The Good Girl Game Changers

Episodes

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  Where Are You On Your Journey To Claiming Your Belonging? 05.11.2026 47m

  Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioWhere are you on your journey to claiming your belonging? This week we share our own very different paths through masking, numbing and trying to buy our way in, what helped us realise belonging was ours all along, and a simple practice to help you claim a little more of yours.1:15 — Chelle recaps this season’s conversations with Sonya Renée Taylor and David Mallard2:33 — Evie shares her most recent moment of belonging3:48 — Chelle shares her story of belonging as a young girl 7:54 — Evie shares her very different story10:33 — Chelle reflects on how nature and nurture shape our sense of belonging, and what Indigenous communities show us about always being part of an “us”13:38 — Chelle and Evie talk about Sonya’s social ladders, and how much energy we’d free up if we knew belonging was our birthright14:39 — Chelle shares how she tried to buy belonging with money and power at the centre of her business, and what happened when the spokes stopped spinning19:40 — Evie talks about numbing through burnout and COVID isolation, and finding threads of herself again on her back deck and her grandparents’ veranda22:03 — Chelle reflects on Tyson Yunkaporta’s contrast between belonging through ownership and belonging to the land23:11 — Evie speaks about how vulnerable it felt to show up without alcohol as a mask23:39 — Chelle shares how the Camino, Uluru, the Annapurna mountains and the Cliffs of Moher led her to the mantra “I belong with everybody, everywhere, all the time”29:57 — Chelle explains how claiming her belonging made room for others to belong alongside her32:26 — Evie and Chelle talk about letting people be all the flavours and melodies they are38:39 — Evie guides a butterfly hug practice with the mantra “I belong with everybody, everywhere”42:17 — Chelle sums up the episode’s four ahas46:06 — Post-show chat
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  David Mallard: Do You Need To Grieve Your "Good Girl" Beliefs To Finally Let Them Go? 29.10.2026 46m

  Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioDo you need to grieve your good girl beliefs to finally let them go? David Mallard joins Chelle to talk about the hidden doorways into grief, why healing means going into the dark as well as toward the light, and how grieving together helps us reclaim our belonging.1:41 — Dave shares his strong boy story2:35 — Chelle describes the grief that came once her anger at good girl expectations passed, and what she noticed at Dave’s grief workshop4:50 — Dave explains the doorways into grief we often miss9:14 — Chelle opens up about meeting her protective parts, why a religious upbringing made descending into the dark so terrifying, and the belonging she found grieving with others13:29 — Dave talks about soul hygiene, working on “geologic time”, and letting go of the expectation that one course will fix us18:58 — Dave describes grief work as countercultural, humanising work, and shares why one Indigenous community said “we’re happy because we grieve a lot”23:28 — Dave talks about living in an age of collapse, rising loneliness, and a culture that tells us to “get over it” and hit our KPIs25:10 — Dave explains why grief has to be embodied and witnessed, and why being seen is both what we fear and where the relief comes from31:01 — Chelle and Dave talk about belonging as something you feel in your body, and vulnerability as the risk it asks of us35:40 — Chelle describes how grief has made her joy fuller38:57 — Chelle asks where to begin if you’re not ready to grieve in a group44:54 — Dave offers his final advice45:12 — Close
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  Sonya Renee Taylor: Are You Still Trying To Prove You're Worthy? 22.10.2026 41m

  Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioAre you still trying to prove you're worthy? In this interview Sonya Renee Taylor shares why belonging and worthiness are already yours, how to stop climbing other people's ladders of expectations, and the rebelliouness of radical rest.2:30 — Sonya shares her good girl story3:55 — Sonya explains the ladder of bodily hierarchy, and why its premise (that love and worthiness have to be earned) is faulty8:42 — Sonya reflects on why remembering our inherent worth might be “the assignment of humanness”9:14 — Chelle and Sonya talk about why there’s no such thing as one-way liberation13:16 — Chelle describes how time in nature helped her believe in oneness, and the mantra she repeats: “I belong with everybody and everything, everywhere”15:14 — Sonya speaks about root systems, trees, breath and the sun, and what they show us about belonging without performing18:21 — Chelle shares how she uses her mantra when walking into a group, and the ripple it’s had on her relationships20:32 — Sonya explains radical permission, opens up about being called to deep rest, and tells the story of a grocery store trip that showed her life doesn’t need us to perform24:53 — Chelle talks about lying under her oak tree most afternoons as a revolutionary act, and wonders what would happen if more of us did it27:58 — Chelle shares her journey from astrology sceptic to having her birth chart read by Sonya30:45 — Sonya describes her own path into astrology: a family of Scorpio women, a spiritual collapse at the start of the pandemic, and finding a language that described her35:11 — Sonya explains why she sees astrology as a map, and why everything being connected means the planets are part of our story too38:53 — Sonya offers her final invitation: less striving, “all of life is subtraction”40:16 — Closing
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  What If Grief And Awe Belong Together? 14.10.2026 41m

  Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioWhen did you last let yourself grieve something you loved, or feel like you belonged somewhere without having to earn it? This week we unpack what nature has been teaching us about grief, awe and belonging, and guide you through a writing practice to explore where your own relationship with nature began.1:42 — Chelle shares a recent experience of being in nature4:58 — Looking back at the season so far with Claire, Simon, and Jim and Jenny, and Aha #1: what Claire calls our “injured instincts”8:31 — Evie on losing her childhood connection to nature as good girl expectations took hold, and how nature became her path back to herself12:00 — Chelle shares why she signed up for a nature-based leadership program and the grief that surfaced once she slowed down16:39 — Why Western cultures have so few grief rituals, what nature’s life cycles teach us, and “grief is simply the receipt for the love that we’ve shared”19:52 — Aha #2: what happens when we’re in relationship with nature, and why slowing down felt so risky in peak good girl mode26:32 — Evie and Chelle discuss what it's like to be known by a place, and why the oak tree doesn’t care how productive you’ve been today28:27 — Evie guides us through the Co-becoming practice, inspired by Maya Ward33:03 — Chelle’s shares her experience of the practice 37:36 — Summary of the ah-ha's and tool 40:06 — Post-show chat and a sneak peek at the next episode with Sonya Renee Taylor
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  Jim & Jenny Wright: Can Nature Help You Listen To Yourself Again? 08.10.2026 29m

  Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioWhen did you last stop listening for what everyone else needs, and listen to the world around you? Evie's grandparents, Jim and Jenny Wright, join her from their veranda in the Queensland bush to talk about what decades of listening and living in the bush have taught them about silence, freedom and belonging.2:36 — Jenny shares her good girl story4:04 — Jim shares his strong boy story5:56 — Jim & Jenny share how they met and where life took them 10:27 — Jim & Jenny share their experience of life on a land share community: what worked, what didn't, and why city people arrived without the skills for community14:06 — Why so many land share communities fall apart, and the "superordinate goal" that holds the others together16:56 — Jim & Jenny share what their land looks like today: solar power, a creek, and a family compound taking shape as the next generation builds alongside them18:15 — Jim & Jenny share what bush life has given them.22:38 — Being a human being instead of a human doing, and why living in the present gets easier with age25:32 — Jim & Jenny share why listening to the land matters so much to them. 28:39 — Closing
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  Simon Coverdale: What Grief Are You Holding That Nature Could Help You Heal? 29.09.2026 42m

  Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio What grief are you carrying right now? Is it the loss of someone you love, a relationship that's ended, a hope that didn't work out, or the heaviness of what's happening in the world? And where do you go when it all feels like too much? In this episode, Chelle talks with wellbeing researcher and nature connection specialist Simon Coverdale about the difference between being in nature and being in relationship with it. 1:47 — Introducing Simon Coverdale: wellbeing researcher and nature connection specialist with over 20 years experience working alongside First Nations communities2:13 — Simon shares his strong boy story3:13 — Why good girl and strong boy conditioning hasn't faded with the generations, and what the manosphere signals about pressure on young people today5:32 — Simon's relationship with nature growing up8:59 — What the research shows: how nature connection links to vitality, well-being, and the easing of self-monitoring that lets us just be11:54 — Awe, perspective, and perfectly imperfect: how witnessing nature's cycles helped Chelle give herself permission to stop chasing perfection. 13:33 — Eco-anxiety, burnout in the environmental sector, and why deepening nature connection builds the very resources we need to keep caring15:44 — Sitting with grief and love at the same time: "Grief is nature's receipt for the way we love"18:30 — The difference between time in nature (contact) and being in relationship with it (connection), and why it matters21:00 — How Chelle moved from walking past the sea to being in it: the "wall of green," learning tree names, and drawing a circle in the sand each morning28:00 — Connection to country: Simon on five years working with Dja Dja Wurrung people, what country really means, and why Western nature science and Indigenous knowing are "same, same, but different"32:00 — Chelle visits the land of her Irish ancestors: a nature-based ancestral retreat and a cellular experience she didn't expect34:14 — Where to start: nearby nature, indoor plants, doing what you already enjoy, and why you don't need to know your bird calls37:00 — Three Good Things in Nature: the research-backed micro-practice that builds well-being and nature connection at the same time39:24 — Two hours a week is the tipping point, using your senses as a doorway, and the five pathways to nature connectedness41:03 — Closing, resources, and Robin Wall Kimmerer's quote on plants as those who take care of us
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  Claire Dunn: Can The Magical Trifecta Help You Heal? 17.09.2026 45m

  Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioAre you fed up with trying to break free of your 'good girl' behaviours? Are you tired of trying to think your way to healing? Are you sick of doing it all on your own?  In this episode, Chelle sits down with rewilding facilitator and Nature's Apprentice founder Claire Dunn to unpack what she calls the "magical trifecta": a deep connection to ourselves, to community and to nature. To learn more about Claire's work and her rewilding programs, visit naturesapprentice.com.au.1:50 — Introducing Claire Dunn: writer, rewilding facilitator, and founder of Nature's Apprentice2:03 — Claire shares her good girl story4:03 — How Claire's environmental activism became its own form of perfectionism and led to burnout6:00 — What drew Claire to rewilding and ancestral lifeways, and the missing piece she finally found living in the bush for a year13:39 — The real lesson from that year in the bush: moving from doing to beingness, from imposed tasks to genuine desire15:14 — Chelle shares her own experience in Claire's program17:21 — Claire on what she sees in participants: the trifecta of connection to self, community, and nature and why women come looking for something therapy couldn't quite reach22:55 — The concept of "injured instincts," Clarissa Pinkola Estés, and what happens when women reconnect with their wild inner landscape27:27 — Claire's frameworks: eco-awakening, deep nature connection practices, and initiation — the shape of the path36:26 — Practical advice for busy lives: curiosity as the fuel, sit spots, nature journaling, and why one wild day a month goes a long way41:09 — Raising nature-connected kids: Claire on screen limits, unstructured outdoor play, boredom as a portal, and finding mentors outside the family
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  What's Joyfully Calling To Your Heart? 10.09.2026 41m

  When was the last time you followed what joyfully called to your heart? We've been paying much closer attention to those tugs lately, and they've shaped where this new season of the podcast is heading. But it helps to go back to where we started.Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioAnd a special for our wonderful listeners, you can get 25% off The Nervous System Advantage Toolbox using code GGGC25 at checkout. ⁠⁠Simply click here to discover more.2:01: What 1,000 Australian women told us about 'good girl' conditioning and what breaking free looks like.12:41: Evie's after-party: yoga teaching, turning 30, a burn-off on her grandparents' land, and being pulled toward somatic ecotherapy16:53: Chelle's after-party: returning to forests after decades away, camping for the first time since 14, and finding community she didn't expect22:24: Why trusting yourself first makes it easier to trust others and what it means to claim belonging rather than wait for it24:58: The second round of research and introducing the 3 C's: Cherishing Nature, Cultivating Community, Claiming Belonging32:31: What's coming in Season 5: guests, family members joining, and the path toward becoming uniquely us33:52: Uniquely Us Tool: "Noticing What Calls to You": a four-step somatic practice for following your somethings41:07: Post-show update
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  What If You Already Know How To Lead Your Self? 06.08.2026 42m

  Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioAnd a special for our wonderful listeners, you can get 25% off The Nervous System Advantage Toolbox using code GGGC25 at checkout. ⁠⁠Simply click here to discover more. Who's behind the wheel of your life this morning — you, or whichever part of you got there first? Two years into learning Internal Family Systems with Dr. Tori Olds, this aha episode unpacks three ideas that keep proving themselves true, and the tools that help put them into practice.2:23 — Chelle recaps the IFS framework from episodes eight and nine: Self energy, managers, firefighters, and exiles — what they are and why they all have good intentions5:18 — Aha number one: IFS doesn't work when the nervous system is still in the red or blue zone — you have to soothe the body before parts work becomes possible10:26 — Tool one, find your Self: a guided practice to locate and anchor Self energy through memory, breath, and the 8Cs14:11 — On building Self energy proactively, not just reaching for it in crisis15:22 — Aha number two: the difference between genuine Self energy and a self-like part — one shows up with no agenda, the other is quietly trying to manage the outcome20:31 — Tool two, move towards your parts: a guided practice using three steps — notice the part, get to know it, ask what it needs27:39 — Aha number three: parts don't disappear, they evolve29:12 — What it looks like when a part genuinely trusts Self enough to shift35:23 — Tool three, check in on your parts: a short practice for regular part check-ins38:00 — Chelle summarises all three ahas and tools41:04 — Post-episode debrief
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  What If You Need More Time? 29.07.2026 46m

  Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio And a special for our wonderful listeners, you can get 25% off The Nervous System Advantage Toolbox using code GGGC25 at checkout. ⁠⁠Simply click here to discover more. You're not broken, and there are no bad parts of you — just a whole inner family that's been working overtime to keep you safe. In part two with Dr. Tori Olds, Chelle goes deeper into the IFS model: what managers and firefighters are actually doing for us, who the exiles are that they're protecting, and what becomes possible when the capital-S Self finally shows up to take over.2:10 — Chelle shares part two: we've met Self, now we meet the parts — managers, firefighters, and what they're all protecting4:07 — Chelle asks Tori to briefly re-ground listeners in the IFS framework from episode eight before going deeper7:43 — Tori on why the word "part" matters10:15 — The two types of protector parts explained: managers (proactive, preventative, keep things under control) and firefighters (reactive, desperate, break windows to get you out of the burning building)13:48 — What firefighter parts look like: overspending, drinking, eating disorders, rage — and why they deserve compassion, not shame15:35 — Chelle introduces the exiles: the wounded younger parts that managers and firefighters have been working so hard to protect us from ever feeling again17:00 — Tori on what wounds us19:22 — Chelle shares her own exile work23:19 — Tori explains memory reconsolidation — how a real felt mismatch between an old knowing and a new experience can reorganise a neural network in seconds30:52 — What happens to parts after unburdening 35:21 — Tori on doing IFS solo versus with a therapist or coach, and how to read your own system to know when you need more support40:23 — Chelle summarises this episode 42:01 — Close and resources43:07 — Post-episode debrief
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  Who's Looking After You? 23.07.2026 44m

  Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio And a special for our wonderful listeners, you can get 25% off The Nervous System Advantage Toolbox using code GGGC25 at checkout. ⁠Simply click here to discover more. What if the parts of you that people-please, perform perfectly, and protect everyone aren't the problem — they're just trying to keep you safe? In this episode, Dr. Tori Olds introduces the idea that you have a capital-S Self that was never broken to begin with.0:02 — Chelle introduces Dr. Tori Olds, co-founder of Deep Eddy Psychotherapy. 3:48 — Tori's good girl moment: sitting her dad down in high school, feet on the floor, open posture, to tell him he'd hurt her feelings — and making her mum watch6:16 — Tori explains what "Self" actually means in IFS: not ego to be dissolved, but our fully-online, liberated adult self — the one that acts from wisdom rather than rules7:30 — What parts are, why they form, and why they're never the villain — just early survival strategies that haven't had a chance to update10:21 — Chelle's aha: learning she wasn't supposed to judge or banish her parts, but love them — and how disorienting that felt at first12:42 — How Dick Schwartz discovered the Self wasn't a theory he invented — it was what kept showing up when he asked parts to step back, including in people with serious trauma17:47 — The 8 Cs of Self: curiosity, compassion, courage, clarity, calm, creativity, confidence, and connectedness 18:38 — How IFS parts connect to Sue Marriott's zones: when Self is online, the connection circuit is on; when parts take over, protection kicks in20:10 — Tori on why our parts aren't wrong — they just learned their rules in a reality that no longer exists, and the brain holds on31:17 — What unblending actually means: becoming mindful of a part rather than being swept away by it, like stepping back to observe without numbing out38:49 — Tori on the difference between managing parts and healing them43:00 — Post-episode debrief
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  What Does Your Body Need You To Know? 15.07.2026 41m

  Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioAnd a special for our wonderful listeners, you can get 25% off The Nervous System Advantage Toolbox using code GGGC25 at checkout. Simply click here to discover more. Your nervous system isn't broken — it's doing exactly what it learned to do. In this episode, Evie and Chelle unpack two years of living with Sue Marriott's secure relating work, and what shifts when you stop trying to think your way back to calm and start listening to your body first.2:30 — Context on Sue Marriott's work and why Secure Relating became the book Chelle couldn't put down4:07 — Aha number one: you can feel securely attached to yourself, not just your parents or your partner12:30 — Tool one: Stay With Me: a guided reflection on noticing the urge to abandon yourself and asking what it would look like to stay18:21 — Aha number two: you can't think your way out of your protection circuit21:17 — Tool two: Take A Slow Gaze: a guided practice that widens peripheral vision to signal safety to the nervous system26:23 — Aha number three: seeing and soothing isn't always one and done 32:06 — Tool three: The Safety Check Chat: four questions to settle the brain 38:00 — Chelle wraps up all three ahas and tools40:27 — Post-episode debrief: Evie and Chelle note this was one of the recordings where both their nervous systems were actually in the green zone the whole time
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  Why Do We Settle For Less? 08.07.2026 43m

  Join The Breaking Free Studio - 30 days free - recorded practices, downloadable tools and much more: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio In this episode Sue shares the practical side of secure relating: how to move back toward connection from the red and blue zones, what rewiring actually requires, and why "safe enough" might be the most honest and liberating goal any of us can reach for.0:01 — Evie and Chelle welcome listeners back and recap the three zones from episode five: green, red, and blue3:33 — Evie and Chelle share what the zones have given them personally — more agency, curiosity, and compassion for themselves and others5:51 — Sue returns and clarifies that the zones model is built on decades of others' research, brought together through her and Anne's clinical experience8:05 — Chelle asks the practical question: how do we warm up out of the blue zone and back toward connection?9:46 — Sue explains why people lean blue and what it actually looks like, including why a simple text can be a relational bid that blue-zone people miss entirely13:20 — Sue introduces the idea of "expressed delight" as a way to warm up the nervous system and signal connection to others15:22 — How to cool down from the red zone — turning attention back inward, expanding your sense of time, and "skipping to the end" rather than over-explaining18:49 — Sue introduces "right channel, wrong volume" — recognising when your reaction is bigger than the situation actually calls for20:01 — Chelle shares her own red zone pattern: the belief that if you have to ask, it doesn't count — and the shift of learning to ask anyway20:57 — The 3 Rs framework: recognising, reflecting, and rewiring — and why insight alone isn't enough without embodied, repeated experience24:40 — Sue on what rewiring actually looks like: safe relationships, pets, nature, and learning to let love in rather than just give it out28:09 — The tie-dye puddle explained — what happens when our nervous system loses its organised strategy altogether, and how to find your way back to the spectrum31:15 — Sue and Chelle on why the tie-dye puddle carries so much shame — and why it's simply a human biological state, not a moral failing31:57 — "Safe enough" as the real goal — not perfect security, but enough safety to stay curious and keep going34:35 — Sue on navigating an insecure world: understanding how fear is used to manipulate us, and how knowing your own nervous system keeps you from being swept along37:09 — Sue closes with a quietly hopeful message. 39:39 — Post-episode debrief
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  Can You Trust Yourself Before Anyone Else? 01.07.2026 49m

  Join The Breaking Free Studio - 30 days free - recorded practices, downloadable tools and much more: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio What if the reason you keep shrinking yourself, over-explaining, or shutting down emotionally has nothing to do with a character flaw — and everything to do with your nervous system doing exactly what it learned to do? In this episode, Chelle sits down with clinical social worker and author Sue Marriott to unpack the science of secure relating and what it means to finally hold your own in an insecure world.0:02 — Evie and Chelle introduce Sue Marriott, co-host of Therapist Uncensored and co-author of Secure Relating, and share how this conversation changed the way they understand themselves4:01 — Sue shares her own "good girl" moment 5:38 — Sue defines secure attachment and why it matters, starting with the idea that for many of us, learning to feel securely attached to ourselves comes before anything else9:33 — Sue introduces secure relating as a shift away from fixed attachment categories toward something more fluid and hopeful, no matter your history12:20 — The connection and protection circuits explained — what they are, why neither is shameful, and how "good girl" conditioning can quietly push us toward protection when we don't need to be there20:11 — Sue on "clean pain" versus "dirty pain" — why expressing your true self can hurt, and why that pain is worth it22:41 — The zone map introduced: green, red, and blue as a way to understand where your nervous system is at any given moment24:31 — What the green zone actually feels like — not perfect calm, but being your right size, with your full mind available27:24 — The red zone: urgency, over-explaining, people-pleasing as a way of losing yourself while trying to hold on to others36:14 — The blue zone: withdrawal, stoicism, dismissing your own feelings — and why this one is harder to catch46:05 — Chelle wraps up and teases part two with Sue, coming soon47:38 — Post-episode debrief
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  You’ve Done The Work. So Why Is Your Inner Critic So Loud? 25.06.2026 41m

