Single Parenting Reset Show: For Solo Parents of Tweens and Teens — Manage Behavior Problems, Reduce Screen Time & Improve

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  Teen Says “In a Minute” but Never Does It? What to Say Next 22.10.2026 8m

  "In a minute."Three words that can turn a simple household request into a twenty-minute argument.Your teen may genuinely intend to do the task, but the expectation is vague and the transition from one activity to another may be difficult.Parents want cooperation without endless reminders. Teens need opportunities to practice time management, self-direction, and follow-through.Replace "in a minute" with:"What time can I count on you having that done?"Agree on a specific time, then calmly hold the boundary.Tired of conversations that turn into arguments?Download Tess's free Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit, with seven practical communication scripts and a First-Ten-Minutes Plan to help you approach challenging moments differently.DOWNLOAD THE FREE CONFLICT RESET KITRemember: The relationship is the intervention.⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  Teen Won't Listen? What to Do When You've Asked Five Times 20.10.2026 16m

  "I've asked you five times!"If you've said those words recently, you're not alone.Whether it's emptying the dishwasher, putting down the phone, getting ready for school, or following through on responsibilities, constantly repeating yourself can leave you feeling frustrated, ignored, and exhausted.But what if asking one more time isn't the solution?In this episode of the Single Parenting Reset Show, Tess Connolly, LCSW, explores why repeated reminders often turn into power struggles—and how parents can change the pattern.Rather than focusing on getting teenagers to comply through frustration or louder reminders, Tess shares practical ways to strengthen communication, clarify expectations, and help teens develop responsibility.WHAT YOU'LL LEARNWhy constantly repeating yourself can unintentionally reinforce the very pattern you're trying to change.How to get your teenager's attention before making a request.The difference between vague reminders and clear expectations.How to offer appropriate choices without giving up boundaries.What to say when your teenager still doesn't follow through.Why some teens need additional executive functioning support rather than more reminders.How to move from controlling behavior toward teaching accountability.THE BIG TAKEAWAYThe goal isn't to win the argument or get louder.It's to change the pattern.When parents communicate clearly, provide appropriate autonomy, and follow through consistently, they help teenagers practice the skills they'll need for independence.Tired of conversations that turn into arguments?Download Tess's free Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit, with seven practical communication scripts and a First-Ten-Minutes Plan to help you approach challenging moments differently.DOWNLOAD THE FREE CONFLICT RESET KITRemember: The relationship is the intervention.⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  Teen Missing Assignments? What to Say When They Say “I Did It” 15.10.2026 7m

  You checked in about homework. Your teen said it was done. Then you open the grade portal and find missing assignments.Before the conversation turns into another argument, start with one assignment and find out what happened.In episode 306 of The Single Parenting Reset Show, Tess Connolly, LCSW and Parent and Family Coach, shares a simple way to move from “I did it” to a clear next step.Finishing the work and turning it in involve different steps. Your teen might have saved a completed document without submitting it, left a worksheet in their backpack, or gotten stuck before finishing. You need to understand the situation to choose useful support.You’ll learn:• What to say when the portal and your teen’s account don’t match.• How to ask about the last completed step.• How to check a submission without turning it into an interrogation.• What to say when your teen admits the work isn’t done.• How to make a specific plan and agree on a check-in.• When repeated missing work needs school support.Your Quick Reset:“I’m seeing this marked missing. Walk me through what happened after you worked on it.”The relationship is the intervention.Get the free Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit:Seven practical scripts and a First-Ten-Minutes Plan for tense moments.DOWNLOAD THE FREE CONFLICT RESET KITFollow The Single Parenting Reset Show and share this episode with a parent who could use it.If your teen talks about suicide or self-harm, get immediate help. In the U.S., call or text 988; call 911 for immediate, life-threatening danger.⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  Teen Daughter Falls Apart After School? How to Respond 13.10.2026 9m

