Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling

Episodes

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  136: Why Shame Won't Let You Heal (And How to Release It) 27.10.2026 17m

  Shame can be one of the biggest things keeping us stuck in the cycle of chronic skin picking, hair pulling and nail biting. We might know logically that there's nothing wrong with us, yet still carry this deep feeling that we're somehow not good enough, that we're broken or that there's something about us that needs fixing. But shame doesn't go away by trying to fix ourselves. It begins to release when we understand where it came from. In this episode, you'll discover: ✨ How shame develops fr...
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  135: What Ultimately Heals Chronic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling 20.10.2026 18m

  What if the key to healing from chronic skin picking, hair pulling or nail biting isn't learning how to control the behaviour, but learning how to feel your feelings? Picking, pulling and biting are ways of changing how we feel. They can help us escape anxiety, discomfort, boredom or other emotions we don't quite know how to handle. But when we learn how to actually sit with and process those feelings, we begin to reduce our need to escape them in the first place. In this episode, you'll disc...
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  134: The Trick to Building Consistent GOOD HABITS (That Will Actually Help You) 13.10.2026 20m

  You know there are habits that would be good for you. Exercising, meditating, journaling, doing the deeper work on yourself... And yet, no matter how many times you try, you just can't seem to stay consistent. Maybe you find the motivation when things get really bad, but as soon as life starts feeling better, those good habits slowly fall away again. There's a reason this keeps happening, and it might not be what you think. In this episode, you'll discover: ✨ Why waiting until things get bad ...
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  133: This Is What Makes It Into an Addiction – Chronic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling 06.10.2026 20m

  Why can chronic skin picking, hair pulling or nail biting become so incredibly addictive? You know the behaviour is hurting you. You desperately want to stop. And yet, your brain keeps pulling you back towards it again and again. There’s actually a reason for this — and when you understand what your brain has learned through these behaviours, so much starts to make sense. In this episode, you'll discover: ✨ How positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement and unpredictable rewards can combi...
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  132: Guided Evening Practice To Reduce Picking & Pulling Sessions 29.09.2026 15m

  If evenings are when your picking, pulling or biting tends to get worse, this episode is something you can actually come back to and use when you need it. After a whole day of doing, thinking and being “on”, it can be incredibly difficult to suddenly slow down. Your body might be tired, but your nervous system is still carrying everything from the day and picking, pulling or biting can become the way you decompress. This episode is designed to give you another way. In this episode: ✨ I'll gui...
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  131: Could Meditation Be The Solution To Chronic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling? (Science Based) 22.09.2026 20m

  What if one of the most powerful tools for healing from chronic skin picking, hair pulling or nail biting has nothing to do with trying to stop the urge? Meditation isn't about getting rid of urges. It can help us learn how to notice them, make space for them and not automatically act on them. And there’s some really interesting research showing us why this can be such a powerful practice. In this episode, you'll discover: ✨ What the science tells us about meditation, addiction and our abilit...
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  130: I Had a Good Childhood… So Why Am I Struggling? 15.09.2026 20m

  If you had a good childhood, it can be really confusing to look at the ways you struggle today and wonder… why? You might even feel guilty exploring your past because your parents loved you, gave you so much, and other people had it far worse. But having a good childhood doesn't mean you received everything you emotionally needed. In this episode, you'll discover: ✨ Why you can have loving, well-intentioned parents and still carry emotional wounds from childhood ✨ How the emotional patterns w...
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  129: Why You CAN'T Just Replace Skin Picking + What Is 10x More Effective 08.09.2026 19m

  If you’ve tried replacing chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting with something less destructive and found that, so far, the only result has been more frustration and a sense of hopelessness... This is because you can't replace it. You've essentially been beating your head against a wall in the hope that it will feel better. It's not your fault. I did this for years too! Until I found a more effective approach. In this episode, you'll discover: ✨ Why trying to replace pickin...
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  128: Your Inner Critic Is Making You Pick - The Greatest Gift You Can Give Yourself 01.09.2026 26m

  Your inner critic might be playing a much bigger role in your skin picking, hair pulling or nail biting than you realise. I've spoken to hundreds of people within this community, and this just keeps popping up in a very meaningful way, so it's time to unpack it together. In this episode, you'll discover: ✨ What your inner critic actually is and why it’s not your enemy ✨ Why fighting or trying to silence it can keep you stuck ✨ A simple perspective shift that can help you quiet your inner crit...
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  127: Why You Can’t Relax at the End of the Day + The Shift That Can Change It 25.08.2026 28m

  Do you get to the end of the day and feel restless, dissatisfied or like you haven't done enough? What if it's not because you've done something wrong or you need to do better, but because somewhere along the way, you learnt that feeling good is something you have to earn? In this episode, you'll learn: ✨ Why conditional love can make it so hard to relax and actually feel satisfied at the end of the day ✨ How we learn to use our emotions as "currency" and why this can leave us constantly sear...
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  126: How To Stop Chronic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling 18.08.2026 21m

