UNDERSTANDABLE

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  Healed Avoidant Explains Why Avoidants Always Return (and The Best Way to Respond) 19.08.2026 22m

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I explain why avoidants return and what's the best way to respond to their come back.► Links and Resources:Why Avoidants Don’t Know What They Need Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YoerBrHSdUI Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction00:43 The Impact of Your Response02:39 Why Avoidants Pull Away06:09 Why They Return08:26 The Reality of Love11:27 Responding to Their Return15:45 Focusing on Yourself18:12 Breaking the Cycle20:01 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Actual Avoidant Explains Why Avoidants Never Fight For a Relationship 16.08.2026 27m

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this very personal video I share with you why avoidants never fight for a relationship.► Links and Resources:Deactivation Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fi-wUf36e9k&t=1s► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:32 Flaw Finding Mechanism06:11 Unrealistic Relationship Expectations10:19 Overwhelmed by Closeness13:22 Internal Emotional Withdrawal19:16 Lack of Relationship Skills20:43 Defiance and Protection23:16 How to Respond► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Why (Almost) All Avoidants Come Back After No Contact 14.08.2026 20m

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I talk about why almost all avoidants come back after no contact. And why emotionally unavailable people are so addicted to no contact!► Links and Resources:Why No Contact Doesn’t Work Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A9xqR6zfBIk The Moment I Decided to Change Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkVmvMkZUI4 ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:59 Understanding No Contact05:02 The Magic Effect09:39 Two Avoidant Groups13:35 Responding to Returns16:54 Breaking the Cycle20:38 Conclusion► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  What Your Avoidant Ex Secretly Wants During No Contact 12.08.2026 23m

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I share from my own avoidant's perspective what your avoidant ex secretly wants during no contact.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:55 1. Desire for Reconnection04:49 2. Testing Availability06:53 3. Fighting for Them09:36 4. Explaining What Went Wrong10:58 5. Desire for Independence12:56 6. Seeking Emotional Calm15:15 7. The Need for Acceptance17:40 Focusing on Your Growth► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  The Exact Moment Avoidants Realize You're Not Coming Back 09.08.2026 27m

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I describe the exact moment when avoidants realize you're not coming back. And I reflect on how to move on with more ease.► Links and Resources:The Stages of an Avoidant Coming Back Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PVuzwMjflyk&t=1s The Moment I Decided to Change Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkVmvMkZUI4&t=1s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:42 Relationship Dynamics05:45 The Breakup Experience09:28 No Contact Phase11:53 The Avoidant's Internal Model16:29 Moment of Realization21:46 Moving On and Boundaries24:55 Strengthening Your Self-Worth► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Avoidant Shutdown: Why Avoidants Suddenly Go Cold (Explained by Actual Avoidant) 07.08.2026 25m

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! This one is a personal one. I talk about why avoidants suddenly shut down and go cold. How does it feel like? Why there is no other option left? This one may be truly eye opening. ;-)► Links and Resources:Polyvagal Theory Video: https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0?si=94Sh2XeLyY0nFp9P Gerald Hüther: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gerald_H%C3%BCther ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Understanding Avoidant Shutdown02:30 The Shutdown Experience from the Inside07:32 Roots of the Shutdown10:12 The Three Closed Doors17:48 Shame and Nervous System18:43 How Avoidants Can Change20:25 Supporting Your Partner► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Why The Initiator of a Breakup Always Comes Back (Confessions of a Dumper) 05.08.2026 17m

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I talk about why the initiator of a breakup always comes back and when reconnection makes sense.► Links and Resources:Limerence Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mmNjDwdPwOA&t=2s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Why Exes Return01:58 1. Insecurely Attached Breakup Initiators03:50 2. Needy Exes07:42 3. Self-Aware Breakup Initiators10:01 Don't Fix Them12:15 Evaluating Their Intentions13:25 Building Self-Worth► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  What Avoidants Would Say If They Were Actually Honest (Confessions by a Healed Avoidant) 02.08.2026 23m

