Softly Unfiltered

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  Who Really Leads? | Unlearning Patriarchy, Submission & What Leadership Actually Means 16.09.2026 34хв

  Softly Unfiltered is a podcast exploring Black womanhood, identity, relationships, healing, self-worth, friendship, career, and the unspoken experiences of modern Black women.Who gets called a leader, who is actually doing the leading, and how many of our beliefs about men, women, submission, and power did we inherit without ever questioning them?This week Blake and Ashlyn use the dynamics of the lion and lioness as a jumping off point to unpack the narratives we are taught about leadership. They get into why providing alone does not make someone a leader, how women can be taught to shrink themselves in the name of submission, why titles and appearances can be mistaken for competence, and what healthy leadership actually looks like.We got into:• Why men being natural leaders is a social agreement, not an unquestionable fact• The male loneliness conversation and why women are increasingly dating for character• Why a title, money, or status does not automatically make someone a good leader• The difference between leadership, dominance, respect, and control• Why some women protect a man’s image by biting their tongue and making themselves smaller• Today’s Unfiltered Moment featuring testimonies from men who admitted marrying women they were not in love with• How beauty, submission, convenience, and ego can become part of the decision to marryToday’s Soft Landing: Leadership is not a title you inherit. It is a responsibility you earn. The people worth following do not need to make you feel smaller to prove that they are powerful. Real leadership feels like wisdom, care, consistency, and safety.What is one belief about leadership, love, or womanhood that you have had to unlearn? 📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  Never Lose Yourself | Why Choosing Yourself Is Self-Preservation 09.09.2026 31хв

  Softly Unfiltered is a podcast exploring Black womanhood, identity, relationships, healing, self-worth, friendship, career, and the unspoken experiences of modern Black women.In this episode, Blake and Ashlyn are talking about what it really means to make yourself your number-one priority — especially as Black women who have been taught to carry, care, show up, and put everybody else first. They get into the guilt that can come with saying no, the difference between being considerate and abandoning yourself, and why choosing yourself is not selfish. It is self-preservation.We got into:• Why women — and Black women especially — can feel conditioned to put themselves second• How to tell when helping someone has crossed the line into self-abandonment, resentment, or exhaustion• Why being needed can feel like being loved and how fear of abandonment can make usefulness feel emotionally safe• Why some relationships reveal themselves as transactional when you stop overgiving or set a boundary• What it looks like to let grown adults handle their own feelings instead of carrying guilt over their reactions• Why the guilt of saying no can be temporary while the cost of saying yes can last much longer• Ashlyn's Unfiltered Moment on being the first woman in her bloodline who gets to choose what her life looks likeSoft Landing: You are allowed to care for people without disappearing inside their needs. You are allowed to be loving and still have limits. Making yourself a priority is not betrayal of others. It is a return to yourself.If this episode resonated, tell us in the comments: where in your life do you need to choose yourself without apologizing?📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  Stop and Smell the Roses | High Achievers, Rest Guilt & Being Present 02.09.2026 34хв

  Softly Unfiltered is a podcast exploring Black womanhood, identity, relationships, healing, self-worth, friendship, career, and the unspoken experiences of modern Black women.In this episode, Blake and Ashlyn are talking about how easy it is to spend your whole life chasing the next milestone and completely miss the life happening in between. For high achievers especially, slowing down can feel uncomfortable. Rest can feel like falling behind. A random Tuesday can feel insignificant compared to the next promotion, trip, goal, or big win. But most of life is made up of those ordinary days.We get into:• Why social media conditions us to focus on big milestones• The difference between happiness and being genuinely content• How constantly chasing the next win can affect your nervous system• Why productivity can start to feel addictive• Why high achievers often feel guilty when they rest• How scrolling can quietly turn inspiration into comparison• Why trying to capture every moment can make you miss the actual experience• Blake’s Unfiltered Moment on putting everyday problems back into perspective• Ashlyn’s Unfiltered Moment on realizing how much she has already accomplishedToday’s Soft Landing: The good life is not waiting for you at the finish line, it is in the middle of everything you are already doing. The roses do not bloom later, they are blooming right now. Stop and smell them. Slowing down is not falling behind, it is how you make sure the life you are building is one that you are living and not just surviving.Let us know in the comments what is one small ordinary moment from this past week that you actually stopped to enjoy.📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  Does Independence Protect Black Women, or Is It Keeping Us Lonely? 26.08.2026 27хв