  You ask, “How was school?” Your daughter says, “Fine.” A moment later, a homework reminder turns into tears or an argument.What do you say next?In this episode of The Single Parenting Reset Show, Tess Connolly, LCSW and Parent and Family Coach, walks you through the after-school moment when your teen daughter is upset and you’re trying to help.Schoolwork, friendship worries, fatigue, and a busy afternoon can all be part of the picture. Start by making room to understand what is happening for your daughter.You’ll learn:How to make the first few minutes at home easier.What to say when your daughter wants space.How to listen to friendship hurt without immediately taking over.How to respond to “I’m so stupid” after a disappointing quiz.How to set a limit on name-calling and return to responsibilities.How to repair after you’ve raised your voice.When ongoing distress needs additional support.Your reset for today:Try this before the homework questions: “You don’t have to explain right now. I’m here.”The relationship is the intervention.Get the free Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit:Seven practical scripts and a First-Ten-Minutes Plan for tense moments.DOWNLOAD THE FREE CONFLICT RESET KITFollow The Single Parenting Reset Show and share this episode with a parent who could use it.If your teen talks about suicide or self-harm, get immediate help. In the U.S., call or text 988; call 911 for immediate, life-threatening danger.⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  Teen Says “Everyone Else Keeps Their Phone”? What to Say 08.10.2026 7m

  Your teen is supposed to put their phone away. Instead, they say: “Everyone else gets to keep theirs. Why am I the only one?” Suddenly you’re debating what every other parent allows.In Episode 304 of the Single Parenting Reset Show, Tess Connolly offers exact words for that moment. You’ll hear how to acknowledge your teen’s need to stay connected with friends, state the phone boundary clearly, and ask what they’re worried about missing. This Quick Reset follows Episode 303’s overnight phone plan and focuses on the conversation when your teen objects to it.You’ll learn:What to say when your teen calls the phone rule unfairHow to respond when they repeat, “But everyone else gets to”Why the question “What are you worried you’ll miss?” can move the conversation forwardHow to address a group chat or plans with friends within a workable boundaryWhen it makes sense to revisit a rule as your teen gets olderYou can take your teen’s social life seriously and still be the parent who sets a thoughtful limit. The aim is a conversation you can return to, rather than an argument you must win tonight.For more words you can use when phone conversations get heated, download Tess’s free Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit, with seven scripts and a First-Ten-Minutes Plan.⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  Teen Sneaking Their Phone at Night? How to Reset the Rules 06.10.2026 13m

  It's almost midnight. You see the glow of a phone under your teen's blanket—the same phone they agreed to leave on the kitchen charger. You're tired, upset, and wondering whether this is now a fight about trust.In Episode 303 of the Single Parenting Reset Show, Tess Connolly walks through a practical response for tonight and a more useful conversation for tomorrow. She explains why an overnight boundary matters for sleep, how to listen for what's pulling your teen back online, and how to turn a vague rule into a clear agreement.You'll learn:The short sentence to say if you catch your teen with their phone at nightWhy to check for a safety concern before discussing the broken ruleQuestions that get beyond “Why did you lie?”How to agree on a handoff time, charging spot, and morning returnA temporary, related step to take if your teen breaks the agreement againWhen sleep trouble or nighttime anxiety needs more supportYou don't have to solve the whole problem at midnight. You can protect your teen's sleep, hear what is hard about the rule, and follow through without turning each night into a test of wills.For more words to use when phone conversations get heated, download Tess's free Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit, with seven scripts and a First-Ten-Minutes Plan. Follow the show for the next Quick Reset.⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  How to Apologize to Your Teen After Yelling 01.10.2026 6m

  The argument about the phone got loud. Your teen walked away, and now you’re replaying what you said. How do you go back without turning your apology into another argument?In Episode 302 of the Single Parenting Reset Show, Tess Connolly gives you three sentences to say after you yell at your tween or teen. She also covers when to approach them, what to leave out of the apology, and what to do if they respond with “whatever” or say nothing at all.You’ll learn:• How to own the yelling without explaining it away• A three-sentence repair you can adapt to your own situation• Why you don’t need your teen to forgive you immediately• How to revisit the phone rule or other boundary later• Why changed behavior matters as much as the apologyYou can take responsibility for your words and still be the parent. A repair is a chance to show your teen what accountability looks like in a real relationship.Listen to Episode 302, then get the free Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit for seven ready-to-use scripts and a First-Ten-Minutes Plan. Follow the Single Parenting Reset Show for more practical Quick Resets.⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  When Your Teen Is Rude in Public: What to Say Without a Public Fight 29.09.2026 10m

