Turns Out I'm Into It!

Episodes

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  #122: Men, What’s Your Specialty in the Bedroom? 01.10.2026 30m

  Men are often taught that being good in bed means being ready for sex, knowing how to perform, and making sure their partner is satisfied. But how often are men actually encouraged to think about what they want? In this episode, I’m exploring the different flavours of male desire, why your pleasure matters too, and how knowing what genuinely turns you on can help you get out of your head and have more immersive, authentic sex. I’m also introducing a different way to think about your des...
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  #121: Hot Doctor, Big Dick… Why Was I Still Bored? 10.09.2026 36m

  I’m back! After a couple of months away from the podcast, I’m finally behind the mic again. In this episode, I’m sharing where I’ve been, what I’ve been working on, and the story of why, even when I was dating a hot, well-hung doctor, I almost gave up on sex entirely... We talk about why “doing sex right” doesn’t necessarily mean you’re having sex that actually works for you, the shame I used to carry around my fantasies, and the moments that helped me finally understand what made my whole bo...
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  #120: Degradation vs Humiliation — What’s the Difference? 🪱 04.06.2026 25m

  What’s the difference between degradation and humiliation? While these kinks often get grouped together, they actually tap into very different emotional experiences. In this episode, Harley Rabbit explores: the difference between degradation and humiliation playwhy these dynamics can feel so intensely erotichow old emotional experiences can sometimes shape our fantasieswhy consensual kink can feel healing, freeing, and empoweringHarley also shares personal experiences with degradation play, d...
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  #119: New Erototypes for Taboo, Sensation & Transformation 14.05.2026 29m

  Welcome friends! This one's for the sex nerds. 🤓 In this episode I'm nerding out on sexology and taking you behind the scenes on the Erototypes framework I've been developing. If you're curious about the thinking behind the system, what's changed, and why, you're going to enjoy this one. Thanks to the incredible feedback from this community, version two is here, and it's so much better. I've added four brand new erototypes (hello Monkey, Horse, Octopus and Stag 👀), made some tweaks base...
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  #118: Where Fetishes Come From – And Why I'm Now Into PJ's 23.04.2026 22m

  This week I'm diving into the fascinating world of fetishes: what they are, how they differ from core desires, and why some very specific things can become incredibly erotic. I share a very personal (and very cosy) story about my partner Slade's pyjama fetish, explore the psychology behind how fetishes form during our formative years, and reflect on my own unexpected turn-ons — including steel, and possibly Formula One cars. Whether you've got a fetish you've never quite understood, or you're...
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  #117: Kink Isn't Just About Pain (The 4 Types of Turn On) 02.04.2026 27m

  Kink has a bit of a PR problem. Most people assume it’s all pain, whips and chains… but that’s actually a tiny slice of what’s possible. In this episode, I’m breaking down the 4 core ways desire shows up: Primal, Nurture, Obedience and Shadow. These aren’t rigid roles to fit into, but different flavours of turn-on that can help you start to recognise what actually feels good for you. As you listen, notice what stands out. You might see yourself clearly in one, or realise you’re a mix of sever...
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  #116: Introducing Erototypes: A Playful Way to Understand What Turns You On 26.03.2026 21m

  Alright friends, it’s been a long time coming, but I’m finally ready to share something I’ve been quietly building behind the scenes. 🥁🥁🥁 In this episode, I’m introducing Erototypes — a playful way to understand your desires. Instead of trying to fit yourself into a kink role or be a “good” sub or dom, we’re turning that question on its head and looking at desire from the inside out — exploring how you actually want to feel, and the different flavours of turn-on that make up your unique eroti...
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  #115: What Actually Makes Kinky Relationships Feel Secure 12.03.2026 19m

  Kink can ask a lot from a relationship. When we’re exploring things that feel vulnerable, taboo, or a little scary, the sense of safety between partners becomes really important. In this episode, I’m talking about one of the foundations of strong kinky relationships: secure attachment — and why feeling emotionally secure makes it much easier to explore desire, power, and fantasy together. The surprising part is that security is rarely built through big gestures or complicated relationship rul...
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  #114: Wearable Claws: The Primal Toy You Didn't Know You Needed – with J from Claws & Clamps 26.02.2026 58m

  Claws are much more than a costume piece. They can completely change how your hands feel in play — and how you feel wearing them. In this episode, I’m joined by J from Claws & Clamps to talk about wearable claws for sensation play. We explore how they’re designed, the difference between sharp and scratchy (yes, that’s a real thing), how to choose the right material and fit, and how to actually use them well. We also dive into calibration, power shifts, primal energy, and why slowing down ...
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  #113: I’m Pretty Sure the World Is Secretly Kinky 19.02.2026 20m

  Kink is supposed to be this underground, secret-club thing… Except it’s actually everywhere. In this episode, I’m diving into the surprisingly kinky places I’ve spotted power dynamics hiding in plain sight — from Phantom of the Opera to Beauty and the Beast, from Harley and Joker to Game of Thrones. Looking back, I can see how certain characters and storylines hooked me long before I had language for why. Turns out, maybe our “taboo” desires aren’t as rare as we think. Maybe they’ve been wove...
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  #112: Using Kink to Stay in My Body When I’m Not Okay 05.02.2026 23m