  Softly Unfiltered is a podcast exploring Black womanhood, identity, relationships, healing, self-worth, friendship, career, and the unspoken experiences of modern Black women.In this episode, Blake and Ashlyn unpack a question many Black women know intimately: did independence protect us, or has it started keeping us from receiving the support and connection we actually want? For many of us, independence was learned early. Being able to handle things ourselves became capability, safety, stability, and sometimes protection from disappointment. But when “I can do it myself” becomes “I have to do it myself because I cannot trust anyone else,” independence can start looking a lot more like hyper-independence. We get into: • The difference between healthy independence and hyper-independence • Why one disappointing experience can make you stop asking for help altogether • The fear that receiving help will make you look incapable • Why receiving can feel harder than giving when control feels like safety • Asking why we are unnecessarily struggling when support is already available • Why respect, safety, and reliability matter before you can truly depend on someone • How repeatedly choosing unreliable people can reinforce the belief that nobody is safe to rely on • Ashlyn’s Unfiltered Moment on saying “I’m not okay” instead of automatically masking with “I’m good” Today’s Soft Landing: Being capable does not mean you are meant to carry everything alone. Receiving support does not make you weak, dependent, or less powerful. It makes room for connection. Where has your independence protected you, and where might it be keeping people out?📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  Why Is It So Hard for Black Women to Be Average? | Twice as Good, Rest & Overachieving 19.08.2026 39хв

  In this episode, Blake and Ashlyn are asking a question that sounds simple but carries a lot of weight: why is it so hard for Black women to be average? From childhood, many Black women are taught to be twice as good, overly prepared, polished, resilient, and constantly improving. We talk about what happens when those lessons follow us into adulthood and excellence stops feeling like a choice and starts feeling like the minimum requirement to be respected. We get into: • Where Black girls first learn that they may not receive the same grace as everyone else • Why the twice as good mentality can create anxiety, hypervigilance, and pressure to always be prepared • How constantly striving can make it harder to see how good you already are • Why rest can feel like falling behind when your identity is tied to achievement • The impossible pressure to get an A+ in beauty, career, money, relationships, and motherhood at the same time • Questioning whether the traditional boxes of marriage, kids, homeownership, and career milestones are goals you actually want • Today’s Unfiltered Moment on the uncomfortable reality of whether Black women still have to be twice as good to succeed Today’s Soft Landing: Your life does not have to be extraordinary to be meaningful. You are still worthy on the days you're not impressive, productive, polished, or proving anything. Where in your life do you feel the most pressure to be exceptional? 📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  The Good Black Girl | How Being Good Follows Black Women Into Adulthood 12.08.2026 42хв

  Softly Unfiltered is a podcast exploring Black womanhood, identity, relationships, healing, self-worth, friendship, career, and the unspoken experiences of modern Black women.In this episode, Blake and Ashlyn are unpacking the “Good Black Girl” identity and what happens when the traits that earned you praise growing up start following you into adulthood. Being responsible, accomplished, dependable, well behaved, and always “on” can look like a strength from the outside, but what happens when your self worth becomes tied to how useful, capable, or easy you are for everyone else?We get into:• Why being the good girl never meant being boring and why Black women can be responsible and still multifaceted• How achievement, dependability, and praise can become intertwined with your identity• The curse of being extremely capable and why capability can create the illusion that your capacity is unlimited• What happens when you stop being useful to people and start paying attention to who still enjoys you• Why “wifey material” hits differently when every compliment is about what a woman does instead of who she is• How the Good Black Girl can grow into the Strong Black Woman and what that identity can cost• What choosing yourself can look like after spending too much time worrying about everyone and everything elseToday’s Unfiltered Moment: The Good Black Girl can grow into the Strong Black Woman, and being praised for carrying everything may be costing us more than we realize.Today’s Soft Landing: You are allowed to be fully human, make mistakes, change your mind, and still be worthy.If this episode resonated, tell us what part of the Good Black Girl identity you are ready to let go of. 📩 Email us: [email protected] 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  Finish the Damn Thing. Stop Starting. Start Finishing. 05.08.2026 39хв