  You’re at a family dinner when your teen snaps, “Can we stop talking about me? This is so annoying.” The table goes quiet. You feel embarrassed, upset, and suddenly aware that everyone is watching your response.In this episode of the Single Parenting Reset Show, Tess Connolly explains how to tell the difference between a moment that can wait and behavior that needs a response right now. She gives parents short, ready-to-say lines for a teen who snaps at them, insults someone else, or refuses to step aside.You’ll learn:The question to ask before reacting to public rudenessWhat to say in one or two sentences without starting a public argumentHow to protect a person your teen has hurtWhy a private follow-up is where the teaching happensHow to help your teen practice better words and make a genuine repairYou don’t need to ignore hurtful behavior, and you don’t need to win an argument in front of an audience. You can hold a clear limit while protecting your teen’s dignity and your relationship.Listen to Episode 301, then download Tess’s free Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit for seven practical scripts and a First-Ten-Minutes Plan. Follow the Single Parenting Reset Show for the next Quick Reset.⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  300. Five Years, 300 Episodes: 5 Parenting Lessons for Raising Tweens and Teens 24.09.2026 15m

  In September 2021, Tess pressed record on her first parenting podcast episode while feeling absolutely terrified that millions of people might hear it. They did not—but that vulnerable beginning became the start of five years, 300 episodes, and a body of work centered on one essential belief: the relationship is the intervention.At the time, Casey was 12 and entering seventh grade after spending much of sixth grade doing “sofa school” during the pandemic. Parenting was hands-on, the business was still taking shape, and the podcast—then called The Parenting Reset—gave Tess a place to develop her voice, explore her ideas, and grow alongside the parents listening.There were periods when business advisors told her the podcast cost too much, reached too few people, and was not worth continuing. But like training for the Boston Marathon at 25, podcasting taught Tess the value of consistency: meaningful work grows one step, one conversation, and one episode at a time.In this milestone episode, Tess shares five lessons parents can apply immediately:Why the parent-child relationship matters even more than the perfect strategyHow fear makes loving parents lose sight of the child in front of themWhat tweens and teens need from us—even when they push us awayWhy one grounded, supportive parent can make an enormous differenceWhat “the relationship is the intervention” looks like in ordinary family lifeYou will also hear the message Tess most wants struggling parents to remember: One difficult season does not get to write the ending of your relationship.If conflict has been taking over your relationship with your tween or teen, download Tess’s free Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit. It includes practical scripts and a First-Ten-Minutes Plan to help you lower the temperature and reconnect.If this podcast has helped you, follow the show, leave a review, and share Episode 300 with one parent who needs encouragement today.⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  299. Before You Correct Your Teen, Connect First: How to Set Limits Without a Power Struggle 22.09.2026 8m

  You ask your teenager to put down the phone, do a chore, come home on time, or change the way they're speaking to you—and suddenly you're in a power struggle.But what if the problem isn't the limit you're setting?What if it's how you're entering the conversation?In this short, practical episode of the Single Parenting Reset Show, Therese Connolly, LCSW, shares a simple shift that can change difficult interactions with your tween or teen:Connect before you correct.That doesn't mean ignoring disrespect, eliminating consequences, or becoming permissive.It means letting your child know, “I see you,” before moving into correction.In this episode, you'll learn:• Why immediately correcting behavior can increase defensiveness• What “connection before correction” actually looks like• Why connection does not mean permissive parenting• How to acknowledge your teen's feelings while still holding a boundary• A simple See Them → Connect → Hold the Limit framework• What to do when your teen is too escalated for a productive conversation• Why the relationship itself can become one of your most effective parenting toolsYou don't have to choose between connection and boundaries.Your teenager can be frustrated—and the limit can remain.If conflict and communication with your tween or teen have become exhausting, download my Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit for practical scripts and a plan for handling those first critical minutes of conflict.⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  298. When Your Teen Son Won’t Talk to You: What to Do Instead of Pushing 17.09.2026 7m

