Self(ish) Confidence

Episodes

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  [326] It's time to come back to life, sis ✨ 27.10.2026 27m

  One small comment from a stranger can hit like a mirror. I’m at a Friday night blood test appointment, I nervously share what I do for work, and the nurse responds with kindness, curiosity, and a flood of ideas. Then he drops a line that sticks with me: “I have no life.” My heart breaks a little, and it opens a much bigger question I can’t ignore: what does it mean to actually live right now? We talk about confidence in a way that goes beyond pep talks. Movement comes up in a powerful ...
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  [325] Reclaim Your Voice, Vision + Light 20.10.2026 27m

  The world feels loud right now, and a lot of us are walking around with minds that never stop and plates that are already past full. So I want to start with one question that stopped me in my tracks: do you love the reason why you’re tired? If you do, that exhaustion can hold meaning. If you don’t, it’s a signal, not a personal failure and it might be time for rest, support, or a shift in how you’re living. From there, I get real about identity shifts and the weird, vulnerable “crumbli...
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  [BOOST] Notice The Small Things 09.10.2026 11m

  Tomorrow could be the best day of your life, the hardest day of your life, or the last one. That thought can feel heavy, but it can also be the cleanest reset we have when we’re stuck scrolling, overthinking, and telling ourselves we’ll “do it later.” I’m sharing a short holiday boost that cuts through the noise and brings you back to what matters. We talk about why modern life leaves us overstimulated and unsure of our next step, even when the thing we want is simple. With Canadian Th...
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  [323] Finish Confident In The Last 90 Days 29.09.2026 23m

  The last 90 days of the year can mess with your head. One minute you feel fired up to finish strong, and the next you are wrapped in a heated blanket watching your calendar disappear into Canada Thanksgiving, Halloween, and the full holiday season rush. I’m Jess, and I’m talking straight about that pressure pot feeling and the real-life reasons our goals start to wobble, especially when motivation comes in waves and life is doing the most. We get into how to tell the difference between a goa...
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  [322] Stop Chasing Greener Grass 22.09.2026 24m

  The grass is always greener until you get there and realize it comes with closures, sickness, and a whole new set of problems. I’m coming to you with a slightly scratchy voice and a very real story about childcare curveballs, jealousy, and the myth that one external change will magically hand us freedom, energy, and peace. If you have ever thought, “If only I had that job, that relationship, that schedule, that support… then I’d finally feel good,” you are going to feel seen. We dig into how...
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  [321] Stop Letting Comparison Steal Your Pride 08.09.2026 23m

  That reflex to say “I’m fine” can be the loudest sign that you’re not giving yourself enough room to feel what’s true. I’m Jess, and I’m getting real about a tender season over here: daycare transition days, constant colds, the heaviness of drop-offs, and the pressure to show up like I’ve got it all figured out. I also share a bit of the behind-the-scenes excitement as Selfish Confidence heads toward year five with refreshed artwork, more conversational “sleepover” style chats, and guests I c...
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  [320] Becoming Unrecognizable 26.08.2026 29m

  You know that moment when you catch your reflection and think, wait, I don’t even recognize myself? That’s what we’re unpacking today: the experience of becoming “unrecognizable,” how it can feel heavy and disorienting, and how it can also be the most powerful sign that you’re growing into a truer version of you. We start with a real-life reminder of identity outside of roles, like being a mom, a partner, or the person who keeps everything running. I share how doing updated brand photos brou...
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  [319] Overwhelm Reset: What is overwhelm trying to teach you? 18.08.2026 28m

  Overwhelm can make you feel like you’re failing at life when the truth is simpler: you’re carrying too much, for too long, with too few breaks. Today we’re getting real about that “chest-tightening” season where the calendar is packed, your brain is tired, and you’re tempted to either burn everything down or push through until you hit some magical date where you can finally breathe. I share what’s been happening behind the scenes after nearly five years of the podcast and why readjusting expe...
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  [318] How to Trust Yourself When Life Changes Your Plans 05.08.2026 23m

  Your plan can be perfect and life can still change by lunch. I’m Jess, and today I’m talking straight to the part of you that wants to control every pawn on the chessboard, because I’ve been there too. When my childcare plan shifted unexpectedly, I had a choice: spiral, or pivot. I’m choosing a “30 days of fun” mindset and soaking up a season I might never get again, even if it isn’t the version of summer I imagined. From that real-life pivot, we go deeper into trusting yourself when things ...
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  [317] Break The Thought Loop 28.07.2026 33m

  Your brain can turn one hard moment into a full-time soundtrack, and suddenly you’re living inside a rerun instead of your real life. I’m Jess, and I’m sharing what’s been hitting me hard lately: parenthood and childcare did not go the way I pictured, and it was dangerously easy to translate that into “I can’t create, I can’t grow, I can’t do my work right now.” That belief sounds practical, but it quietly becomes a cage. We dig into the cycle of replaying conversations, second-guessing what...
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  [BOOST] What If Someone Needs What You Create? 24.07.2026 12m