  In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are talking about the thing nobody wants to admit. The half-finished projects. The goals that started strong and lost steam. The new ideas that keep replacing the old ones before any of them get finished. This episode is about the psychology of starting without finishing, and why finishing the damn thing is one of the most powerful things you can do for your confidence, your identity, and your future self.We got into:• Why perfectionism is just procrastination dressed up and why done is always better than perfect• The pain of discipline versus the pain of regret and why regret always hurts more• What never finishing anything actually costs you and why it destroys your self-trust over time• Why showing up at any capacity is better than not showing up at all and how five minutes actually counts• Why what lives in your head is never as bad as reality and why showing up imperfectly is still showing up authentically• Why nobody is coming to save you and what overnight success actually looks like from the inside• Ashlyn's unfiltered moment on the people who always have a new thing they are working on and never finish the first oneSoft Landing: Done is better than perfect. Five minutes is better than zero. And started forever is the same as never.If this episode resonated drop a comment and tell us what you have been starting that you are finally going to finish.📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  Keep the Promises You Make to Yourself | Coach Zha on Pilates, Self-Trust & Discipline 29.07.2026 50хв

  Softly Unfiltered is a podcast exploring Black womanhood, identity, relationships, healing, self-worth, friendship, career, and the unspoken experiences of modern Black women.In this episode, Blake and Ashlyn sit down with Coach Zha, Nike Well Collective trainer, certified Pilates instructor, marathoner, founder of The League, and creator of Black Girl Pilates Club.What starts as a conversation about Pilates quickly becomes something much deeper. We talk about honoring your commitments, showing up for yourself, building confidence through consistency, and creating a life rooted in joy instead of depletion.Coach Zha also shares how postpartum depression led her to movement, why representation in wellness matters, and how building community has transformed not only her life, but the lives of countless women.We discuss:• Why Coach Zha created Black Girl Pilates Club and how it evolved into The League• How postpartum depression changed her relationship with wellness and movement• Why Pilates is about so much more than fitness—it teaches breathwork, strength, and slowing down• Helping Black women dismantle the belief that showing up for themselves is selfish• The meaning behind "Honor Your Commitments" and how keeping promises to yourself builds confidence• Why consistency matters more than motivation when building lasting habits• How Coach Zha built an award-winning wellness community rooted in representation and sisterhood• Why elevating your life sometimes requires eliminating relationships that no longer align• Making the leap from corporate America to entrepreneurship• The difference between balance and harmony—and why harmony is the goalToday's Unfiltered Moment:"Nobody is coming to save you. The life you want is on the other side of you being courageous enough to chase it."Today's Soft Landing: Keep the promises you make to yourself.Coach Zha reminds us that confidence isn't something you wait to feel it's something you build every time you show up for yourself. Honor your commitments, give yourself grace, and remember that the life you're creating begins with the choices you make today.Follow Coach Zha:Instagram & TikTok: @coachzhaIf this episode resonated with you, let us know in the comments:What's one commitment you're ready to start honoring for yourself?📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  Knowing When to Walk Away | Jobs, Friendships & Relationships 22.07.2026 37хв

  Softly Unfiltered is a podcast exploring Black womanhood, identity, relationships, healing, self-worth, friendship, career, and the unspoken experiences of modern Black women.In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are talking about knowing when to leave. A job. A relationship. A friendship. And why so many of us stay way longer than we should, waiting for some dramatic event to justify the exit. The truth is, being slowly drained is a reason. Tired is a reason. And you do not need a disaster to justify choosing yourself.We got into:• Why we wait for a dramatic reason to leave when the slow drain is actually doing more damage• Being called selfish for finally choosing yourself and why people use that word whenever you stop being convenient• The guilt that comes with leaving when others still benefit from you staying, and why Black women carry that guilt harder• Why a boundary without a consequence is just a suggestion and what it means to actually put action behind your words• Forgiveness does not require reconciliation and how you can understand someone and still walk away• Why peace is the closure and how you do not need the other person to validate your decision• The harsh truth about what staying in the wrong situation is doing to your body and your face Soft Landing: You do not need a disaster to justify leaving. Sometimes leaving is an act of self-respect. Get out before you crash out.If this episode resonated drop a comment and tell us about a time you finally left something you should have left way sooner.📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  Strong or Struggling? | Why Black Women Struggle Asking For Help 15.07.2026 29хв