  You know something is wrong.Your teenage son is quieter than usual, irritated, withdrawn, or clearly upset.So you ask:“What happened?”“Are you okay?”“Did something happen at school?”And all you get back is:“I’m fine.”Or worse:“Mom, leave me alone.”When you’re worried about your child, it can feel almost impossible not to keep asking.But sometimes, the harder we pursue connection, the farther away our teenager moves.In this short Thursday Quick Reset, I’m sharing a simple shift that can completely change these moments:Open the door. Don’t drag him through it.You’ll learn why repeated questions can feel like pressure to an overwhelmed teenager and what to say instead.I’m also giving you three specific scripts you can use when:You know something is wrong but your teen says he’s fineYour son seems overwhelmed and needs spaceHe snaps, “Leave me alone”We’ll also talk about why some of the best conversations with teenagers happen sideways—in the car, walking the dog, making food, or sitting together without the pressure of a formal conversation.The goal isn’t to get your teenager to tell you everything.And connection does not mean your son never pulls away.Adolescence is supposed to include independence and separation.The goal is to build a relationship where your teenager knows:“I can come back here when I’m ready.”Because your job isn’t to make him talk.Your job is to make the relationship safe enough that when he wants to talk, he knows where to come.As I say often:The relationship is the intervention.Listen to Episode 298 and practice just one change this week:Instead of asking another question, try:“You don’t have to talk about it right now. I’m around if you want me.”Then give it some space.If conflict and communication with your tween or teen have become exhausting, download my Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit for practical scripts and a plan for handling those first critical minutes of conflict.⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  297. Single Moms Raising Teen Boys: What Your Son Needs From You—and From Male Mentors 15.09.2026 51m

  Your teenage son may be taller than you, stronger than you, pushing for more independence—and acting like he needs you less.But that doesn’t necessarily mean he needs less connection.In this episode of The Single Parenting Reset Show, I’m joined by relational and men’s coach Mike Elliott for an honest conversation about what teenage boys may be communicating underneath the shutdown, defensiveness, anger, and “Leave me alone.”Because sometimes what looks like disrespect or withdrawal is actually a young person who doesn’t yet know what to do with everything happening inside of him.Mike and I talk about what it means for a teen boy to be under-resourced emotionally and relationally—and why connection, emotional safety, support, and healthy mentorship matter so much as boys move toward adulthood.We also talk specifically about the experience of single moms raising sons.How do you remain the safe place without trying to fix everything?How do you recognize the tenderness that may still be there underneath your son's growing strength and independence?And how do you help him find healthy men to learn from when Dad may not be available—or may not be able to provide the mentorship your son needs?Inside this conversation, you'll learn:Why your teenage son's difficult behavior may be protecting something more vulnerableWhy fixing, lecturing, or problem-solving too quickly can make a teen stop opening upHow emotional safety changes the way your son experiences youWhy boys can still need reassurance and connection even while pushing for independenceHow to separate your own history and triggers from what is happening with your sonWhat healthy male mentorship can offer a growing boyHow to look beyond Dad and intentionally build a wider circle of healthy menMike’s simple VAR framework: Vulnerability, Acknowledgment, ReassuranceWhat to say when your teen is overwhelmed and snapping at youWhy seeing your son for who he actually is may matter more than trying to mold him into who you think he should becomeOne of my favorite ideas from this conversation is simple:When your teen brings you vulnerability, you don't always have to fix it. Sometimes your job is simply to hold it.That is connection before correction in action.Listen to the full episode and consider this question:Where might my son need more connection, support, or mentorship right now—not more correction?Mike Elliott is an executive relational coach and men's coach based in British Columbia, Canada.His interest in relationships and emotional development grew partly from his own history. Mike was adopted twice during his first year of life and describes struggling with relationships, identity, substance use, anger, and disconnection during adolescence and early adulthood.After his own marriage ended, he devoted himself more deeply to understanding relationships, attachment, emotional development, and men's work. Today, he works with men around relationships, personal responsibility, emotional growth, mentorship, and becoming more grounded leaders in their families and lives.And if conflict with your tween or teen keeps turning into arguments, shutdowns, or power struggles, download my Tween & Teen Conflict Reset Kit for practical scripts to help you respond differently in those difficult moments.And be sure to follow or subscribe to The Single Parenting Reset Show so you don't miss the next Quick Reset.⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  296. Teen Won’t Put the Phone Down? What to Say Without Starting a Fight 10.09.2026 12m

