The Hook Up

Episodes

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  When You’re Not Having Sex In Your Relationship 10.11.2026 41m

  Are you in a relationship where you don’t really have sex? You told us all the reasons why your life sex has stopped, from health issues and medication, neurodivergence and stress, to discovering your asexuality or a total loss of attraction and desire. In this ep, we hear how you’ve handled it, and debate whether you think it’s normal for your sex life to decline over time.    SHOW NOTES: Can a Sexless Relationship Go the Distance?: https://www.relationshipsnsw.org.au/blog/sexless-relationship-advice/ Esther Perel : https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=4273355766269449 https://www.shipspsychology.com.au/blog/is-it-normal-for-sexual-desire-to-reduce-over-relationship
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  Struggling In Love? You Might Need To Unpack Your Childhood 05.11.2026 26m

  If you’re someone who seems to struggle in love, or you keep having the same fights in relationships - it might have something to do with what you learnt in your childhood.  In this ep, Dee chats to psychotherapist Nichlolas Purcell about how much our parents/caregivers shape the patterns we emulate in love and how to start ‘doing the work’.  SHOW NOTES: Nicholas Purcell’s Guardian article - https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2026/jun/22/childhood-trauma-learnt-behaviours-narcissist-mother-avoidant-father-dysfunctional-adulthood 1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732  Attached book - https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/about-the-book/    DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  “They Said They Were Open!”: Should You Check Someone’s Relationship Status? 03.11.2026 35m

   If you’re hooking up with someone who says they’re on a break, non-monog, ENM, or in an open relationship - do you need to do your homework and find out if they’re telling the truth? In this episode, we debate whether the ethics of investigating someone’s relationship status and hear your takes on whether it’s important to get evidence, if the burden of proof is on them, or if it’s none of your business.     DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  What It’s Like Having Boobs That Won’t Stop Growing w/ Summer Robert 29.10.2026 53m

  Summer Robert’s breasts have been growing excessively since she was 8 years old. She has an extremely rare and under-researched condition called Macromastia which means she doesn’t know when that growth will stop. In this chat, she shares her experience and her journey with large boobs, her diagnosis, the impact it’s had on her life including dating and having sex, but also getting to a place where she’s really embraced them after becoming a huge creator on OnlyFans. SHOW NOTES: Most Extreme Humans: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2yrVMmiF9U  Eating Disorder Support - https://butterfly.org.au/get-support/helpline/     DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  Your Horniest Erogenous Zones From Head To Toe 27.10.2026 40m

  We all know the classic hotspots when it comes to places on your body that turn you on like lips, breasts, nipples and genitals. But what about your undiscovered underdogs of pleasure - like belly buttons, outer thighs, fingers, ears and wrists? We find out all your erogenous zones from head to toe, how you discovered them and how you tell your partners to get all up in them.   DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  “I Used To Think I Owed Men Thinness.” w/ Bella Davis 22.10.2026 34m

  When she was younger Bella Davis thought in order to be loved she needed to be thin. After years of hating her body and dating people who made her feel shit about herself, she decided she’d had enough and started posting about fatphobia on socials.  Now Bella is a popular body acceptance content creator, happily married and about to become an author. In this chat, she shares her journey and advice on how to have a better relationship with your body.  SHOW NOTES: Would You Still Love Me If I Looked Different? Episode - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQtbAV4jzMA&t=1225s  Bella Davis IG - https://www.instagram.com/isabelladavis6/?hl=en  Eating Disorder Support - https://butterfly.org.au/get-support/helpline/    DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  Would You Still Love Me If I Looked Different? 20.10.2026 43m

  The way you look can completely change over the course of a relationship. Maybe your weight has fluctuated. Or you’ve drastically changed your style. Maybe you’ve been in an accident. Maybe you’re dealing with an illness or taking medication that’s changed your physicality and features. In this episode, we want to explore what it’s like when you or a partner looks different from when you first started dating - and how it affects the relationship.   SHOW NOTES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dating-and-mating/201701/why-physical-attraction-matters-and-when-it-might-not https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/may/20/the-perfect-partner-how-age-affects-what-men-and-women-find-attractive     DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  Is Masculinity Actually Under Attack? 15.10.2026 34m