  In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are talking about something that a lot of women, and especially Black women, have a really hard time with. Asking for help. Why do we resist it so much? What does it actually cost us to always say we are fine? And what does it look like to finally let people in without losing ourselves in the process?We got into:• The difference between being genuinely strong and just being really good at hiding that you are struggling• Why the strong Black woman label is quietly costing us on the inside, physically and mentally• How never asking for help damages your closest relationships because people eventually stop offering• Why it matters who you ask and why not everyone deserves access to your vulnerability• Why receiving help is actually more vulnerable than asking for it because it means opening the door to be let down• Closed mouths do not get fed and why you cannot have a woe is me attitude if you never speak up• The soft landing that your worth was never tied to doing it all aloneSoft Landing: Asking for help isn't a sign that you're falling apart. It's a sign that you know your worth isn't tied to doing it all alone.If this episode resonated drop a comment and tell us about a time you finally asked for help and it changed everything.📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  All I Need to Do Is Stay Black and Die | The Pressure to Make Everyone Else Comfortable 08.07.2026 31хв

  In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are talking about something that every Black woman in a predominantly white space has felt but does not always have the language for. The invisible labor of performing palatability. The exhaustion of scanning every room. The pressure to shrink yourself, over-explain yourself, and apologize for taking up space. And the very real question of how you stay pro-Black while climbing in institutions that were not built for you. We got into:• Why as Black women our confidence is sometimes too big for the room and why that is never our problem to fix• Blake's experience at a hotel pool in Santa Monica where her group was the first to arrive and the last to be served• The invisible layers of walking into every space as a Black woman and why white people will never understand that specific tax• Emma Grede, corporate success, and the question of what parts of yourself you are expected to sacrifice to make it• How to stop apologizing, stop over-explaining, and stop tiptoeing at work when you are simply doing your job• The real question of how you stay pro-Black while climbing in institutions that do not look like you• The difference between adapting to survive and completely abandoning your identity as a Black person• Why we are the blueprint, the trendsetters, and why nothing is cool until we do it first Soft Landing: Stay true to your Blackness. Do not abandon yourself for acceptance. We are the blueprint and we are the trendsetters. Always remember that. If this episode resonated drop a comment and tell us about a time you had to decide between fitting in and staying true to yourself.📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @softlyunfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  What If Changing Direction Was the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You? 01.07.2026 33хв

  Welcome to Season 3 of Softly Unfiltered. Formerly known as Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we're back with a new name, the same mission, and a season opener that felt only right. Because what better way to kick off a rebrand than by talking about what happens when life forces you to change direction?In this episode, Blake and Ashlyn unpack the pivots, redirections, fear, and even grief that come with letting go of the plan you thought your life was supposed to follow. Whether you're navigating a career change, ending a relationship, starting over, or simply realizing your life is taking a different path than you imagined, this conversation is for you.We got into:Why the thing you're most afraid to leave behind is often the thing you'll be most grateful you walked away fromThe difference between quitting and pivoting—and how to know which one you're actually doingHow Softly Unfiltered came to be and why we'd have continued these conversations under any nameWhy you can't take advice from people who haven't done what you're trying to do—and why your life is not a democracyThe one question to ask yourself before giving up: If this became easy tomorrow, would you still want it?How fear quietly keeps people stuck on paths they've already outgrownWhy worrying about what everyone thinks is one of the biggest things keeping women from pivotingReal listener stories about the pivots that changed everythingSoft Landing:Changing direction isn't losing yourself. Sometimes the life you're meant to live is waiting on the other side of the plan you had to let go of.If this episode resonated, we'd love to hear from you. Tell us about a pivot in your life that turned out to be a blessing in disguise.📧 Email us: [email protected]📲 Follow us on all platforms: @SoftlyUnfilteredpod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts and Spotify
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  Why Are Girls Low Key Weird? | The Truth About Female Friendships and Female Rivalry 24.06.2026 42хв