  Join The Breaking Free Studio - 30 days free - recorded practices, downloadable tools and much more: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio What if your inner critic isn't the enemy and the real work isn't silencing it, but learning to be in a healthier relationship with it? In this episode, Evie and Chelle dig into the moments that have stayed with them since their conversations with Dr. Kristin Neff and Dr. Carol Dweck two years on — unpacking what self-compassion and growth mindset actually look like in the messy middle of real life, and sharing practices you can reach for anywhere, any time.3:30: Aha number one: the self-compassion and self-criticism seesaw, and the surprising "backdraft" effect, where practicing self-compassion can actually make the inner critic louder before it gets quieter8:10: Chelle shares what research with nearly 1,000 workers confirmed, and what Dr. Neff herself validated. 10:23: Tool one, soothe with touch: Evie introduces the science behind physical self-touch and leads a guided practice. 15:51: Chelle and Evie reflect on why the inner critic sounds the way it does, and how over two years of practice it has become genuinely more constructive18:12: Aha number two: redefining success through Dr. Carol Dweck's growth mindset research, and how "good girl" conditioning locks us into fixed, pass-or-fail definitions of our worth24:39: Tool two, the success checklist: five questions to redefine success in real time. 30:31: Aha number three: two years on, Chelle's unexpected insight — self-compassion works best not as a one-way rescue operation, but as a mutual relationship where the inner critic also learns to show appreciation and care33:50: Tool three, the ho'oponopono prayer: Evie introduces this ancient Hawaiian reconciliation practice and leads a guided exercise. 37:13: Chelle wraps up all three ahas and tools40:59: Post-episode debrief
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  What's The Worst Thing People Might Discover About You? 16.06.2026 27m

  Join The Breaking Free Studio - 30 days free - recorded practices, downloadable tools and much more: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio What if failing didn't mean you were fundamentally flawed but simply that you were human? In this episode, Chelle revisits her favourite conversation with Stanford professor and world-leading mindset researcher Dr. Carol Dweck, and unpacks the insight that finally gave her permission to let go of perfectionism.0:32: Chelle shares the a-ha moment from her conversation with Carol Dweck that shifted her relationship with failure and perfectionism4:39: Dr. Carol Dweck shares what her research reveals about mindsets and success5:41: How fixed vs. growth mindsets affect confidence — and why setbacks hit differently depending on which lens you're using7:12: Why women are particularly vulnerable to fixed mindset fragility (and what the research says about why)8:50: Where our mindsets come from: the surprising role of parental praise from as early as age one10:54: What adults can do to start shifting fixed mindset beliefs — including noticing the voice in your head14:10: Carol's story: a graduate student who invited senior faculty to critique her teaching — and what happened next16:02: Carol's Silicon Valley experiment: what happened when a team made "struggle" a daily conversation16:52 : The mastery curve — white-knuckling your way up, and how understanding the process creates self-compassion17:49: Navigating growth mindset inside a fixed mindset organisation20:40: Chelle's "screw up of the week" leadership practice — and why she always had to go first22:26: Growth mindset and wellbeing: why the brain literally rewires as we learn, and why it sometimes hurts23:30: Closing reflections and resources: Carol's book Mindset, the Breaking Free Studio, and the GGGC website25:37: Evie and Chelle debrief: the cringe factor of listening back to your own voice — and finding grace for past-you
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  Are You As Kind To Yourself As You Are To Everyone Else? 10.06.2026 34m