  A lot of manosphere influencers create content about how ‘masculinity is under threat’ and we’re seeing this impact how young guys are learning about what it means to be a man. So in this episode, we chat to Josh Glover from The Man Cave and Dr Jacko Jackson from The Global Institute for Women’s Leadership to find out what the research shows when it comes to ‘masculinity threats’, the impact of rigid gender expectations, and how guys can feel more confident in embracing all parts of themselves.   SHOW NOTES: 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732  Mensline  - 1300 78 99 78 Manosphere episode with Flynn Martin -https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=asleRk17rD8&list=PLGjIpVhuuWXk  The State Of Man documentary - https://iview.abc.net.au/show/state-of-man Josh Glover, The Man Cave - https://themancave.life/about/our-people/ Dr Jacko Jackson, The Global Institute for Women’s Leadership - https://giwl.anu.edu.au/people/jacko-jackson    DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  Getting Out Of The Manosphere W/ Flynn Martin 13.10.2026 49m

  Over the last few years, the manosphere has been a hot topic. We’ve watched investigations by doco makers, interviews with incels and pick up artists, and popular manosphere podcasters continue to go viral on social media. But what about the “red pilled” men who’ve changed their mind and come out the other side with a new POV? In this ep, special guest Flynn Martin joins us to tell us his story of being radicalised by manosphere content and how he got out, alongside hearing your experiences of the manosphere - whether you started to resonate and adopt its ideology, or if a sibling, parent or partner in your life did.   Watch The State Of Man documentary on ABC iView: https://iview.abc.net.au/show/state-of-man   DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  Is Abandonment A Form Of Abuse? 08.10.2026 34m

  Alpine Divorce has been a big convo this year, with people all over the world sharing stories of a partner abandoning them in a remote or dangerous place like a hiking trail or mountain. So does someone storming off mean they need to cool down, or is it a sign of abuse? In this ep, Elisabeth Shaw from Relationships Australia helps us learn the signs.  SHOW NOTES:  1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732  Mensline Australia - 1300 789 978 13 YARN - 13 92 76 Relationships Australia - https://www.relationships.org.au/ Alpine Divorce Podcast - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a0aAfN1MDpk  Women are being abandoned by their partners on hiking trails. What’s behind ‘alpine divorce’?  https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/ng-interactive/2026/mar/17/alpine-divorce-abandoned-hiking-trail   DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  Alpine Divorce: When You've Been Abandoned By Your Partner 06.10.2026 31m

  “Alpine divorce” is when someone abandons their romantic partner in a remote or dangerous outdoor setting like a hiking trail, bushwalk or mountain. The term went viral this year, and women all over the world started sharing their own stories of being left behind by their male partners in the wilderness. But can it happen to anyone regardless of gender? And is it happening in places other than out in nature? In this episode, explore this phenomenon with your stories of abandonment and hear your theories as to why it happens.   SHOW NOTES: 1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732  Mensline Australia - 1300 789 978 13 YARN - 13 92 76 Relationships Australia - https://www.relationships.org.au/ Women are being abandoned by their partners on hiking trails. What’s behind ‘alpine divorce’? https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/ng-interactive/2026/mar/17/alpine-divorce-abandoned-hiking-trail Austrian climber found guilty of leaving girlfriend on mountain https://www.theguardian.com/world/2026/feb/20/austria-climber-convicted-manslaughter-girlfriend-kerstin-g-grossglockner-mountain UN - what is domestic abuse? https://www.un.org/en/coronavirus/what-is-domestic-abuse   The National Domestic Hotline - Types of Abuse https://www.thehotline.org/resources/types-of-abuse/     DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  What It Means If You Like Getting Caught Or Watching People Have Sex 01.10.2026 29m

  Over half of you told us that the idea of being caught having sex turns you on! So why are so many people into this? In this ep, Dee chats to sexologist Laura Lee to delve deep into the psychology of this kink, the ethics and nuance of consent, and the best way to live out your fantasy of watching people or being watched in real life. SHOW NOTES: Getting Caught Ep - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Yx76xUZ5cE  Laura Lee IG - https://www.instagram.com/lauraleesexology/?hl=en    DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  Do You Wanna Get Caught In The Act…? 29.09.2026 42m

  Whether it’s the thrill of having sex with a window or door left slightly open. Maybe you fantasise about having sex in public, or being watched at a sex party. If the thought of being seen doing something private or intimate turns you on, this ep is for you. We hear your fantasises and experiences of getting caught, and how you feel about consent with this kink.      DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  We Need To Chat About Smart Glasses and Consent 24.09.2026 33m