  In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are getting into something every woman has experienced but rarely says out loud. Why do female friendships sometimes come with unspoken competition instead of pure support? Why does the energy shift the moment you start surpassing someone? They get into jealousy, passive aggression, social media as a hater detector, and what it actually means to protect your peace in friendships that have started to feel weird.We got into:• Why people clap for you as long as they feel like they're ahead of you and what happens the moment you surpass them• The difference between intent and impact and why understanding someone's insecurity doesn't excuse how they treat you• Why someone else's success can feel like a mirror reflecting what they haven't done yet• The exact moment a compliment starts to feel like a dig and why people pull away once you start glowing up• Blake's honest take on purposely posting accomplishments just to see who shows up and who stays quiet• Why social media has become the clearest sign of where you actually stand with people• The spiritual perspective on celebrating your friends' wins and why their blessing means yours is close too✨Mantra Moment: Not everyone who smiles with you is celebrating you. People can care about you and still feel threatened by your growth.If this episode resonated drop a comment and tell us about the time you felt the energy shift in a friendship after you started winning.📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  You're Not Asking for Too Much, You're Just Done Settling | Standards vs. Settling 17.06.2026 34хв

  In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are getting into something a lot of women have felt but couldn't always name. The difference between being fed up and being truly done. What settling actually looks like in real life, not the dramatic version but the quiet everyday version where you're pretending you're happy and dimming your light to keep the peace. And why you were never asking for too much. You were just finally asking the right questions.We got into:Why people stop benefiting from you when you stop playing small and why raising your standards exposes who was never enoughWhat the word done actually means when a woman says it and why disgust is the turning point that has no returnWhat settling looks like in real life including protecting him more than you protect yourselfWhy the rules of this world were not built with Black women in mind and why your timeline is yours aloneThe three table relationship concept and why Blake does not want to become enmeshed in a partnershipWhy shame in your relationship is already the answer and the reality TV test that tells you everythingWhat being done settling actually means and why it has nothing to do with giving up on loveMantra Moment: Being done settling doesn't mean you're giving all hope up of love. It means you're done ignoring your intuition.If this episode resonated drop a comment and let us know what being done settling looks like for you.📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  She Has Everything But A Man | Why a Woman's Life Is Never Allowed to Just Be Enough on Its Own 10.06.2026 36хв

  In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are talking about something that does not get said enough. Why is a woman's life never allowed to just be enough on its own? Why does a successful, accomplished, thriving single woman still get treated like she is missing something? And why is it always a man that is supposed to complete the picture? They get into the double standards, the societal pressure, the dating dynamics that come with being a high value woman, and what it actually looks like to build a full life without making love the missing piece.We got into:• Why successful single women are seen as incomplete while successful single men are called a catch• How being a high value woman makes dating harder and why men resent the same qualities they were drawn to• Why Blake said she refuses to be a single mother in a marriage and what that actually means• The woman who has everything she ever dreamed of and is still considered less valuable without a man• What Blake would do if she had a letter from God confirming her person was on the way• Why Ashlyn says stop waiting on a man to make big life decisions and build your accomplishments now• Blake's honest take on not wanting a merged life and what parallel tables actually look like in a relationshipIf this episode resonated drop a comment and let us know if you have ever felt like your life was not being taken seriously because you were single📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  You Can Be Confident and Still Have Low Self-Worth | Why We Accept Less Than We Deserve 03.06.2026 32хв

  In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are breaking down something that a lot of high achieving women have felt but could never fully name. You can be the most confident, accomplished, successful woman in the room and still not believe you deserve the things you have built. That is the difference between self-esteem and self-worth. And in this episode they get deeply personal about where that gap comes from and what closing it actually looks like.We got into:• The real difference between self-esteem and self-worth and why you can have one without the other• Why high achieving women often have the highest self-esteem and the lowest self-worth at the same time• How achieving becomes the substitute for worth and what happens when the wins stop coming• Blake asking herself what a less qualified white man would ask for in a salary negotiation and doing it anyway• How toxic relationships and corporate environments both slowly rewrite how you see yourself• Ashlyn opening up about a toxic relationship that took years to recover from and the stool that got moved• Why your blessings are sometimes blocked by the dead weight you haven't let go of yet• The mantra Blake gave herself in January that reframed everythingMantra Moment: I am worthy not because of what I do but because of who I am. The work is closing that gap.If this resonated drop a comment and let us know if you have ever realized you were confident on the outside but still accepting less than you deserved.📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  The Dating Insecurities You Have When You Grew Up Invisible | Black Girl Dating Experience 27.05.2026 35хв