  Join The Breaking Free Studio - 30 days free - recorded practices, downloadable tools and much more: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio Have you ever noticed how easy it is to say something warm and encouraging to a friend who's struggling and how quickly that same generosity disappears the moment you turn it on yourself? According to Dr. Kristin Neff, one of the world's leading researchers on self-compassion, there's a very good reason it happens. [00:02] Evie and Chelle introduce today's vault favorite — a conversation with Dr. Kristin Neff, a pioneer in self-compassion research.[02:05] Evie connects Kristin's work to the research finding that 92% of women feel the pressure to be a good girl is now coming from within themselves[03:25] Kristin unpacks why people raised as girls tend to be warm and caring toward others, yet often struggle to extend that same care to themselves[06:26] Kristin walks through the three elements of self-criticism — self-judgment, isolation, and over-identification — and how we use them to try to protect ourselves from pain[11:58] Kristin and Chelle explore why it's important not to beat ourselves up for beating ourselves up — and how the three positive components of self-compassion work like a seesaw to reduce self-criticism[17:17] Kristin introduces the quintessential self-compassion question — What do I need right now? — and unpacks the two faces of self-compassion: tender acceptance and fierce action[20:07] Kristin explores why drawing boundaries, feeling anger at injustice, and meeting our own needs are all acts of fierce self-compassion. [23:26] Kristin shares her favourite three-step self-compassion practice. [28:18] Kristin introduces the concept of "backdraft" — why opening to self-compassion can sometimes intensify pain, and how to slow the practice down so it feels safe[30:33] Kristin wraps with a key takeaway — self-compassion is already in our back pocket, we just need to give ourselves permission to do the U-turn. [32:12] Post-show reflection
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  Are You Safe Enough To Be Imperfect? 04.06.2026 24m

  Join The Breaking Free Studio - 30 days free - recorded practices, downloadable tools and much more: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio When you remember a recent moment of tryingto be a ‘good girl" — performing perfectly, pleasing everyone, or protecting others at your own cost — who was really expecting you to behave that way?In our latest research, two years on from our quantitative study of more than 1,000 Australian women, we went back and asked exactly that question. 92% named themselves. What began around age 11 as a set of external instructions — be quiet, be helpful, don't make a fuss — has gradually become our internal framework as grown women.[03:00] Chelle takes us back to where theresearch began two years ago, and how good girl conditioning — performing perfectly, pleasing everyone, and protecting others — often takes hold by around age 11[05:00] Chelle walks through the 2024 quantitative research with more than 1000 Australian women that uncovered the three tools to help break free of good girl beliefs — self compassion, secure attachment, and self-leadership[06:37] Evie introduces the new 2026 qualitative focus group of 15 women that revisited the findings two years on.[07:00] Evie shares research insight #1 — 92% of the women said the pressure to be a good girl is now coming most strongly from themselves, not from bosses, partners, or the outside world[10:00] Chelle explores why understanding the systems that groomed us matters more than self-blame when we notice these internalised pressures. [11:23] Chelle shares research insight #2 — self-compassion, secure attachment, and self-leadership are quietly building self-trust underneath it all[13:30] Chelle shares her morning beachpractice of three reminders — "I am safe enough, I am loved enough, and I am resourced enough"[17:00] Chelle reframes success around howwe show up to each moment — advocating for ourselves, asking for help, and choosing not to abandon ourselves[19:24] Evie and Chelle look ahead to Season 4, and invite listeners to send in questions, tips, and favourite tools for future episodes[23:32] Post-show reflection
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  Can We Move Beyond Gender? 09.12.2025 38m