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I share with brutal honesty, what avoidant would say in a dating phase or relationship, if they were actually honest.► Links and Resources:The Moment I Decided to Change Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkVmvMkZUI4&t=1s► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction to Avoidant Honesty01:46 Understanding the Avoidant Mind02:25 The Dating Phase Illusion06:05 Relationship Conflict and Avoidance08:30 The Breakup and Regret Cycle15:10 Hitting Rock Bottom19:52 Ideas for Partners► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Why the Bedroom Exposes Avoidant Attachment (99% of the Time) 31.07.2026 21m

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I get vulnerable and share with you how avoidant attachment shows up in the bedroom.► Links and Resources:Avoidant Attachment Darkest Coping Mechanism Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zLyK-Yi1QpE► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:38 Childhood Origins06:08 The Dating Phase07:14 The Rollercoaster Phase09:44 The Mechanical Phase13:03 The Drought Period16:02 Solutions and Healing20:03 Setting Boundaries► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  The 5 Stages an Avoidant Goes Through When You Dump Them (Actual Timeline) 29.07.2026 21m

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I present the full timeline to you, the avoidant goes through when you dump them. But I also present another timeline...► Links and Resources:Why They Lose Feelings Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dHOxRnU4pEU&t=3s No Contact Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A9xqR6zfBIk&t=13s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:21 Stage 0: Pre-Breakup Dynamics06:28 Stage 1: Initial Breakup Shock09:59 Stage 2: Denial and Anger12:27 Stage 3: Recovery and Reflection15:27 Stage 4: Loneliness and Regret18:03 Stage 5: The Crawl Back19:35 Moving Toward Security► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  THIS Happens When You Dump an Avoidant (From a Recovered Avoidant) 26.07.2026 23m

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I share with you what happens when YOU dump an avoidant first.► Links and Resources:Why Avoidants Lose Feelings Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dHOxRnU4pEU&t=3s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:56 The Avoidant Mindset05:02 1. Unaware Avoidant Reaction09:18 2. The Mixed Reaction14:05 3. Shock and Fear17:15 Evaluating Potential18:17 Your Perspective22:23 Building Self-Worth► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Healed Avoidant Explains the Avoidant's Idea of a Healthy Relationship 24.07.2026 44m

  ► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I talk about the avoidant's idea of a healthy relationship.► Links and Resources:Complex Trauma, Complex Needs Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx Why Avoidants Have No Clue What They Need and Feel: https://youtu.be/YoerBrHSdUI?si=8_lsOdJd_bPAM7e7 Overcompensation Through Missing Puzzle Piece Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7kGDhim-YlY ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction03:11 The Role of Needs06:55 Core Affected Needs13:50 Expressing Emotional Needs19:20 Seeking Support and Acceptance29:10 The Need for Consistency33:30 Avoidant Identity, Values and Core Beliefs47:18 Practical Relationship Advice► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Healed Avoidant: 5 Early Signs of Healing 22.07.2026 24m

  ► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I share 5 early signs of healing from my own therapy-journey with you.► Links and Resources:This Makes Avoidants Actually Stay Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkVmvMkZUI4&t=1s Catastrophic Dragon Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H_lwt0bcXGA ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:26 Sign 1: Panic Is Gone06:55 Sign 2: Trusting the Future09:27 Sign 3: Questioning Inner Beliefs13:59 Sign 4: Sharing Vulnerable Needs17:32 Sign 5: Overcoming Defiance22:59 Conclusion► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  How Does Your Avoidant Ex Come Back (Actual Timeline) 19.07.2026 27m

  ► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I reveal the full timeline of how an avoidant or emotionally unavailable ex comes back.► Links and Resources:The Moment I Decided to Change Video: https://youtu.be/NkVmvMkZUI4?si=M2H195oaNQWTkl9e ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:33 Stage 0: Why They Leave10:12 Stage 1: No Contact14:14 Stage 2: Reconnection17:18 Stage 3: Dating Again19:56 Stage 4: The Decision24:08 Building Self-Worth► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Healed Avoidant Explains How to Respond When an Avoidant Comes Back 17.07.2026 39m