  In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are getting into something deeply personal and rarely talked about. The dating insecurities that come from growing up invisible. They talk about what happens when you grow up as a Black girl in predominantly white spaces, how not feeling chosen early on shapes your confidence, your standards, and your entire approach to love and dating as an adult.We got into:• How growing up without early romantic attention creates patterns you carry into adult dating• Why Blake and Ashlyn both overperformed to earn love instead of knowing they were worthy just for existing• Why dating is not encouraged for Black girls the way it is for their white counterparts and how that gap shows up later• The painful experience of having parents who called you beautiful but a world outside that invalidated it• Being dared to be asked out as a joke and not even knowing it at the time• Why comparison is the biggest thief and how to protect your timeline when everyone around you seems ahead• What Blake and Ashlyn would tell their younger selves and the message they want every invisible girl to hearMantra Moment: Growing up invisible doesn't mean you were unworthy. It means the environment didn't reflect your value back to you.If this episode resonated drop a comment and tell us one thing you wish someone had told you when you were growing up and feeling unseen.📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  Dating the Potential Rich Man | When Believing in Someone Becomes Emotional Labor 20.05.2026 36хв

  In this episode we are getting into something that a lot of women have experienced but not always been able to name. Dating the potential rich man. What happens when you believe in someone so much that you start abandoning your own timeline to help them stay on track with theirs? When does patience become emotional labor? And at what point do you have to look yourself in the eye and say this potential is not actualizing?We got into:• Why women stay too long in relationships with potential and how it becomes self abandonment without you even realizing it• The difference between supporting someone and actually carrying them• When consistency is the real measure of progress and what stalled ambition actually looks like• Why society praises women for staying through cheating and hardship but shames them for walking away• The moment you realize you thought you were showing grace but you were abandoning your own needs• Why the keep a man conversation is never directed at men and what that man is doing to keep you• What a healthy dynamic actually looks like when both people are contributing and building togetherMantra Moment: Potential is not a promise. Consistency is. Real partnership is built on patterns and not projections.If this resonated drop a comment and let us know if you have ever realized you were investing in someone's future more than they were investing in their own present.📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  Confidence, Self Obsession, and Breaking Out of Survival Mode Feat. Erica Ware The Confidence Coach 13.05.2026 53хв

  In this episode we sat down with Erica, The Confidence Coach (@theconfidencecoach), for a conversation that had us taking notes from start to finish. Erica is a mindset coach dedicated to helping women build self worth, set boundaries, and show up as their most confident selves. And she did not hold back.We got into:• The difference between being loved and being needed and why real love feels like exhale energy• Why calling yourself low maintenance is actually inviting low effort love• How to stop giving up your autonomy just because you like somebody• Why Black women feel so guilty for choosing themselves and where that guilt actually comes from• What survival mode actually looks like and how to recognize it in your own life• What healthy self obsession really means and why it doesn't have to be healthy• How to build and protect your routine in a relationship so you don't lose yourself• The difference between guilt and discomfort when you say no• Why confidence is curated daily and not something you wake up withMantra Moment: Do it uncertain. Do it scared. Do it imperfect. There is no such thing as the right time. The right time is right now. — Erica (@theconfidencecoach)If this episode resonated drop a comment and let us know which part of Erica's message hit home for you.📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!
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  Why We'll Spend $500 on Beauty But Feel Guilty About Everything Else 06.05.2026 37хв

  In this episode Blake and Ashlyn are getting into something every woman can relate to but Black women feel on a whole other level. Why do we spend $500 on beauty without blinking but feel guilty spending money on anything else? From hair as mental health to corporate America's beauty expectations, to the moment you realize marketing has been manipulating you the whole time, this one hits.We got into:• Why beauty spending feels like a necessity and not a luxury for Black women• How our hair and appearance directly affect our mental health and confidence• Navigating corporate spaces as a Black woman and why keeping your hair done is armor• The coworker who asks if everything is okay the moment your hair isn't laid• The unsolicited natural hair compliments and why we are over the small talk• Whether beauty spending is about results or peace of mind• How working in beauty and marketing changes the way you shop forever• At what point beauty maintenance shifts from enjoyment to full obligation• The tension between not wanting to dress up for a man and realizing you have to be what you want to attractIf this episode resonated, drop a comment and let us know what beauty expense you refuse to feel guilty about.📩 Email us: [email protected]📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!