  You tell your teen it’s time to put the phone away.They say:“One more minute.”You wait.Then you ask again.And suddenly a simple phone limit turns into a full-blown power struggle.If this happens in your house, the answer usually isn’t repeating yourself louder, threatening a bigger consequence, or grabbing the phone out of your teen’s hand.In this Quick Reset, I’m giving you a simple three-part response you can use when your tween or teen won’t get off their phone:Connection.Limit.Choice.You’ll also learn what to say when they agree to “two more minutes” and still don’t stop — and what to do when they flat-out refuse.You’ll walk away with exact language to help you:Set a phone limit without immediately creating a power struggleGive your teen autonomy without giving up the boundaryStop repeating yourself five timesRespond when your teen says noUse consequences that are connected to the actual problemCome back later for a calmer repair conversationProtect the relationship while still parenting firmlyBecause your teen does not have to like the boundary for you to hold it.And you do not have to damage the relationship in order to enforce it.The relationship is the intervention.If phones and screens are becoming one of the biggest sources of conflict in your home, download my free Tech Reset Agreement.It will help you create clearer expectations around phones, screens, and technology before the next argument starts.⭐Download the free Tech Reset Agreement to create clearer family expectations around phones, gaming, sleep, school responsibilities, and family connection: 👉Download the Tech Reset Agreement⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  295. Teen Screen Time: How to Set Limits Without Constant Power Struggles 08.09.2026 13m

  You tell your teen it’s time to put the phone away.They say, “I’m almost done.”Ten minutes later, you’re asking again.And suddenly you’re no longer talking about a phone.You’re arguing about fairness, trust, independence, and whether you’re “too controlling.”If screen-time limits keep turning into nightly power struggles, the answer may not be a bigger consequence.It may be a clearer plan.In this episode of the Single Parenting Reset Show, Tess Connolly, LCSW, explains how to set screen-time boundaries that are clear, predictable, and easier to enforce without getting pulled into endless arguments.You’ll learn why trying to create the boundary during the conflict usually makes things worse — and what to do instead.Tess walks you through a simple three-step reset you can use with tweens and teens:1. Set the limit outside the conflict.2. Make the expectation concrete.3. When your teen pushes back, use fewer words.You’ll also learn Tess’s simple:Acknowledge. Limit. Choice.framework for responding when your teen argues about a phone or screen boundary.Instead of explaining, defending, lecturing, or negotiating your way through another screen-time fight, you’ll have clear language to use.Try:“I hear that you’re frustrated.”“The phone still parks at 10.”“You can plug it in now, or take two minutes to finish what you’re doing and plug it in yourself.”Your teenager may still dislike the boundary.That’s okay.The goal isn’t to make your teen happy about every limit.The goal is to create boundaries they can understand, predict, and eventually learn to manage themselves.Because connection before correction does not mean parenting without limits.You can protect the relationship and still be the parent.⭐️ Download the Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit for scripts and a step-by-step plan to help you stay regulated, reduce power struggles, and respond more effectively during difficult conversations:Tween & Teen Conflict Reset Kit for seven practical scripts and a First-Ten-Minutes Plan.⭐Download the free Tech Reset Agreement to create clearer family expectations around phones, gaming, sleep, school responsibilities, and family connection: 👉Download the Tech Reset Agreement⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  294. What to Say When Your Teen Says, “You Can’t Make Me” 03.09.2026 11m

