected Gift in Comparing Yourself to Others 07.04.2026 23นาที

  In this solo episode, Alissa unpacks what's actually happening when you measure yourself against someone else, and how to use those moments as information rather than evidence of your own inadequacy.The reflex most of us have when comparison hits is either self-diminishment or quiet resentment. What Alissa offers instead is a way to get curious.Alissa shares personal examples and client stories to show what it looks like to catch the comparison mid-spiral and redirect it. The more grounded you are in who you are and what you actually care about, the less comparison has to take you out.In this episode:Why the first instinct is often self-criticism or justifying why the other person "doesn't count,"and how that keeps you stuckHow to read what you're comparing yourself to as data pointing toward your desires and valuesA simple question to ask when comparison hits:"Do I actually care about this?", and how it can dissolve the charge almost instantlyWhy staying in frustration or victim energy doesn't just feel bad. It follows you into every conversation and relationshipHow knowing yourself deeply changes the way comparison lands, and how fast you can move through itUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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  237. Are Your Feelings Keeping You Stuck? 31.03.2026 26นาที

  In this solo episode, Alissa takes an honest look at why validating your feelings too much can be a problem. Your feelings can be completely valid and still not be an excuse to stay stuck.Alissa shares examples from her own life like the overstimulation of motherhood, the chaos of a busy household, the moments where snapping feels like the only option; and gets real about what it actually looks like to validate your experience without letting it run the show. She also opens up about writing her entire 70,000-word book while postpartum, not because she felt inspired and ready, but because she showed up anyway.This episode isn't about pushing through or toxic positivity. It's about the difference between having your feelings witnessed… and hiding behind them.You will learn:Why emotional validation is essential, and where it starts working against youThe "growth gap": the space between who you've been and who you're becoming, and why your biggest triggers live thereWhat it means to hold a higher vision for yourself, even on the hard daysHow sensitive people can get stuck in awareness without action (and what to do about it)Why waiting until you "feel ready" is quietly keeping you from the life you say you wantThe relationship between self-trust and follow-through, and how your actions either build or erode itUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!All you have to do is:Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.comThat's it! 😊🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