  ► Build secure relationships, without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I explain how to respond when an avoidant comes back after rejection, after a breakup or after no contact.► Links and Resources:Why Avoidants Come Back Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4umBMT2pBpY&t=10s► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro03:30 Why Avoidants Return11:54 Ask This One Question16:15 Breaking the Chasing Pattern26:34 Developing a Solid Self30:41 The Dragon Metaphor36:05 Setting Healthy Boundaries40:40 Conclusion and Resources► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Healed Avoidant Explains When Avoidants Always Come Back (Actual Timeline) 15.07.2026 33m

  ► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I explain WHEN different types of avoidants come back.► Links and Resources:What Makes Avoidants Come Back Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WViklne-zM8&t=119s&pp=0gcJCUELAYcqIYzv Limerence Video: https://youtu.be/gDz8U2zaF0A?si=IiO-D4TOXO82kucM The Neuroscience Behind Why They Pull Away: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pv5K9dbfp84 Dismissive vs Fearful Avoidant Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gouD0FnR6qE&t=4s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 When Avoidants Return02:04 Group 1: Regulating Avoidants Timeline11:35 Group 2: Ambivalent Avoidants Timeline23:19 Group 3: Loving Avoidants Timeline28:38 Final Message and Reflection► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Healed Avoidant Explains How a Secure Person Handles an Avoidant Pulling Away 10.07.2026 23m

  ► Build secure relationships, without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I talk about how a secure person handles an avoidant pulling away.► Links and Resources:Relational Needs & Standards Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dHOxRnU4pEU&t=3s The 3 Types of Avoidants (Why They Come Back) Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WViklne-zM8&t=961s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Overview02:20 Typical Avoidant Dating Scenario03:20 Why Avoidants Pull Away08:00 Major Difference Between Secure & Avoidant Person12:00 How a Secure Person Handles an Avoidant Pulling Away20:30 Was It Your Fault?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Why Most Avoidants Come Back After No Contact (Healed Avoidant Explains How to React) 09.07.2026 20m

  ► Build secure relationships, without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Here's why most avoidants come back after no contact and how to respond to their comeback► Links and Resources:No Contact Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A9xqR6zfBIk&t=13sRebound Relationship Video: https://youtu.be/QrhTOoAai_M?si=G8Z4AcXbOLvsXePk ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction to No Contact02:03 What Is No Contact03:55 Why Avoidants Return09:11 Your Growth During Separation13:19 How to React When They Come Back17:14 Assessing True Change20:04 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Actual Avoidant: This Happens When You Stop Chasing An Avoidant 08.07.2026 30m

  ► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I share with you what happens if you actually stop chasing an avoidant.► Links and Resources:The Psychology of an Avoidant Man During No Contact Video: https://youtu.be/690-YYeWwVY Rebound Relationship Video: https://youtu.be/QrhTOoAai_M ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:45 Type 1: Unaware Avoidants06:47 Reaction to Stopping the Chase14:03 Type 2: Healing Avoidants16:58 The Magic of Space24:12 Is It Worth Chasing?27:15 The 110% Commitment Rule► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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  Healed Avoidant Explains the Avoidant Ick (Flaw Zoom) 05.07.2026 45m

  ► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I try to break down the Avoidant Ick (Flaw Zoom). I also explain the link between the flaw zoom, high standards and why avoidants lose feelings.► Links and Resources:Why Avoidants Have No Clue What They Need Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YoerBrHSdUI ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Understanding Avoidant Ick04:55 The Flaw Zoom Mechanism13:44 The Three-Level Filter16:45 Two Protection System Types22:14 Societal Influence on Attraction31:14 Five Pillars of Relational Needs37:23 Love Versus Compatibility40:43 Defining Your Standards► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.