  Your teenager looks you in the eye and says:“You can’t make me.”Those four words can make a parent feel as though their authority is being tested—and that they need to win the moment immediately.But responding with “Oh, yes I can” usually turns the original issue into a power struggle. Now the conflict is no longer about the phone, chore, curfew, or family expectation. It’s about who will back down first.In this Quick Reset, Tess gives you a calmer and more effective response:“I’m not going to physically force you. The expectation is still ______. If you choose not to do it, ______ will happen. I’ll give you a minute.”You’ll learn how to communicate the boundary, offer your teen appropriate responsibility for their choice, and step away without giving up your parental authority.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why “You can’t make me” pulls parents into a power struggleThe exact script to use instead of saying “Oh, yes I can”Why fewer words and a lower voice are more effectiveHow to choose a related, reasonable, and enforceable outcomeWhat to say if your teen keeps arguingWhy your teen’s immediate reaction is not the best measure of whether your response workedWhen a situation requires protective action rather than a communication scriptThe goal is not to overpower your teenager or force them to agree with you.The goal is to stay grounded, hold the boundary, and protect the relationship while you follow through.Because the relationship is the intervention—and connection and authority can exist at the same time.⭐️ Download the Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit for scripts and a step-by-step plan to help you stay regulated, reduce power struggles, and respond more effectively during difficult conversations:Tween & Teen Conflict Reset Kit for seven practical scripts and a First-Ten-Minutes Plan.⭐Download the free Tech Reset Agreement to create clearer family expectations around phones, gaming, sleep, school responsibilities, and family connection: 👉Download the Tech Reset Agreement⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  293. Disrespectful Teenager? What to Do Before You Give a Consequence 01.09.2026 23m

  Your teenager rolls their eyes, insults you, says “whatever,” or slams the door—and your entire body reacts.You immediately think:They cannot speak to me this way.So you take the phone, cancel the weekend, or announce a punishment. But now the original problem has disappeared, and you are trapped in an even bigger power struggle about the consequence.Teen disrespect should not be ignored, but it does not always require an immediate punishment.In this episode of The Single Parenting Reset Show, Tess Connolly, LCSW, explains what to do during the critical moments before deciding on a consequence.You’ll learn how to distinguish between a dysregulated teenager, a teenager using disrespect to avoid a responsibility, and harmful behavior that requires repair or a consequence.Tess walks you through the three-part Before-Consequence Check:Pause your reaction.Sort the behavior.Choose the response.You’ll also learn:Why pausing does not weaken your parental authorityHow to address disrespect without losing the original boundaryWhen to ask your teenager for a communication redoHow to require repair without demanding a forced apologyWhen a consequence is genuinely necessaryHow to make consequences connected, proportionate, and enforceableWhat to say when your teenager refuses to continue the conversationYou’ll leave with practical scripts you can use during real conflicts—not simply ideas that sound good when everyone is calm.Download the Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit for scripts and a step-by-step plan to help you stay regulated, reduce power struggles, and respond more effectively during difficult conversations:Tween & Teen Conflict Reset Kit for seven practical scripts and a First-Ten-Minutes Plan.⭐Download the free Tech Reset Agreement to create clearer family expectations around phones, gaming, sleep, school responsibilities, and family connection: 👉Download the Tech Reset Agreement⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  292. What to Say When Your Teen Shuts You Out: 5 Scripts That Keep the Door Open 27.08.2026 18m