  Have you ever walked away from a conversation about men and women feeling more stuck than when you started? You made your point. They made theirs. And somehow you both ended up further apart than before.It’s exhausting — the same arguments, the same defensiveness, the same feeling that for someone to win the other side has to lose. After a while, you start wondering: is there another way to do this? Or are we just destined to keep circling?[02:44] Chelle shares Aha #1: how early socialisation creates “thin stories” that disconnect women from their voices and men from their capacity to care. [06:51] Evie introduces Tool #1: Break Free of the Gender Cage with three steps—spot the cage, open the door with curiosity, and walk free by seeing the human, not the stereotype.[10:36] Chelle shares Aha #2: compassion and accountability aren’t opposites—they’re partners. Without both, we stay stuck in shame, blame, or performance mode.[13:28] Chelle introduces Tool #2: Own It with three accountability questions—What’s mine to own? Have I made my expectations clear? If boundaries were crossed, have I voiced it?[21:34] Chelle shares Aha #3: thriving requires partnership. Not “facing off,” but sitting side-by-side, working through the mess together—because complexity demands collaboration.[28:26] Evie shares Tool #3: Embrace the Mess & the Magic by “looking for the AND.” Notice binary thinking, pause with a hand on your heart, and make space for two truths.[33:51] Chelle and Evie explore examples of using the AND in real life—slowing down, widening perspective, and softening defensiveness.[34:32] Chelle summarizes the three ahas and three tools from the season: thick stories, accountability with compassion, and embracing complexity with the AND.[37:09] Post-show wrap-up with Evie & Chelle.Want more?💗 DOWNLOAD THE FREE SELF-COMPASSION TOOLKITSelf-compassion research shows us that when we meet our struggles with understanding rather than criticism, we activate our brain’s natural caregiving system - allowing us to maintain high standards while releasing the crushing weight of perfectionism. Using the FREE framework—Feel it, Release it, Experiment with it, Evolve it—this toolkit will help you build self-compassion that is sustainable. Get your toolkit.📚 DISCOVER THE PERFECTLY IMPERFECT BOOKSIf you’ve ever felt pressured to be good, The Perfectly Imperfect Women’s Journal and The Perfectly Imperfect Companion Workbook will help you break free. With real stories, research-backed insights, and powerful exercises, these books will give you the confidence to trust yourself, set boundaries, and step into your own power. It’s time to rewrite the rules and start living on your terms. Get your copies now.💃 BECOMING UNIQUELY YOUBreak free from perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-doubt with the Uniquely You Workshop & Tools Bundle. Through three powerful workshops, you’ll gain the confidence to trust yourself, set boundaries, and lead with authenticity. With lifetime access, you can move at your own pace and start making real change today. Start your journey now.
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  Sarah Wilson: Why We Need Each Other Now 02.12.2025 29m

  Have you noticed how quickly gender conversations turn into battles we can’t seem to win? She said this, he did that, who has it worse, who should apologize first. But once we’re locked in—your suffering versus mine, who should apologize first—we’re trapped in a zero-sum game. So how do we free our energy from the gender wars, not by hating the players but by changing the game?[00:00] Chelle introduces Sarah Wilson — multi–New York Times bestselling author, social philosopher, and host of Wild with Sarah Wilson.[01:51] Chelle and Sarah discuss why the growing gender divide is emerging so sharply at this point in history.[06:37] Chelle and Sarah reflect on the fear underlying gender tensions and why energy is being directed toward gender conflict rather than broader global challenges.[09:40] Chelle and Sarah discuss how neoliberalism removed community guardrails and how this has impacted men’s emotional and social development.[11:27] Chelle and Sarah explore the idea of changing the “game” rather than blaming the “players,” and why collaboration is essential.[12:06] Chelle and Sarah unpack the concept of the Moloch scenario and how zero-sum traps show up in climate action, AI development, nuclear arms, and everyday social behaviour.[17:41] Chelle and Sarah discuss compassion as a messy, nonlinear process and how accountability unfolds within complexity.[20:23] Chelle and Sarah discuss how everyday conversations — not just public forums — can model gender compassion and cultural change.[24:48] Chelle and Sarah talk about Sarah’s upcoming 2026 book release and how community discussion has shaped the writing.[26.00] Chelle & Evie post-show discussion.Want more?💗 DOWNLOAD THE FREE SELF-COMPASSION TOOLKITSelf-compassion research shows us that when we meet our struggles with understanding rather than criticism, we activate our brain’s natural caregiving system - allowing us to maintain high standards while releasing the crushing weight of perfectionism. Using the FREE framework—Feel it, Release it, Experiment with it, Evolve it—this toolkit will help you build self-compassion that is sustainable. Get your toolkit.📚 DISCOVER THE PERFECTLY IMPERFECT BOOKSIf you’ve ever felt pressured to be good, The Perfectly Imperfect Women’s Journal and The Perfectly Imperfect Companion Workbook will help you break free. With real stories, research-backed insights, and powerful exercises, these books will give you the confidence to trust yourself, set boundaries, and step into your own power. It’s time to rewrite the rules and start living on your terms. Get your copies now.💃 BECOMING UNIQUELY YOUBreak free from perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-doubt with the Uniquely You Workshop & Tools Bundle. Through three powerful workshops, you’ll gain the confidence to trust yourself, set boundaries, and lead with authenticity. With lifetime access, you can move at your own pace and start making real change today. Start your journey now.