  Your best ideas always show up at the worst time: when you’re driving, showering, or staring at the ceiling right before sleep. I'm jumping on the mic for a short bonus boost to turn that familiar spark into something bigger, a reminder that creation is a practice, not a personality trait. If you’ve been telling yourself you’re not consistent enough, not confident enough, or not “ready,” this is the kind of pep talk that actually tells the truth. We riff on the ripple effect of creators and...
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  [315] How To Let Go Of Identities That No Longer Fit 14.07.2026 26m

  You can outgrow a label and still keep living like it’s true. We’re talking about the sneaky way old identities cling to us, even after we’ve healed, evolved, and built a life that proves we’re different now. I start with a rare quiet moment, a big love letter to this community, and a reminder that self-confidence isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you are and letting that version of you take up space again. We also dig into practical tools for identity change: gett...
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  [314] Seasons That Shake Your Identity 07.07.2026 33m

  Change can be exciting, but the part nobody warns you about is the identity whiplash. One day you’re handling life like you always have, and the next you’re in a new season, new schedule, new body, new priorities, and you’re still expecting the “old you” to keep up. I’m talking about the real impact of life transitions and why you don’t need to become someone brand new to grow, you need to remember who you are and come home to yourself. We start with a reminder to do everything with love, in...
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  [313] What If Your Best Summer Starts With Fun 30.06.2026 25m

  Summer doesn’t wait, and neither should your joy. I’m Jess, and I’m talking to the woman who loves a checklist but keeps putting her own fun at the bottom of it, the “I’ll relax after the dishes” mindset that quietly steals the best parts of the season. You’ll hear me unpack the difference between planning by time and planning by energy, plus practical, realistic ways to build an epic summer without needing a huge trip or a perfect schedule. Think tiny pockets of self-care, pairing your kids...
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  [312] The Things I Swore I'd Never Do 23.06.2026 29m

  “I would never do that” can feel like a boundary, but sometimes it’s a wall. Today we get honest about the weird moment when you look back at your past self and laugh because you did the exact thing you swore you’d never do and it actually made your life better. I’m sharing my own never say never turns, plus the mindset shift that helped me stop treating every decision like a locked door. Then we go deeper than “confidence tips.” I’ve been feeling a shift toward self reclamation: figuring ou...
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  [311] Your Lack Of Confidence Is Showing 🙈 09.06.2026 26m

  The fastest way to spot a confidence dip is not in what you say, it’s in what you do next: the overexplaining, the defensiveness, the mental replay of a one-minute interaction that suddenly feels like a life review. If that sounds familiar, you’re going to feel seen here. We unpack the sneaky signs your self-confidence is slipping and why it often happens during big life transitions. I share what’s been lighting up my own “seeds of doubt” lately, from parenting choices and toddler tantrums t...
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  [310] What If Your Distractions Aren’t Random At All 02.06.2026 31m

  Your attention is getting pulled in a hundred directions, and it’s not because you’re lazy or “bad at discipline.” It’s because modern life is designed to distract you and if you’re parenting, building a business, working a job, or just trying to feel like yourself again, those distractions can quietly eat the year you swore would be different. I’m sharing a real-life reset: how I think about showing up imperfectly, why I’m not “starting over,” and what it means to stay human and authentic i...
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  [309] Stop Letting Other People’s Fear Lead 26.05.2026 33m

  Someone hears your dream and suddenly it feels risky, unrealistic, or “too much.” That moment can look like advice, concern, or even excitement, but underneath it is often the same thing: projection. We’re talking about what happens when other people’s fears and “shoulds” get placed onto your choices, and how quickly that can shrink your confidence if you don’t have protection around your ideas. We also get real about social media comparison and information overload, because a five minute sc...
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  [308] Being Delulu in Barbados: a BTS Look of the recent Self(ish) Retreat 19.05.2026 30m

  Mom guilt tells us we have to pick a lane: be fully present at home or fully committed to the dream. I’m fresh back from our Barbados Selfish Retreat, and I’m here to tell you what it actually looked like to host a week-long women’s retreat as a mom and come out the other side more grounded, more clear, and honestly more convinced that “having both” is possible. Barbados isn’t just a pretty backdrop. It’s the place that helped bring my life to life, and returning with a new identity, new res...
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  [307] How To Quit The Comparison Trap And Trust Your Own Path 05.05.2026 20m

  Comparison has a sneaky way of dressing up like motivation, then leaving you with that heavy “I’m not doing enough” feeling. While I’m in full pre-retreat mode packing for Barbados (organized chaos and a suitcase that’s barely under 50 pounds), I wanted to sit down with you for a quick, honest reset on the comparison game and why it keeps showing up even when life is going well. We talk about what’s really happening when social media comparison spikes your anxiety and self-doubt. We’re consu...