  This episode is a little more vulnerable than usual, but so many of us are impacted by our mental health. So this week I’m sharing how kink is helping me stay grounded when I'm feeling overwhelmed. I talk about what it’s like when your mind starts spiralling, and how sensation, containment, and surrender can sometimes do what other tools can’t. Gentle reminder: we do touch on mental health, so take care of yourself while listening. Sponsor Message This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur...
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  #111: Let’s Talk Wax, Impact, and Sensation Play — with El from Collared Foxy 29.01.2026 58m

  In this episode, I’m joined by El from Collared Foxy for a deep dive into the world of sensation play. We talk through wax play and impact play in a way that’s practical, creative, and genuinely accessible — whether you’re already experimenting or just starting to get curious. El brings such a rare mix of lived experience, craftsmanship, and clear language to this conversation, and honestly, I could have talked to her for hours. We explore why sensation play is so much more than just pain, ho...
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  #110: Why I Started Feeling Weird About Being Sexual Online 22.01.2026 20m

  I’ve always proudly held the value that there is no shame in being a sexual being. I’ve lived that belief — posting spicy photos on FetLife, and speaking openly about kink without apology. But recently, after spending more time on social media, and having to censor myself, I've noticed that certainty start to wobble. This episode is a reflection on what happens when the pressure creeps in. When social censorship starts shaping how you see yourself, not just what you post. Mentione...
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  #109: How to Make Kink Fit Into Your Busy Life 15.01.2026 18m

  For a long time, I thought kink was all about big, flashy peak experiences — elaborate scenes, intense role play, and wild adventures that take a lot of time and energy. And while those moments can be amazing, most of us don’t live our lives there. In this episode, I talk about what kink looks like when life is real. Busy weeks, tired nights, limited capacity. I explore how focusing only on big scenes can leave you feeling like you’re not doing enough, and how comparison can quietly drain the...
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  #108: Christmas Special – A Very Adult Christmas 🎅✨ 25.12.2025 29m

  Merry Christmas, my lovelies, and welcome to my very first Christmas special! This episode is a little gift from me to you: a cosy, cheeky Christmas story with a very Harley Rabbit twist. I wrote it because I know the holidays can be magical… but they can also be overwhelming, lonely, or complicated. Especially for so many in this community who are queer, kinky, poly, or neurospicy. So think of this as your tiny refuge from the chaos. Something warm, playful, and just for you. Curl up, get co...
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  #107: Why High-Achieving Women Crave Surrender – with Julieta Chiara 18.12.2025 59m

  If you’ve ever wondered why so many smart, capable, high-performing women melt into a puddle the moment someone takes control… this episode is going to hit home. Today I’m joined by the incredible Julieta Chiara for a conversation that goes straight to the heart of why ambitious, high-functioning women crave the chance to finally let go. We unpack the deep psychological reasons so many of us who “run the show” in our everyday lives are drawn to dominance and submission. That moment where your...
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  #106: Twelve Naughty Ideas for a Very Kinky Christmas 04.12.2025 29m

  It’s officially December, which means two things: Christmas chaos is upon us, andI am absolutely going to find ways to make it kinky.In this week’s episode, I’m sharing 12 fun, creative, and very naughty ways to sprinkle a little extra spice into your holiday season. Some are playful, some are sensual, some are downright filthy — and most of them work just as well if you’re partnered or solo, and some even work for long-distance. I didn’t expect Christmas and kink to be such a perfect combina...
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  #105: Tentacle Erotica — The Art, the History, and My First Toy Review 🐙 27.11.2025 31m

  Hey friends, Harley here! This week we’re diving into one of the most misunderstood and surprisingly historic corners of fetish culture: tentacle erotica. From centuries-old Japanese artwork to modern fantasy toys, this genre has far more depth and erotic imagination than most people realise. In this episode, I explore: The surprising origins of tentacle erotica in Japanese shunga artHow censorship laws helped shape the genreWhy tentacle fantasies feel so erotic for so many peopleThe many for...
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  #104: Inside the World of Nothosaur Toys - with Kingsley 20.11.2025 41m

  Hey friends, it's Harley here. In this episode, I chat with Kingsley from Nothosaur, the fantasy toy company turning imagination into art. From dragons and wolves to tentacles and alien lovers, Nothosaur creates beautifully crafted silicone toys inspired by fantasy creatures — each with its own character, backstory, and personality. Kingsley shares how the brand started in a tiny Hong Kong studio and grew into a 50-person creative team known for their wild designs and inclusive values. We tal...
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  #103: Evolution of a Shibari Master — with Kazami Sensei 13.11.2025 1h 5m

  In this episode, I speak with Kazami Sensei, one of Japan’s most respected figures in shibari and the founder of Kazami-ryu. Over a career spanning more than thirty years, he has performed and taught extensively throughout Japan and internationally, with certified schools now operating in Australia, Canada, and Hong Kong. In our conversation, Kazami Sensei reflects on his early years of self-teaching, drawing inspiration from the late master Randa Mai, and how his own style gradually develope...