Not Allowed to Die

Episodes

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  Helping cheaters understand their motives and Mariska moves on. 21.10.2026 21m

  In this episode we honor Mariska's contributions to the podcast as she has moved on to a new stage of existence. Her spirit will remain with the podcast. We also explore some listener questions about supporting those who have made the decision to be unfaithful and how we help them to explore their motives and identity.
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  Mr. Jay on betrayal trauma 09.10.2026 57m

  Mr. Jay comes on to teach us about betrayal trauma and how healing from it is different from other types of trauma. He speaks directly to his approach and techniques for helping individuals and couples as they navigate their healing process. Check out his website if you are interested in learning more: Mr Jay Relationship Coach – Relationship Coach, Personal Development CoachP.S. Mariska did not participate because she was at home and I was on the road.
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  Is it ok to have a crush on your therapist? 29.09.2026 19m

  In this episode Mariska and I talk about my horrible voice from having a cold, as well as the state of her super gross tumor, and when and how you decide if it is time to put a dog down. We also talk about the challenges of having a crush on your therapist and how to deal with it.
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  Is any client beyond hope? 22.09.2026 20m

  In this episode Mariska and I talk about the challenges of helping people who are struggling with chronic depression and other mental health challenges. Does there ever come a time when they should be "allowed" to die? When do we give up on them? We explore how I handle resistant clients and tips on calling 988 when in doubt.
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  The Truth in the Tarot 13.09.2026 18m

  In this episode we explore how to draw useful insight out of tarot readings, dreams etc...
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  Relationship OCD or just overthinking? 25.08.2026 20m

  In this episode we discuss the state of Mariska's health, how to prepare for the eventual death of a loved companion animal, and Relationship OCD and how that is different from typical overthinking in relationships.
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  Amanda Hill on building and leading a private practice 28.07.2026 45m

  The inspiring Amanda Hill joins Mariska and me to discuss so many things, but what I most enjoyed picking her brain about is the challenge of creating a private practice and expanding it beyond a few clinicians. I learned a lot and I hope you will too.
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  When your partner has a crush on a fictional character 16.07.2026 18m

  What do you do if your partner has a crush on a fictional character and it is getting in the way of your relationship?
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  Mandi Leigh on healing through song writing and performing 07.07.2026 36m

  Canadian singer/songwriter Mandi Leigh joins Mariska and I and talks about how song writing and singing has helped her heal from suicide loss and other trauma, and she even sings a song for us! Check out her music and tour dates on her website: Mandi Leigh | Singer Songwriter
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  When to push back and when to wait. 30.06.2026 17m

  In this episode Mariska and I discuss cases of three of my clients who might need to push back to keep from being pushed around by bosses, creative partners, and relationship partners. How do we decide when and how to push back and when to say nothing.
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  Dr. Juls on burnout and sex in midlife 23.06.2026 1h 8m

  Mariska and I were truly honored to have the incredible Dr. Julie Merriman, therapist, professor, author, and host of the podcasts Sexy after 50 and Compassion Fatigue Cure. You can find all of her work here: Julie Merriman, Ph.D., LPC-S | Nervous System Regulation ExpertOur conversation covered so many things and was a great learning experience for Mariska and me. Enjoy.
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  How does a therapist find a therapist? 17.06.2026 17m

  in this episode Mariska and I talk about ESAs and how to help people find a therapist and the tools I use when im trying to find someone to recommend.
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  Talking about sex in therapy 09.06.2026 16m

  In this episode Mariska and I beg for your suggestions about our new project, the ESA cast (which you should email to dmaiglerlcsw@gmail.com) and we talk about what a therapist is thinking about when we talk about sex with our clients in therapy.
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  Ghost or break up with your therapist? 02.06.2026 20m

  In this episode Mariska and I announce the launch of our new venture, the ESA cast AND we talk about whether or not you should just stop scheduling sessions with your therapist or actually have the "break up" conversation with them.
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  Should I let my client live with me? 28.04.2026 17m

  In this episode Mariska and I explore beating yourself up after mistakes and appropriate boundaries. My former student deals with the ethical challenges of taking one of her students in after he is removed from his family.
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  Nobody deserves this. 25.03.2026 18m

  In this episode Mariska and I explore how people blame themselves for their mental anguish and build a world where the "deserve" their pain. There is A LOT of discussion of suicide in this episode so if that is not something healthy for you to listen to you may want to skip this one. Also in this episode Mariska is petty toward Tina and Cher, the family cats.
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  If you don't look down you can't fall, can you? 17.03.2026 16m

  In this episode Mariska and I explore the seductive practice of refusing to face your reality and taking the Wiley Coyote strategy of running off the cliff and refusing to look down to avoid the fall. How do we help people in our lives who are doing that? Tune in to find out.
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  Should therapists give medication advice? 10.03.2026 17m

  In this episode Mariska and I discuss some things to consider as clients talk about their medications and how a therapist can stay in their scope of practice while talking about meds.
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  If you cheat, should you tell your partner? 24.02.2026 20m

  In this episode Mariska and I explore the thorny dilemma of how you decide whether or not to disclose infidelity, or other behaviors you are not proud of, to your partner. Mariska wants everyone to know that the cats, Tina and Cher, have not been invited into the podcast studio and had no part in the making of this episode.
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  Dangers of couples therapy with individual therapy clients. 10.02.2026 18m

  In this episode Mariska and I discuss the challenges of doing couples therapy with clients that you typically see as individuals. Also we reveal the names of the new cats that have moved into our house and how Mariska feels about their arrival.