  Your teen walks through the door, barely looks at you, and heads straight to their room.You ask what happened.They say, “Nothing.”You try again.They answer, “I’m fine. Just leave me alone.”For many parents, especially single parents carrying the emotional weight of the family, this moment can feel deeply personal. You may worry that your teen no longer trusts you or that the distance between you is becoming permanent.The more worried you become, the more questions you may ask. But when your teen is overwhelmed, embarrassed, ashamed, angry, or simply unable to put an experience into words, repeated questions can feel like pressure.Giving your teen space does not mean ignoring them. Staying connected does not require forcing them to talk.The goal is to show your teen:I notice you.I care about what is happening.I can respect your need for space.I will not emotionally disappear.I am available when you are ready.In this Quick Reset episode, you’ll learn five scripts to use when your teen shuts you out:What to say when your teen refuses to talk.How to name what you notice without assuming you know what happened.How to ask whether they want listening, help, or space.How to check for safety without demanding every detail.How to give space while creating a clear time to reconnect.Tess also shares concrete parent-and-teen examples, what to do when you have already pushed too hard, and why a conversation that doesn’t happen immediately can still represent parenting progress.If this episode helped you, follow the show and share it with another parent who may need these words today.The relationship is the intervention.If this episode helped, follow The Single Parenting Reset Show on Apple Podcasts so the next practical reset is waiting for you.Download the Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit for scripts and a step-by-step plan to help you stay regulated, reduce power struggles, and respond more effectively during difficult conversations:Tween & Teen Conflict Reset Kit for seven practical scripts and a First-Ten-Minutes Plan.⭐Download the free Tech Reset Agreement to create clearer family expectations around phones, gaming, sleep, school responsibilities, and family connection: 👉Download the Tech Reset Agreement⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  291. Teen Won’t Talk to You? How to Help Them Open Up Without Pushing 25.08.2026 25m

  Your teen comes home, closes their bedroom door, and gives you one-word answers.You ask how their day was.“Fine.”You ask whether anything happened.“No.”You ask if they are upset with you.“I don’t know. Can you please leave me alone?”You are asking because you care—but the more you try to get your teen talking, the further away they seem to move.Teen silence can trigger enormous fear in a parent. You may worry that something is wrong, that your teen no longer trusts you, or that your relationship is slipping away.This can feel especially intense when you are parenting alone or carrying most of the emotional responsibility for your family. There may not be another adult beside you to help hold the worry, so you understandably try harder to get information.But your teen may experience those repeated questions as pressure, monitoring, or an expectation to talk before they are ready.Their silence does not automatically mean they do not love you or need you. Sometimes it means they are overwhelmed, embarrassed, tired, afraid of a reaction, or still trying to understand their own feelings.In this episode, you will learn:Why teenagers often shut down with the people they love mostHow your own fear can unintentionally create more pressureWhy asking fewer questions can sometimes lead to more communicationHow to create low-pressure opportunities for connectionWhat to do when your teen shares one small piece of informationHow advice, fixing, and lectures can close the door againHow to repair the pattern if conversations have become tenseWhen teen withdrawal may require more direct attention and supportThe goal is not to find the perfect question that makes your teen tell you everything.The goal is to become the parent with whom your teen feels safe bringing the difficult things.If this episode helped you, follow The Single Parenting Reset Show on Apple Podcasts so the next practical reset is waiting for you.You can also download my free Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit, which gives you practical scripts and a plan for staying grounded during difficult moments with your tween or teen. Find the link in the show notes.If communication has broken down in your family and you would like individualized support, you can also learn more about working with me through parent and family coaching. Schedule a Parent Reset Strategy Session.In the next Quick Reset episode, I will give you five exact scripts to use when your teen shuts you out—without chasing, lecturing, or closing the door to future communication.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
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  290. What to Say When Your Teen Says Vaping Is No Big Deal: 5 Scripts 20.08.2026 15m