  🙌A great follow-up episode to listen to after this one is 123: Stop The Spiral & Heal After a Picking, Pulling, or Biting Session What if the thing keeping you stuck in chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting isn't just the behaviour itself, but how you treat yourself because of it? For so many people in this community, there is one thing that shows up again and again: a loud inner critic. And the shame, judgment and relentless pressure it creates can actually become part of th...
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  125: The 3-Step Reset for Picking & Pulling Urges: Regain Control in the Moment 11.08.2026 19m

  This isn't a quick fix, and it won't make the urge disappear. But it is a process that can help you create long-term, sustainable change. These 3 steps were vital in my own healing journey, and I continue to see them help my clients and other wonderful members of this community find their way forward. In this episode, you'll learn how to: ✨ Regulate your emotions through your breath and reconnect with your body ✨ Ask effective questions to better understand what you actually need ✨ Take inten...
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  124: 2 Practical Steps to Stop Worrying What Other People Think 04.08.2026 28m

  Do you find it hard to relax around other people? Do you get stuck in your head, worry about what others are thinking, or feel self-conscious in social situations, whether you're at work, with friends, or simply out in public? I feel with you. I used to be afraid to leave the house and struggled with crippling social anxiety. In this episode, I share the two skills that allowed me to outgrow these limitations, access more of who I am, and experience a sense of calm and peace in situations tha...
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  123: Stop The Spiral & Heal After a Picking, Pulling, or Biting Session 28.07.2026 20m

  A highly effective practice to reduce the length, severity and frequency of picking, pulling, and biting sessions happens when you least expect. 💜 The moments after a bad session can be some of the hardest. But what if I told you they were also one of the greatest opportunities for healing and growth? In my own healing journey, and in those of my clients, I've consistently seen that how we respond to ourselves in these moments can directly impact the picking, pulling, and biting. In this epis...
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  122: How to Know When You Need Help With Skin Picking, Hair Pulling, or Nail Biting 21.07.2026 15m

  If, after a picking, pulling, or biting session, you feel: 💔Shame 💔Self-judgment 💔Embarrassment 💔Hopelessness 💔Lost 💔Stuck 💔Apathetic These are all big indications that you need and deserve support in healing. BUT... "... Is it really that bad?" "... I should be able to figure this out myself." If you've had these doubts, there are 2 cognitive defensive mechanisms that you might be unknowingly engaging that are greatly holding you back. If you're engaging in one or both of them, then it's a ...
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  121: Why Can't I Stay Consistent? The Missing Piece to Lasting Change 14.07.2026 19m

  You're not consistent, not because you lack willpower, but because you think you need to be fixed. When we look at the science of motivation and the incredible impact self-compassion has on our likelihood of moving toward our goals, the first sentence takes on a much more profound meaning. So let's unpack that together: 🌟Understand what's really driving your inconsistency and resistance. 🌟Learn how to make change feel easier by connecting to what truly matters to you 🌟Discover a simple ...
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  120: A part of me really enjoys it! What do I do? 07.07.2026 25m

  Satisfaction, rest, soothing - these are some of the most common things people report they enjoy about picking, pulling, and biting. The biggest reason why we enjoy it so much is that it gives us something we aren't getting enough of in life already - Read the first three words again... Despite how much you might enjoy it, when you begin to address the root cause, you start building a life that gives you more genuine reasons to feel satisfaction, rest, and soothing (and much more). When this ...
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  119: How to deal with the scars & damage from picking, pulling & biting 30.06.2026 20m

  Understandably, the scars that we create through chronic skin picking, hair pulling and nail biting are not something that we feel good about. The bald patches, thinning, hyperpigmentation, and dwindling nail beds can trigger feelings of shame, self-judgment, or even unlovability. The problem is, these are also the same emotions that fuel picking, pulling, and biting! It becomes a self-sustaining cycle. When we learn how to move through these emotions, we are actively helping ourselves ...
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  118: Who will I be without skin picking??? 23.06.2026 27m

  The version of you that is free from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting is one that feels confident, creative, compassionate, and calm. These are not just pretty words; this is who you are at your core (as research has discovered)! Now the question is, how do we connect more to this part of ourselves? And how does picking, pulling, and biting both hold you back and help you get there? This is where we turn our greatest struggle into our greatest teacher, and we don't do it thr...
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  117: Why You Can't "Just Stop" + A Science-Based Approach to What Works Instead 16.06.2026 26m

  Did you know there is a specific brain function that is largely responsible for your chronic picking, pulling, and biting? That's right, you're not broken. You never were. It's your brain over-functioning. In fact, it's a really common struggle in this modern, overstimulated world. Look at all the people who are overworking, overeating, overgiving, overexercising, overthinking, overgrooming. We're all chronically overwhelmed and addicted to it. And it's because of something called intermitten...