  How do you feel about smart glasses? Lots of people are loving them with Meta selling millions this year, but lots of people are worried about surveillance, the potential harm, and being filmed without consent.  In this ep, we chat to Dr Milly Stilinovic who’s been researching the impact of smart glasses and pick up artists, to find out why she wants them banned altogether.  SHOW NOTES: 1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732  Dr Milica Stilinovic - https://profiles.sydney.edu.au/milica.stilinovic  Research on pick up artists - https://www.sydney.edu.au/news-opinion/news/2026/08/11/smart-glasses-pose-new-harassment-risks-for-women-research-meta.html  Smart glasses harm -  https://www.abc.net.au/religion/smart-glasses-are-the-trojan-horse-of-unbridled-digital-harm/106596650  Smart glasses and safety - eSafety Commissioner - https://www.esafety.gov.au/industry/tech-trends-and-challenges/convergence-series/smart-glasses-and-online-safety    DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  Why Are Women Witchy Again? 22.09.2026 41m

  While we’re past the days of witch hunts and trials, some people think there’s something magical that still lingers in our blood - some would even call it “women’s intuition”. But why are we now seeing a resurgence of modern women engaging with the spiritual and supernatural world, and reclaiming the word ‘witch’? In this episode we take a look at the history of witches and paganism, and figure out why in modern times we’re seeing women turn to the ways of old - crystals, tarot, manifesting, astrology, even potion making, spell-casting and hexing.  SHOW NOTES:   Dee’s Hack story on witches: https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/hack/witches-witchcraft-wicca-tiktok-witchtok-young-people-magic/13572930   Women as witches: past, present and future https://stories.uq.edu.au/shorthand-uq/small-change/women-as-witches/   In A Burning World Witchcraft Is On The Rise https://atmos.earth/ecological-wisdom/in-a-burning-world-witchcraft-is-on-the-rise/   Witchcraft and the Feminine: Reclaiming Power Through Spirituality https://medium.com/modern-women/witchcraft-and-the-feminine-reclaiming-power-through-spirituality-0f01c867059a   Female intuition https://medium.com/never-stop-writing/why-female-intuition-is-so-powerful-7e480a4c93b8   https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12466681/   DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  No Ones Wearing Condoms Anymore And It’s A Huge Problem 17.09.2026 22m

  Apparently condom use is at its lowest recorded level since 1992 - and it’s causing a national emergency of STI rates. So why are people avoiding the rubber?  In this ep, you’ll hear about the latest research from sexual health expert Jason Ong and get advice on what to do if someone’s shaming you for wanting to use one. SHOW NOTES: Jason Ong - https://www.mshc.org.au/about/our-team  Stay STI Free - https://www.staystifree.org.au/ Sexual Health Victoria - https://www.shvic.org.au/  La Trobe Study - https://www.latrobe.edu.au/arcshs/work/sexual-health/national-survey-of-secondary-students    DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  Best Of Hook Up Guests 15.09.2026 31m

  We’re on a little break! But we’re dipping into the archive to bring you the best moments provided by some of our favourite guests! From VERY controversial hot takes from comedians Will Gibb and Daniel Foxx, to Angela White’s sex advice on squirting and eating pussy, chatting threesomes with Hunter Smith and unpacking queer female sexuality with Jordan Barr and height in dating with Blake Pavey - we revisit our favourite moments!     DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  Embracing Single When It Wasn’t What You Wanted w/ Sheree Joseph 10.09.2026 34m

  What happens when you don't end up with the life you always dreamt of? For writer Sheree Joseph it was getting married and having kids. But after her long-term relationship ended and an unsuccessful fertility journey, she had to face a future she never expected for herself. In this chat, Sheree chats to Dee about her journey, the grief she experienced, and what it’s been like to embrace being single and child-free in her early 30s. SHOW NOTES: Sheree Joseph Memoir Juicy - https://publishing.hardiegrant.com/en-au/books/juicy-by-sheree-joseph/9780645858136  Sheree Joseph IG - https://www.instagram.com/shereewriter/    DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  Best Of Your Stories 08.09.2026 28m

  We’re on a little break! But we’re dipping into the archive to bring you the best stories provided by YOU - our extremely sexy smart cool listeners! From cum-piphanies and public break ups, to pleasure dom mommy’s and meeting soulmates in the rideshare - we revisit our favourite and most memorable voice memos sent in by The Hook Up fam.     DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
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  Investigative Journalist By Day Sex Worker By Night w/ Bension Siebert 03.09.2026 32m

  After being made redundant from his dream job as an investigative journalist, Bension Siebert turned to sex work to make money and surprised himself by how much he enjoyed it. In this ep, Bension chats to Dee about ‘coming out’ with his new profession, the reaction online and what he’s learnt about the industry. SHOW NOTES: Bension’s Cheek Article - https://cheekmedia.substack.com/p/how-sex-work-saved-my-investigative Bension’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/bensionfindsout/    DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.