  You find a vape in your teenager’s room, backpack, or pocket. When you ask about it, they shrug and say:“It’s not a big deal.”“Everyone does it.”“It’s only nicotine.”“I can stop whenever I want.”“You’re completely overreacting.”Those statements can immediately pull you into an argument. You may feel compelled to prove how dangerous vaping is, demand a confession, or give a severe consequence before you understand what is actually happening.But you do not have to convince your teen that vaping is serious before you can respond seriously.In Episode 289, we talked about the first conversation to have after discovering that your teen has been vaping. In today’s Quick Reset, we are getting even more practical.Tess gives you five exact scripts for responding when your teen minimizes, defends, or dismisses their vaping.You’ll learn what to say when your teen tells you:“Vaping is no big deal.”“Everyone does it.”“It’s only nicotine.”“I can stop whenever I want.”“You’re completely overreacting.”You’ll also learn why arguing, lecturing, and piling on frightening information can make your teen defend vaping more strongly—even when part of them may already be worried.These scripts will help you:Stay calm without becoming passive.Hold a clear boundary without demanding agreement.Move beyond the argument and assess what is actually happening.Ask about frequency, cravings, stress, peer pressure, and access.Help your teen become more honest about whether stopping feels difficult.Protect your relationship while still taking nicotine use seriously.Most e-cigarettes contain nicotine, which is highly addictive and can affect areas of the developing adolescent brain connected to attention, learning, mood, and impulse control. Young people can also begin showing signs of nicotine dependence before they are vaping every day. CDC: E-Cigarette Use Among YouthYour goal is not to frighten or shame your teen. Your goal is to make it safer for them to tell you the truth—and then take the appropriate next step.Download Tess’s free Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit for seven additional scripts and a practical plan for the first ten minutes of a difficult conversation.⭐Download the free Tech Reset Agreement to create clearer family expectations around phones, gaming, sleep, school responsibilities, and family connection: 👉Download the Tech Reset Agreement⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #CommunicationImportant note: This episode provides parenting education and is not individualized medical advice. If your teenager is vaping regularly, is having difficulty stopping, or may be using unknown or THC-containing products, contact their pediatrician or another qualified healthcare professional.
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  289. Teen Vaping: The First Conversation to Have Before Giving a Consequence 18.08.2026 25m

  You find a vape in your teenager’s backpack, bedroom, sweatshirt, or car.Within seconds, fear takes over:How long has this been happening?Where did they get it?Is this nicotine or marijuana?Are they addicted?What else are they hiding?You may want to immediately take their phone, ground them, demand the whole story, or deliver a long lecture about what vaping can do to their health.But the first few minutes of this conversation matter.If your teen feels cornered, shamed, or interrogated, you may get denial, blame, or partial truths. That does not mean you should ignore the vaping or avoid consequences. It means that before you decide what response is appropriate, you need enough information to understand what you are actually dealing with.In this episode of The Single Parenting Reset Show, Tess Connolly, LCSW, explains how to begin the first conversation after discovering that your tween or teen has been vaping.You will learn:Why you should regulate yourself before confronting your teenThe difference between starting with facts and starting with accusationsWhat to say when your teen insists the vape belongs to someone elseFive questions that can help you understand how frequently your teen is vapingHow to explore whether vaping is connected to stress, anxiety, social pressure, focus, or nicotine cravingsWhy experimentation, regular use, and possible nicotine dependence require different responsesHow to create consequences that are related, reasonable, and focused on safetyWhen to involve your teen’s pediatrician or another healthcare professionalHow to repair the conversation if you already yelled, threatened, or reacted out of fearThe goal is not to become permissive about vaping.The goal is to respond in a way that gives you the best chance of getting honest information, protecting your teen’s health, and addressing the real reason the vaping is happening.You can hold a clear boundary and preserve the relationship at the same time.The relationship is the intervention.If this episode helped, follow The Single Parenting Reset Show on Apple Podcasts so the next practical reset is waiting for you.Download the Tween and Teen Conflict Reset Kit for scripts and a step-by-step plan to help you stay regulated, reduce power struggles, and respond more effectively during difficult conversations:Tween & Teen Conflict Reset Kit for seven practical scripts and a First-Ten-Minutes Plan.If vaping, lying, escalating conflict, or disconnection has become an ongoing concern in your family, you can also learn more about a Parent Reset Strategy Session here:Parent Reset Strategy Session.⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses)📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.comThe Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection.#singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #CommunicationIMPORTANT NOTE:This episode provides general parenting education and is not a substitute for individualized medical care. If you are concerned that your teen may be dependent on nicotine or using THC or another unknown substance, contact their pediatrician or another qualified healthcare professional.